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I met him recently and he was amazing. I'm definitely going to repeat. 

On 12/19/2023 at 7:19 AM, marylander1940 said:

is feeling nauseous and sick a lesser evil? 

Depends on your goals, if you just want to lose weight then sure. However, most people I know, lose weight so they enjoy life longer and better, like skiing, beach days, parties, and sex. All of which is easier and more fun while trim. For me, if I'm feeling nauseous and other digestive issues, I'm not leaving the house. And the walls and furniture in my apartment don't give two shits how fat I am.

On a more serious note, if you are not digesting food properly you can suffer from malnourishment and even starve to death. 

Best way to lose weight is no sugar, a healthy diet, and exercise.

The taste varies from man to man but I love sampling all the flavors. 😘

2 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

The conversation is about masseurs, not escorts.

I believe you brought up escorts in the following post. If you don't want others to bring it up why would you? 

On 11/1/2023 at 5:30 AM, pubic_assistance said:

Although masseurs make less than escorts, I don't think the profession is a "waste of time".

I don't make $400 an hour myself...but then I'm also not cut-out to be taking it up the ass daily for a bunch or old-fat men.

Fucking multiple strangers for cash is not for everyone. Massage requires some exertion but a hand-job happy ending doesn't and also doesn't require you getting it up for a bunch of men you don't find attractive. You can easily have three or four massage clients a day...but can you cum four times a day with some old-fat dude who you're not attracted to ?

Seems to me that massage is the easier choice of profession, not escorting.

13 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Yeah.

I wasnt talking about humiliation fetishes.

I am talking about providers who don't really enjoy the exchange of sexual favors for money.

In which case they should find a different vocation. 

19 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

I was responding to Marylander's advice that massage "wasn't worth it."  I disagree.

I think someone can easily see a few massage clients a day @ 150 x 4 = 600

Escorts are unlikely to see more than one or two.  300 x 2 = 600

Plus - Jerking off someone on your massage table is far less humiliating than taking it up the ass for someone who you're not attracted to. ( Yes it's just for work ).

I think massage is the more comfortable career choice for most.

 

Humiliation is subjective. For some getting publicly flogged and forced to do degrading things is the height of sexual arousal. For example, I love sucking dick and the idea of a group of horny men using my throat publicly is incredibly hot. However, if any of them tried to fuck me that would end the fantasy. 

We all have our own kinks and boundaries. Whether you're escorting or starting an enterprising jack-shack, you need to be able to establish and maintain boundaries. 

Some will find it more comfortable to work with their hands while others may find more comfort putting their ass in the air and get drilled like the Permian Basin.

On 12/7/2023 at 1:47 PM, pubic_assistance said:

When I was much younger and started experimenting with men, I was meeting older men and I expected they would top, because I only liked masculine men, and I expected them to be dominant in nature.

I don't think I would have WANTED to top them. So yeah...an older bottom would not have been appealing then and an older bottom is not appealing now !

My brain says older = top / younger = bottom

( same age is the toss of a coin ) 🤣

 

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17 hours ago, Bryan Dube said:

i have been wanting to check Den LA out, but am afraid to go on my own. sounds like a hot time though.

With an ass like yours I bet you have many volunteers, including me. 😘

An escort I know says he's real but is hard to get a hold of. 

Hi guys, just need to vent about how horrible Grindr is. 

I recently reinstalled the app and started browsing. Even though I'm a big guy I get a lot of messages and taps. I try my best to get back to everyone and have a real conversation. After a month, I could not hookup with anyone. Many guys chatted me up and even more tap me but it just leads no where. Endless fucking convos asking for more and more pics and it never leads anywhere. Even guys who say they want to meet up RN flake like Kelloggs. I know I'm not everyone's dream man/boy but why contact me in the first place? I don't try and his my body. I make it pretty clear what my body type is and my age.

Is this happening to anyone else?

I'd blow him. 

I've been going to WI spa for years and still continue to go. It's not the place you go to cruise. Very rarely, some action happens. Usually late Saturday night you can find some guys jerking in the steam room but that is true for any place with a steam room. 

There was a short period of time that it got super cruisy but guys took it too far. One guy was jerking off with poppers in the steam room once and wasn't hiding it at all. He ended up getting arrested for indecent exposure. 

