Pepper Young

Thanks for the article.
I think the biggest problem for gay men as they age is loneliness. I exercise, keep my weight down (though I've found food is one of life's pleasures), stay out of the sun (not easy when you live in Arizona) but I also hod onto as many friends as I can.

Thanks for the article.
I think the biggest problem for gay men as they age is loneliness. I exercise, keep my weight down (though I've found food is one of life's pleasures), stay out of the sun (not easy when you live in Arizona) but I also hod onto as many friends as I can.

I stayed at The Linq last year. The rooms were small but modern and comfortable. I thought the location was good.

As a client, I'll just echo what MichBoyBlake said, you need to put one or two face pics up. If I don't see a face pic, or it's fuzzed out, I move on. As for rates, I expect to pay more in big coastal cities than cities in the middle of the country but there are exceptions to every rule. So welcome to the business!

Congrats on the review! I STILL haven't been reviewed but I also feel weird asking for a review and I think most clients don't like to write reviews, at least where I am lol. Especially since there's also this thing where plenty of escorts prefer to not have reviews, even if they're good ones.
 
You already have a great collection of pics! AND a good video! Better than the pics I currently have posted to my RM ad at the moment lol. Looking at your ad makes me feel like an amateur haha.. I've been meaning to fix my profile up for a while now and this is definitely gonna motivate me to step it up lol. It looks like you're definitely off to a great start!
 
Try to learn something from every client about how you want to be perceived by clients, how you want to interact with them, how you want to handle all sorts of different situations that may come up, etc. I guess it all depends on your niche but I feel like interacting positively with clients is a lot more important than performance in the sexual part of it, although bad performance is still not great and it doesn't at all hurt to be good at a number of different things in bed
 
I'd also say don't worry about 'branding' so much. In a way it's similar, but think more about what niche you'd like to fill, rather than what your 'brand' looks like. One thing I really like about this work is that I don't ever feel like I'm competing with others in my area really, because most people fill a different sort of niche, and even if that difference is very slight, it still makes a world of difference to most clients.
 
As for rates, it's very much dependent on your area. Some people might take it the wrong way but, if you're having trouble figuring out what your normal, standard rate should be.. I wouldn't hesitate to contact other escorts near you, explain that you're new and figuring it out, and ask them what they charge. Just don't let it bother you if anyone gets bitchy about it.
 
Also, I promise I only mean this in the nicest and most flattering possible way. You're young, in great shape, and have a very nice body. You're objectively and conventionally very attractive. Don't let that go to your head. Experienced clients will smell that from a mile away, although some might be into that... (to be fair being a bit full of yourself in that way could totally be part of a niche). Just don't get the idea that you can charge significantly more than other clients purely based on looks. Everyone sorta finds and fills their own niche. No tea no shade, there are plenty of conventionally unattractive escorts that still do quite well. Idk about how things go in the huge west- and east-coast US cities that have tons of providers and clients all over the place, but from what I know experienced clients tend to expect your rate to be relatively similar to others in the same area, and having a higher rate usually has more to do with having more reviews, being more well-known, etc. Since you're just starting out I'd even suggest low-balling a bit at first, not to undercut people but to give clients a little incentive to try out the 'new guy'.
 
Before this gets way too long even though it already has, the only other thing I want to add is if you haven't already, put more thought into putting up one or two face pictures. That's completely up to you though -- you'll see clients posting on here about how they would never even click on an ad if the first picture didn't have the escorts face in it, but really that's only some clients. Not having a face picture up might hurt your chances of being hired a little bit, but in general I believe it's always worth it to do whatever feels right for you, even if it's something that you're worried about hurting your chances of being hired, because in the end doing whatever feels right for you just helps you fill a more and more unique niche.

I pretty much just stick to dudes. They can be weird/flaky enough.

I pretty much just stick to dudes. They can be weird/flaky enough.

This guy seems to offer more than just muscle worship. https://rent.men/Karimharem

There's always streetwalking (not me, too old).

And for those of you who are worried that the sky is falling, I think this also should be a pretty strong signal that the sky is not falling.
 
I've been following this since last year. My assumptions, which of course could be wrong, are based more on an understanding of politics than of intricate aspects of the law.
 
I've always assumed that it would be difficult or impossible to go after a multi-faceted website that is compromised predominantly of Gay men, where Gay men talk about all kinds of things. That may include escorts, but it also includes discussions like this one, about our civil rights. To try to go after a website like that would just be an enormous political blunder, I've thought all along. It could easily be construed as an assault on Gay freedom of speech.
 
Rentboy wasn't that kind of site. At the margin, it could say it did educational services or whatever, but they were pretty clearly focused on one thing.
 
