nycman

I test well. Enough said. In the long run, I’ve found that hard work is infinitely more important.

I would appear that this is information you found out by snooping around using the escorts personal information. Admittedly, this is something that is quite commonly done in today’s world. That doesn’t mean it’s morally sound to do so. Nonetheless, the deed is done and now you’ve uncovered something that may, or may not, reflect poorly on the young man’s reputation. Of course, the only reason you’re not confronting him directly with the information you’ve uncovered is that you don’t want him to know that you were digging into his private life. So in essence you are protecting yourself while doing damage to his reputation. Even if the damage is only in your mind and to your relationship with him. Your judging him without giving him a fair chance to defend himself seems at best unfair and at worst self-serving. Man up, tell him about your little Nancy Drew escapade, face the shame, and give him a chance to explain. I believe you owe it to him. I’m sure others feel differently.

Go ahead. It’s your cash, do as you please. But being stuck on a small Caribbean island with someone I don’t wan’t be there with sounds like a special level of Hell to me. Kind of like the ultimate blind overnight hire mistake. Deadly? Perhaps not. You’ll just wish you were.

You’ve never been to St. Barts have you? There are zero direct flights from Paris to St. Barts. Some flights from Paris to Saint Martin next door. Still, it wouldn’t be a good idea to fly someone in unless you know them very well. It’s a very small and intimate island. Flying in the wrong escort here would be a deadly, not to mention costly, mistake.

I believe that preventing disease and creating life are two different things. I understand that others feel differently.

Somewhere a god is laughing. We are interfering where we shouldn’t be and we’re surprised things get screwed up?

I love crazy New York right now. Reminds me of the late 80’s early 90’s NYC. A little messy, a little dangerous, certainly not sterile. I predict some impressive creativity will come from this time.

How….fucking….dare…..you not use his name? You little punk ass bitch! The man was and is a fucking G-O-D I give you….Henry Rollins! For the record, it was a Mosh Pit at a Black Flag concert in Philly that I decided "I’m too old for this shit", and became a little punk ass bitch myself, and exited the mosh pit forever. At the ripe old age of 25! grin

I think it’s the “Ex" coming here to cause trouble. Of course I have zero proof, I’m just stirring the shit pot….because it’s fun!

50,000 is a very large but not huge event. In an open, outdoor, well designed, space, that shouldn’t lead to multiple crush injury deaths. Nonetheless, a sudden wave of panic can easily set off a group and mass hysteria quickly ensues. There’s really no way to prevent it other than sectioning them off like they do in Times Square on New Years Eve. It kills the vibe, but that’s the point. It’s one, of several, reasons I no longer attended large events. I’ve been "nearly crushed" and certainly "stepped on" more than a few times in my misspent youth. I consider myself lucky, and I no longer feel the need to tempt fate. Having worked on planning events of this size, this is one of many "worst case" scenarios that keeps you up at night in the weeks leading up to the event.

I always knew we were kindred spirits on this Astral Plane. Which was also one of my favorite restaurants in Philly. What can I say? I was poor and didn’t really know great food, but I did appreciate alternative decor!

If it’s not a major inconvenience for me, I try to accommodate a schedule change, even if it’s last minute. As I’ve gotten better at this hobby, I’ve learned not to try and squeeze in a meeting between other appointments so I’m usually pretty flexible. Nonetheless, it’s a one time thing. A second request for a time change is greeted with an immediate cancellation. It’s a sure sign the young man doesn’t take his business or my patronage seriously. I’ve never had a scenario where I’ve accommodated more than one time change request turn into a meeting that was worth the hassle. Too many fish. And even if I’m in an escort wasteland, I’m better off having a drink alone at the bar.

Oh, what a tangled web we weave, when first we practise to deceive! - Sir Walter Scott, Marmion Not being as judgmental as that sounds. I understand life is complicated. It is a lesson for all of us.

Beautiful park. Worth a visit. Cute. Go see it, but there are much better places to eat in Tokyo. Massively overrated. Would you hang out in a Park Hyatt in New York? Then why do it in Tokyo? Unless you LOVE cats….I don’t get it. These places are creepy. Now the Owl cafe on the other hand fucking rocks! https://www.tripadvisor.com/Attraction_Review-g1066443-d7083924-Reviews-Owl_Cafe_Akiba_Fukurou-Chiyoda_Tokyo_Tokyo_Prefecture_Kanto.html Beautiful, be prepared for lots of walking. It’s next to Yoyogi Park. I would strongly suggest hiring a local gay tour guide. Google it, they’re not hard to find. There are hundreds of 12 seat "gay bars" in Tokyo. Westerners are allowed into about three of them. With a Japanese guide that number increases to about 12. I’m not kidding. It’s an incredibly closed society. There are a few larger street level gay bars that are relatively welcoming. My favorite was the Tokyo Eagle. https://www.eagletokyo.com The guys there were really happy we were there and went out of their way to make sure we knew they wanted us to be there. Most of Japan is like that. It will be very clear where you are welcome, and where you are not. The Mandarin Oriental Tokyo is a stunning and damn near flawless hotel. https://www.mandarinoriental.com/tokyo/nihonbashi/luxury-hotel Nice hotel. Boring city. I’d skip it in the future. As Philadelphia is to New York, so Osaka is to Tokyo. More xenophobic and less interesting. In my book a local gay guide is almost essential here, but I’m not sure I’d even bother. Kyoto is so much more beautiful and interesting….but zero night life. And of course, there is only one…..https://www.aman.com/resorts/aman-kyoto

In high school, a big football jock that I had a huge crush on, retold a joke his father had made involving a mouse, an elephant and a Mercedes, that ended with the punch line "just goes to show that you don’t need a big dick if you’ve got a Mercedes". In his retelling of the event he then teased his father (who owned a Mercedes) about his dick size. I just remember being incredibly turned on by the big stud telling me dick jokes….ahhh….gay adolescence! Random, I know. But this thread made me think of him and made me hard. Thank you.

