Charlie

I'd like to see the rest of that interesting tattoo.

If you are hiring from an ad, pay attention to what he says HE likes to do or will do. If there is something in his list that you do not want to experience, be sure to mention that before you start ("Your ad says you are into WS, but if you piss in my mouth I will probably have to throw up on you."). I would also be careful about agreeing to serious bondage in a first meeting. After all, you are the one who is paying, so you have a right to set the parameters.

The title of this thread unnerved me, because for many years I had a close gay friend named Robert Lawson (now long deceased).

My dog normally sleeps on my bed with me, but he also has a bed of his own on the floor. If an escort were going to spend the night, I would just explain the situation to my dog, and I'm sure he would understand and discreetly spend the night in his own bed.

You didn't list my mother's birthday (122 years ago.)

Before he bleached his hair.

Vintage.

Those haircuts made me wonder if they actually were role-playing.

Why would I pay to sleep with someone?

Well, maybe one of them at least thought so for a little while.

Let's face it: unless we are good friends with Geffen, we don't really know why he married the young guy instead of just paying his fee, or why the guy married him, even though we know some hot young guys who have sex with older men purely for the money.. Most of us are reacting based on the stereotypes we are familiar with. If Geffen doesn't care what it is costing him, and the young man doesn't care that he is perceived by most on-lookers as a gold-digger (and I can't believe he doesn't realize that), then we are just watching a story unfold and commenting on what the plot means to us. It is not a story that has anything to teach me, since I will never be in either character's position.

Lucky you!

Oh, dear! So many holes, so little time.

His name would create psychological problems for me, since my father's first name was King.

Interesting that in the stats he lists 6'5" but in the text he describes himself as 6'4". Most adults are not unsure of their own height.

Looks more like Granddaddy issue.

Yes, we did. (Check my PM to you.)

That photo must be ancient--I think he was using the same one 20 years ago (I can't forget that tattoo), so he has to be older than 45 now.

My late spouse was one of four brothers, born in the 1930s and 40s to parents in a conservative Midwestern town, where they were sent to the local Catholic high school where their aunt was the principal. Two of the boys were straight and two were gay. The two older boys were small and not interested in sports, while the two younger brothers were big muscular football players. An outsider who was asked to guess which brothers were gay would probably go with the stereotypes and guess it was the older brothers--and they would be right! All of them went to college and were reasonably successful in very different careers: an architect, a lawyer, a co-owner of a construction company, and a vice-president of a major auto manufacturer. All of them had happy marriages, the older two of them to men and the younger two to women. Three of them eventually left their hometown, the gay brothers to major eastern cities and the youngest to a couple of major cities in the mid-west and southwest. Only the oldest had no children or step-children. How did their parents react to their sons' expressed orientations? Well, their father died before the gay older brothers officially came out, but he certainly must have suspected something; however, he never openly expressed his feelings to them about the fact that they never had girlfriends, and he was obviously not happy about one of the straight brother's choice of a wife. Their mother outlived their father for many years, and interestingly, she often seemed to have warmer relationships with her gay sons-in-law than with her daughters-in-law. The gay and straight brothers remained as close as they had been when they were kids, and their spouses were civil to one another, although one of the wives was rather stand-offish (she had a fundamentalist Christian background and didn't really approve of legalized gay marriages). If you have wondered why I have laid all of this out, it's because I am fascinated by the possibilities in the dynamics of coming out, especially now that gays have the same legal rights to marry that straight people have. I was an only child. When I came out to my parents in 1962, I never imagined that I could eventually have a husband, mother-in-law, gay and straight brothers-in-law, straight sisters-in-law, nieces and nephews, step-niece and nephew, etc., and all the complications that come with those relationships.

Re-reading this long thread, I have to say that Lucky's final comment is a nice summation, but as usual I hate to drop a subject that really interests me. Lucky and I happen to live in a physical community (Palm Springs) where it is easy to be openly--even vociferously--gay to all our neighbors, but I am sure that there are plenty of people on this site who don't have that kind of outside support. As one of the elders here (ahem!), I came out in an era when that kind of community didn't exist anywhere in the US, so I am glad that we have an online community here where we can all reveal ourselves and our experiences to one another, even if we need to do it under pseudonyms. (Full confession: no one actually knows me as "Charlie" except for the members of Company of Men.) Please feel free to keep adding your comments to this or related topics.

He looks younger than his 30s. I wonder if the photos may be old.

When I was 22, I couldn't imagine a day when I wouldn't get a hard-on at the sight of an attractive male. At 52, I worried about whether an attractive male could get a hard-on at the sight of me, At 82, I had trouble remembering how to get a hard-on.

Having read farther in the Brookhiser book, I discovered that after Andrew Jackson had defeated Quincey Adams' attempt to be re-elected President, Adams' respect for Jackson turned to hatred. He got himself elected to Congress from Massachusetts, became active in the anti-slavery movement, and even proposed that the free and slave states should be disunited into two separate countries, so that Jackson could not be President of the United States (and presumably so that Adams could run again to become President of the northern states).

I never minded listening to a provider talk about his personal life, as long as he did it after I had cum. Until then, I wanted him to be a sex object onto which I could project whatever I wanted. If I got too chummy with a provider, I lost interest in the sexual gratification that I was paying for. If I got to know a provider too well, I usually lost sexual interest in him; if I wanted a lover, I had a husband for that.

Christmas Eve was cold and very wet in Palm Springs, but this morning we have blue sky and bright sunshine. Happy holidays!