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I have to agree, some of the best experiences I've had was because the provider messaged me after I viewed their page. I probably wouldn't have booked with them otherwise, but now I'm booking them whenever they come to town.

Hey @joshnineplus welcome to the forum. You have posted in exactly the way to make people here consider your offering. I wish I could travel right now, but we can't leave the country. Best wishes!

Thank you so very much. So many times in the world people engage with each other in such a negative manner. I just don’t believe in operating that way and I refuse to give up on it.
 
I completely agree on the physical vs personality statement. Someone’s personality and thus how they interact with people and exist in the world is everything for me. Too many times in the world we tear each other down instead of lifting each other up.
 
Thanks for lifting me up today. :-D

Thanks for sharing! I've always figured if they took the time to look at my profile, I should at least thank them for checking it out.

If someone has viewed my profile multiple times repeatedly but hasn’t contacted me, I figure they may just be shy and needing a nudge and so I say “hi”. It’s resulted in appts most of the time

I'm a client but I gotta tell ya, that follow-up tactic works really well for some of us. It got me into an overnight session really quick a few months ago. I checked out his profile, moved on to looking at other options, got his message and started chatting... couple hours later we were hanging out at a hotel for the night. He got $1500 out of me from that follow-up message, with little effort.
 
Some clients don't like to be bothered with it. Some of us respond well to the attention.

Thank you. From my perspective, this is so true. To make a relationship work, both people have to be open and honest with themselves and each other. There needs to be good communication.
 
In the rented relationship, both people become aware of the expectations, and the fear of rejection is limited by the cash. Knowing that, clients are willing to open up more to their inner needs/feelings and a receptive escort can make the choice to share or not. The structure of the 'date' is about discovery of the client, and satisfying their needs. If they are open, and you are satisfying their needs, over time, it becomes reciprocal.
 
In the app world, it is very easy to be rejected and the structure of the 'date' is selfish. Each person want to be the one satisfied. There is no need to open up and be vulnerable. You have no reason to work on communication or learn more about the other person. So, it is more difficult.
 
Just my tuppence.

Thank you. From my perspective, this is so true. To make a relationship work, both people have to be open and honest with themselves and each other. There needs to be good communication.
 
In the rented relationship, both people become aware of the expectations, and the fear of rejection is limited by the cash. Knowing that, clients are willing to open up more to their inner needs/feelings and a receptive escort can make the choice to share or not. The structure of the 'date' is about discovery of the client, and satisfying their needs. If they are open, and you are satisfying their needs, over time, it becomes reciprocal.
 
In the app world, it is very easy to be rejected and the structure of the 'date' is selfish. Each person want to be the one satisfied. There is no need to open up and be vulnerable. You have no reason to work on communication or learn more about the other person. So, it is more difficult.
 
Just my tuppence.

Thank you. From my perspective, this is so true. To make a relationship work, both people have to be open and honest with themselves and each other. There needs to be good communication.
 
In the rented relationship, both people become aware of the expectations, and the fear of rejection is limited by the cash. Knowing that, clients are willing to open up more to their inner needs/feelings and a receptive escort can make the choice to share or not. The structure of the 'date' is about discovery of the client, and satisfying their needs. If they are open, and you are satisfying their needs, over time, it becomes reciprocal.
 
In the app world, it is very easy to be rejected and the structure of the 'date' is selfish. Each person want to be the one satisfied. There is no need to open up and be vulnerable. You have no reason to work on communication or learn more about the other person. So, it is more difficult.
 
Just my tuppence.

Sensual Massage is focused on the actual touch of the skin. Stimulating the skin and the senses. It may be very soft, or firm. It may excite and even turn you on and it may include a happy ending. But its goal is to stimulate and soothe.
 
Therapeutic Massage is focused on the muscle and tissues underneath the skin. It includes many portions of the sensual massage, but it is focused on moving the muscles, breaking down adhesions, stretch, increase the range of movement and enhancing the body fluid movement. It may turn you on and it may or may not include a happy ending. But its goal is to relax.
 
Erotic Massage is focused on erogenous zones and turning you on. It is meant to stimulate your awareness, instead of your skin. Your skin may be stimulated, but the focus is on increasing your awareness and sexual presence. It may include stroking your cock or edging you. It may include your nipples, nape of your neck, hands, feet, ass, taint, cock, or anything else that may turn you on and heighten your senses. It is usual to expect a happy ending, or use it as a prelude to something more sexual. A happy ending is not unusual. But the goal is to turn you on.
 
It more blunt terms... sensual is rubbing; therapeutic is massaging; and erotic is foreplay.
 
Just my tuppence.

Sensual Massage is focused on the actual touch of the skin. Stimulating the skin and the senses. It may be very soft, or firm. It may excite and even turn you on and it may include a happy ending. But its goal is to stimulate and soothe.
 
Therapeutic Massage is focused on the muscle and tissues underneath the skin. It includes many portions of the sensual massage, but it is focused on moving the muscles, breaking down adhesions, stretch, increase the range of movement and enhancing the body fluid movement. It may turn you on and it may or may not include a happy ending. But its goal is to relax.
 
Erotic Massage is focused on erogenous zones and turning you on. It is meant to stimulate your awareness, instead of your skin. Your skin may be stimulated, but the focus is on increasing your awareness and sexual presence. It may include stroking your cock or edging you. It may include your nipples, nape of your neck, hands, feet, ass, taint, cock, or anything else that may turn you on and heighten your senses. It is usual to expect a happy ending, or use it as a prelude to something more sexual. A happy ending is not unusual. But the goal is to turn you on.
 
It more blunt terms... sensual is rubbing; therapeutic is massaging; and erotic is foreplay.
 
Just my tuppence.

https://rentmen.eu/Ash_avital/
 
Any first hand knowledge?

