LaffingBear

I'm not finding reddit to be that much different than other platforms.
I should note that I'm older, close to Boomer age.  I'm still a member of Facebook, but I haven't posted since 2017.  I lurk, check every few months, because that's the only communications some folks use - it's how I'll learn if a relative or old friend died. 
I quit Twitter/X when Elon did all of the BS here in SF Bay.  I joined TikTok because I felt I should be more aware of current communications modes.  I quit - If I believed it humanly possible, I'd support banning TikTok for its potential to make people stupid.  Really - like a Surgeon General warning that repeated exposure can drop your IQ!  I was never too involved with Insta, watched a bit.  I suppose my account is linked to my Facebook- I deleted the app from all devices.
A friend recommended Reddit. I like the potential for organization and focus.  I suppose as a percentage of posts, there's less lunacy.  But there's still plenty.  I'm in no politics subs.  
Have we moved past the age of search engines entirely?   I get people are suspect regarding ads and targeted results, but people can't look up the most basic question?  But it doesn't occur to a user to look up a map?  Or search how many feet in a mile? 
For me, it's a disturbing exposure to people who seem to be unable to think for themselves.  "The water rises up near the rim when I flush my toilet.  Do you think it's clogged?"  There are plenty of Nextdoor-like "What was that noise?" posts.  
Everything is catastrophized. Or politicized.  One bad customer service experience, Amazon are crooks.  Stubhub is a 100% scam.  Paranoia runs wild.. so users are posting concerns before anything goes badly.  I posted a comment that I think Whole Foods quality and service is deteriorating, sharing specifics from recent visits; I got attacked with attitude for ever liking the elitist store.  There's passionate hate for the way people queue at the Costco gas pumps.  
There's the same BS about things like tipping, just without the angry videos of TikTok GrubHub drivers or restaurant servers.  Join a sub about your local region, and it's, "why can't people here learn not to drive slowly in the left lane?"   
I'm in the cooking sub.  The paranoia and passion over Teflon is insane.  People post pictures of a pot with ¼" scratch "is this safe to use?"  "I took my chicken out of the refrigerator and got a 15-minute phone call.  Is it still safe to eat?" 
There are some very focused subs, and some very tightly moderated subs, that can be fun and/or informative.   The rest aren't really that different than the other social media platforms.  And, candidly, it's another depressing indicator of human online behavior and impressionability.  I'm already cutting back, leaving a variety of subs.

Hey all,
I'm a long-time member and I was hoping for some recommendations for Vegas as I'll be there today through the weekend.
I'm looking for providers who are open to muscle worship. I prefer the straight athlete type (like wrestler or rugby build) who is comfortable for flexing/worship and jerking off without reciprocation. I know there have been (many) threads in the past about Vegas providers, but I think muscle worship is a specific kink that some providers just don't have the physiques for or opens the door to providers who are more limited with their comfort zone but would be ok with being worshipped.
I'm a discreet physician with relatively vanilla tastes. I appreciate any help!
Anthony
 
 

I agree, rojjodc. When women were allowed in the gaiety theater, it ruined it for a lot of men.

One of the most important things I had to learn was to differentiate between ability to afford, and determination of worth.  Thankfully, I was lucky enough to never be in a situation that I couldn't somehow find the funds.  The decision became whether it was high enough priority to spend the funds, perhaps forgo some other non-essential.   
I wholehearted agree with this statement.   I can't relate to even considering hiring if it means struggling to pay the basics.  Early on, I'd have to choose between hiring and a home improvement project or maybe a weekend getaway.   Eventually, when funds weren't an issue, I had to consider other forms of affordability. 
Afford triggers multiple interpretations for me.  I know the intent here is to have the financial means.  Something I learned about myself: I couldn't afford to make a rash decision that resulted in an unsatisfactory session.  Kudos and a bit of envy to the guys who could spend $300 on an unsatisfactory session and shrug it off!  I couldn't, and would feel like I wasted money unnecessarily.   "Damn! Now I'd really rather I'd have put new blinds in the den. What a crotch-thinking fool!" 🥴

I might be skeptical if I was told that.  I might also have some hygiene concerns, not just about the person, but a backpack, etc.  
For me, it's not a prudent disclosure for the escort.  There are, potentially, bad actors on either side of these transactions.   Homeless escort seeking some assistance sounds like a script for a TV cop show with a bad outcome for the escort.  

