How many of you would stop working if offered a full time position?

[biggerbilly]

I’m curious if anyone would consider leaving the business to be someone trophy husband or sugar baby? And what would make you do it? Obviously, the guy would be able to sustain you financially, but would there have to be some kind of physical attraction? In this scenario, you couldn’t be with anyone else, for money or for fun.

[LJNYC83]

Husband no, sugar baby yes. Absolutely. Basically the guy would just have to treat me well, give me what I need financially (which actually isn’t a lot) and I’d hope we have dome sexual chemistry.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Nope.

 

Not unless I came into the relationship with the stability of my own money.

[+ VictorPowers]

That arrangement comes with many uncertainties.

[FTM Zachary Prince]

Yes, I’ve already done it for a period of time. But not under your terms. My sugar daddy had multiple wives, so neither of us had any illusion that our relationship was monogamous or ever would be. In fact, he didn’t even ask me to stop seeing my regular clients (nor did I ever mention that I was still doing so, however). But my discontinuing to tour internationally was part of our deal. He became my full-time focus, and I altered my lifestyle drastically to cater to his specific fetishes. It worked out well for us while it lasted, because I wanted an extended break from touring anyway, and the drastic lifestyle changes which I made were HEALTHY ones that I was glad to have an excuse/motivation to make. This arrangement also allowed me to retire my “female” escort persona and start my hormone treatment with enough financial stability to carry me through almost my first entire year of transition. And meanwhile, my SD was really excited by most of the changes that testosterone was producing in me. What made me agree to this whole situation? Well, it worked perfectly with my life goals. Ultimately, my SD started pursuing me for marriage and encouraging me to discontinue my testosterone treatment because he was shocked just how quickly I actually started to look and sound like man. He wasn’t ready to admit to himself any attraction to a man even if my masculine characteristics WERE a turn on. But luckily, I’d been wise enough to request a security deposit early in our arrangement, to protect myself against my drastic lifestyle change and the pause in my career should anything go awry between my SD and I. So I was in a position to hold my ground and express honestly my disinterest in both marriage and halting my testosterone treatment. He couldn’t and still can’t accept that I am a man and not just a masculine woman. I can’t compromise and provide that fantasy to anyone for ANY amount of money anymore. I don’t know why exactly, but after 7 years of doing that to great effect, my patience for that gig is simply up.

 

You asked specifically if we would have to be physically attracted to the man in question. My answer is no. As a sexual professional, I don’t consider my compatibility with someone based on PHYSICAL attraction. But there are OTHER types of compatibility that are important to providing companionship to someone on a full-time and/or long-term basis. And those are extremely critical for this type of arrangement to work out. I myself invited this client to be my sugar daddy after identifying the compatibility and the potential for it to be a long-term match. I was ultimately wrong about it being a good long-term match due to his personal hang-ups about my gender, but we were compatible enough for it to work out while things lasted, and now that it’s over, I can say the whole thing impacted my life very positively in terms of moving me forward toward my life goals.

 

Pausing one’s career does have an opportunity cost for sure. Dipping out of the escort scene for a year means that I lost a year’s worth of networking and market exposure. This was coming on the tail end of the height of my career as a high-end female escort who was well-respected by most in my industry. Had I not paused my career for this arrangement, I would have had a much bigger audience to receive the news of my re-branding and book me during the early stages of my transition when the changes were barely noticeable, possibly creating a wider bridge of a client base to carry me into this very androgynous phase of my career. This is a specific example for me, but my point is that for every escort, there is a significant opportunity cost to pausing one’s career. Time away could mean missing out on meeting a new regular who would turn into someone’s most loyal spender for the next 10 years. The sugardaddy might only last 6-12 months! So there’s good reasons for escorts to take pause when considering this type of offer, and to request a significant “allowance” equal to more than our actual spending requirements, to make up for the potential losses to our careers that an exclusive arrangement entails.

 

OP, your ACTUAL suggested stipulation, that I would have to be sexually monogamous with someone, would simply never happen. That option is not on the table for anyone in this world for any amount of love OR money. I am not a sexually monogamous creature and will not attempt to torture myself for the sake of any one for any reason. There is no positive end-point to that scenario for me regardless of whether money is involved or not....

