FTM Zachary Prince

Thanks for your frankness. This is what I needed to hear. I will agree clients who use anything to gain some sort of special monetary treatment are just lowlives. I guess to me a regular would be seeing an escort so client and escort are comfortable enough with each other so each knows the likes and dislikes of the other. So each meeting does not have to have a "learning curve" so to speak. As for the current situation I know the rates of the guy I'm seeing hourly, weekend and would not expect any reductions. If there are any special consideration it will be his suggestion not mine.

Yes, most escorts (whose service is worthwhile) have regulars. I guess those who are rip-offs probably don’t.
 
I can’t understand the 2nd half of your post. “Is it a matter of hiring time and time again or should expectations be talked through?” What does this mean??
 
If it means what I think it means, you cannot just “declare” yourself to be a regular and then negotiate the special treatment that you would like to receive as a result. Tons of guys tell us on their very first contact that they plan to become a regular, haggle for discounts or boundary-pushing services, dangle their “regularness” over the escort like a carrot on a string to get him to spend more than the amount of time the client’s actually paid for, and then never book the escort again. Experienced escorts have seen this happen enough times to know that regular status is “earned”, not “declared”.
 
What’s regular to one escort may not be regular at all to another. I have a low volume business model, and I travel a LOT, so my loyal regulars see me once every few months, and have done so for many years. I know many other escorts who don’t consider someone a “regular” unless they meet approximately once a week. Whether you qualify as a regular or not is up to the escort and highly subjective.

Earlier this summer I was traveling thru Duluth, MN and stayed at a hotel in downtown just for one night. The next morning I was down in the lobby coming back from breakfast and noticed the super cute, most likely only in his teens, bell boy helping some guests with their luggage. He also definitely noticed me and we exchange several long looks.
 
Once back up in my room, I went on Grindr and the first profile was one without a pic but said was 120' away. I started chatting and quickly found out it was him and mentioned that I had seen him in the lobby and thought he was cute. I suggested he come up for a minute to say hi. He was incredibly nervous (turns out he was 19) and hesitant and said he couldn't risk being caught.
 
Finally after chatting for awhile and it seeming like he wasn't going for it, I told him I had to get on the road (which was true) and I needed help with my bags (all I had was a small duffel bag lol), and he surely couldn't turn that down since it was his job. He arrived at my door a few minutes later with the luggage cart and I immediately leaned in and whispered how cute I thought he was. We start making out but it doesn't take long before I have him bent over the side of the bed railing him hard.
 
Definitely one of the hottest encounters I've had in awhile. I wish I had stayed there more then one night.

I prefer a clean sweaty mans natural aroma - Right from the Gym - A Run - A Dance Set =Biking = No Deodorant ==== Don't need poppers those real Pheremones (Sp?) make me wild!!!!

Yes, I’ve already done it for a period of time. But not under your terms. My sugar daddy had multiple wives, so neither of us had any illusion that our relationship was monogamous or ever would be. In fact, he didn’t even ask me to stop seeing my regular clients (nor did I ever mention that I was still doing so, however). But my discontinuing to tour internationally was part of our deal. He became my full-time focus, and I altered my lifestyle drastically to cater to his specific fetishes. It worked out well for us while it lasted, because I wanted an extended break from touring anyway, and the drastic lifestyle changes which I made were HEALTHY ones that I was glad to have an excuse/motivation to make. This arrangement also allowed me to retire my “female” escort persona and start my hormone treatment with enough financial stability to carry me through almost my first entire year of transition. And meanwhile, my SD was really excited by most of the changes that testosterone was producing in me. What made me agree to this whole situation? Well, it worked perfectly with my life goals. Ultimately, my SD started pursuing me for marriage and encouraging me to discontinue my testosterone treatment because he was shocked just how quickly I actually started to look and sound like man. He wasn’t ready to admit to himself any attraction to a man even if my masculine characteristics WERE a turn on. But luckily, I’d been wise enough to request a security deposit early in our arrangement, to protect myself against my drastic lifestyle change and the pause in my career should anything go awry between my SD and I. So I was in a position to hold my ground and express honestly my disinterest in both marriage and halting my testosterone treatment. He couldn’t and still can’t accept that I am a man and not just a masculine woman. I can’t compromise and provide that fantasy to anyone for ANY amount of money anymore. I don’t know why exactly, but after 7 years of doing that to great effect, my patience for that gig is simply up.
 