Sad I never made it there.  I'm actually surprised I didn't.  I knew about.  I was in NY for work frequent 2000-2004, always added a weekend midtown,  saw broadway shows.  I wasn't nervous, as an SF bay resident and fairly frequent patron of NobHill Theater and Campus Theater.
I always felt some regret that I never experienced the place.
Perhaps those places don't match current/younger folks desires.  All of the SF places closed too.  

One of the most important things I had to learn was to differentiate between ability to afford, and determination of worth.  Thankfully, I was lucky enough to never be in a situation that I couldn't somehow find the funds.  The decision became whether it was high enough priority to spend the funds, perhaps forgo some other non-essential.   
I wholehearted agree with this statement.   I can't relate to even considering hiring if it means struggling to pay the basics.  Early on, I'd have to choose between hiring and a home improvement project or maybe a weekend getaway.   Eventually, when funds weren't an issue, I had to consider other forms of affordability. 
Afford triggers multiple interpretations for me.  I know the intent here is to have the financial means.  Something I learned about myself: I couldn't afford to make a rash decision that resulted in an unsatisfactory session.  Kudos and a bit of envy to the guys who could spend $300 on an unsatisfactory session and shrug it off!  I couldn't, and would feel like I wasted money unnecessarily.   "Damn! Now I'd really rather I'd have put new blinds in the den. What a crotch-thinking fool!" 🥴

Never forget that hiring someone to spend time with is a financial privilege.
Like luxury goods, you have to have the means to partake... Or go into debt trying to look the part, I suppose.
If you live somewhere that the cost of living is higher, a higher rate is just part of doing business.
If you're lucky enough to lock in a lower rate with a longtime escort, count your blessings.

There’s no rules about what should or shouldn’t happen in an overnight or for how long it lasts. It’s whatever gets agreed between you and the client. If that includes sleeping time then why not? Some people like to wake up with a warm body next to them ready to play.
Be warned though, I snore and I dribble in my sleep. I don’t charge extra for that……..Oh and I don’t do overnights as it’s too much hassle now unless of course he’s paying lots. Everyone has a price 😂. 

Indeed, a one-stop shop for all your out-of-your-league dreams. 
Despite the so called technology 'advancements' in hooking up, the old fashioned way of just getting out, being there and having a good time beats most of my digital encounters.

Sad I never made it there.  I'm actually surprised I didn't.  I knew about.  I was in NY for work frequent 2000-2004, always added a weekend midtown,  saw broadway shows.  I wasn't nervous, as an SF bay resident and fairly frequent patron of NobHill Theater and Campus Theater.
I always felt some regret that I never experienced the place.
Perhaps those places don't match current/younger folks desires.  All of the SF places closed too.  

With 25 years of experience and listing only 36 years old, apparently he started his massage career as barely even a tween. He either needs to add ten or so years to his listed age or reduce his listed experience by ten or so years for his age to be realistic. Aside from that, he’s quite a specimen.
I’d be curious what others think of his work. Interesting description. I love sports massage.

Sad I never made it there.  I'm actually surprised I didn't.  I knew about.  I was in NY for work frequent 2000-2004, always added a weekend midtown,  saw broadway shows.  I wasn't nervous, as an SF bay resident and fairly frequent patron of NobHill Theater and Campus Theater.
I always felt some regret that I never experienced the place.
Perhaps those places don't match current/younger folks desires.  All of the SF places closed too.  