[LJNYC83]

Yes, I’ve already done it for a period of time. But not under your terms. My sugar daddy had multiple wives, so neither of us had any illusion that our relationship was monogamous or ever would be. In fact, he didn’t even ask me to stop seeing my regular clients (nor did I ever mention that I was still doing so, however). But my discontinuing to tour internationally was part of our deal. He became my full-time focus, and I altered my lifestyle drastically to cater to his specific fetishes. It worked out well for us while it lasted, because I wanted an extended break from touring anyway, and the drastic lifestyle changes which I made were HEALTHY ones that I was glad to have an excuse/motivation to make. This arrangement also allowed me to retire my “female” escort persona and start my hormone treatment with enough financial stability to carry me through almost my first entire year of transition. And meanwhile, my SD was really excited by most of the changes that testosterone was producing in me. What made me agree to this whole situation? Well, it worked perfectly with my life goals. Ultimately, my SD started pursuing me for marriage and encouraging me to discontinue my testosterone treatment because he was shocked just how quickly I actually started to look and sound like man. He wasn’t ready to admit to himself any attraction to a man even if my masculine characteristics WERE a turn on. But luckily, I’d been wise enough to request a security deposit early in our arrangement, to protect myself against my drastic lifestyle change and the pause in my career should anything go awry between my SD and I. So I was in a position to hold my ground and express honestly my disinterest in both marriage and halting my testosterone treatment. He couldn’t and still can’t accept that I am a man and not just a masculine woman. I can’t compromise and provide that fantasy to anyone for ANY amount of money anymore. I don’t know why exactly, but after 7 years of doing that to great effect, my patience for that gig is simply up.

 

You asked specifically if we would have to be physically attracted to the man in question. My answer is no. As a sexual professional, I don’t consider my compatibility with someone based on PHYSICAL attraction. But there are OTHER types of compatibility that are important to providing companionship to someone on a full-time and/or long-term basis. And those are extremely critical for this type of arrangement to work out. I myself invited this client to be my sugar daddy after identifying the compatibility and the potential for it to be a long-term match. I was ultimately wrong about it being a good long-term match due to his personal hang-ups about my gender, but we were compatible enough for it to work out while things lasted, and now that it’s over, I can say the whole thing impacted my life very positively in terms of moving me forward toward my life goals.

 

Pausing one’s career does have an opportunity cost for sure. Dipping out of the escort scene for a year means that I lost a year’s worth of networking and market exposure. This was coming on the tail end of the height of my career as a high-end female escort who was well-respected by most in my industry. Had I not paused my career for this arrangement, I would have had a much bigger audience to receive the news of my re-branding and book me during the early stages of my transition when the changes were barely noticeable, possibly creating a wider bridge of a client base to carry me into this very androgynous phase of my career. This is a specific example for me, but my point is that for every escort, there is a significant opportunity cost to pausing one’s career. Time away could mean missing out on meeting a new regular who would turn into someone’s most loyal spender for the next 10 years. The sugardaddy might only last 6-12 months! So there’s good reasons for escorts to take pause when considering this type of offer, and to request a significant “allowance” equal to more than our actual spending requirements, to make up for the potential losses to our careers that an exclusive arrangement entails.

 

OP, your ACTUAL suggested stipulation, that I would have to be sexually monogamous with someone, would simply never happen. That option is not on the table for anyone in this world for any amount of love OR money. I am not a sexually monogamous creature and will not attempt to torture myself for the sake of any one for any reason. There is no positive end-point to that scenario for me regardless of whether money is involved or not....

 

If monogamy was part of the deal, I’d say no too. I don’t even date guys who want monogamy, I certainly wouldn’t agree to a sugar daddy relationship with someone who wanted that. I could agree to not see other clients though. Dedicate that time to him.

 

This is my side gig, so I don’t really worry about the money stability. I do this for extra cash to help enjoy life more and pay off some debts from my younger years (student loans are a bitch). So that’s why I say if a SD was willing to give me a reasonable amount every month to help with that, I’d be happy to go for that arrangement.

[+ Eric Hassan]

I would never voluntarily commit to a monogamous relationship.

 

And while I love the idea of being taken care of, I wouldn't feel fully expressed or happy if I were to stop interacting passionately and intimately with many other men.

