Monarchy79

This is interesting, as many of the “Bond’s” didn’t have fantastic bodies, and Roger Moore is the first to come to mind. To be a great Bond, swagger is what’s most important.

I’m still mad that I didn’t go for a “round two”. He was definitely a hottie.

Bumping.

For me, it depends on various factors. For the first time massage, I do have a cap (and that varies). However, for a massage that’s good and the masseur checks all of the minimum boxes too (table, quality oil, real skills, good chemistry), I don’t mind paying more and my tip usually pushes the overall payment into the next bracket anyways.

Outstanding article. I’ve always been a supporter of legalization of the workers, with punishment ONLY going towards the pimps. Why? 1.) The pimps are the nucleus of the human trafficking problem. 2.) prosecuting customers results in sex worker’s loss of income, therefore making them more vulnerable to other dangers.

What a person claims is irrelevant. People lie. It’s best not to make any sexual decisions based on what someone else tells you. Either confirm that you are: 1.) a user of condoms, who is not on PrEP 2.) a user of condoms, who IS on PrEP 3.) a non-user of condoms, who IS on PrEP, or 4.) a non-user of condoms who is NOT on PrEP. And then roll with what you want to do, on your terms.

I’ll give a true life example to support my points: Last week, I was invited to participate in a massage exchange group. It’s a lot of fun, and it gets quite hot. I cancelled at the last minute, as I went on a hike a few days before, and caught a little rash on my leg. It didn’t know if it was a series of bug bites, or if it was poison ivy. I definitely didn’t want to place anyone at risk by spreading it to them in the group. Although it wasn’t confirmed what it was, I wasn’t willing to take the risk of giving this rash to others, just for the sake of enjoying myself. And had I participated anyway, and someone had a severe breakout, I wouldn’t have had the stance of “well you were part of the group, so that’s the risk you take” either. We all should have a general sense personal responsibility. This goes from poison ivy, to the common cold, to anything else.

One more thing about the escort in question that makes my blood boil. It’s not even that he lied. It’s the fact that knowing the truth, he still chose not to slap on a condom. If you know you’re positive, and are NOT undetectable and are not being treated; yes, you have the right not to disclose it to anyone, but at LEAST engage in some protective measure. Otherwise, it just looks like you’re maliciously spreading it.

“Consenting”, is when two adults agree to have sex, under terms where facts are disclosed. Had the OP had unprotected sex with the escort, knowing that he was positive, that would have been a consensual arrangement. However, the OP specifically asked him his status, he lied to him. Therefore the OP consented to unprotected sex, under false pretenses. This is no different than a straight man having unprotected sex with a woman who lied to him, stating that she was on birth control, when asked. Had he known otherwise, he would have probably made a different decision in sexual protective measures, just as the OP in this thread would have. This isn’t about HIV stigma. This is about HONESTY, DECEPTION, and LYING.

Just wanted to put out there, that as we are debating about this, the said escort is possibly still having unprotected sex with unknowing clients. Some of those clients may not be using condoms. Some of those clients may not be on PrEP. Some of those clients may have asked of his status, and are being told that he’s negative as well.

Well prosecuting those who purposely infect others, actually cross all spectrums. quite a few heterosexual men are currently in prison for having unprotected sex with women, and not disclosing their status.

I never stated that you said it was “okay to lie”, about anything. I ASKED you, if you think it’s okay to lie about such matters.

Edit: The OP came to “terms”, with the consequences, not to “grooms”. I willingly accept any judgment imposed from that typo…..

Ahhhhh, I now remember your “trigger”, from past forums where we have clashed…. The myth of “judgment”. I’ll just say this: 1.) Judgment is a part of life. In very general terms, judgment is simply a conclusion or an assessment, drawn from observation. we all make judgments from what we observed. You in fact, made a judgment towards the comment I posed on this forum. And that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with that. We all make judgments. 2.) Here’s another thing… accountability is a part of life as well. All of our actions have either benefits, consequences, rewards, or punishments. The OP’s actions had consequences. He has come to grooms with that. However the other party in this scenario also has actions. He has not been held accountable for his actions. Your belief that a person who intentionally lied to another sex partner about a health condition, when asked, is wrong. It’s wrong because it’s deceptive. It’s wrong because it’s dishonest. There’s no other way to shape it. if you’re telling me that it’s okay for someone to flat out lie to a sex partner (when) about the status of ANY transmissible health condition, and give it to them, then we will always disagree. My hypothetical scenario wasn’t directed as a response to your post.

I have a hypothetical question: Let’s say that I have been having sex with a guy for the past year, throughout the entire pandemic. He tells me that he has not been vaccinated, but I tell him that I am vaccinated, so it’s cool to hook up. months later, he catches COVID, is in the hospital, barely makes it out, and later asks me if I’m sure I was vaxed, because he contracted it. I later tell him “my bad, I lied to you, and never was vaccinated, and tested positive for COVID, but never endured any complications. Are you all telling me that I hold absolutely no responsibility in this scenario?