You asked specifically if we would have to be physically attracted to the man in question. My answer is no. As a sexual professional, I don’t consider my compatibility with someone based on PHYSICAL attraction. But there are OTHER types of compatibility that are important to providing companionship to someone on a full-time and/or long-term basis. And those are extremely critical for this type of arrangement to work out. I myself invited this client to be my sugar daddy after identifying the compatibility and the potential for it to be a long-term match. I was ultimately wrong about it being a good long-term match due to his personal hang-ups about my gender, but we were compatible enough for it to work out while things lasted, and now that it’s over, I can say the whole thing impacted my life very positively in terms of moving me forward toward my life goals.
 
Pausing one’s career does have an opportunity cost for sure. Dipping out of the escort scene for a year means that I lost a year’s worth of networking and market exposure. This was coming on the tail end of the height of my career as a high-end female escort who was well-respected by most in my industry. Had I not paused my career for this arrangement, I would have had a much bigger audience to receive the news of my re-branding and book me during the early stages of my transition when the changes were barely noticeable, possibly creating a wider bridge of a client base to carry me into this very androgynous phase of my career. This is a specific example for me, but my point is that for every escort, there is a significant opportunity cost to pausing one’s career. Time away could mean missing out on meeting a new regular who would turn into someone’s most loyal spender for the next 10 years. The sugardaddy might only last 6-12 months! So there’s good reasons for escorts to take pause when considering this type of offer, and to request a significant “allowance” equal to more than our actual spending requirements, to make up for the potential losses to our careers that an exclusive arrangement entails.
 
OP, your ACTUAL suggested stipulation, that I would have to be sexually monogamous with someone, would simply never happen. That option is not on the table for anyone in this world for any amount of love OR money. I am not a sexually monogamous creature and will not attempt to torture myself for the sake of any one for any reason. There is no positive end-point to that scenario for me regardless of whether money is involved or not....

Lots of things! Typically: Deep kissing, gentle neck nibbling, nipple teasing, armpit licking, cock licking, ball sucking, butt munching, asshole teasing, tongue fucking, anal teasing, prostate stroking, cock teasing & cum swallowing! Also, occasionally: toe sucking, spit play, watersports, topping w/ strap-on, anal fisting, spanking. Also lunch, dinner, sleeping, cuddling, mutual massages, porn-watching, and talking!
 
What I DON’T do when a client (or any sex partner) can’t get it up: Take it personally.

Lots of things! Typically: Deep kissing, gentle neck nibbling, nipple teasing, armpit licking, cock licking, ball sucking, butt munching, asshole teasing, tongue fucking, anal teasing, prostate stroking, cock teasing & cum swallowing! Also, occasionally: toe sucking, spit play, watersports, topping w/ strap-on, anal fisting, spanking. Also lunch, dinner, sleeping, cuddling, mutual massages, porn-watching, and talking!
 
What I DON’T do when a client (or any sex partner) can’t get it up: Take it personally.

Lots of things! Typically: Deep kissing, gentle neck nibbling, nipple teasing, armpit licking, cock licking, ball sucking, butt munching, asshole teasing, tongue fucking, anal teasing, prostate stroking, cock teasing & cum swallowing! Also, occasionally: toe sucking, spit play, watersports, topping w/ strap-on, anal fisting, spanking. Also lunch, dinner, sleeping, cuddling, mutual massages, porn-watching, and talking!
 
What I DON’T do when a client (or any sex partner) can’t get it up: Take it personally.

