Rick M

Gosh b'gosh, just met him... Reviewed him on RM (5 stars), but write me for nitty-grittiness. These Sondheim lyrics carry the gist of my impression:
And as for being saintly,
Even faintly, no,
But who needs Albert Schweitzer
When the lights are low,
And oh boy, oh boy,
Can that boy ... foxtrot!
(Actually, he's quite bright and educated, too!)

I said I'd file a report, but after I wrote one, I realized it sounds too much like a review. So I'll just say that the positive comments about his physique and warm personality are correct (as far as I could judge in 1 hour). The only nits I would pick are these: he chewed gum the whole time (a bad nervous habit!) and he is very fastidious, to the point that some activities clearly make him uncomfortable. But he did text some sweet words of farewell after I left, which was rather charming.

Funny, massages do nothing for me. In fact, they make me uncomfortable.

My hiring patterns are highly erratic. As of today, I haven't made an appointment with anyone for at least a year. Now, suddenly, I'm anxious, so I may binge at a rate of once every 2 weeks or so.
Sometimes my sexual energy just isn't there. And if I do have an assignation, I have to put a lot of effort into preliminaries and accessories. These requirements extend beyond what others might consider the usual; plus, I have to travel by bus/train and walk to the hosting professional. (Don't lecture me about the expediency of taxis and Ubers!) All this fuss results in 2 disadvantages: a strong desire to book far in advance (something most providers shy away from) and becoming subject to weather and last-minute delays and cancellations.
I'm still searching for my ideal local go-to guy, but thus far my best matches live elsewhere and visit infrequently, if at all.

Yes, I'm another fella who doesn't consider it sex without the spunk. I'd love to find an uninhibited topping couple to address my #1 fantasy.

I am filing this "review" anonymously because I don't think my encounter with the subject is typical, and I'm afraid some readers may misinterpret my reason for posting.  My experience with X forced to me reevaluate some of my perceptions about escorting, for this is a case, I'm sure, of a person who would cultivate other fields if he could only escape his current sinkhole.
I met X at his place. He was an hour late running a mercy mission for his ex-boyfriend, but I was not in a rush, so I waited for him in the neighborhood. Turned out that he and this boyfriend had broken up recently, and that event was one of a number of negatives weighing on his mind. His apartment was dark and messy; he was between jobs (another burden) and I got the impression that I was inconveniencing him. Physically he's slim and boyish, not my "type," as I prefer rugged, robust, and muscular humans. All the same, I went ahead with the session. We got to talking. I was a little put off by his attitude, which is ironic and smart-ass. He loves to contradict and challenge opinions, but then, so do I.
We got into it on his sofa, and later, with rollicking intensity, we continued the athletic foreplay on his bed. Although limited to kissing and body contact, we had a good time; nothing else happened, which is only disappointing in retrospect: I didn't get all the menu items I wanted.
Truly distressing was the phase during which he passed out. I could not get a response out of him. I began imagining the ultimate scenario in which I call 911 and summon the EMTs. But since he was still breathing--perhaps in a shallow fashion, yet similar to normal sleep--I decided to give him time to recover. I pushed his inert body to one side and went hunting for my clothes.
After ten minutes or so, he revived and walked out into the living room without a trace of grogginess. (At that time I was still 73% zonked, and although I had remained conscious throughout, he claimed that it was I who had gone completely under!)
I conclude from all this, and conversations with other "low end" providers within the last year, that there is a whole stratum of guys struggling and barely keeping total insolvency at bay through their underground gig economy; in contrast, their "high end" counterparts--a more polished, prosperous, mobile tribe--seem to be successful in their trade (with or without another paying occupation). My instincts in the past might have directed me toward a half- or even full-ass rescue operation, but if you are familiar with my article about a particular personal funding fiasco, I am now far less likely to intervene.

Not going to answer random questions... Accept the evidence as it stands! Sometimes I roll the dice with strangers because there is something (inharmoniously) alluring about them. Sometimes I'm just seeking to expand my research database. And I did make an emotional connection here, even though it didn't lead to anything enduring or particularly meaningful.

Here's my follow-up: write me for the details. Truth be told, I haven't made up my mind about him yet.

Not going to answer random questions... Accept the evidence as it stands! Sometimes I roll the dice with strangers because there is something (inharmoniously) alluring about them. Sometimes I'm just seeking to expand my research database. And I did make an emotional connection here, even though it didn't lead to anything enduring or particularly meaningful.

Funny, massages do nothing for me. In fact, they make me uncomfortable.

Ok, y'all have focused on kissing, but kissing is a dicey proposition in all 3 categories. (My ex, who is as gay as they come, abhorred kissing and refused any lip proximity.) I'm talking about being "into" male-male sex in general, or at least play-acting the part so well it doesn't make a difference.

I hesitate to post this in case the subject recognizes me and takes umbrage, but to him I reiterate I do not hold him responsible, and in fact, I still trust him.
A while back I engaged a provider several times. We seemed to get along well, and when he revealed he was in financial difficulty, I offered to bail him out of debt. I drew up some papers to formalize the transaction, and went to the bank with him to oversee a transfer of funds. I will not cite the exact amount, but it was a considerable sum. There is no hard due date on repayment.
He left town the week after, and I asked him to stay in touch. This is the disturbing part: whether he is embarrassed to acknowledge his reliance on my generosity, or if he is simply scamming me (though I know his debt was real and he needed help), he has refused to reply to any message I send him. I don't want to exert pressure on him, but I do have an ongoing interest in his well-being, and wish to support him emotionally if he would allow it.
I now attempt to write him twice a year. Each time I reaffirm that I am not looking for reimbursement. I hope some day he takes my earnestness to heart and writes back even it's to say "I'm doing okay."