This spa is very popular with Russian, Armenian and Koreans. Many straight guys. It's a feast for the eyes. 

I can't believe no one has mentioned Century Spa. This place, the last I went, is a straight up gay sex club at this point. Guys openly fuck in the steam room and dark clay sauna. I don't go because it's mostly weho queens. I don't vibe well with that crowd and I also go to the spa to relax and not just to get off.

Grand Spa has a dark steam room that's perfect for cruising. I've sucked many dicks there. The crowd is mostly daddies but I'm also into that. 

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On 11/5/2023 at 9:50 AM, Tactile Daddy said:

Spa Palace in Westlake, just west of dtn la , Century Spa in Koreatown.... 

Careful with spa palace, I got kicked out of here once because I rejected a guy's advances. I was just trying to sleep and he kept trying to suck my dick. Went to another room then was woken by security telling me I have to leave cause some random guy said I tried to molest him. 😳 Bitchy insecure queens are the most spiteful people.

In another thread, @pubic_assistance made an interesting point I'd like to explore. In short, when he was younger he would pick up guys at the gym, quite often. However, when I was very fit, I found that I got less attention than when I was "out of shape".

The question, do we feel comfortable making the first move outside a sex club or with a provider? I know for me that is a big plus. That guessing game of is he into me or maybe not, is frustrating and annoying. I'd much rather hire a provider where the ground rules are already set. 

When I go to a sex club I'm fairly popular and even in my chubby, bald and old state, I can pull guys in their 20s. 

I appreciate your feedback.

One last note, back in my younger years I was working out religiously and even had a six pack for a short time. I found that many guys simply wouldn't approach me and because I was in the gym most of the time I never had time to cruise. So maybe workout less and socialize more?

32 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Now let's get to the important business...WHAT "kinds of people" are you attracting as a middle aged, slightly overweight, bald, gay man ?

On 11/19/2023 at 9:29 AM, Pd1_jap said:

Mostly it's been men in their golden years. A couple of times it's been younger guys, daddy issues maybe. 

18 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Thanks for the cheap psychoanalysis @Marc in Calif

I recommend you stick to your day job.

@Pd1_jap No..I meant WHAT..as in what kinds of people. Not a list of "who".

Ignore the bizarre interpretation above.

I very much read it the way Marc described it. I understand this is an Internet forum and not the library of Congress so I'm not gonna over think it. I would suggest reading a loud to hear what your posts sounds like to others.

On another note:

Not all of us have an inner monologue. Isn't that fascinating?

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

I am very well aware.

I don't understand your ranting about "my insecurities"

I simply asked what kind of people are hitting you up.

Inquiring minds want to know.

As I got older, the types of people who would hit me up changed. I can't get just anything I want anymore. That's why I hire from time to time.

Mostly I get Latino twink.boys and 30ish Asian chicks. Neither are interesting to me.

 

 

Perhaps this might be a language barrier. Where I'm from calling a person a "what" seems degrading.

2 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

"Proposotioned" by WHAT ?

 

Is your ego so fragile that you can't fathom that others don't share the same world view as you? Mostly it's been men in their golden years. A couple of times it's been younger guys, daddy issues maybe. But also, what the ideal body type is, changes over time. 

Don't get mad that you're no longer in fashion. 

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The long and the short of it, I'd rather hire an affable escort with good social skills and no drug/klepto tendencies than a muscle bound shit bag that's gonna steal from me. 

Your insecurity is showing. You may want to talk to a therapist as to why you want to bring everyone down to make yourself feel better.

Tchüss 😘

On 2/15/2020 at 8:30 PM, twinkboylover28 said:

What's wrong with wanting to have sex with good looking people only?

One day, every single person on the planet, will fall out of that category. I like to give a pity fuck every once in a while. It really brightens their day! 

Note: never expect some kind of karmic pity fuck from those outside our reach.

On 2/23/2020 at 5:39 PM, twinkboylover28 said:

As this is a forum on renting gay men, let me put it this way. .. nobody pays to rent a middle-aged balding obese guy no matter how great a personality he may have.

