Michael PhD

Hey guys. I’ve gotten into a predicament. 
 
Over the last year I’ve casually been seeing a divorced bi man. We have had a lot of great sexual adventures, one on one and with a third (male and female). 
 
Recently, I asked if he wanted to meet with a submissive bottom who likes “daddy” types. He jumped at the idea. 
 
I sent over pics and a video of the two of us. What I failed to consider is that the guy I was suggesting we tag team is someone he knows… his son. 
 
My long term buddy is pretty upset and wants me to promise to not see his son again. I like the young man and have a lot of fun. 
 
Is it wrong to continue seeing them both without letting the other know? My head says I should stop but I’m hoping some can convince me it’s not as bad as I’ve made it out to be…

Yes 

I didn’t plan for this or set this up. I’ve made connections with them both. But after the input and much thought, it’s clear that I’ll have to move on from both. 

Appreciate the feedback. 
 
I am not planning to see either. 
 
My bi buddy isn’t out and I don’t plan on outing him by telling his son that I know his dad in that way. He’s upset and hasn’t talked to me after this all came out and I promised I wouldn’t see his son again. 
 
My buddy’s son and I have met for almost 3 years. We are more than fuck buddies. Friends at minimum. No long term potential but we have mutual respect and what I find challenging is how abrupt this will be for him to hear without sharing context. I’ve been vague with him this past month when he texts but he can tell something is off. Doesn’t feel right to ghost him. Doesn’t feel right to lie. Doesn’t feel right to not share something to help him understand. 
 
Anyway, thanks for the feedback. I’m not sure how I’ll handle it aside from not meeting either for play… navigating how to end the “relationship” is challenging. 

Thanks for all the feedback guys!  I agree with Michael about not bugging old clients about signing up if they've only been sensual clients all along.  Also thanks for the thumbs up for masseur finder and caution re: rentmasseur.  I'll be sure to ruthlessly promote myself here when I get situated!  All the best!

As someone who has enjoyed meeting masseurs even after they transition from a sensual experience to a strictly therapeutic session, I think you should wait for the clients to come across your ad and reach out to you. I don’t like when I’m solicited for scheduling a massage unless I asked to be contacted (for the out of town visitors) although I recognize that may be a personal issue and not applicable to others. 

I didn’t plan for this or set this up. I’ve made connections with them both. But after the input and much thought, it’s clear that I’ll have to move on from both. 

I didn’t plan for this or set this up. I’ve made connections with them both. But after the input and much thought, it’s clear that I’ll have to move on from both. 

Honor his request.

As someone who has enjoyed meeting masseurs even after they transition from a sensual experience to a strictly therapeutic session, I think you should wait for the clients to come across your ad and reach out to you. I don’t like when I’m solicited for scheduling a massage unless I asked to be contacted (for the out of town visitors) although I recognize that may be a personal issue and not applicable to others. 

Had a great session. Will be a repeat customer. Thanks! 

As someone who has enjoyed meeting masseurs even after they transition from a sensual experience to a strictly therapeutic session, I think you should wait for the clients to come across your ad and reach out to you. I don’t like when I’m solicited for scheduling a massage unless I asked to be contacted (for the out of town visitors) although I recognize that may be a personal issue and not applicable to others. 

As someone who has enjoyed meeting masseurs even after they transition from a sensual experience to a strictly therapeutic session, I think you should wait for the clients to come across your ad and reach out to you. I don’t like when I’m solicited for scheduling a massage unless I asked to be contacted (for the out of town visitors) although I recognize that may be a personal issue and not applicable to others. 

I met him. Really great technique and massage. He was naked throughout and minimal mutual touch ensued. 
 
The massage was great. The ending left me wanting more and for the price, don’t think I’ll repeat. Although I’ve lamented the lack of technically skilled masseurs in San Diego so that may be a reason why I end up going back eventually although don’t plan on it currently. 

