Okashii81

Thank you very much for your service. How could we survive if it wasn't for your ability to police Grammar. You deserve the recognition and awards for your hard earned work.... 🫣😏
How many language do you speak? Hotboybrazil  speaks three languages... 

What are you talking about. He's stating he's a Brazilian male that he's friendly, honest, and a great masseur. 
With all due respect you seem like a pleasant person to spend a hour with 😂. You must be a blast to have over for the holidays.... 

I hired Luka twice, first as an escort and then as a masseur. That was probably 8 and 6 years ago roughly. I naively thought I would give him another chance as a masseur, thinking that maybe he had a bad day the first time we met or he had changed in those years. Worst experience I've ever had with a masseur and that includes guys who looked nothing like their photos, upsellers, and having massage time short changed. The fact that his body is as gorgeous as it is (his pics really were accurate) AND he is a pretty skilled masseur should give you some indication of just how awful his personality is. I left feeling worse about myself and it was a while before I got back on the horse so to speak. He looked like he was bothered to be touching me. Unless being humiliated or made to feel like garbage is your kink or a muscled body is all you're after, I would stay away.

I hired Luka twice, first as an escort and then as a masseur. That was probably 8 and 6 years ago roughly. I naively thought I would give him another chance as a masseur, thinking that maybe he had a bad day the first time we met or he had changed in those years. Worst experience I've ever had with a masseur and that includes guys who looked nothing like their photos, upsellers, and having massage time short changed. The fact that his body is as gorgeous as it is (his pics really were accurate) AND he is a pretty skilled masseur should give you some indication of just how awful his personality is. I left feeling worse about myself and it was a while before I got back on the horse so to speak. He looked like he was bothered to be touching me. Unless being humiliated or made to feel like garbage is your kink or a muscled body is all you're after, I would stay away.

There's too much to unpack here, but I will point out that it's not the women you should be upset with re: women in gay porn. It is your fellow gay men who cling to the idea/want to sell the idea of the allure of "straight" men. For reasons I can't understand, the fantasy of sleeping with a straight man is apparently very thrilling to some gay men. The women are there only to be cheated on and further cement the fantasy. It's not because the women "want to take our spaces."

Martin Gajda, though I'm pretty sure that is the full version. 

Id pay the full amount and wouldn't repeat.  Once u open that door to a confrontation you may never know what's behind it. That's why I look at this site before I book.
Once I almost clocked a masseur.  

I think there are two separate issues: your general displeasure with last minute bookings and clients not adhering to the preferences stated in your advertisement. The former I have no problem with, but the latter I do. 
If a client expects you to be available at the drop of a hat or is rude when you explain that you are not available, you have every right to be frustrated. (I'm putting aside your explicit instruction to book with you in advance for the moment.) That person is just rude. However, your comment that a client's work schedule or other plans "has nothing to do with [you]" is just as dismissive of their time as you claim they are of yours. Of course clients can be flaky, not serious, cancel at the last minute, etc., but as others in this thread have said, sometimes it really is the case that you don't know when you'll be finished with work such that you can't plan ahead. Sometimes you finish work, a work out, or get to the end of the day and realize you could really use a massage. There is nothing wrong with reaching out to a provider and politely inquiring whether they are available, assuming their profiles do not indicate otherwise. I think you should also keep in mind that many providers do make last minute appointments and some encourage them. You are not operating in a vacuum. 
I think it's also worth remembering that providers can be just as unreliable. I have had my fair share of providers who cancel an appointment booked in advance at the last moment or do not respond when I try to confirm on the day of the appointment. In the same way you screen new clients, I generally do not book new providers in advance for this very reason. I have providers I see regularly and I will book up to a week in advance with them, but for someone I have not met previously, I'll most likely reach out in the morning for an appointment later in the day or if their profile list them as "Available Now," I'll try to book something within a few hours. I am always polite and write "Sorry for the last minute request..." or "I see that your profile says that you are available now. . ."  
The above being said, if your profile specifically requests bookings in advance, then the client is put on notice. There really is no excuse in that case and if they failed to fully read your profile, that is still on them. I'm sure that would be annoying for you and I don't blame you. 