Factually untrue. I'm middle aged, chubby(technically obese, 30 lbs over my BMI), and I'm bald. And yet every once in a while I'll get propositioned. Not saying it happens all the time but it does happen. Maybe cause I'm 6' tall? 🤷

On 7/13/2022 at 10:27 PM, menaughty said:

I almost got scammed on Grindr. Suprisingly it is a popular scam but I had no idea.

A very good looking guy (in the pic) contacted me saying he is arranging an orgy. He asked for my email to send the details and stupid me sent my email. Then he asks you to pay on some cam website and I was like waittt..this seems fishy.

I search on google about this and there are multiple discussions about this on reddit 😅 

I just had this happen to me after recently signing up for Grindr after a three year hiatus. Fortunately I did not fall for it. 

2 minutes ago, secgoo said:

OMG, way to make ME feel old. Lol

I don't make the rules. Our society's obsession with youth is not new. I myself find older men very attractive. However, those with more money than confidence will always want younger, if for nothing else, a status symbol. The laws of economics do not exempt gay boys. The supply of hot young guys willing to do what we want is scarce and so one can expect a higher demand. If you're living in any major city there are plenty of guys willing to have fun for free. To expect that one could demand the same rates when older there has to be something more you can offer. Like @Vin_Marco, he can charge whatever he wants because he offers a complete package that many men his age simply aren't capable of, including myself. 🤪

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So many guys think escorting and porn is easy and that they should be given thousands for just showing up. A job is a job. It's still work and if you're not willing to work hard then don't be surprised when you don't get much out of it. 

Yes, there are exceptions. When the algorithm randomly chooses to push your content, you can make a killing for relatively little work. But such blessings should not be expected. 

My guess with this guy, he was picked up by a wealthy daddy and spoilled rotten when he was barely legal. Now that he's older and has a few miles on him that game plan isn't going to work the same. 

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3 hours ago, Marc in Calif said:

When was the last time a government report matched what you were seeing and experiencing?

That's why every report is proceeded by the term, "long and variable lags".

On 11/10/2023 at 4:23 PM, stevenkesslar said:

There are people who deserve to bitch and moan.  If you are someone who hires escorts, you are almost certainly not one of them.  Average net worth went up 37 % during COVID.  If you own a) a home or b) stocks, you are like the majority of Americans.  And your net worth probably went up a lot.  Granted, inflation-adjusted gas prices in the US are only a little LOWER than they were in 2008.  Making it seem impossible that the US can survive, let alone prosper.  And, yet, we seem to be prospering.  And I get that you can't use big increases in home equity to fill your tank with gas.  But you are still better off.

Careful, one two percent day change does not make a trend. My equities portfolio had been essentially flat for three years, largest investments in VTI, and a target date schwab retirement fund. TBH, we have been in a  recession since 2008. The government prints money and lowers interest rates to stimulate. All that stimulation has led to, ah-hem, rapidly rising inflation. 😂 

The Greek debt crisis, which supposedly triggered the great recession, set off alarm bells because their debt to gdp ratio went above 120%. The current US debt to gdp ratio is 123%. 

Eventually somebody is gonna get left holding the bag. More than likely it will be the American middle class.

It can be very fun but also very dangerous from a financial point of view. I'm not wealthy by any stretch of the imagination. I mean, sure the homeless and the paycheck-to-paycheck types will think I'm rich but considering the average home in LA is north a million, I'm poor. 🤪

I've already spent well over my budget for this year on gorgeous men. Now I need a sugar daddy. Any wealthy guys in LA want a sugar baby in their 40s lol?

9 hours ago, LD19847 said:

I do know of providers who escort on top of a full time job.

As well as the issues raised to date, on the more practical side: Would you be able to easily respond to messages during the day?  Would you be confident at committing to appointments in the evening?  

Some employers do require employees to disclose all sources of income from employment/self-employment so if you're employer found it out it could be a straightforward breach of contract (I assume you have fewer employment protections than in the UK or rest of Europe).

The only thing that would void my contact is the morality clause. But they would only care if it was in the news. I'm not high level enough and have no access to sensitive information. 

Yes, protections in California may not be as strong as in Western Europe but I would assume are as good as eastern Europe.