All but one of my initial sessions with a guy were 1-hour.  Situations vary.  I'd rather have an excellent time and ask if he wants to extend - willing to risk that he can't or won't.   
What I wanted to avoid... 30 minutes in, nothing is wrong, but the X-factor is missing.  Things felt ok, but I'd have been content to end things even before the full hour.  No complaints.   But if I'd have booked 1½ or 2 hours, I wouldn't end early and short change a guy for subjective reasons.  So I'd feel a bit frustrated.  

All but one of my initial sessions with a guy were 1-hour.  Situations vary.  I'd rather have an excellent time and ask if he wants to extend - willing to risk that he can't or won't.   
What I wanted to avoid... 30 minutes in, nothing is wrong, but the X-factor is missing.  Things felt ok, but I'd have been content to end things even before the full hour.  No complaints.   But if I'd have booked 1½ or 2 hours, I wouldn't end early and short change a guy for subjective reasons.  So I'd feel a bit frustrated.  

If you know the escort and he is not a clock watcher, then one hour with a tip is a reasonable choice.  If when you walk in the door or he walks in yours and he puts on his music, you know that music is going off after one hour so future sessions would depend on the chemistry.  
I usually do two hours which gratefully usually ends up being more.
I am considering not doing overnight sessions any longer.  The expense is one consideration and usually it turns out to be the equivalent of one or two hour sessions with the privledge of sleeping next to a hot guy.  If you like that kind of intimacy, then by all means do overnights, but after many years of overnights, I have decided to take a different path.  

For curiosity sake
How close to 100% text response rate is anyone in the non-escort segments of their lives?  Because I'm not, in any sector. Not even close.
Work contacts?  Nope.  Not even employees for whom i was their boss.  Not coworkers.  
Not service providers or contractors.  People who've said they were interested in work around my home.  People who've said yes, they'll send a proposal.  Contractors whose bid I've signed and returned, even contractors who disappear mid-projects.  
Friends, relatives, fellow volunteers on a community board of directors... 
None of the above are near 100% text response rate in my life.  Maybe it's not ghosting, but those much younger than me will maintain that not responding is a response. 
Why would rentguys be any different? 
 

Nope, couldn't do it.  And not only because of the interpersonal customer service, faking attraction, etc.   Although that would be a challenge.
I don't have that hustle mentality.   Things may stabilize once established, generating overnight and longer appointments.   I wouldn't have made it past the early days when multiple one-hour appointments in one day may be required.
Accurate or not, one of the things I always did when I was active was to try and chat with the rentguys about things other than our specific interaction.  And the things I heard - no way I could put up with much of it.   I couldn't deal with the uncertainty.  Making plans, traveling to another city, incurring the cost of lodging etc, and then not generating enough business to cover costs.  Nope!
Things I heard/learned...  more often than we'd expect, advance plans with first timers fall through.  Guys are thinking with their crotch.  Or, guys are very tempted, have good intentions at 6pm, but at 9pm, they lose their nerve. The reliance on the internet means there are plenty of scammers out there, including people who just get their jollies jerking the providers around.  
I'm a skeptical guy.  Always approached this with a caveat emptor mindset.  Had my share of scammers.  But as I listened to providers, i came to learn it's just as tentative for them.  And I know myself.  If I flew to NYC, checked into a hotel, made some appointments, and had a bad run of one then another cancel or flake - i'd be unsuitable company for any remaining clients.  
Nope, no way I could do the job.

