Newbie to Hiring Escorts; Don't Wanna Screw Anything Up

[GNitro]

Hey gang,

I'm trying to get a hold of an escort and want to make sure I'm going about it right. Should I leave a text message with him? More than one message? Email? Also, if I see that an ad was posted last year, what are the chances he's still working now?

I'd like to spend time with him in a couple of months from now. Will he write me off as a time-waster if I ask him if he's going to be around then? Rather, should I try to contact him right before I plan on our visit? I'm really not messing around and I'm not trying to bullshit anybody. My biggest fear is that he'll ignore me as some vacillating dufus.

Lastly, does anybody know if this guy is still working? http://www.boyscort.com/seattle-escorts/559-407-5855/?pid=43368858

I'll be grateful for any feedback I can get. Cheers.

[jjkrkwood]

Screwing up is part of the learning experience. Dont sweat it !

[+ poolboy48220]

If an escort is particular about how they want to be contacted, they'll usually indicate that in their ad. If they don't state a preference, I usually start with a text message, or contact them via the site they're on (email via rentmen, for example). One message will suffice, if he doesn't answer within a day or two, try again; if still no response, move on to someone else.

 

The only time I'd contact someone months ahead of time would be if he wasn't local, but announced travel plans to where I was (ie, "Saw you're coming to Detroit in May, I'd love to meet up while you're here"). Otherwise, I wouldn't contact him until MUCH closer, and you're ready to take the plunge - a day or two ahead.

[GNitro]

If an escort is particular about how they want to be contacted, they'll usually indicate that in their ad. If they don't state a preference, I usually start with a text message, or contact them via the site they're on (email via rentmen, for example). One message will suffice, if he doesn't answer within a day or two, try again; if still no response, move on to someone else.

 

The only time I'd contact someone months ahead of time would be if he wasn't local, but announced travel plans to where I was (ie, "Saw you're coming to Detroit in May, I'd love to meet up while you're here"). Otherwise, I wouldn't contact him until MUCH closer, and you're ready to take the plunge - a day or two ahead.

Thanks, poolboy48220. I can work with that advice.

BTW, I just got a text message from a guy I called last month (no answer) and it was a homophobic death threat. The number was 424-738-8308 on boyrentals.com. Thought I'd put that scumbag on blast. Just filed a police report. Stay safe.

[BluDay]

As @poolboy48220 said, you don't generally want to contact an escort far in advance. I'm not an escort, but I do sometimes contact an escort early to be sure I get on their list for a trip. I don't want to miss a chance I just contacted one escort to get on the visiting list 3 weeks before he would be in a city I will be in at the same time. Being clear that you are doing so should relieve the escort of time-wasting questions. You might want to ask when he wants to set up the date time for the meeting.

 

Since you're new, and have had at least one 'misdial', I'd suggest trying an email in or out of an escort site (I prefer starting with the Rent.Men internal mail system to start a conversation). If you text, I start with something that doesn't make it look like I'm contacting an escort. So if the working name is "BestEverEscort", I'll start with "Hey, BestEver, is this you?" Many have some name (Lucas, Mark, whatever - check their profile), so you can use that. When they respond, I say that I'd like to visit them and suggest a date and time. When I'm doing this, I mention that I'm pretty vanilla. If they don't have prices listed, I'll ask on it. Not wanting to say "How much for you to pound me into next week?" I say something like "I know your time if valuable, what is your fee for an hour?" You should mention anything special you want, or that you want to be sure happens. For example "I really like to kiss, is that good with you?" Keep it to as few message as possible.

 

Once the date is set, I'll send a text a few days before just to confirm. Than another the day of, usually in the morning. So "Just a reminder that I'm looking forward to seeing you at 6 tonight."

 

Escorts get a lot of messages, so there is a high chance concise messages (and polite) messages would be better received. Take a few minutes to get all your questions out rather than a lot of them.

 

It is possible they will text a bit back to you, if so, it's fine to respond. @VictorPowers has recently agreed to see me in a few weeks. He's a nice guy and sent a few messages after we set the time that made me feel great. I always responded, but when he broke off, so did I. It's just further proof of what a great guy he is.

[+ JEC]

Agree with tips already offered.

First, be clear and concise about what you are looking for in 2-3 emails/texts max (makes sure you are compatible and will get what you are looking for; also doesn't waste the escorts time - they are pummeled with emails from "flakes" AKA TIME WASTERS).

Second, I'd let them know it's your first time and how you are feeling about that, knowing that will let them go easy with you and check in along the way.

Third, agree with @BluDay about contacting again a few days before and again a few hours before; short concise emails - again, don't waste their time.

 

It doesn't hurt to pay some compliments, just don't sound obsessive. "I think you are really hot" "I love your smile" "I'm a big fan of your porn work" are all good. "I've fantasized about you for years" "I can't believe I'm going to be with someone so out of my league" are not good.

