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Fideau?

Fideau?

I would have such a shitty attitude toward any cop who arrested me for this. I'd be like, "Hell yes I was going to pay for sex, and as soon as you release me I'm going to do it again."
 
Looking for sex with children or little helpless drug-addicted women is one thing, but there's nothing wrong with two grown ass men having consensual relations - even if money is involved. My opinion, and I would share it with everyone were I ever arrested. Family included. But I'm lucky. I don't have a beard wife or a job I would lose for being found out. I'm also not the least bit ashamed of the fact that I hire for companionship and sex.

C'MON! It's on the internet. You must accept it as absolute fact.

Here's another approach to consider that might provide the opportunity to move things forward but also a relationship saving "out" should he not be interested or ready to provide any additional services.
 
The next time you're on the table, assuming the same thorough leg and butt massage and your same reaction, think about saying something along the lines of "I'm sorry, you're going to need to slow down. This feels so good, it's gotten me kind of excited. I'm kind of embarrassed. I apologize."
 
In this approach you are being very respectful of him, apologizing for something that's an uncontrollable response to the massage he's providing. He has the choice to continue what he's doing knowing that you're excited, or stop if that was not his intention. It doesn't put you or him in the situation where you're asking for help and he has to agree or decline. It might be hard for him (excuse me) to verbally acknowledge his interest or consent, but he may be OK continuing what you're doing without verbally acknowledging it.
 
If he continues, I wouldn't push it. I'd let what happens, happen even if it's just you letting fly solo. If he does continue, you might consider one more warning - "man if you keep going I think I'm going to cum".
 
I'd be profuse in my gratitude and ensure the tip reflects that gratitude. You can see what happens the next time. Maybe things will go even further.
 
Just my two cents.
 
I had a similar circumstance with a thai masseur I went to for quite a while. Nothing major came from it, but I really enjoyed the sexual tension and his playfulness at each of our sessions (and I think he did too).
 
Please keep us posted! This is fun.

Remind me to book an appoint with @ScottLMT!

Here's another approach to consider that might provide the opportunity to move things forward but also a relationship saving "out" should he not be interested or ready to provide any additional services.
 
The next time you're on the table, assuming the same thorough leg and butt massage and your same reaction, think about saying something along the lines of "I'm sorry, you're going to need to slow down. This feels so good, it's gotten me kind of excited. I'm kind of embarrassed. I apologize."
 
In this approach you are being very respectful of him, apologizing for something that's an uncontrollable response to the massage he's providing. He has the choice to continue what he's doing knowing that you're excited, or stop if that was not his intention. It doesn't put you or him in the situation where you're asking for help and he has to agree or decline. It might be hard for him (excuse me) to verbally acknowledge his interest or consent, but he may be OK continuing what you're doing without verbally acknowledging it.
 
If he continues, I wouldn't push it. I'd let what happens, happen even if it's just you letting fly solo. If he does continue, you might consider one more warning - "man if you keep going I think I'm going to cum".
 
I'd be profuse in my gratitude and ensure the tip reflects that gratitude. You can see what happens the next time. Maybe things will go even further.
 
Just my two cents.
 
I had a similar circumstance with a thai masseur I went to for quite a while. Nothing major came from it, but I really enjoyed the sexual tension and his playfulness at each of our sessions (and I think he did too).
 
Please keep us posted! This is fun.

Remind me to book an appoint with @ScottLMT!

Remind me to book an appoint with @ScottLMT!

People come and go so quickly around here

People come and go so quickly around here

I'm glad to hear this update @jessmapex. It was good of you to provide the feedback to Nick and give him the opportunity to improve his performance (so to speak). I need to remember this in the future as there will undoubtedly be occasions when I have a subpar experience with a provider - it's human interaction with many variables and communication is almost always the way to get the best experience - for both parties. Thanks!

Just looking at the thread title - will you be nude or do you want the photographer to be nude? Sorry, I couldn't resist!
 
:):)

Ultimately, as @latbear4blk said, it's a useful expression. It's just a way of talking about things, it's vocabulary. And it's a good way of distinguishing between what @TruHart1 describes, and other things that are less relational (though not necessarily less awesome).
 
The tricky part, and the reason I think it can feel like a "fake" description, is of course that you can't simply manufacture that kind of personal connection. There has to be some kind of spark, some meshing of persons that is conducive to giving a shit about the other person. However, good providers are often skilled at finding ways to make that spark happen, both for themself and for the other party.
 
As a psychotherapist friend likes to say, "You can pay me for my professional services. You can't pay me to care about you. But I do care about other people, because I'm human, and when I care about a client it becomes a 100% relevant part of my professional services."
 
I've always parsed the phrase as meaning "an experience like you might have, for a few hours, with a boyfriend" -- not "the totality of what it's like to have a long-term boyfriend."