Having good communication about whats going on with you will make all the difference. When I've had clients tell me straight out the gate that they don't get hard or usually don't cum or whatever, we have some of the best sessions. To me - it doesn't matter if either of those things happen as long as I know you are having a good time and you give me some cues as to what makes you feel good, since the obvious indicator isn't present. Sex is a million things, and with a soft dick you still have at least 500,000

Lots of things! Typically: Deep kissing, gentle neck nibbling, nipple teasing, armpit licking, cock licking, ball sucking, butt munching, asshole teasing, tongue fucking, anal teasing, prostate stroking, cock teasing & cum swallowing! Also, occasionally: toe sucking, spit play, watersports, topping w/ strap-on, anal fisting, spanking. Also lunch, dinner, sleeping, cuddling, mutual massages, porn-watching, and talking!
 
What I DON’T do when a client (or any sex partner) can’t get it up: Take it personally.

Lots of things! Typically: Deep kissing, gentle neck nibbling, nipple teasing, armpit licking, cock licking, ball sucking, butt munching, asshole teasing, tongue fucking, anal teasing, prostate stroking, cock teasing & cum swallowing! Also, occasionally: toe sucking, spit play, watersports, topping w/ strap-on, anal fisting, spanking. Also lunch, dinner, sleeping, cuddling, mutual massages, porn-watching, and talking!
 
What I DON’T do when a client (or any sex partner) can’t get it up: Take it personally.

Agreed completely. As I’ve saud before, I’ve been booked literally just to spar with some guys because they’re into the boxing thing. No sex at all. It’s all good.

I would never voluntarily commit to a monogamous relationship.
 
And while I love the idea of being taken care of, I wouldn't feel fully expressed or happy if I were to stop interacting passionately and intimately with many other men.

If monogamy was part of the deal, I’d say no too. I don’t even date guys who want monogamy, I certainly wouldn’t agree to a sugar daddy relationship with someone who wanted that. I could agree to not see other clients though. Dedicate that time to him.
 
This is my side gig, so I don’t really worry about the money stability. I do this for extra cash to help enjoy life more and pay off some debts from my younger years (student loans are a bitch). So that’s why I say if a SD was willing to give me a reasonable amount every month to help with that, I’d be happy to go for that arrangement.

Maybe start a new thread about this. There are numberous expenses involved in escorting and I’m not in the mood to draw up a comprehensive list on my own. I kind of feel like you’re being intellectually lazy, too. There are some blatantly obvious operational expenses that every small business owner has to deal with. Perhaps google could help you learn about those. If you think every escort is a college boy stuffing cash under his mattress and that our clients magically find us for free with no financial investments on our part, then you’re really in some kind of unrealistic fantasy-land... that’s simply not how it works.

Yes, I’ve already done it for a period of time. But not under your terms. My sugar daddy had multiple wives, so neither of us had any illusion that our relationship was monogamous or ever would be. In fact, he didn’t even ask me to stop seeing my regular clients (nor did I ever mention that I was still doing so, however). But my discontinuing to tour internationally was part of our deal. He became my full-time focus, and I altered my lifestyle drastically to cater to his specific fetishes. It worked out well for us while it lasted, because I wanted an extended break from touring anyway, and the drastic lifestyle changes which I made were HEALTHY ones that I was glad to have an excuse/motivation to make. This arrangement also allowed me to retire my “female” escort persona and start my hormone treatment with enough financial stability to carry me through almost my first entire year of transition. And meanwhile, my SD was really excited by most of the changes that testosterone was producing in me. What made me agree to this whole situation? Well, it worked perfectly with my life goals. Ultimately, my SD started pursuing me for marriage and encouraging me to discontinue my testosterone treatment because he was shocked just how quickly I actually started to look and sound like man. He wasn’t ready to admit to himself any attraction to a man even if my masculine characteristics WERE a turn on. But luckily, I’d been wise enough to request a security deposit early in our arrangement, to protect myself against my drastic lifestyle change and the pause in my career should anything go awry between my SD and I. So I was in a position to hold my ground and express honestly my disinterest in both marriage and halting my testosterone treatment. He couldn’t and still can’t accept that I am a man and not just a masculine woman. I can’t compromise and provide that fantasy to anyone for ANY amount of money anymore. I don’t know why exactly, but after 7 years of doing that to great effect, my patience for that gig is simply up.
 