If there was one potential "Gay" website that would be at risk due to SESTA/FOSTA, I thought it was pretty obvious which one that was: Rentmen.
 
I thought maybe they'd say, fuck it. It ain't worth the bother. We'll just leave the US alone and let them figure it out. I'm sure that would have cut off a huge part of their users. But if you wanted to pursue the "sky is falling" scenario, that's where I would go.
 
It's early days, but I think we can assume that Rentmen has checked with their lawyers and this indicates where they are going. Which basically means they ain't going nowhere.
 
While there may be inconveniences, I think this is mostly good news.
 
If there is logic to FOSTA/SESTA, it's this: the nature of the internet itself facilitated a handful of "outlier" websites (Sen. Blumenthal's word) that led to a dramatic increase in the sex trafficking of women and children online. I think the numbers are all suspect, but I've read things like an eightfold increase. I suspect nobody really even knows. But the anti-sex trafficking advocates probably have a point, that access to a handful of "outlier" internet websites made a horrific criminal activity easier.
 
If this is the inconvenience we all have to go through to take out a few of the outliers, this is not that bad.

This is basketball but on the recent episode of "Black - ish" Rainbow's grandmother said that she liked the old days - I forget her exact words - the shorts were shorter and one could see the outline of their equipment. ;-)))

Cats, yes. Children, no.

I met Ricky a couple years ago when we were both in San Francisco at the same time. Nice guy, amazing ass. Wish I could have spent more time with him. But a one word answer to a text is off-putting. XxxDKnightsxxX gets a thumbs up from me.

I was tired of being devalued by the food service industry, needed to focus on my education, and couldn’t manage enough time for that while making <$10/hr for skilled & demanding labor (wherein I was often sexualised anyway as an informal requirement of performing my job successfully).
 
I’d been quite sexually adventurous in my late teen years and found myself more comfortable with casual and semi-anonymous sexual encounters than most of my peers. A lot of my real-life flirtations were with older men, and I found them much less complicated to engage with sexually than guys my own age, who surprisingly had too many feelings and often couldn’t handle our sexual encounters being NSA.
 
By the time I was in college I was mostly back to sleeping with my peers, but I never lost my openness to sleeping with people that fell outside the box of whoever I was “supposed” to be interested in according to society’s standards. I had learned that the most popular, best looking guys were often the most clumbsy, unskilled lovers, and the guys who no one looked twice at were sometimes the most repeat-worthy in bed.
 
I knew all along that I would be well-suited to being an escort someday, but never seriously considered it until finances got so tight in college that I had to leave University and continue my education on my own. I was too afraid of being subject to violence (my parents had a fondness for watching Law & Order SVU in the house when I was a kid) to try it any sooner than I did. Too bad, because I probably wouldn’t have needed to drop out of University had I tried it a couple years sooner. But my self-education and my career were both ultimately successful and I couldn’t be happier with where my life is at, so I have no regrets. Maybe I was just the right maturity level to handle it by the time I started.
 
For a couple years I used it as a way to not really have a “real job”, and accordingly made just enough to live a very thrifty lifestyle comfortably. After a while I realized I liked escorting enough to pursue it as a career. I spent a whole winter holed up in a rural woodland cabin burning logs & reading Internet forums via solar-powered wifi to research how to treat escorting as a business: marketing, touring, managing finances, etc. I worked small cities in the southern states for about a year before moving to NYC, where my career really had the opportunity to take off. My lifestyle involved a lack of routine and a lot of travel in my early-mid 20’s, so my work being so portable & flexible suited my life exceedingly well.
 
When I first started out 8 years ago, I thought I would use escorting as a path to fund my gender transition surgeries. It ended up providing so much more for me than that, and now I’m not even sure I want anything surgical done & have tossed that idea out the window. Go figure...

Agree with tips already offered.
First, be clear and concise about what you are looking for in 2-3 emails/texts max (makes sure you are compatible and will get what you are looking for; also doesn't waste the escorts time - they are pummeled with emails from "flakes" AKA TIME WASTERS).
Second, I'd let them know it's your first time and how you are feeling about that, knowing that will let them go easy with you and check in along the way.
Third, agree with @BluDay about contacting again a few days before and again a few hours before; short concise emails - again, don't waste their time.
 
It doesn't hurt to pay some compliments, just don't sound obsessive. "I think you are really hot" "I love your smile" "I'm a big fan of your porn work" are all good. "I've fantasized about you for years" "I can't believe I'm going to be with someone so out of my league" are not good.
If there's a particular way you want things to unfold....be up front. "I'd really like to take a shower with you first" "I'd like to start with some slow, passionate kissing" "Id like to find you blindfolded on all fours". If you want them to take charge, say so.
Think about how much you want the provider to know about you. Sometimes I will provide stats, sometimes I will even send a picture before. A true professional should never ask, so it's really if it makes you more comfortable to provide the info.
 