Nope, couldn't do it.  And not only because of the interpersonal customer service, faking attraction, etc.   Although that would be a challenge.
I don't have that hustle mentality.   Things may stabilize once established, generating overnight and longer appointments.   I wouldn't have made it past the early days when multiple one-hour appointments in one day may be required.
Accurate or not, one of the things I always did when I was active was to try and chat with the rentguys about things other than our specific interaction.  And the things I heard - no way I could put up with much of it.   I couldn't deal with the uncertainty.  Making plans, traveling to another city, incurring the cost of lodging etc, and then not generating enough business to cover costs.  Nope!
Things I heard/learned...  more often than we'd expect, advance plans with first timers fall through.  Guys are thinking with their crotch.  Or, guys are very tempted, have good intentions at 6pm, but at 9pm, they lose their nerve. The reliance on the internet means there are plenty of scammers out there, including people who just get their jollies jerking the providers around.  
I'm a skeptical guy.  Always approached this with a caveat emptor mindset.  Had my share of scammers.  But as I listened to providers, i came to learn it's just as tentative for them.  And I know myself.  If I flew to NYC, checked into a hotel, made some appointments, and had a bad run of one then another cancel or flake - i'd be unsuitable company for any remaining clients.  
Nope, no way I could do the job.

Nope, couldn't do it.  And not only because of the interpersonal customer service, faking attraction, etc.   Although that would be a challenge.
I don't have that hustle mentality.   Things may stabilize once established, generating overnight and longer appointments.   I wouldn't have made it past the early days when multiple one-hour appointments in one day may be required.
Accurate or not, one of the things I always did when I was active was to try and chat with the rentguys about things other than our specific interaction.  And the things I heard - no way I could put up with much of it.   I couldn't deal with the uncertainty.  Making plans, traveling to another city, incurring the cost of lodging etc, and then not generating enough business to cover costs.  Nope!
Things I heard/learned...  more often than we'd expect, advance plans with first timers fall through.  Guys are thinking with their crotch.  Or, guys are very tempted, have good intentions at 6pm, but at 9pm, they lose their nerve. The reliance on the internet means there are plenty of scammers out there, including people who just get their jollies jerking the providers around.  
I'm a skeptical guy.  Always approached this with a caveat emptor mindset.  Had my share of scammers.  But as I listened to providers, i came to learn it's just as tentative for them.  And I know myself.  If I flew to NYC, checked into a hotel, made some appointments, and had a bad run of one then another cancel or flake - i'd be unsuitable company for any remaining clients.  
Nope, no way I could do the job.

My personal biggest cooking fails are:
My first attempt at bread.  I made some simple cheddar casserole bread recipe.... it was beautiful to see as it came out of the oven.  And a rock hard crust surrounding an entirely hollow interior.  I've never attempted loaf bread since, only quick breads and bready pastries.
I hosted a birthday party for a friend.  Main course was Arroz con Pollo with seafood.  Chicken, rice, with mussels and shrimp.  Beautiful table great hors d'oeuvre, first courses, etc.  The main course was a gummy mess.  It tasted OK, but I'd used the wrong type of rice, and something called a paella dish, but it was really 100% unsuitable for that type of cooking.
The party fail that sticks in my memory is my parents, big entertainers, all out bashes.   One party in winter.... my mother took a big crystal bowl to a local caterer or bakery, had it filled with chocolate mousse.  No room in the refrigerator, she set the box outside on the porch until dessert time.  Next morning, there was an OMG moment, "I forgot all about the mousse!"  We opened the back door and the squirrels went running... they'd gotten into the box and feasted on mousse.  There was an, "I hate to tell you what i spent on that mousse!" comment.  Eventually, we laughed about it for years.  

My personal biggest cooking fails are:
My first attempt at bread.  I made some simple cheddar casserole bread recipe.... it was beautiful to see as it came out of the oven.  And a rock hard crust surrounding an entirely hollow interior.  I've never attempted loaf bread since, only quick breads and bready pastries.
I hosted a birthday party for a friend.  Main course was Arroz con Pollo with seafood.  Chicken, rice, with mussels and shrimp.  Beautiful table great hors d'oeuvre, first courses, etc.  The main course was a gummy mess.  It tasted OK, but I'd used the wrong type of rice, and something called a paella dish, but it was really 100% unsuitable for that type of cooking.
The party fail that sticks in my memory is my parents, big entertainers, all out bashes.   One party in winter.... my mother took a big crystal bowl to a local caterer or bakery, had it filled with chocolate mousse.  No room in the refrigerator, she set the box outside on the porch until dessert time.  Next morning, there was an OMG moment, "I forgot all about the mousse!"  We opened the back door and the squirrels went running... they'd gotten into the box and feasted on mousse.  There was an, "I hate to tell you what i spent on that mousse!" comment.  Eventually, we laughed about it for years.  

