Monarchy79

Nothing new here.... just a typical dude who is delusional about what he has to offer and how it absolutely belies what he’s demanding. He should be the potential client, and flattered if any escort would accept his offer. I’ll never understand the arrogance and “reality”, that some people live in....

I was in NY this weekend and scheduled an appointment with him. FANTASTIC!!!!

1.)In many current gay porns, the acting is terrible. I don’t need to see a “narrative” of “real life” or women in it. I live real life every day and see women every day.... 2.) My original post was about women infiltrating in spaces that were dedicated to gay men in-general, extending beyond porn, and I stand firm in my opinions about it. 3.) On a larger perspective, I think that women invade gay male spaces, as a means of avoiding their straight male counterparts, or using us to make them more comfortable. Here are some of my annoying examples: a.) porn: Women have touted for years how exploitative to women, and degrading porn is.... for THEM. Their judgments seem to go out the window, when they can be a paid extra in a gay porn, where a man could be exploited and degraded in the exact same capacity... (HIPOCRISY) b.) bachelorette parties in gay strip clubs: your average gay guy who goes to a strip club wants to see dancers gyrating and twerking (and whatever else), not a group of drunk bridesmaids, cackling like hens with tiaras on, groping and humping on EVERYONE, with the imaginary concept of “Vegas.” Take your butts to Chippendales and scram. c.) The Gym: I had a coworker who said that that she loves going to my gym, because it’s loaded with gay guys and she doesn’t have to worry about any guys checking her out. Well guess what? You’re probably haphazardly in the way of guys checking each other out. This one dude was literally looking at my butt on the squat rack, getting ready to come over to flirt and then here she comes, chatting me up, blocking my action. Whatever happened to “Curves”, and that women’s only gym from the 80s called “Spa Lady”? Lol... my mom used to love that place... And mind you.... some of my gym locations have unisex saunas and steam rooms. Guys (of all sexual orientations), immediately leave if a woman comes in and is alone with her, because of the risk of a “me too”, type of allegation. So yes, imagine sitting in the sauna, with your towel wrapped up with your legs crossed, can’t even let your nuts breathe because of making some woman “uncomfortable”. bottom line up front... just like women want their free spaces away from men, I want my free space away from them.

agreed ??

Exactly.... All I can think of is how EVERYONE knows, that there is a specific ICON who is never to be address on a first name basis, unless she gives you clearance: Miss Diana Ross. Lol

Ms. Carroll wasn’t being “less than gracious”, she was teaching the young lady some etiquette. And Liz Smith was being messy...

his conquests probably don’t even view him as a prize.... just a desperate novelty... smh....

You’re a smart guy!!! I’m glad you didn’t give him any pictures to be added to his “shrine”. when someone is a bit too pushy about anything, a major red flag has emerged ?

Question about Instagram: I don’t have an Instagram account, and now when I look at public profiles, I get an auto-pop-up, to sign up within three scrolls. Is there any method to avoid this? (Other than caving in and getting an account)

women don’t belong in: 1.) gay porn 2.) gay clubs 3.) gay bars 4.) gay gyms (yes, most gyms are gay) ? they got their rights and the advantages of feminism. They wanted their own spaces, and instead of using them, they wanna take over ours...

On the other hand, these women are stupid.... they should have clearly realized he was a Trump supporter, when he grabbed them by the PUSSY

“Snip” “Snip”!!! ? ? ?

Yuck, That dude is a slimey jerk... he’s the prototype of a trump supporter. I hope his next date is a supporter of LORENA BOBBITT

Part of the problem is that Asians don’t see attractiveness in themselves. They seek validation and acceptance from the ultimate image of an American white man, almost to the point of desperation. On the other hand, apps and dating sites brought out the true colors of people, as they can hide behind a screen, and be the biggest assholes ever, without receiving. What I like specifically about Japanese people in Japan is that they are totally ethnocentric, they don’t care to date, intermingle, or mix with anyone else. lol.