You asked specifically if we would have to be physically attracted to the man in question. My answer is no. As a sexual professional, I don’t consider my compatibility with someone based on PHYSICAL attraction. But there are OTHER types of compatibility that are important to providing companionship to someone on a full-time and/or long-term basis. And those are extremely critical for this type of arrangement to work out. I myself invited this client to be my sugar daddy after identifying the compatibility and the potential for it to be a long-term match. I was ultimately wrong about it being a good long-term match due to his personal hang-ups about my gender, but we were compatible enough for it to work out while things lasted, and now that it’s over, I can say the whole thing impacted my life very positively in terms of moving me forward toward my life goals.
 
Pausing one’s career does have an opportunity cost for sure. Dipping out of the escort scene for a year means that I lost a year’s worth of networking and market exposure. This was coming on the tail end of the height of my career as a high-end female escort who was well-respected by most in my industry. Had I not paused my career for this arrangement, I would have had a much bigger audience to receive the news of my re-branding and book me during the early stages of my transition when the changes were barely noticeable, possibly creating a wider bridge of a client base to carry me into this very androgynous phase of my career. This is a specific example for me, but my point is that for every escort, there is a significant opportunity cost to pausing one’s career. Time away could mean missing out on meeting a new regular who would turn into someone’s most loyal spender for the next 10 years. The sugardaddy might only last 6-12 months! So there’s good reasons for escorts to take pause when considering this type of offer, and to request a significant “allowance” equal to more than our actual spending requirements, to make up for the potential losses to our careers that an exclusive arrangement entails.
 
OP, your ACTUAL suggested stipulation, that I would have to be sexually monogamous with someone, would simply never happen. That option is not on the table for anyone in this world for any amount of love OR money. I am not a sexually monogamous creature and will not attempt to torture myself for the sake of any one for any reason. There is no positive end-point to that scenario for me regardless of whether money is involved or not....

Yes, I’ve already done it for a period of time. But not under your terms. My sugar daddy had multiple wives, so neither of us had any illusion that our relationship was monogamous or ever would be. In fact, he didn’t even ask me to stop seeing my regular clients (nor did I ever mention that I was still doing so, however). But my discontinuing to tour internationally was part of our deal. He became my full-time focus, and I altered my lifestyle drastically to cater to his specific fetishes. It worked out well for us while it lasted, because I wanted an extended break from touring anyway, and the drastic lifestyle changes which I made were HEALTHY ones that I was glad to have an excuse/motivation to make. This arrangement also allowed me to retire my “female” escort persona and start my hormone treatment with enough financial stability to carry me through almost my first entire year of transition. And meanwhile, my SD was really excited by most of the changes that testosterone was producing in me. What made me agree to this whole situation? Well, it worked perfectly with my life goals. Ultimately, my SD started pursuing me for marriage and encouraging me to discontinue my testosterone treatment because he was shocked just how quickly I actually started to look and sound like man. He wasn’t ready to admit to himself any attraction to a man even if my masculine characteristics WERE a turn on. But luckily, I’d been wise enough to request a security deposit early in our arrangement, to protect myself against my drastic lifestyle change and the pause in my career should anything go awry between my SD and I. So I was in a position to hold my ground and express honestly my disinterest in both marriage and halting my testosterone treatment. He couldn’t and still can’t accept that I am a man and not just a masculine woman. I can’t compromise and provide that fantasy to anyone for ANY amount of money anymore. I don’t know why exactly, but after 7 years of doing that to great effect, my patience for that gig is simply up.
 