I think there are two separate issues: your general displeasure with last minute bookings and clients not adhering to the preferences stated in your advertisement. The former I have no problem with, but the latter I do. 
If a client expects you to be available at the drop of a hat or is rude when you explain that you are not available, you have every right to be frustrated. (I'm putting aside your explicit instruction to book with you in advance for the moment.) That person is just rude. However, your comment that a client's work schedule or other plans "has nothing to do with [you]" is just as dismissive of their time as you claim they are of yours. Of course clients can be flaky, not serious, cancel at the last minute, etc., but as others in this thread have said, sometimes it really is the case that you don't know when you'll be finished with work such that you can't plan ahead. Sometimes you finish work, a work out, or get to the end of the day and realize you could really use a massage. There is nothing wrong with reaching out to a provider and politely inquiring whether they are available, assuming their profiles do not indicate otherwise. I think you should also keep in mind that many providers do make last minute appointments and some encourage them. You are not operating in a vacuum. 
I think it's also worth remembering that providers can be just as unreliable. I have had my fair share of providers who cancel an appointment booked in advance at the last moment or do not respond when I try to confirm on the day of the appointment. In the same way you screen new clients, I generally do not book new providers in advance for this very reason. I have providers I see regularly and I will book up to a week in advance with them, but for someone I have not met previously, I'll most likely reach out in the morning for an appointment later in the day or if their profile list them as "Available Now," I'll try to book something within a few hours. I am always polite and write "Sorry for the last minute request..." or "I see that your profile says that you are available now. . ."  
The above being said, if your profile specifically requests bookings in advance, then the client is put on notice. There really is no excuse in that case and if they failed to fully read your profile, that is still on them. I'm sure that would be annoying for you and I don't blame you. 

I think there are two separate issues: your general displeasure with last minute bookings and clients not adhering to the preferences stated in your advertisement. The former I have no problem with, but the latter I do. 
If a client expects you to be available at the drop of a hat or is rude when you explain that you are not available, you have every right to be frustrated. (I'm putting aside your explicit instruction to book with you in advance for the moment.) That person is just rude. However, your comment that a client's work schedule or other plans "has nothing to do with [you]" is just as dismissive of their time as you claim they are of yours. Of course clients can be flaky, not serious, cancel at the last minute, etc., but as others in this thread have said, sometimes it really is the case that you don't know when you'll be finished with work such that you can't plan ahead. Sometimes you finish work, a work out, or get to the end of the day and realize you could really use a massage. There is nothing wrong with reaching out to a provider and politely inquiring whether they are available, assuming their profiles do not indicate otherwise. I think you should also keep in mind that many providers do make last minute appointments and some encourage them. You are not operating in a vacuum. 
I think it's also worth remembering that providers can be just as unreliable. I have had my fair share of providers who cancel an appointment booked in advance at the last moment or do not respond when I try to confirm on the day of the appointment. In the same way you screen new clients, I generally do not book new providers in advance for this very reason. I have providers I see regularly and I will book up to a week in advance with them, but for someone I have not met previously, I'll most likely reach out in the morning for an appointment later in the day or if their profile list them as "Available Now," I'll try to book something within a few hours. I am always polite and write "Sorry for the last minute request..." or "I see that your profile says that you are available now. . ."  
The above being said, if your profile specifically requests bookings in advance, then the client is put on notice. There really is no excuse in that case and if they failed to fully read your profile, that is still on them. I'm sure that would be annoying for you and I don't blame you. 

