Cannon

I never give my real name unless they need it to purchase a plane ticket to travel to them....In which case i’ll acquiesce and share my real name .....otherwise, its not necessary for them to know my real name, or for me to know theirs.
 

I never give my real name unless they need it to purchase a plane ticket to travel to them....In which case i’ll acquiesce and share my real name .....otherwise, its not necessary for them to know my real name, or for me to know theirs.
 

Honest question: Why would you want to resist hiring a masseur, if you enjoy massage?
It's like saying you want to avoid other activities or hobbies you enjoy.

Maybe he's related to that Shawn dude SNL almost hired.

Did you disclose to him that you were white???? Why in the world would he have to disclose he's Black if you didn't have to disclose that you were white????
 

Well, thank you all for your responses, even the one's that i disagree with. The responses to the thread have been eye opening. My thinking is: while I personally would never run my business in a discriminatory fashion, people have the right to be the kind of person they want to be and run their business however they wish. However, I do think that if masseurs/providers only want to work on certain types of clients, then they should own that entirely and put it in their ads so that the time of perspective clients is not wasted. Let people know how you run your business so they can decide if they want to proceed with you or not. I'm mortified reading stories about clients being turned away at the door or being treated in a very indecent way due to ...not preferences but they are actually prejudices. Let's call it what it is. I do hope they seek to give their business to those who appreciate it and are deserving.

Definitely not my experience. When I advertised I had in my profile I that I am Blackety Black Black Black McBlackerson. Let a bigot beware so that there is no mistaking. I don't care the race of my clients. I care if they are sane, hygienic. I do discriminate against pricks as well. The whole thing is ridiculous. Should I only accept Black clients? Of course not, it's ridiculous.
The closest I ever came to having that kind of experience is when I once had a profile on a4a and a guy (white) approached me there for a massage, i clicked on his profile and in his profile he noted he was only into white guys...so I found his inquiry to be quite bizarre. So I said to him, "thank you for the compliment, but I'm obviously not white and I don't want to waste your or my time. Have a wonderful evening." He replied right away saying, "hold on, I'm into all different types of guys", and i said, "well that's what your profile should say. Goodnight."
Out of curiosity I checked his profile maybe 2 minutes later and he had "updated" it to say he was in to "all types of guys"....but I was not about to give a massage to anyone who had excluded guys who look like me and I am not interested in being an exception and that was that on that.

Which is so ignorant because let me just say this....the guy who gave me the most money to this very day, is a tall, black man who was an executive for a football team who flew me to Arizona for a week. I have never made as much money in a week as I did with him...and I'm just going to leave that there.

Did you disclose to him that you were white???? Why in the world would he have to disclose he's Black if you didn't have to disclose that you were white????
 

I think that's what I was saying, but making it a general case rather than just about Scott. I'm not sure whether is is privilege or just a lack of consideration to think, 'You have to disclose this, but I don't'. As gay men we should be aware how tedious it is to have to correct other people's assumptions when they haven't bothered to consider the possibility that they were wrong.

Yet many Asians will cry “discrimination”, when the white guys they desperately desire tell them “Sorry, no Asians”.

Of course it would be his problem for assuming. Perhaps the black guy thought he was meeting another Black guy, yet Scott Dickson didn't announce himself as white...Perhaps the Black guy didnt care what color Scott was going to be, but for Scott to have taken issue with the fact that the guy didn't announce his skin color when Scott also didnt announce his.... wreaks of entitlement.
Reading these things make me so glad I don't advertise anymore. Christ! lol

Did you disclose to him that you were white???? Why in the world would he have to disclose he's Black if you didn't have to disclose that you were white????
 

Well, thank you all for your responses, even the one's that i disagree with. The responses to the thread have been eye opening. My thinking is: while I personally would never run my business in a discriminatory fashion, people have the right to be the kind of person they want to be and run their business however they wish. However, I do think that if masseurs/providers only want to work on certain types of clients, then they should own that entirely and put it in their ads so that the time of perspective clients is not wasted. Let people know how you run your business so they can decide if they want to proceed with you or not. I'm mortified reading stories about clients being turned away at the door or being treated in a very indecent way due to ...not preferences but they are actually prejudices. Let's call it what it is. I do hope they seek to give their business to those who appreciate it and are deserving.

This is a side job to my career job. None of my friends or acquaintances are aware I do massage on the side. When you share any information about anything, it leaves it vulnerable to other people's opinions which is why I keep most things to myself.

This is a side job to my career job. None of my friends or acquaintances are aware I do massage on the side. When you share any information about anything, it leaves it vulnerable to other people's opinions which is why I keep most things to myself.

This is a side job to my career job. None of my friends or acquaintances are aware I do massage on the side. When you share any information about anything, it leaves it vulnerable to other people's opinions which is why I keep most things to myself.

If you begin to have more negative feelings about the business than positive ones, then it's time to put your energy into something else that does make you happier than this business does.

@Mocha The problem isn't you. The problem is that most of these "potential clients" are just pathetic voyeuristic inconsiderate assholes. I had an escort who I had seen for over 4 years and at least 100 meets (I'm serious) and he mouthed off to me twice over politics that the fool kept bringing up and then it was over. He regrets its now but I'm done. He always complained about the same problems you are having. I don't know what to tell you, but I wouldn't allow the texts and emails to go on and on. Tell them the deal upfront. Most of these people are just getting their jollies with all this back and forth communication. I can imagine how freaking annoying it is.
 
I truly believe people need to get a life! The Deli threads are the most numerous on this website. Why? Not because most of the posters will even meet the guys they are talking about. They are just getting their jollies with this. If a person has decent reviews, then there shouldn't be so much drama with hiring someone for an hour. If you're worried about $250-$300 then you can't afford it in the first place.

Yeah, the flakes and fakes and timewasters are getting worse, exponentially so. The landscape for certain escort demographics has never been great relative to others, and it's getting worse. I've decided it's time to prepare to move on from this industry, and I'm taking steps in that direction. I'll miss meeting people but otherwise not too sad about it, though I have regulars who will be. Not having to deal with stigma, not having to lie to people about what I do, being able to date "civilians"...I feel good about it.
 
Maybe that's a potential course of action for the OP.

I saw the title and knew who wrote it.

Which is so ignorant because let me just say this....the guy who gave me the most money to this very day, is a tall, black man who was an executive for a football team who flew me to Arizona for a week. I have never made as much money in a week as I did with him...and I'm just going to leave that there.

I don't think you know "most masseurs" to make that kind of generalization/insult; and as half Black/half White masseur, I can tell you that it certainly doesn't apply to me. I prefer clients who treat me with respect and generosity. Truly! I may gravitate towards certain types in my personal life but I certainly don't discrimante and when it comes to my clients, the amount of melanin, or lack of it in your skin makes no difference to me.

Going fully electronic also makes it much more simple for the IRS to have a complete picture of your finances in the event you're audited.
 
I've said it before: Cash is king for good reason. Venmo might be convenient, but it's got more holes than Swiss cheese.
 
It's one thing to send small amounts of cash through these apps (airfare, tips, etc), but to run $10k+ a month is just damned foolish.

Which is so ignorant because let me just say this....the guy who gave me the most money to this very day, is a tall, black man who was an executive for a football team who flew me to Arizona for a week. I have never made as much money in a week as I did with him...and I'm just going to leave that there.