You asked specifically if we would have to be physically attracted to the man in question. My answer is no. As a sexual professional, I don’t consider my compatibility with someone based on PHYSICAL attraction. But there are OTHER types of compatibility that are important to providing companionship to someone on a full-time and/or long-term basis. And those are extremely critical for this type of arrangement to work out. I myself invited this client to be my sugar daddy after identifying the compatibility and the potential for it to be a long-term match. I was ultimately wrong about it being a good long-term match due to his personal hang-ups about my gender, but we were compatible enough for it to work out while things lasted, and now that it’s over, I can say the whole thing impacted my life very positively in terms of moving me forward toward my life goals.
 
Pausing one’s career does have an opportunity cost for sure. Dipping out of the escort scene for a year means that I lost a year’s worth of networking and market exposure. This was coming on the tail end of the height of my career as a high-end female escort who was well-respected by most in my industry. Had I not paused my career for this arrangement, I would have had a much bigger audience to receive the news of my re-branding and book me during the early stages of my transition when the changes were barely noticeable, possibly creating a wider bridge of a client base to carry me into this very androgynous phase of my career. This is a specific example for me, but my point is that for every escort, there is a significant opportunity cost to pausing one’s career. Time away could mean missing out on meeting a new regular who would turn into someone’s most loyal spender for the next 10 years. The sugardaddy might only last 6-12 months! So there’s good reasons for escorts to take pause when considering this type of offer, and to request a significant “allowance” equal to more than our actual spending requirements, to make up for the potential losses to our careers that an exclusive arrangement entails.
 
OP, your ACTUAL suggested stipulation, that I would have to be sexually monogamous with someone, would simply never happen. That option is not on the table for anyone in this world for any amount of love OR money. I am not a sexually monogamous creature and will not attempt to torture myself for the sake of any one for any reason. There is no positive end-point to that scenario for me regardless of whether money is involved or not....

I’m really hot for this Berlin-based FTM performer & escort Aram Assai who I was able to connect with on Twitter recently:
 
https://www.xtube.com/profile/aramassai-54701421
 
He has an ad on Hunqz too, but I don’t have the link handy. Too bad he’s all the way in Berlin...

I’m really hot for this Berlin-based FTM performer & escort Aram Assai who I was able to connect with on Twitter recently:
 
https://www.xtube.com/profile/aramassai-54701421
 
He has an ad on Hunqz too, but I don’t have the link handy. Too bad he’s all the way in Berlin...

Trip broadcasts on Chaturbate.com under TripleXTransMan on a semi-regular basis, usually around late afternoon/early evening on the days he chooses to broadcast. He seems to really enjoy being completely exhibitionistic and, if he is receiving lots of tips, he loves inserting his fingers and many types of dildoes in both front and back for the camera. His bio has a lot of info about him and he's more than happy to answer serious and respectful questions not covered in his bio. His personality is very attractive, too.
 
TruHart1

excuse you? trans women are all women. that dick is a woman’s dick. please learn to speak about trans women with an ounce of respect.

Well, why not beat a dead horse? What else do I have to do this evening?
 
Many words, including "addiction," have multiple valid dictionary definitions. (Skip over my bloviating if you want to jump to the OED definitions of "addiction.")
 
Our psychiatric and other physician friends have established for us that "addiction" as used as a medical diagnosis by psychiatrists and others who use the DSM-5 to guide their work (at least as far as terminology and, very importantly, insurance billing, goes) does not (yet) include compulsive behaviors not involving an external chemical substance. There's no "sex addiction" in the DSM-5, and so it doesn't exist as an officially recognized diagnosis.
 
On the other hand, there are many therapists and psychologists (and I assume at least some psychiatrists) who argue that some behaviors can accurately be called addictions. When it comes to "sex addiction," Dr. Patrick Carnes has taken the lead. I have a therapist friend who is being trained by Carnes and his associates to work with what they agree amongst themselves is "sex addiction."
 
Neither my psychiatrist nor my therapist have had a problem with me identifying as a "sex addict," although that's not the official diagnosis my psychiatrist uses (not could he for insurance purposes, since it's not in the DSM-5).
 