I think there are two separate issues: your general displeasure with last minute bookings and clients not adhering to the preferences stated in your advertisement. The former I have no problem with, but the latter I do. 
If a client expects you to be available at the drop of a hat or is rude when you explain that you are not available, you have every right to be frustrated. (I'm putting aside your explicit instruction to book with you in advance for the moment.) That person is just rude. However, your comment that a client's work schedule or other plans "has nothing to do with [you]" is just as dismissive of their time as you claim they are of yours. Of course clients can be flaky, not serious, cancel at the last minute, etc., but as others in this thread have said, sometimes it really is the case that you don't know when you'll be finished with work such that you can't plan ahead. Sometimes you finish work, a work out, or get to the end of the day and realize you could really use a massage. There is nothing wrong with reaching out to a provider and politely inquiring whether they are available, assuming their profiles do not indicate otherwise. I think you should also keep in mind that many providers do make last minute appointments and some encourage them. You are not operating in a vacuum. 
I think it's also worth remembering that providers can be just as unreliable. I have had my fair share of providers who cancel an appointment booked in advance at the last moment or do not respond when I try to confirm on the day of the appointment. In the same way you screen new clients, I generally do not book new providers in advance for this very reason. I have providers I see regularly and I will book up to a week in advance with them, but for someone I have not met previously, I'll most likely reach out in the morning for an appointment later in the day or if their profile list them as "Available Now," I'll try to book something within a few hours. I am always polite and write "Sorry for the last minute request..." or "I see that your profile says that you are available now. . ."  
The above being said, if your profile specifically requests bookings in advance, then the client is put on notice. There really is no excuse in that case and if they failed to fully read your profile, that is still on them. I'm sure that would be annoying for you and I don't blame you. 

Hello, I've seen rates going up recently.
And I was wondering what's a rate that you feel comfortable paying for a massage with sensual/erotic elements?
 
In my case, for incall (where I go to the masseur) I'd say 120 to 160 per hour.
180 starts feeling is expensive.
100 is a great deal
 
These rates are for Southern California area.
 
And less than 100 it becomes suspicious. Maybe is strictly therapeutic or a scam.
 
I've received quotes for 200/hr incall for massages
That's too much. Those are escort rates in my opinion.

https://sexgayjapan.com/2021/06/hunk-channel-oav822-vol3-20/
The guy getting the massage has a gorgeous body and a great pair of nips. 😍 I could have done without the feet play, but still hot overall. 

I've never, ever seen his place be anything than immaculate. That is just gross and doesn't sound like him at all. Granted, I've never had a session with him while he was traveling, but that still sounds unlikely.

Had another great session with SS. Turns out my text messages aren't going through to his phone, which is very weird. We were communicating fine a week ago. I sent him an e-mail to see what was up and I'm glad I did. He's such a gem!

Seriously, I didn't know that some clients expect a lower price for a "way uptown" location. If a masseur were out in the sticks, like Staten Island or Nassau County, I might expect a lower price. But upper Manhattan.....get real!

@Wolfer After reading the OP my initial thought was not to comment because it sounded like you have the situation properly analyzed. You just don't want to pull the trigger and make the decision to change (or cancel) the arrangement for fear of losing something. Others in this thread have responded with the "if it ain't broke" reply, but it really doesn't sound like you are comfortable with the situation to continue as is, whereas others might. For what it's worth, I'm not willing to say the masseur is using you, but you certainly present as the perfect client, i.e. someone he's attracted to and with whom he gets to have fun and get paid.
 
What made me want to respond though was the above quoted comment. I don't know if flattered is a word I would use in this situation because it makes it sound like the masseur is doing you some courtesy by seeking out your business and you should be grateful for it. That kind of thinking is partly why you seem upset about the situation.
 
A while ago I had a somewhat similar situation. I had a regular masseur and after our first couple of sessions we had full on sex. From that point on we had sex every time we met. He was very nice and complimented me and I knew he enjoyed himself. I even saw him out socially once and we hung out a bit. We would email and share funny memes, etc. He never reached out to me about setting up a time, but in my mind I always approached a session with him as a paying client. We weren't FWB. However, there were a couple of times when he was particularly horny that he pretty much skipped the massage and went to town on me immediately. (And yes, the sex was good! haha) When that happened, he would leave without asking for payment. In those instances it was about him getting pleasure (and also pleasuring me) and not him providing a service. If your guy is not willing to do that, then you have your answer. You either need to cut him or decide if you can continue with things as they are, putting aside any feelings of being afraid he might say no at some point.

This the most thorough and thoughtful response on this thread, IMHO. Okashii isn't telling you what to do based on their own feelings but, rather, using their experience to hold up a mirror to your situation. Ultimately, it's for you to decide whether you're getting enough bang for your buck (pun intended.)
 