The burger I bought my #1 when I met him 2 years ago on our 1st date I could have bought a burger franchise with what I've spent on him since.

Nice detective work @maninsoma! He's also on RM in SF under the name Romanrome now. As others have said, these same pix have appeared in several ads over at least the past year. Beautiful guy. I'm not a skeptical guy, but find it hard to believe that is who will answer the door should one make an appointment.
 
https://rentmen.eu/Romanrome

Boomer is a Saint for the way in which he adds links for those who don't know how or who are just too lazy to do it.

Being a sex worker I feel like I get pushed to go on PrEP weekly by internet ads or a doctor derailing our completely unrelated session into trying to propose I start. I don't tolerate PrEP well, and I prefer not to need it. I have found that although playing safe limits my clientelle it provides me with clients I get along with better. Also, having lots of different interactions with different bodies, there are so many things you can pick up and pass on - having worked as a sexual health counselor for 8 years - for me sexual health does not start and end at HIV. Antibiotic resistant gonnorrhea, or really any type of gonnorrhea is also something I would rather not spend time dealing with or telling sexual partners I may have infected them. So I use condoms with all but a main partner and very, very occasionally for porn.
 
To the OP I would suggest telling escorts outright you prefer to use condoms before sex. Body language communication is not very clear during the hot and heavy moments, setting up an expectation will enable you to relax and even tease each other with the idea of it without you having to have the shitty feelings after. I think if you don't feel comfortable with bareback sex then why not listen to and respect that, just because the cultural is changing doesn't mean you have to drop your own boundaries.

Another Country!
 
Rupert Everett and Cary Elwes - dreamy
 

Remind me to book an appoint with @ScottLMT!

Exactly!!

Interesting SA exchange for the day... not a bad looking guy...in his profile he describes himself thusly:
 
 
Sub boy - 19 - little boy here for your pleasure
 
About Me
looking for mommy’s or daddy’s to serve. i listen very well and am well behaved
 
Seeking

Friends with benefits
No strings attached
Rent Assistance

looking for dominate daddy’s or mommy’s, or both!!!
 
 
He initiated the following:
HIM: hey i got a hotel room in <town> near airport if you wanna come by
 
HIM: the thing is tonight’s my last night and i am short on cash
 
ME: Let me know whenever you head back to <town>
 
HIM: i’m staying in <town>
 
HIM: jumping from crack shack to hotel to hotel but I ran out of money so I’m kind of fucked
 
HIM: could you help me pay for the room until the weekdays and then you can come over like whenever you want on the weekdays?
 
ME: I can’t realky help you
 
HIM: well i’m shit outta luck cause i have no mon y left
 
HIM: my number is xxx-xxx-xxxx
 
Then this morning:
HIM: can you come rn or sometime before 11?
 
 
I cross reference his number using a couple of tools... one name that comes up is “Abdel Kadir Shaikh”.
Abdul Kadir Shaikh was a Pakistani politician who was the 13th governor of Sindh from 6 July 1977 to 17 September 1978. He was born in 1926 and died on 27 March 2008 (Wikipedia)
 
 
Do you:
1) Ask him for a 3-fingered selfie?
2) Run by the drugstore for condoms and lube and go meet him?
3) Run by your meth dealer for a gift and ask him to a nice dinner to get to know one another?
4) Call Homeland Security and ask for references?
5) Block his account, sell your house, move to Mexico and have plastic surgery to alter your appearance?

Look, I'm not suggesting that SA is great for everyone. It depends largely on what you, the older man, are seeking. It clearly requires you to commit considerable time and some money.
 
I can only speak for myself. Over the years, I had my fill of handsome muscle-boys and escorts: some were great in bed, some were only so-so. I wanted a regular boyfriend. The dating apps didn't work for me and as I don't go to bars, I felt I had to advertise online. Now I admit I'm very particular; I wanted a good-looking younger guy who's caring, intelligent and very presentable. I didn't mind going on a number of dates: some guys were simply dull, some were uninteresting and I certainly met some no-hopers. I even had one first-date that was so horrendous I can relate the details to general hilarity even years later.
 
But I met the guy I wanted. And it turns out that he'd been looking for someone like me. He's certainly not high-maintenance. Of course, I spend money on him but no more than I'd spend in any relationship. I like us to do things together (travel, theatre, wine and dine etc) and he's brought great joy into my life. We've been together for several years now.

American healthcare may well be the best in the world. Our system of healthcare financing may well be the worst in the world.

Sorry for the lack of clarity. I do understand that PreP provides protection against HIV transmission, but to the best of my knowledge it provides no protection against other sexually transmitted infections. It is that false sense of security to which I was referring.