And I give him credit for his honesty. He shouldn’t be shamed for it either. He has saved potential clients (and himself), plenty of time from having those awkward communications where’s he’s sifting out information to figure out if the potential client is white or not, and the customer isn’t confused, and bewildered, once he’s ghosted, after his ethnicity is revealed. Good for Spencer ☺️??

Not surprised. The white guys he worshipped were his validation.... and the validation made him feel superior to other black guys he felt weren’t in his “league”....

Personal experience, and observation....

If the black guy were an escort, he would more than likely reject all potential black clients.

Absolutely.... The irony is that if a white guy he pursued rejected him, and preferred other white guys, he’d cry “racism”....black snow queens hate other blacks just about as much as a white racist....

Bumping....

I remember his ads from years ago.... before I’ve ever even thought of having a massage.... He always scared the shit out of me for some reason.... ????

I’ve seen many bear couples and many bears who are attracted to each other... I have no problem with anyone’s “preferences”.... just understand that you’ll look like a flat out hipocrite for complaining about someone else’s preferences, because it doesn’t benefit you... It’s like me, as a black man, saying “I don’t like other black guys”, but whining because a white guy says he doesn’t like black guys... we both have the same preference... lol....

I understood your point clearly. your initial post referenced your luck in dating /apps and your experiences with escorts. my point applies to both... Which revolves around this one question: If you don’t find guys that look just like you attractive, when why should you expect someone else to? It’s one thing to find attraction in a variety of attributes that differ from yourself (many of us do), but once you confirm that you don’t find what’s in your own likeness attractive, you have limited yourself. And that limitation projects a barrier with escorts, masseurs, and random guys in a bar or on the street. Anything that deals with human interaction heavily involves metaphysical energy... And what we think, projects externally... I am a 40 year old, black guy, in decent shape. because I find those in my own likeness attractive, others find me attractive too, because that’s the message I’m sending out, through my thoughts, beliefs, and energy. That’s my point. ?

Well then there’s your issue.... Most guys are attracted to others who reflect their own likeness in looks, body and other physical components... opposites typically attract in other personality traits.... I guess my initial interpretation of your situation was incorrect. You’re not some poor shy big guy who got served a bad deal and is being caught up in the matrix of “gay shallowness”..... You’re part of that matrix ? All of those other bears (who look just like you), you’ve been passing up could have been possibly the love of your life.... But instead, you chose the shallow/delusional route and have been chasing an idea of what “perfection” is to you. Now Karma has turned that back on you... you now can’t fault a service provider or a guy in general dating, for turning you down for your size, because their behavior and beliefs match yours. You are in fact, projecting your own ideas of looks and body image upon yourself. When you don’t like the physical attributes you possess, and see in others (that look just like you) then why , should you expect any one else to? They have your same mindset..... ??‍♂️

1. Get out of your head... you are creating your own dismal reality.... the dating world is definitely cruel, and tough, but paying for a service may be a bit different. 2. Appreciate your life and take control of it (work on it). Please seek some therapy to help you on the inside, and also work on yourself on the outside too. You’re still young. You can lose the weight, gain confidence and live your best life. to be quite honest, being overweight, black, and gay, is a lot to handle.... at the least, you can change one of them. Focus on yourself, only place yourself in situations that make you feel good about yourself, and take the time to affirm to yourself daily that you deserve the best for yourself while putting in the work. 3. If you’re seeking a service provider, just be clear of your weight and race (yes I said it.. because people do have biases ... (oops I meant “preferences”....)... anywho, if a provider turns away your hard -earned money, then find one who won’t and will give you the service you deserve. 4. And finally.... convince yourself that you do not give a fuck about what anyone else thinks about you... even if you have to record yourself saying that and play it on some headphones.... Not giving a fuck about others opinions, views or judgments is the most liberating thing you can do in life... and it will make you happy as can be!!!