Mydavid

After I douche, there is always water left inside me. How can I get ride of it?

I don't think that this is a regulated profession, so what I do is that I pay the regular amount unless he brings up that there's a new rate. When there's a new rate, I may or may not agree to pay, and sometimes I agree to the higher rate but give less or no tip, depending. Inflation is out of control in USA, so we all have to be mindful of our expenses, especially us the working class.

Gay. It’s a total turn off if they list straight. I want someone who’s into men. 

I prefer bi and gay providers for an escort experience’. Sensual or erotic massage, I could care less, as long as they deliver what they say they will.
I never saw the lure in hiring a straight escort. Logically, I understand it,  but I’ve been with enough “questioning” guys that I wouldn’t want to now pay for the experience. I also don’t care for the macho, dom approach so many of them espouse anyway. 
 
My favorite provider is bi and I appreciate that he’s seen both sides of the pasture. I feel it informs his bedroom skills and suits me just fine.

During my many years of being a client, all of my providers have been gay excepting one.  The exception was a bi man with whom I had some phenomenal times.   We gave each other what each wanted, and he never failed excepting when he changed his sexual orientation status from Bi to Straight.
 After the pandemic brought us some semblance of normalcy, I engaged his services on four occasions.  Two of those times he had me "climbing the ceiling"--for he certainly knew how to "apply the wood." He would always have me in such a state of euphoria that I had to ask him to stop or to slow down.
 I don't have heart problems, but with the expertise that he rendered, I thought one perhaps would occur.
Shortly after those last two sessions, he changed his sexual orientation on Rent.men to "STRAIGHT."  I managed to see him, but unfortunately for me, those sessions were NOT the ones to which I looked forward.  
On one of those occasions I kindly addressed his status; he became offensive, and I ceased talking to him about this matter.  
I do know that his sexual prowess was definitely NOT satisfying; it was quite, quite underwhelming as contrasted with the times during a five or six year period that we had been seeing each other.
So, in response to the initial question: it's primarily Gay with me unless the Bi guy is interactive and meets my other needs/requirements for satisfaction.
* I've written about this in other posts but thought my response would be appropriate here.

If I contact a regular, I usually ask, "as usual?"
If a regular raises their price and waits until after the session to tell.you, you need to drop him.
EDIT In my experience,  good regulars lock you in at the original price. I only had one regular who (twice) raised his price, and it eventually ended badly.
When it's a new guy, I always repeat the amount of time and amount when asking for the final agreement.  The oral contract is made if he agrees.

If he hasn't confirmed first, always confirm before meeting.

Someone I've seen 2-3 times per year, told me of his increased rates prior to my last appointment. 

I haven't had this come up too much, but I think if you're seeing someone weekly or monthly, it's on them to disclose a rate increase. However, if it's been months or a year, I would confirm. We had a regular who has since exploded in porn, and I've been thinking of seeing him again, and I will definitely confirm the rate. 

I confirm the rate each time whether they are regulars or not. Mainly because I often schedule more than just the standard hour. For a short session I really prefer one and a half hours so that entails a small negotiation anyway. And some I might see after a year or so has passed so it’s best to check if the rate is the same.

With my regular providers, I don't confirm rates each time I engage their services. However, every six months to a year, I inquire whether they have updated or revised their rates. To date, none of my regulars have altered their rates on me.

Definately prefer to be with guys that identify as gay or bi.  The dynamic of being with a straight guy often feels off and disconnected.  Worst case is a guy that has to have straight porn playing during the session.  

I much prefer a gay man. Or at least a bi-guy. 
 
For a while, I dated a personal trainer. He was passionate in bed, bottomed for me and told me how much he enjoyed swallowing my loads. So I was very surprised when he declared he was straight (had a girlfriend and baby).

The best time I ever had was during the pandemic when I paid $2000 for two nights with the day in between. This guy came 3 times each night and once during the day in the kitchen while I was making lunch. I got a protein shake. 

A lot of escorts are not willing to French kiss either.

Will people stop with this "corpse" thing?
This happens to a lot of people. Just Google and look for people who get frustrating because their partners just "lay there" and let you do all the work.
This happens to all couples, gay or straight, married or single, etc.
All it means is that you get a bad f--k.

Leave and negotiate paying less than agreed. If I want to fuck a dead body, I'd break into the morgue. You are paying to receive an experience that you enjoy, and that's not it. Part of the fantasy (and the reason many of us hire) is for feeling desired and wanted, even if it's not real. That's poor customer service. THAT SAID, I know of some clients who can't care less about it, as they care more for having a way with a beautiful, hot man. That's why I'm keeping this in "I" statements, as I know that some men care more about the hot body than attitude or mental presence.
Without attacking the provider, I'd give a review based on your experience, but there's a way to express your dissatisfaction without making it a personal attack,

A lot of escorts are not willing to French kiss either.

This is fucked up. You should delete it. I’m an SA survivor and you equating a lazy escort to me being held down and face fucked under threat of violence is disgusting. It’s offensive to SA survivors and @Mydavid who had an unpleasant but CONSENSUAL experience. 

There's a big difference between "unwilling" and "passive" participant. Unwilling (and unable) is intrugal to the definition of "rape."

Easy there with the judgement.

This is called rape buddy.  

Extortion? Preying on fears? Did I miss something? I have re-read and see only depictions of silence and non-responsiveness. The only preying I see is a client paying a fee for an extremely subpar encounter. Anything else would be self imposed paranoia, and there's no need to plant a seed causing that grow in other members.

yeah.. it sounds like something he took "kicked in" so he could coast through the engagement.  sorry that happened to you

I'm truly sorry to hear about what happened to you. I'm not certain I would have handled the situation any differently than you did. I would probably try to make the best of it, pay him and leave. Regarding payment, withholding part of the fee, especially when at his place, doesn't seem wise. For me, prioritizing personal safety is paramount, outweighing any monetary concerns. Leaving a review to caution others about your experience is definitely something I would consider doing.