So there's the question of whether these therapists, lay people, etc. are being sloppy when we say "sex addiction," since it's not (yet) a medical term approved by the psychiatric establishment. Wikipedia, while it contains an increasing number of excellent entries, is still subject, for good reason, to skepticism; appeals to its authority are unconvincing to many of us. (While I sympathize with Zachary Prince's dismissal of "academics," I am one, and there's something to be said for checking the validity and authority of one's sources in this age of real and alleged "fake news." I'm also sympathetic to ZP's frustration with the DSM when it comes to trans issues.)
 
What are the valid, officially recognized definitions of "addiction"? Being a semi-retired academic and having free online access, I thought I'd look up the definitions of "addiction" in the Oxford English Dictionary (OED), which is viewed by most scholars as the most authoritative English-language dictionary.
 
The first definition of "addiction" in the OED is:
 


1. a. The state or condition of being dedicated or devoted to a thing, esp. an activity or occupation; adherence or attachment, esp. of an immoderate or compulsive kind.
 
[examples omitted]
 
1.b. Immoderate or compulsive consumption of a drug or other substance; spec. a condition characterized by regular or poorly controlled use of a psychoactive substance despite adverse physical, psychological, or social consequences, often with the development of physiological tolerance and withdrawal symptoms; an instance of this. Frequently with to (the addictive substance), or with distinguishing word.
 
[examples omitted]

Even the first definition of "addiction" contains multiple definitions!
 
1.a. is how lay people and many therapists use "addiction" in the context of "sex addiction." This way of using "addiction" as "adherence or attachments, esp. of an immoderate of compulsive kind" goes back, according to the OED, to the sixteenth century. 1532 or so: "An ouermoche addiction to priuate appetites, mixed with to moche heedinesse and obstinacy."
 
So calling compulsive sexual behavior an "addiction" is in keeping with centuries of English-language usage and the first definition in the OED. Lay people who refer to "sex addiction" are speaking accurately--as long as we don't assume we are using the narrower, officially-sanctioned medical diagnostic term.
 
No wonder people get frustrated!
 
This has been fun.
 
By the way, the other OED definitions (examples omitted) are:
 


2. Predilection, inclination; an instance of this, a ‘penchant’. Obsolete.
 
3. The binding of a person to another as a servant, adherent, or disciple; (also) the state of being so bound. Frequently with to. Obsolete.
 
4. Roman Law. The formal delivery of a person or property to an individual, typically in accordance with a judicial decision.

 
 
 

This may come as a surprise to you, but my happiness is not even slightly dependant on whether you think I’m ugly or not...

What’s the point in being angry that someone who’s in high demand doesn’t have the capacity to respond to hundreds of phone calls and e-mails? OP said the escort’s phone inbox was FULL. He’s clearly overwhelmed with messages.
 

 
I was also responding to this sentiment as well. You’re not entitled to an escort’s response. Sometimes the escort is busy. An escort is a human being, not a large corporation with staffing resources at its disposal. The escort in question is a featured guest at the event mentioned. I’m sure he has other things requiring his attention besides going through and responding to every single guy who he doesn’t have time to meet.

Totally disagree. If he never agreed to book an appointment with you then in no way imaginable is this a no show. Without a specific date and time that has been agreed to by both parties, there is no appointment booked.
 
“Call me the weekend of the event” = “I’m not in a position to commit now, but feel free to try me later”
 
I don’t think OP is being overly-sensitive to be disappointed. But anyone who would be “angry” to have not gotten an appointment despite having “followed the rules” has an entitlement issue. No escort is required to meet you. No matter how many rules you followed. Getting angry because someone was too busy to book an appointment with you is pointless.
 
I do agree that it’s not very professional to tell someone to contact you and then not be available to respond, but most escorts are one-man shows, and don’t have personal assistants to manage their contacts. If OP needed a guaranteed booking in advance, then being “put off” by the escort in question should have been a sign to move on.
 
When your disappointment and your anger are mixed then you have an entitlement issue. Point blank. OP used the works “put off”, which means he knew there was no appointment promised in the first place.