[Cannon]

I would absolutely do this. While I appreciate other beautiful men, and I find different things and features beautiful, Ive never been fixated on the physical. I do need to be attracted to you but your personality will play just as large a role in that as your exterior looks. While others balk at monogamy, I really like monogamy so if the terms were beneficial and worthwhile of course I would do this

Edited September 29, 2018 by Cannon

[rvwnsd]

I am not an escort, but here's my perspective: This sounds no different than someone asking me to give up my career in financial services in return for a relationship in which my expenses would be covered. The "offer" feels a lot like the old phrase "let me take you away from all this," which implies that there is something undesirable about working as an escort. Or, for that matter, working at all.

[biggerbilly]

I am not an escort, but here's my perspective: This sounds no different than someone asking me to give up my career in financial services in return for a relationship in which my expenses would be covered. The "offer" feels a lot like the old phrase "let me take you away from all this," which implies that there is something undesirable about working as an escort. Or, for that matter, working at all.

I disagree, especially with the “take you away from all this” idea. The job in question, is being with various people you may or may not be into for money, in exchange for being with one person.

 

To me, this is equal to asking a chef at a restaurant, if he would quit the restaurant business to be someone’s personal cook. Is that implying that there is something wrong with being a chef at a restaurant, or is that implying that someone may really likes someone’s cooking?

[Inkdnaija00]

I am not an escort, but here's my perspective: This sounds no different than someone asking me to give up my career in financial services in return for a relationship in which my expenses would be covered. The "offer" feels a lot like the old phrase "let me take you away from all this," which implies that there is something undesirable about working as an escort. Or, for that matter, working at all.

Boommm

[Inkdnaija00]

Nah! I don't believe I would!

[marylander1940]

I’m curious if anyone would consider leaving the business to be someone trophy husband or sugar baby? And what would make you do it? Obviously, the guy would be able to sustain you financially, but would there have to be some kind of physical attraction? In this scenario, you couldn’t be with anyone else, for money or for fun.

 

One frequent posted escort did it recently and he also said goodbye to us in the forum.

 

Should the real question be "how much?".

[Rod Hagen]

Good Lord no. I can't imagine working for, or even with, someone else ever again after being my own agent as an escort for 19 years.

[LaffingBear]

Isn't a full time position work?

 

Sounds like changing work to me, not stopping work.

[BabyBoomer]

Good Lord no. I can't imagine working for, or even with, someone else ever again after being my own agent as an escort for 19 years.

 

Isn't a full time position work?

 

Sounds like changing work to me, not stopping work.

 

Did either of you read the OP? Or, did you just read the title of the thread?

 

~Boomer~

[big-n-tall]

I know a few working guys who hung up their escorting ways (temporarily) when they got into a relationship with a client. I don’t think it was because of financial reasons though. I don’t think any escort I know would give up escorting purely to work for one client, but for love they might attempt it.

 

Although one guy tells me frequently that he wishes I were rich so he could be my house boy. Lol!

[Rod Hagen]

Did either of you read the OP? Or, did you just read the title of the thread?

 

~Boomer~

 

Yes, and the OP scenario would be, to me, a form of working for someone. I was eager to participate in this thread--thank you for monitoring it btw -- yet I didn't address the OP head on because it's not a scenario likely to befall someone 45 years old, agree?

[Derrick Rigg]

I work plus I have done stripping in addition a couple nights a week to pay my bodybuilding bills. Still, it's tough on time needed for gym and recuperation needed.

[AndreFuture]

Yes to sugar baby; maybe to husband; and no to the need for sexual attraction. I'd have to probe why he wanted monogamy (possible control issues/jealousy/etc. there), but it wouldn't be a deal breaker. The amount would need to be significantly more than what I could possibly earn on my own (through my conventional profession or this), so the chance of this realistically happening are slim. I used to joke about marrying a very rich, estranged, childless octogenarian, but I enjoy my freedom too much and I'm not sure I could stomach the institution of marriage IRL.

[ChicagoGuy]

Have experienced this and wouldn’t want to do it again. At least not with an escort. In fact, it was the escort who proposed this to me. Everything was clear from the get go. I agreed, and he left the biz immediately. But then again, escorts have ambition too. When too much of it gets in the way, their go-to solution is the best and easiest (to them) thing to do. By the time, you’ve invested yourself heavily into that sort of ‘relationship’ that you thought was real then you lose it all. Sad to say, even if you offered, there will always be a reason for an escort to keep going back. It’s what they do, it’s who they are.