While I might be flattered that a hot masseur wants to F, I would assess whether I was feeling fulfilled by the situation OR if I were being taken advantage of.

@Wolfer After reading the OP my initial thought was not to comment because it sounded like you have the situation properly analyzed. You just don't want to pull the trigger and make the decision to change (or cancel) the arrangement for fear of losing something. Others in this thread have responded with the "if it ain't broke" reply, but it really doesn't sound like you are comfortable with the situation to continue as is, whereas others might. For what it's worth, I'm not willing to say the masseur is using you, but you certainly present as the perfect client, i.e. someone he's attracted to and with whom he gets to have fun and get paid.
 
What made me want to respond though was the above quoted comment. I don't know if flattered is a word I would use in this situation because it makes it sound like the masseur is doing you some courtesy by seeking out your business and you should be grateful for it. That kind of thinking is partly why you seem upset about the situation.
 
A while ago I had a somewhat similar situation. I had a regular masseur and after our first couple of sessions we had full on sex. From that point on we had sex every time we met. He was very nice and complimented me and I knew he enjoyed himself. I even saw him out socially once and we hung out a bit. We would email and share funny memes, etc. He never reached out to me about setting up a time, but in my mind I always approached a session with him as a paying client. We weren't FWB. However, there were a couple of times when he was particularly horny that he pretty much skipped the massage and went to town on me immediately. (And yes, the sex was good! haha) When that happened, he would leave without asking for payment. In those instances it was about him getting pleasure (and also pleasuring me) and not him providing a service. If your guy is not willing to do that, then you have your answer. You either need to cut him or decide if you can continue with things as they are, putting aside any feelings of being afraid he might say no at some point.

@Wolfer After reading the OP my initial thought was not to comment because it sounded like you have the situation properly analyzed. You just don't want to pull the trigger and make the decision to change (or cancel) the arrangement for fear of losing something. Others in this thread have responded with the "if it ain't broke" reply, but it really doesn't sound like you are comfortable with the situation to continue as is, whereas others might. For what it's worth, I'm not willing to say the masseur is using you, but you certainly present as the perfect client, i.e. someone he's attracted to and with whom he gets to have fun and get paid.
 
What made me want to respond though was the above quoted comment. I don't know if flattered is a word I would use in this situation because it makes it sound like the masseur is doing you some courtesy by seeking out your business and you should be grateful for it. That kind of thinking is partly why you seem upset about the situation.
 
A while ago I had a somewhat similar situation. I had a regular masseur and after our first couple of sessions we had full on sex. From that point on we had sex every time we met. He was very nice and complimented me and I knew he enjoyed himself. I even saw him out socially once and we hung out a bit. We would email and share funny memes, etc. He never reached out to me about setting up a time, but in my mind I always approached a session with him as a paying client. We weren't FWB. However, there were a couple of times when he was particularly horny that he pretty much skipped the massage and went to town on me immediately. (And yes, the sex was good! haha) When that happened, he would leave without asking for payment. In those instances it was about him getting pleasure (and also pleasuring me) and not him providing a service. If your guy is not willing to do that, then you have your answer. You either need to cut him or decide if you can continue with things as they are, putting aside any feelings of being afraid he might say no at some point.

@Wolfer After reading the OP my initial thought was not to comment because it sounded like you have the situation properly analyzed. You just don't want to pull the trigger and make the decision to change (or cancel) the arrangement for fear of losing something. Others in this thread have responded with the "if it ain't broke" reply, but it really doesn't sound like you are comfortable with the situation to continue as is, whereas others might. For what it's worth, I'm not willing to say the masseur is using you, but you certainly present as the perfect client, i.e. someone he's attracted to and with whom he gets to have fun and get paid.
 
What made me want to respond though was the above quoted comment. I don't know if flattered is a word I would use in this situation because it makes it sound like the masseur is doing you some courtesy by seeking out your business and you should be grateful for it. That kind of thinking is partly why you seem upset about the situation.
 