Funny, massages do nothing for me. In fact, they make me uncomfortable.

I hesitate to post this in case the subject recognizes me and takes umbrage, but to him I reiterate I do not hold him responsible, and in fact, I still trust him.
A while back I engaged a provider several times. We seemed to get along well, and when he revealed he was in financial difficulty, I offered to bail him out of debt. I drew up some papers to formalize the transaction, and went to the bank with him to oversee a transfer of funds. I will not cite the exact amount, but it was a considerable sum. There is no hard due date on repayment.
He left town the week after, and I asked him to stay in touch. This is the disturbing part: whether he is embarrassed to acknowledge his reliance on my generosity, or if he is simply scamming me (though I know his debt was real and he needed help), he has refused to reply to any message I send him. I don't want to exert pressure on him, but I do have an ongoing interest in his well-being, and wish to support him emotionally if he would allow it.
I now attempt to write him twice a year. Each time I reaffirm that I am not looking for reimbursement. I hope some day he takes my earnestness to heart and writes back even it's to say "I'm doing okay."

As counterpoint to my original story, I should add that I have given smaller, short-term loans to another provider, which he paid back faithfully. I have also paid off the automobile loans of two different boyfriends and allowed them to repay me in installments with lower interest rates. The success of these exercises may have influenced my attitude in the present case. 

I hesitate to post this in case the subject recognizes me and takes umbrage, but to him I reiterate I do not hold him responsible, and in fact, I still trust him.
A while back I engaged a provider several times. We seemed to get along well, and when he revealed he was in financial difficulty, I offered to bail him out of debt. I drew up some papers to formalize the transaction, and went to the bank with him to oversee a transfer of funds. I will not cite the exact amount, but it was a considerable sum. There is no hard due date on repayment.
He left town the week after, and I asked him to stay in touch. This is the disturbing part: whether he is embarrassed to acknowledge his reliance on my generosity, or if he is simply scamming me (though I know his debt was real and he needed help), he has refused to reply to any message I send him. I don't want to exert pressure on him, but I do have an ongoing interest in his well-being, and wish to support him emotionally if he would allow it.
I now attempt to write him twice a year. Each time I reaffirm that I am not looking for reimbursement. I hope some day he takes my earnestness to heart and writes back even it's to say "I'm doing okay."

Lawyer? Hell no, the money isn't the important thing. And parsing out $ wouldn't have worked, he was too far in the red.
 When I die, my executor (a real moneygrubber) can try to recapture it. 

I haven't mentioned money in any of my communications. Regardless, for all I know, he may have blocked my texts. (I have other ways of tracking/reaching him, but I don't want to freak him out.)
As a sort of collateral, he left something personal (but worthless to anyone else) in my care.

Lawyer? Hell no, the money isn't the important thing. And parsing out $ wouldn't have worked, he was too far in the red.
 When I die, my executor (a real moneygrubber) can try to recapture it. 

I hesitate to post this in case the subject recognizes me and takes umbrage, but to him I reiterate I do not hold him responsible, and in fact, I still trust him.
A while back I engaged a provider several times. We seemed to get along well, and when he revealed he was in financial difficulty, I offered to bail him out of debt. I drew up some papers to formalize the transaction, and went to the bank with him to oversee a transfer of funds. I will not cite the exact amount, but it was a considerable sum. There is no hard due date on repayment.
He left town the week after, and I asked him to stay in touch. This is the disturbing part: whether he is embarrassed to acknowledge his reliance on my generosity, or if he is simply scamming me (though I know his debt was real and he needed help), he has refused to reply to any message I send him. I don't want to exert pressure on him, but I do have an ongoing interest in his well-being, and wish to support him emotionally if he would allow it.
I now attempt to write him twice a year. Each time I reaffirm that I am not looking for reimbursement. I hope some day he takes my earnestness to heart and writes back even it's to say "I'm doing okay."

Just met him. Handsome, polite, respectful, sexy, easy to talk to, and he has an intellectual side.

Posting anew since existing topics seem a little out of date. Just met Clay. SUPER nice guy. Reviewed him on RM, but write me if you want to hear more.
https://rent.men/ClayTowers

Update: I saw he was coming to my locale so I made an inquiry on RM. He replied in a timely manner with a canned response that included a request for a deposit to secure a reservation. I wrote back declining the prepay option, but asked a few more questions relevant to a meeting. That was weeks ago, and haven't heard a word from him since. Make of this interaction what you will.

Has anyone met:
https://rent.men/Everettgrey
? With just 2 reviews on RM, I assume he's new. Cute, though (IMO).

I can say this much: I started to book an appointment with him. He requested a deposit. I don't like doing that, but I realize for some travelers there is a risk of miscalculation that can blow their whole budget. I wired him the amount. Not 24 hours had passed when he informed me of a family emergency and had to cancel. He immediately transferred my money back to me. So he seems to be an upstanding guy.