If there's a particular way you want things to unfold....be up front. "I'd really like to take a shower with you first" "I'd like to start with some slow, passionate kissing" "Id like to find you blindfolded on all fours". If you want them to take charge, say so.

Think about how much you want the provider to know about you. Sometimes I will provide stats, sometimes I will even send a picture before. A true professional should never ask, so it's really if it makes you more comfortable to provide the info.

 

If you want them to wear something particular - sweatpants, boxers, jockstrap, wrestling singlet, harness....just ask, these requests are not unusual. Even if you want them to leave their underwear after for you .

Also, if you have a preference for colognes/scents - I had a provider show up with too much BAD cologne on and it was one of several things which made it a bad visit. Some ask them to come straight from the gym....if musky is how you like it; some ask for no deodorant/colognes.

My preferred appointment is 90 minutes. 60 can be too rushed. Esp. for your first time, you want to take things slow and not feel like you are competing with the clock. I'd allow yourself 90 or 120 minutes. Now, I am more experienced and am likely to book 60 minutes if I'm not sure how a provider is going to "pan out"; I'm more likely to book 90 for 2nd visits and if the escort is well reviewed &/or I feel there is strong chemistry going in.

 

One appointment, I booked 2 hours, bought massage oil, and candles for around the hot tub in my hotel room. When the escort arrived I had the tub drawn, candles lit, music on and had pre-set all the lighting how I wanted it, we took a shower...then a massage.....then the hot tub etc. Don't obsess about the details, but also think about them and make the experience everything you want it to be.

 

Do something which will help you relax just before, have a cup of tea, a cocktail, meditate, xanax, lay down with your eyes covered....whatever works for you.

 

Have fun. Take it slow. Savor every minute. Try not to be nervous. You are paying for this experience, get everything you are hoping for out of it.

Edited February 11, 2018 by JEC

[MikeyGMin]

It doesn't hurt to pay some compliments, just don't sound obsessive. "I think you are really hot" "I love your smile" "I'm a big fan of your porn work" are all good.

Lol. There's not a man alive who doesn't like a genuine compliment. (Okay. There was poster here a while ago who couldn't stand any kind of comment good or bad.)

 

I see a young man who has an absolutely PERFECT body -- for my taste. At some point I invariably take it all in with my eyes and tell him that he's perfect. He blushes and claims that he is not, but I can tell he likes hearing it.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Third, agree with @BluDay about contacting again a few days before and again a few hours before; short concise emails - again, don't waste their time.

 

It doesn't hurt to pay some compliments, just don't sound obsessive. "I think you are really hot" "I love your smile" "I'm a big fan of your porn work" are all good. "I've fantasized about you for years" "I can't believe I'm going to be with someone so out of my league" are not good.

Wow! JEC I know you haven’t been hiring for very long, but I think you have nailed the communicating and hiring to a very precise art, especially the thin line between the welcome “showing genuine interest’ and unwelcome “stalking behaviour”. I fully agree with this post end to end.

 

Now I see JEC as a quick learner, on top of being a good guy.

[+ JEC]

Wow! JEC I know you haven’t been hiring for very long, but I think you have nailed the communicating and hiring to a very precise art, especially the thin line between the welcome “showing genuine interest’ and unwelcome “stalking behaviour”. I fully agree with this post end to end.

 

Now I see JEC as a quick learner, on top of being a good guy.

Awwwww thanks @Tarte Gogo. I've been hiring @ 3 years, and am making much better hiring decisions from this forum, and direct communications with a few, like you. Thanks everyone for sharing your tricks (pun intended).

[Cyd_StVincent]

Any communication that I get more than 2 weeks before they want to book always feels unreliable. Things change very quickly in the escorting world - people want to see you and then they don't in hours or days so to take seriously that someone is able to plan that they are going to be horny, single, available and interested in 2-3 months feels very suspect.

 

The type of communication I take the most seriously is emails that introduce yourself, why you are interested in seeing me, when, where and for how long. Nothing super explicit. Then we usually email back and forth a few times to solidify the details and within that I get a phone number which I text to confirm the day before. For me text messages are 50/50 real and phone calls are usually just the same guy pretending to be different wealthy gentlemen but his voice sounds like a made for tv movie pervert so I always know exactly who it is.

 

This is my preference and I've heard other people say the exact opposite, but my 2c. Also if you are approaching someone respectfully with full sentences and a name you are already two arms and a head above the many text messages I receive saying something like "do u raw?" and that's it.

[+ José Soplanucas]

+1

The only sutuation I would consider seriously someone planning months in advance is a multiple days contract . If you are planning traveling with a companion, the more challenging scheduling needs of such a plan justify the very early contact. Otherwise I fully agree with your post.

 

Great thread, so many knowledgeable advises!