If you want them to wear something particular - sweatpants, boxers, jockstrap, wrestling singlet, harness....just ask, these requests are not unusual. Even if you want them to leave their underwear after for you .
Also, if you have a preference for colognes/scents - I had a provider show up with too much BAD cologne on and it was one of several things which made it a bad visit. Some ask them to come straight from the gym....if musky is how you like it; some ask for no deodorant/colognes.
My preferred appointment is 90 minutes. 60 can be too rushed. Esp. for your first time, you want to take things slow and not feel like you are competing with the clock. I'd allow yourself 90 or 120 minutes. Now, I am more experienced and am likely to book 60 minutes if I'm not sure how a provider is going to "pan out"; I'm more likely to book 90 for 2nd visits and if the escort is well reviewed &/or I feel there is strong chemistry going in.
 
One appointment, I booked 2 hours, bought massage oil, and candles for around the hot tub in my hotel room. When the escort arrived I had the tub drawn, candles lit, music on and had pre-set all the lighting how I wanted it, we took a shower...then a massage.....then the hot tub etc. Don't obsess about the details, but also think about them and make the experience everything you want it to be.
 
Do something which will help you relax just before, have a cup of tea, a cocktail, meditate, xanax, lay down with your eyes covered....whatever works for you.
 
Have fun. Take it slow. Savor every minute. Try not to be nervous. You are paying for this experience, get everything you are hoping for out of it.

As @poolboy48220 said, you don't generally want to contact an escort far in advance. I'm not an escort, but I do sometimes contact an escort early to be sure I get on their list for a trip. I don't want to miss a chance I just contacted one escort to get on the visiting list 3 weeks before he would be in a city I will be in at the same time. Being clear that you are doing so should relieve the escort of time-wasting questions. You might want to ask when he wants to set up the date time for the meeting.
 
Since you're new, and have had at least one 'misdial', I'd suggest trying an email in or out of an escort site (I prefer starting with the Rent.Men internal mail system to start a conversation). If you text, I start with something that doesn't make it look like I'm contacting an escort. So if the working name is "BestEverEscort", I'll start with "Hey, BestEver, is this you?" Many have some name (Lucas, Mark, whatever - check their profile), so you can use that. When they respond, I say that I'd like to visit them and suggest a date and time. When I'm doing this, I mention that I'm pretty vanilla. If they don't have prices listed, I'll ask on it. Not wanting to say "How much for you to pound me into next week?" I say something like "I know your time if valuable, what is your fee for an hour?" You should mention anything special you want, or that you want to be sure happens. For example "I really like to kiss, is that good with you?" Keep it to as few message as possible.
 
Once the date is set, I'll send a text a few days before just to confirm. Than another the day of, usually in the morning. So "Just a reminder that I'm looking forward to seeing you at 6 tonight."
 
Escorts get a lot of messages, so there is a high chance concise messages (and polite) messages would be better received. Take a few minutes to get all your questions out rather than a lot of them.
 
It is possible they will text a bit back to you, if so, it's fine to respond. @VictorPowers has recently agreed to see me in a few weeks. He's a nice guy and sent a few messages after we set the time that made me feel great. I always responded, but when he broke off, so did I. It's just further proof of what a great guy he is.

Libra, male, gay. Yup.

I'd hire you, beau!

We have similar interests. The four guys in the middle of your list, I’m dying to meet. Rafael, although cute as a button, at one point had his boyfriend (who was a dancer and was very very very flexible) escorting. Who, to me, was way sexier. I wanted the boyfriend far more. Sadly he and Rafael broke up. The boyfriend stopped escorting shortly after.

Here are the guys who are perpetually on my buddy list >>>
 
https://rent.men/JacobTaylorX
https://rent.men/LatinoMuse
https://rent.men/JayAlexander
https://rent.men/DravenNavarroXXX
https://rent.men/PornStarBruno
https://rent.men/Rafaellords

Here are the guys who are perpetually on my buddy list >>>
 
https://rent.men/JacobTaylorX
https://rent.men/LatinoMuse
https://rent.men/JayAlexander
https://rent.men/DravenNavarroXXX
https://rent.men/PornStarBruno
https://rent.men/Rafaellords

I'm looking at Fabian (previously aka Mario) when a biz conference has me in Bal Harbour end of February.....word on the street - time & $$$ well spent.
 
https://rent.men/Musclefabian
 
https://rentboy.pro/boys/fabianMuscle

Santos is right up my alley! But I'd rather hire off of RM.

http://www.popularpublicity.com/2014/09/new-book-reveals-the-hidden-history-of-male-prostitution.html

$500 an hour? Pass.