And the most transgressive act to date would be……? Just asking…..grin

A boy after my own heart!

It’s funny but I don’t like watching my sexual partners in porno movies. Maybe it some weirdo jealousy. Maybe it ruins the fantasy. Who knows, but I seriously go out of my way to avoid seeing my regulars on film with other guys. Same goes with potential hires. I like surprises.

I’m sorry to hear that and I’m sorry you’ve had such a rough course. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

The same illogical statement has been made about gay men having sex. Policing other people’s thoughts and private activities is a dangerous game folks.

Yeah, they need somewhere to get gas and dump their trash. grin

That’s what they said……what they meant was: "you're alive, you still have use of your leg…there’s not enough cash reward at the end of this for us" If the treatment was reasonable (it most likely was) then it doesn’t matter if your dead or alive or have use of your leg or not. The size of the reward however is extremely contingent on you being dead or alive and/or the extent of the injury. They inadvertently tipped their hand.

I never really thought of it from the perspective of medical care for a gay spouse in a foreign country. Even the idea is a little frightening. Although I’ve often been stunned at how open minded medical communities in conservative countries can be behind closed doors, I wouldn’t want to have to rely on the kindness of strangers in such a situation.

Yes, and no. Unfortunately, medical malpractice is a big ticket item. The attorney only has to win a few to come out on top. For him it’s like playing cards in Vegas. He doesn’t need a perfect hand, he just needs better cards on average than the house to tilt the odds in his favor. The truth is that the vast majority of medical malpractice trials are found in favor of the physician. If a medical malpractice attorney wins 1 in 10 cases, he’s a super star. And they comb through piles of charts trying to find those select 10 cases. So if he tells you your case is crap, believe me, your case is really crap. Nonetheless, if he tells you you’ve got a "good case" it just means he thinks you’ve got about a 1 in 20 chance of winning and he’s willing to take those odds. If you’re still going down this ill advised route of chumming the shark infested waters, I’d only advise that you really do your homework on the attorney you choose to review the file. If you pick one off TV or some one your friend’s, friend’s, aunt’s, cousin used when the Vet misdiagnosed her pet chinchilla, (or better yet use a real estate attorney, don’t laugh I’ve seen it done), I will fucking slap you. An attorney in financial distress will take any case he can get his hooks in. Just like a homeless drunk putting his last $10 on the roulette wheel in Vegas. So if you really think you have a case (I’m doubtful), then you pay a professional to review the case and ask them to give you an honest opinion. Not a plaintiff’s malpractice attorney (who’s just fishing for a winning lottery ticket on contingency). Yes, it will cost you a few thousand dollars, and you most likely won’t like the answer you get, but you will have the peace of mind that you have an honest and disinterested third party opinion. That’s the best you can do.

That’s a little bit like swimming up to a shark and asking if he’s hungry. The biopsy sounds like it was incredibly high risk from the start. Of course, the physician who did the biopsy should have told you that and at least given you an idea of the protential risks of proceeding with the procedure versus the risks of doing nothing. He doesn’t have to paint a grim detailed picture of the worst case catastrophic scenario however. That’s an impossible task and he’s a physician, not a fortune teller after all. The fact that several other physicians refused to even attempt the biopsy is a huge clue as to the level of risk involved. But that doesn’t necessarily equate to malpractice. After all, the world needs physicians who are willing to take calculated risks with informed patients in high risk cases. Unfortunately, because of the toxic malpractice environment in the US, most doctors will only go after the low hanging fruit. Why expose yourself to potential malpractice claims, when the procedure is unlikely to pay anymore than an "easier" case? I’ve been asked to review several friends potential malpractice cases. In each case, I advised against suing the physician. Yes, there are always minor deviations and imperfections in the chart. They are rarely if ever related to the perceived bad outcome. I’ve also tried to counsel them about the pain and suffering of going through a malpractice trial for everyone involved. The plaintiff doesn’t get a free ride, trust me. None of them have listened to me. They have all consulted with a malpractice attorney who has managed to convince them they have an airtight case. After years of pain and suffering, each and everyone of them lost. Believing more than ever that they were wronged. By the doctor, their attorney, the doctor’s attorney, the judge, the jury, and even somehow me. Everyone walks away, and they are left, 10 years older and worse off than when they started. You REALLY want an honest opinion? Pay a malpractice defense attorney to review the case. They won’t have any financial gain in lying to you about the prospects of your case. You most likely won’t like what they have to say, but it will be objective and painfully honest. I’m sorry this happened to you and I hope this helps.