Let’s also be clear: You quoted a snippet of my statement that you disagree with, and intentionally omitted the rest of my posting that supported that statement.

Is it me, or does it sound like the commenters are more concerned with protecting the identity, image, and life of the person who infected the OP, than they are with the OP? Let’s be clear: This isn’t about HIV stigma, shaming sex workers, or anti-sex-positivity. let’s focus on the bare bones: 1.) The OP and the partner have been frequently having sex. 2.) During this entire time, the partner has LIED to him, telling him he is negative. 3.) The OP then finds out he is positive 4.) When questioning his sex partner, the partner now reveals that he has lied to him about his status all along. That’s dishonest, wrong, and is a felony in many states. Point, blank, period. My heart goes out to the OP. ♥️

Let me tell you something about nasty, miserable bitches who play those “mean girl” games. Never ever give those insecure, cum dumpsters the satisfaction of allowing them to disrespect you, ever!!!

No offense to anyone, but I’ve never been impressed with “A-List”, Gays. They’ve always been bitchy, tacky, lame and disgusting in character. I wouldn’t subject myself to being stuck on a weeklong circuit party on a boat…. Eventually, I’d have to throw a “Ho Overboard”

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I just started referring to (and addressing) everyone as “it”.

One more thing my dear Jarrod, An open book gets read….. Just because you’re cool with someone, doesn’t mean that they need to know what you do for a living. Being open and honest with everyone you come across, is never a great idea, as (just as you stated), many gay guys are messy, and will use what they know about you to throw it in your face later. If you’re going to socialize, you must do it strategically.

1.) if your “friend”, didn’t understand the full-spectrum of his “apology”, then he’s not remorseful of his actions. Further, nothing he did or said was accidental. I’m not sure why you’re even accepting his apology. The nasty things he said to you were a reflection of his true feelings, which were unmasked in a quick fit of rage. 2.) Your “friend with benefits”, should have never been such a thing. What he should have been to you was a paying client. This dude sounds like a manipulator (a cheap one), who wanted free services (and got them). You are in-deed, a business, and you must see yourself as that all the time. Just think, would an attorney provide regular legal services to a “friend?”. Are plastic surgeons giving free face lifts, and Botox to their buddies? Nope. So as a sex professional your pants shall remain zipped, until fees and method of payment are confirmed. 😉

Now I understand you pathology…. Well I’ll tell you this: 1.) Quality over Quantity is a real thing. Having a bunch of messy, problematic associates, who bring nothing but drama, will keep you busy, and “entertained”; but provide absolutely no quality, fulfillment or authentic enjoyment. The buzzing of apps, being in a bar wish bad music, trashy hoes, and poorly made drinks is overrated. To put this into a light-hearted perspective, one’s social “footprint”, is just like building one’s wardrobe. Do you want a full room, filled with cheaply-made, disposable clothes from H&M? Or do you want just a closet, filled with high-quality, well-made, long-lasting pieces, from Saks? Again, quality vs. quantity. 2.) I somewhat felt that same way you did, and then at the age of around 35, I just literally cleaned house. Every single vapid, messy, dramatic, spiritually-draining frenemy’s contact info was erased and blocked (without explanation) and I moved on. Best thing I ever did. Your social life does nor have to mirror a season of the Real Housewives of (pick your city). 3.) Loneliness is a state of mind, not a state of being. This may sound hokey, but the moment you start really loving yourself, and getting to know yourself (and standing in that confidently), you’ll enjoy doing even more things by yourself, as you won’t need the presence of other people, to validate your existence.

One more thing I noticed about you Jarrod is this: You operate on a set of principles that’s connected to your core. That core is based on consideration of others and a code of high expectation of the behaviors of others. That’s your “Achilles heel”. I can relate, because it used to be mine a long time ago. What you must understand is that people have no code. The only code most people operate by, is self-service. Whatever pleases them or benefits them is of their highest priority. In most cases, any type of code of friendship, loyalty, or decency will go right out the window. Your associates cared about no code, because he was all about getting some action from your other friend. All gloves come off when a guy is on the hunt for some sex. No decorum whatsoever. When you get some free time, or plan to do some traveling that will include some downtime in airports, I recommend you read two books by Robert Greene: 1.) The Art of Seduction 2.) The Laws of Human Nature Once you fully understand how people are wired, you’ll know what to expect from them (which is little), and you’ll be better prepared for such situations. (Hence, you would have never introduced them two, because you would have anticipated one guy throwing himself at the other one). Once you learn how to better navigate with people, you’ll have less stress, and will be happier. You’ll also have less random associates too.