Edited February 13, 2018 by latbear4blk

[GLEE]

First time can always be a challenge, you might commit some “mistakes” that when you look back in the future, you’d be like, “Ah! Why did I say/do that??” But it takes time to learn. @jjkrkwood is totally right!!

 

I love how insightful @JEC ’s suggestion is. I wish I had read his comment back when I first hired. You’ll develop your ways of communication and your tastes in men. And once it’s there, as I believe now, hiring is a very personal and intimate experience. Find your own preferences and enjoy the experiences.

[TruHart1]

First time can always be a challenge, you might commit some “mistakes” that when you look back in the future, you’d be like, “Ah! Why did I say/do that??” But it takes time to learn...

 

I love how insightful @JEC ’s suggestion is. I wish I had read his comment back when I first hired. You’ll develop your ways of communication and your tastes in men. And once it’s there, as I believe now, hiring is a very personal and intimate experience. Find your own preferences and enjoy the experiences.

Upon reading/hearing about some forum members' first-time 'horror hire' experiences, I realize I was very lucky in my 6 to 8 month perusing multiple ads, vetting each and every prospect, and finally deciding on which escort I hoped would "fit" to take my hiring virginity! With my particular choice, @AresEscortNYC, I called (he actually answered his phone!) a week ahead of my trip to NYC, and we set up our tentative session date and time, to be solidified once I actually arrived in the city. Once I got to New York, I called again (yes, he answered his phone again!) and we proceeded with what was for me an amazing, mind-blowing first escort experience, which has addickted me to this hobby forever!

 

TruHart1

[HotWhiteThirties]

For a guy like me who has constraints on when he can hire and must be ultra discrete - on business trips which are known well in advance - I have to be a planner. So far, I’ve been able to successfully engage with providers well in advance and every one of those engagements has occurred as planned for the most part (at least on my end as the client). I am thankful they have not written me off as a flake because I was contacting them months in advance. Like many who’ve commented, I love this hobby. I wish it could happen more spontaneously for me as it does for others, but that’s not the situation I am operating under. For me, I am not willing to take a chance and wait until the week or two before to be sure that I arrange the guy I want. In some instances I am planning the entire business trip and spending the funds to arrange the trip so as to discretely engage a provider as well - usually for multiple hours or an overnight (and every overnight has been at the first meeting that had gone marvelously- shock!). Maybe I’m a unicorn and the providers I have hired may be as well, but again, I’m so thankful for the high quality guys who took me seriously and understood my need to contact them well in advance and didn’t dismiss me. Just another perspective.

Edited February 13, 2018 by HotWhiteThirties

[+ othermanc]

I, too, must plan well in advance when I take trips away from my home area. I have had no trouble with escorts taking me seriously when I contact them ( usually by phone text, which many specifically request in their ad) sometimes a month or more in advance. I mention if they look at my client profile on rentmen they will see I am a serious supporter of escorts from all over the country. Then I tell them the where, when and the length of the session I'm trying to set up. As we get closer to the actual date I reach out again and we verify everything. The day "of" the planned meeting I text and email one last time. So far in many, many encounters like this, I've never had a problem.

[Cyd_StVincent]

For a guy like me who has constraints on when he can hire and must be ultra discrete - on business trips which are known well in advance - I have to be a planner. So far, I’ve been able to successfully engage with providers well in advance and every one of those engagements has occurred as planned for the most part (at least on my end as the client). I am thankful they have not written me off as a flake because I was contacting them months in advance. Like many who’ve commented, I love this hobby. I wish it could happen more spontaneously for me as it does for others, but that’s not the situation I am operating under. For me, I am not willing to take a chance and wait until the week or two before to be sure that I arrange the guy I want. In some instances I am planning the entire business trip and spending the funds to arrange the trip so as to discretely engage a provider as well - usually for multiple hours or an overnight (and every overnight has been at the first meeting that had gone marvelously- shock!). Maybe I’m a unicorn and the providers I have hired may be as well, but again, I’m so thankful for the high quality guys who took me seriously and understood my need to contact them well in advance and didn’t dismiss me. Just another perspective.

 

 

I'm not saying I wont respond to a very far in advance email. I'll actively respond to any booking that seems like it comes from someone who isn't clearly a time waster - but if the question is what is the ideal way to communicate with an escort I think two weeks in advance - unless of course its asking for an overnight, travel or longer.

[HotWhiteThirties]

I'm not saying I wont respond to a very far in advance email. I'll actively respond to any booking that seems like it comes from someone who isn't clearly a time waster - but if the question is what is the ideal way to communicate with an escort I think two weeks in advance - unless of course its asking for an overnight, travel or longer.

 

Right, most of my bookings are for extended periods or overnights. My preference is for extended times to begin with. If I’m not able to set aside and book at least 3 hours, in general, I’m not interested. So, your point is well taken.

Edited February 15, 2018 by HotWhiteThirties