You basically just described the whole internet...  And society, in general.
It is what it is.  In life, you are tasked with separating the wheat from the chaff.
Sure, there's bullshit on Reddit, but there's also a plethora of good, solid info, intelligent discussion and some very funny people.
 
 

I'm not finding reddit to be that much different than other platforms.
I should note that I'm older, close to Boomer age.  I'm still a member of Facebook, but I haven't posted since 2017.  I lurk, check every few months, because that's the only communications some folks use - it's how I'll learn if a relative or old friend died. 
I quit Twitter/X when Elon did all of the BS here in SF Bay.  I joined TikTok because I felt I should be more aware of current communications modes.  I quit - If I believed it humanly possible, I'd support banning TikTok for its potential to make people stupid.  Really - like a Surgeon General warning that repeated exposure can drop your IQ!  I was never too involved with Insta, watched a bit.  I suppose my account is linked to my Facebook- I deleted the app from all devices.
A friend recommended Reddit. I like the potential for organization and focus.  I suppose as a percentage of posts, there's less lunacy.  But there's still plenty.  I'm in no politics subs.  
Have we moved past the age of search engines entirely?   I get people are suspect regarding ads and targeted results, but people can't look up the most basic question?  But it doesn't occur to a user to look up a map?  Or search how many feet in a mile? 
For me, it's a disturbing exposure to people who seem to be unable to think for themselves.  "The water rises up near the rim when I flush my toilet.  Do you think it's clogged?"  There are plenty of Nextdoor-like "What was that noise?" posts.  
Everything is catastrophized. Or politicized.  One bad customer service experience, Amazon are crooks.  Stubhub is a 100% scam.  Paranoia runs wild.. so users are posting concerns before anything goes badly.  I posted a comment that I think Whole Foods quality and service is deteriorating, sharing specifics from recent visits; I got attacked with attitude for ever liking the elitist store.  There's passionate hate for the way people queue at the Costco gas pumps.  
There's the same BS about things like tipping, just without the angry videos of TikTok GrubHub drivers or restaurant servers.  Join a sub about your local region, and it's, "why can't people here learn not to drive slowly in the left lane?"   
I'm in the cooking sub.  The paranoia and passion over Teflon is insane.  People post pictures of a pot with ¼" scratch "is this safe to use?"  "I took my chicken out of the refrigerator and got a 15-minute phone call.  Is it still safe to eat?" 
There are some very focused subs, and some very tightly moderated subs, that can be fun and/or informative.   The rest aren't really that different than the other social media platforms.  And, candidly, it's another depressing indicator of human online behavior and impressionability.  I'm already cutting back, leaving a variety of subs.

It's the human condition.   Things are complicated.  Any number of possible reasons, even if some are unlikely yet not impossible. There are also bad potential clients, and bad escorts advertising.   
They want travel time They're just concerned about the security and conditions where they're being asked to travel. Better time management if they have multiple appointments.  Getting them to travel and waste time may be the fetish-desire for the guys that get off on wasting their time.  No one home - ha ha! Last minute cancelation rate is so high, at least it's less wasted time and money if it happens on in-call.  They're nervous that clients have recording equipment setup. Maybe it's a sting. Maybe they have a safety net buddy in the adjacent room or lobby.   The escort is a bad guy, has plans for client arrival. E.g. Recording.  Thugs for shake-down.   Probably many many more reasons in support of incall or outcall.