I had a masseur I met when I was in my early 30s. Great technique, well trained. Met him almost every month when I would travel to New York for 2 years. On a trip to New York one summer, I got in a bad accident. He and I texted often and when he found out I was admitted to the trauma unit, he came and visited. He came probably 15 times over a 6 week hospitalization… fast forward 10 years, we still keep in touch. And I’m the godfather of he and his husbands daughter. A business transaction led to this friendship. Life is too short to pass up making a friend when the right connection is made. 

There may be options but only a couple well trained masseurs. If you are a trained masseur and have a variety of techniques including deep tissue, I would imagine you’d have clients line up. 

I had a masseur I met when I was in my early 30s. Great technique, well trained. Met him almost every month when I would travel to New York for 2 years. On a trip to New York one summer, I got in a bad accident. He and I texted often and when he found out I was admitted to the trauma unit, he came and visited. He came probably 15 times over a 6 week hospitalization… fast forward 10 years, we still keep in touch. And I’m the godfather of he and his husbands daughter. A business transaction led to this friendship. Life is too short to pass up making a friend when the right connection is made. 

Boy oh boy did I ever have some fun with this one back in Laguna Beach, around 2004 before we both started doing massage. Anybody else with any juicy stories? 
 
https://rentmasseur.com/MattInOC

I had a masseur I met when I was in my early 30s. Great technique, well trained. Met him almost every month when I would travel to New York for 2 years. On a trip to New York one summer, I got in a bad accident. He and I texted often and when he found out I was admitted to the trauma unit, he came and visited. He came probably 15 times over a 6 week hospitalization… fast forward 10 years, we still keep in touch. And I’m the godfather of he and his husbands daughter. A business transaction led to this friendship. Life is too short to pass up making a friend when the right connection is made. 

I had a masseur I met when I was in my early 30s. Great technique, well trained. Met him almost every month when I would travel to New York for 2 years. On a trip to New York one summer, I got in a bad accident. He and I texted often and when he found out I was admitted to the trauma unit, he came and visited. He came probably 15 times over a 6 week hospitalization… fast forward 10 years, we still keep in touch. And I’m the godfather of he and his husbands daughter. A business transaction led to this friendship. Life is too short to pass up making a friend when the right connection is made. 

I had a masseur I met when I was in my early 30s. Great technique, well trained. Met him almost every month when I would travel to New York for 2 years. On a trip to New York one summer, I got in a bad accident. He and I texted often and when he found out I was admitted to the trauma unit, he came and visited. He came probably 15 times over a 6 week hospitalization… fast forward 10 years, we still keep in touch. And I’m the godfather of he and his husbands daughter. A business transaction led to this friendship. Life is too short to pass up making a friend when the right connection is made. 

Hello. I saw this guy is visiting. Any experience? I’m very interested in meeting him. I may give it a go if no one has any experience to share. 
 
https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/30145/
 

I would also suggest doing some research. It’s not just about being a dick sucking enthusiast. I meet masseurs and the best ones are those that want to make the client happy, truly enjoy what they do, and have motivation more than just supporting their other costly passions as a driver for their pursuit of a career in this industry. Would be a bit naive (and disrespectful to the professionals out there) to think that being in this industry is straightforward or easy. 

I would also suggest doing some research. It’s not just about being a dick sucking enthusiast. I meet masseurs and the best ones are those that want to make the client happy, truly enjoy what they do, and have motivation more than just supporting their other costly passions as a driver for their pursuit of a career in this industry. Would be a bit naive (and disrespectful to the professionals out there) to think that being in this industry is straightforward or easy. 

I would also suggest doing some research. It’s not just about being a dick sucking enthusiast. I meet masseurs and the best ones are those that want to make the client happy, truly enjoy what they do, and have motivation more than just supporting their other costly passions as a driver for their pursuit of a career in this industry. Would be a bit naive (and disrespectful to the professionals out there) to think that being in this industry is straightforward or easy.