A while ago I had a somewhat similar situation. I had a regular masseur and after our first couple of sessions we had full on sex. From that point on we had sex every time we met. He was very nice and complimented me and I knew he enjoyed himself. I even saw him out socially once and we hung out a bit. We would email and share funny memes, etc. He never reached out to me about setting up a time, but in my mind I always approached a session with him as a paying client. We weren't FWB. However, there were a couple of times when he was particularly horny that he pretty much skipped the massage and went to town on me immediately. (And yes, the sex was good! haha) When that happened, he would leave without asking for payment. In those instances it was about him getting pleasure (and also pleasuring me) and not him providing a service. If your guy is not willing to do that, then you have your answer. You either need to cut him or decide if you can continue with things as they are, putting aside any feelings of being afraid he might say no at some point.

@Wolfer After reading the OP my initial thought was not to comment because it sounded like you have the situation properly analyzed. You just don't want to pull the trigger and make the decision to change (or cancel) the arrangement for fear of losing something. Others in this thread have responded with the "if it ain't broke" reply, but it really doesn't sound like you are comfortable with the situation to continue as is, whereas others might. For what it's worth, I'm not willing to say the masseur is using you, but you certainly present as the perfect client, i.e. someone he's attracted to and with whom he gets to have fun and get paid.
 
What made me want to respond though was the above quoted comment. I don't know if flattered is a word I would use in this situation because it makes it sound like the masseur is doing you some courtesy by seeking out your business and you should be grateful for it. That kind of thinking is partly why you seem upset about the situation.
 
A while ago I had a somewhat similar situation. I had a regular masseur and after our first couple of sessions we had full on sex. From that point on we had sex every time we met. He was very nice and complimented me and I knew he enjoyed himself. I even saw him out socially once and we hung out a bit. We would email and share funny memes, etc. He never reached out to me about setting up a time, but in my mind I always approached a session with him as a paying client. We weren't FWB. However, there were a couple of times when he was particularly horny that he pretty much skipped the massage and went to town on me immediately. (And yes, the sex was good! haha) When that happened, he would leave without asking for payment. In those instances it was about him getting pleasure (and also pleasuring me) and not him providing a service. If your guy is not willing to do that, then you have your answer. You either need to cut him or decide if you can continue with things as they are, putting aside any feelings of being afraid he might say no at some point.

@Wolfer After reading the OP my initial thought was not to comment because it sounded like you have the situation properly analyzed. You just don't want to pull the trigger and make the decision to change (or cancel) the arrangement for fear of losing something. Others in this thread have responded with the "if it ain't broke" reply, but it really doesn't sound like you are comfortable with the situation to continue as is, whereas others might. For what it's worth, I'm not willing to say the masseur is using you, but you certainly present as the perfect client, i.e. someone he's attracted to and with whom he gets to have fun and get paid.
 
What made me want to respond though was the above quoted comment. I don't know if flattered is a word I would use in this situation because it makes it sound like the masseur is doing you some courtesy by seeking out your business and you should be grateful for it. That kind of thinking is partly why you seem upset about the situation.
 
A while ago I had a somewhat similar situation. I had a regular masseur and after our first couple of sessions we had full on sex. From that point on we had sex every time we met. He was very nice and complimented me and I knew he enjoyed himself. I even saw him out socially once and we hung out a bit. We would email and share funny memes, etc. He never reached out to me about setting up a time, but in my mind I always approached a session with him as a paying client. We weren't FWB. However, there were a couple of times when he was particularly horny that he pretty much skipped the massage and went to town on me immediately. (And yes, the sex was good! haha) When that happened, he would leave without asking for payment. In those instances it was about him getting pleasure (and also pleasuring me) and not him providing a service. If your guy is not willing to do that, then you have your answer. You either need to cut him or decide if you can continue with things as they are, putting aside any feelings of being afraid he might say no at some point.

The "masseur" is Aoi Musashi, but I'm blanking on the "client's" name. They are both pretty popular porn actors, so that is likely the reason for no blurring of the faces.

I purchased a SC membership over a year ago because I wanted to watch some of their older videos. They were not there. I had to haggle to get a refund on my membership. Their ads were promoting videos that were not available on their site. I'd be curious to see if this "maintenance" brings back all of their videos.