Jbronson

Do you believe everything else in their ads? I get tickled when I read they are a 27 surfer boy, and know they are really a 40 year old (fill in the blank).

Lets be honest, BB sex still carries a strong stigma in many circles. So even those who do, or may, may not be willing to state so publicly. Then there's the strict capitalism question: why say something that may limit your income? What I've heard is many guys who list safe will BB if you ask, and "ask me" is also a strong hint. Besides abstinence, the only safe thing is to assume everyone you come in contact is potentially infectious and manage your own behavior accordingly.

I'm looking for a personal trainer that can help my current dilemma of really deep-rooted lack of motivation.
 
My lack of motivation has to do with my sex life frustration.
 
I know health should be a motivator but the reality is that I primarily want to get into shape to boost my self-esteem and improve my romantic and sex life.
 
I'm curious if finding a trainer in NYC (slight preference for someone gay vs. gay-4-pay) with current or prior experience as a sex worker might be a good fit to get me motivated by being able to chat about these psychological and sex life topics to keep be engaged and learning about my mental road blocks.
 
I guess you could say I'm looking for a fitness trainer that could double as a sex therapist!
 
Thanks i advance for any leads, recs, or other ideas! Private message or replying here is great!

Who has any intel on this guy?
 
https://rentmen.eu/KaineWoodXXX
 
Woof...

Anyone spent some time with this cutie yet?
 
https://rent.men/Gabriel_Parish

I agree. Not so much with the notion that an escort's sexual activities with others (in private or business) are necessarily any business of the prospective client. But this is an entirely different context. The whole point of an ad is to market the services one offers to clientele in order to convince them to hire that provider. It's confusing, to say the least, for an escort to post pics and/or videos of certain activities on his ad if those activities are never included in the services offered to the clients. One could even go so far as to say that it's deceptive and manipulative.
 
That being said, just cheking the "safe only" box isn't particularly helpful, nor is it all that definitive, because there's no such thing as "safe sex," but only "SAFER sex," and what constitutes the latter is open to multiple interpretations. That's why it's important to discuss safer sex practices with all sexual partners, not just escorts, to determine the level of risk with which one is comfortable.
 
We should also keep in mind that just because an escort advertises a particular activity, or is known to participate in it from porn or other media, doesn't mean that he will insist that his clients also partake in that. Several years ago I met with BB porn star Peto Coast, and not only was he perfectly fine with using condoms, but he supplied his own extra large preferred brand, checked on me several times throughout the session, and replaced with new condoms multiple times. It was an in-call session, so the fact that he kept such ample supplies on hand leads me to believe that accommodating safer sex practices was his standard operating practice. IMHO, he went above and beyond to respect my limits, and make me feel safe and comfortable.

I see where you're going. However when someone displays a particular action or characteristic of a product or service he/she is trying to market, that does in fact becomes the potential customer's business regardless.

Great responses already. The bottom line is that you cannot assume anything just because an escort performs BB on camera at least some of the time but lists "safe only" in his ad. If you want to know what the escort's limits with you will be, you need to discuss that.
 
That being said, I do understand that men who want to increase the odds that the escort won't try to have bareback sex with them would screen out those who post any indication that the escort ever barebacks. There are still no guarantees in life (other than death), but I understand an attempt to screen out guys that way.

One’s personal sexual preferences, professional sexual preferences, and on-camera sexual preferences don’t often correlate. Good eye, but what an escort is doing in a film serves no relevance to what he’s selling you.
 
While I understand a client’s frustrations with seeing escorts perform on film or offer varying services to others, we do get to choose what we do with our bodies, and with whom. Unless an escort is willing to negotiate with you, it’s not really any of your business.

I agree...in my anecdotal experience 90% of the Escorts on RM are either on PrEP or Undetectable and either case are open to BB as long as they feel comfortable with a guy and his hygiene/maintenance standards. The only guys that are truly safe only usually scream it in the profile text in caps like "NO BB EVER!!!!" or "CONDOMS ONLY!!!!!" So if you're a condom nazi it's pretty easy to find your match.

Sort of like when a guy on his grindr profile says “I’m only here for networking. No hookups.” Suuuuuure you are.

I agree with you. What an escort does professionally and what he does in private are two different things. He may love BB in private or with a really hot guy in a film where they are tested for VD, but BB also subjects him to much more common venerally transmitted diseases when he is with clients and he may not like the idea of getting VD especially from an untraceable source.

In my early days on Gaydar, I remember one guy who said, 'I only top in hook-ups but I'm totally vers in a relationship'. I think that provides a clue. My take is that these guys' rule is that they are prepared to engage only in safer sex when they are being hired. They are not talking about what they may do in their private lives or what they may do or have done on film (so don't assume that they are). It's a pick list on a form, not a detailed discussion of what safer sex means and what they will agree to do in any circumstance. We read our own interpretation into their responses at our peril. In addition, there is always the possibility that what they put in their ad is a starting point rather than a final position.

I think some of them say "safe only" so they don't come across as reckless LOL

and some ads say "straight".......
 

Don’t believe everything you read.

yeah been curious about this. i prefer bb so i skip safe only ads but then i have heard guys will do bb. why do they have to make it so hard?

Slightly different take: I’m always surprised to search on “Safe only” guys, and find some who list “PNP”. I mean, I guess it’s possible, but just seems an odd combination.

I get tickled whenever I see "safe only" in an ad, right before seeing said talent performing BB on videos he posts on his page. Is this a provider's way of saying they with go bare, but for the the right price? Any insight on this?

I get tickled whenever I see "safe only" in an ad, right before seeing said talent performing BB on videos he posts on his page. Is this a provider's way of saying they with go bare, but for the the right price? Any insight on this?

The derrière is nice. But even though I'm a top, I prefer to look at muscular chests, abs, and arms. I'd really like to see what the front of him looks like.
 
Gman

This guy is so sexy..... anyone met him yet?
 
https://rent.men/Dennis

That’s an ass to be worshiped!

It takes a big investment of effort over a long time to gain a gymnast body. And a “very talented bottom” is always a great find.
 
I’ve not met this particular guy, but I’ve fond memories of playing with a similarly built young man who had been on the US gymnastics team.
 
So I don’t think that asking 300 is too much. If you’re interested @Jostar why not take him for a test-drive?

I find the boy scrumptious, and I would hire him in a NY minute. This is only my opinion, mine only, and I stand by it.