Smokey

Periods of British history sometimes get a convenient label from the monarch associated with them, but Victoria's son Edward VII is the last one whose name defined a period, and a fairly short one at that. "Victorian" and "Edwardian" in most people's minds recall a set of contrasting social and moral attitudes that people associate with each of those personalities, often negatively. I tend to agree with @CuriousByNature that the 70 years of E2R's reign is much too complex to be encapsulated as a new "Elizabethan Era," especially by those of us who are still close to it. Perhaps in the distant future, there will be historians who find some commonality within it that cause them to identify the past 70 years as "Elizabethan."

I have seen him on Scruff before and he self-identifies as a top there. 
 
No insight re: "aggressive" though.

As has been said of Doris Day: I knew him before he was a virgin.
Kevin Slater

When the Ken doll first appeared, I was already playing with real guys named Ken.

When I once read that the guy who authored the detective series Maigret, a Belgian I believe, had had sex with over a thousand women, I stopped counting my encounters. I was already over 1000 at that point.

Sir Alan Bates

Stop thinking about Margaret Thatcher

Sir Alan Bates

Sir Alan Bates

Sir Alan Bates

Sir Alan Bates

Sir Alan Bates

Sir Alan Bates

Sir Alan Bates

Sir Alan Bates

I don’t ask so this is not applicable to me or many others. And I don’t think I deserve more. But if I turn you on and you want to fuck, I may be game for it... allow desires to take over. But I’m not scheduling a massage for a fuck. If that happens, that is after the massage and with both parties being willing participants.

Years ago as I lay on a masseur's table he said this: "Damn my man I better not get distracted you just might end up with some icing on those cakes!" I howled! Terp

@Wolfer After reading the OP my initial thought was not to comment because it sounded like you have the situation properly analyzed. You just don't want to pull the trigger and make the decision to change (or cancel) the arrangement for fear of losing something. Others in this thread have responded with the "if it ain't broke" reply, but it really doesn't sound like you are comfortable with the situation to continue as is, whereas others might. For what it's worth, I'm not willing to say the masseur is using you, but you certainly present as the perfect client, i.e. someone he's attracted to and with whom he gets to have fun and get paid.
 
What made me want to respond though was the above quoted comment. I don't know if flattered is a word I would use in this situation because it makes it sound like the masseur is doing you some courtesy by seeking out your business and you should be grateful for it. That kind of thinking is partly why you seem upset about the situation.
 
A while ago I had a somewhat similar situation. I had a regular masseur and after our first couple of sessions we had full on sex. From that point on we had sex every time we met. He was very nice and complimented me and I knew he enjoyed himself. I even saw him out socially once and we hung out a bit. We would email and share funny memes, etc. He never reached out to me about setting up a time, but in my mind I always approached a session with him as a paying client. We weren't FWB. However, there were a couple of times when he was particularly horny that he pretty much skipped the massage and went to town on me immediately. (And yes, the sex was good! haha) When that happened, he would leave without asking for payment. In those instances it was about him getting pleasure (and also pleasuring me) and not him providing a service. If your guy is not willing to do that, then you have your answer. You either need to cut him or decide if you can continue with things as they are, putting aside any feelings of being afraid he might say no at some point.

I am apt to agree with those who think sex work and children ought to be kept separate in every sense, for their protection. On the other hand, my brother is in law enforcement and he also doesn't have any public-facing information that offers details about his family. That's also for the protection of his kids. Life is complicated.

@Wolfer First off - I hope that in addition to our other feelings, you are flattered that he has called you. Regardless of the reason, you made a good enough impression for him to call you. And if the sex is as good for you as you indicate, and it has been every time you've been together, then he must be enjoying more than the financial benefit of your encounters.
 
I tend to be a 'glass half full' guy and yet I often find myself overthinking about whether a provider thinks of my solely as an ATM. I've had enough encounters with providers that I know with some of them I am just a transaction, and other providers also enjoy spending time with me, perhaps over other clients. After ten years of enjoying this hobby I finally realized to not care about their motivations for seeing me.

I won’t hijack your thread with the details of my own mashugana (though could be an insightful general thread topic), but I ultimately had to end a vaguely similar relationship with a masseur. We did manage (to my surprise) to remain social friends until he left NYC but I had to cease all services... massage and otherwise. The transactional nature just got too weird for me.
 
My advice... either transform the situation to your comfort level, emotional and physical, or end it.

From a 2009 photo exhibit of works by Bruce Weber "A Little Journey in my Back Yard"