I do not enjoy oral sex with a condom. I don't like the flavor or texture.
 
As a giver, I can suck a dildo for the same flavor. The texture of his cock is ruined by the condom.
As a receiver, I miss the various textures of a mouth/throat. And tonguing the condom isn't the same as licking my head.
 
So, while some people may accept it, I do not.

I think I read somewhere something like:
"I really enjoy watching my companion enjoy my company as much as I enjoy his and his achievement of a climax with me is a key part of my enjoyment of our time together. Given your busy schedule do you think that it would be better to postpone our appointment until your next visit to town when we can meet earlier in the day?"
 
Hypothetically.

Labels describe. Labels don't define.
 
"Top" describes whose cock will be going into some "Bottom's" ass.
 
Being a "Top" doesn't define what other things they also do. Rimming, being rimmed, in your case swallowing, etc...
 
Top doesn't even define who is physically on top or who is in control. There are plenty of aggressive bottoms who like to fuck themselves on a guy's thick cock. In that position, the Top is on bottom and more passive, while the Bottom is on top doing most of the work.

Labels describe. Labels don't define.
 
"Top" describes whose cock will be going into some "Bottom's" ass.
 
Being a "Top" doesn't define what other things they also do. Rimming, being rimmed, in your case swallowing, etc...
 
Top doesn't even define who is physically on top or who is in control. There are plenty of aggressive bottoms who like to fuck themselves on a guy's thick cock. In that position, the Top is on bottom and more passive, while the Bottom is on top doing most of the work.

I think it is just the way the whole question is worded that makes me wonder.
 
Asking someone for a meet and greet for a short, or one time, encounter, is rude. Versus, asking someone for a meet and greet before an extended companionship (weekend, travel, etc.) that we've already started working out the details, doesn't seem totally out of line.
 
Asking someone for a meet and greet at a coffee shop at the escort's convenience because they are in the same area of town and we're already set up for an encounter later, not a big issue to me. Versus asking someone for a meet and greet at my convenience regardless of their schedule or before vetting, that's being a serious inconsiderate SOB.
 
In all cases, the escort is free to decline and the drinks/food is my dime.
 
For example, going on a week long cruise with someone new, already worked out the scheduling and some of the details, as well as when they're on the clock or off the clock, etc... and I ask, do you have time to grab a quick coffee this week, and we can firm up on some details... That doesn't seem totally out of line, or something that need a time card punched on.
 
Just my tuppence.

I express regret that he didn't include that requirement in his ad or in our discussion because for me that's a deal breaker. Universally, those who require the money up front have no intent on delivering on their promises. I also don't give them the choice of changing their mind of taking payment afterward. In my opinion, in that moment they are hustling me and that's not going to happen. In all fairness I'll add that my well trained Doberman Pinscher is in the area.

If you want a great one...
 
A woman without her man is nothing.
A woman, without her, man is nothing.

Hmmm.....
 
Even if everything Leo said was true (and I'm not saying I believe it), all his response says to me is that he is unable to perform and lack the skills to make the client feel special or create that intimate moment for the client.
 
I feel bad for escorts who have to deal with smell, taste, looks, physical deformities, emotional baggage, etc... of their clients. BUT, that is part of the job. When you work directly with people, you deal with their issues. If you get paid to do it, then you do it with utter charm and dignity.
 
That's the sign of a professional. A good professional would have been able to perform his best and not make the client aware of the issue. An intimate professional might have figured a way to improve the situation without embarrassment. "Hey, Mr. Client, how about a shower first, you can join me, and..."

Without another topic, talking about the things you know about each other are very natural. Asking an escort why he chose his profession is no different than asking a teacher, barber, or accountant why they chose their profession. It is a normal icebreaker, since the client knows the escort's profession.
 
The phrasing you use can be taken as an insult, but I'm not sure that the question is really rude. You can ask a lawyer "why a lawyer? I mean you have such potential in business." Or, you can ask them, "why a lawyer? how did you choose that as a career?" The first implies a negative impression of a lawyer, the second is about curiosity and conversation.

Without another topic, talking about the things you know about each other are very natural. Asking an escort why he chose his profession is no different than asking a teacher, barber, or accountant why they chose their profession. It is a normal icebreaker, since the client knows the escort's profession.
 
The phrasing you use can be taken as an insult, but I'm not sure that the question is really rude. You can ask a lawyer "why a lawyer? I mean you have such potential in business." Or, you can ask them, "why a lawyer? how did you choose that as a career?" The first implies a negative impression of a lawyer, the second is about curiosity and conversation.

I've only hired four times, twice with each of two guys. I really never asked that specific question, but both were not at all hesitant to share some insights into their motivations and where escorting fit into their "real" lives. My questions were meant as friendly curiosity and I guess they took those questions as intended. I don't see what's wrong with being interested in the person being hired - whether he's a lawyer, a teacher, or an escort. I think showing an interest in who that person is, with no negative labeling, can be a sign of a sincere client. If the person being hired sees it differently, he's free to change the subject.

Without another topic, talking about the things you know about each other are very natural. Asking an escort why he chose his profession is no different than asking a teacher, barber, or accountant why they chose their profession. It is a normal icebreaker, since the client knows the escort's profession.
 
The phrasing you use can be taken as an insult, but I'm not sure that the question is really rude. You can ask a lawyer "why a lawyer? I mean you have such potential in business." Or, you can ask them, "why a lawyer? how did you choose that as a career?" The first implies a negative impression of a lawyer, the second is about curiosity and conversation.

Further thoughts:
I give the client the benefit of the doubt in this situation. I look at the question as a simple inquiry, and not one with a negative connotation.
Perhaps they are complimenting you in a way. The client may see your great qualities and other strengths that another career choice can highlight.