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Never had that experience at Johnsons. Most of the guys are social while off the stage and more than a few really enjoy doing the stage show part. Very few where "speedos". Most are in their tight briefs by the third song. And I've never met one that wasn't willing to let you see or touch him while giving him a tip.

So I keep meaning to ask, and if someone prefer to DM the answer that's fine, too. What happens in the private rooms? I can let my imagination run wild, but I'm curious as to the reality, preferably by someone who's done them. In advance, thank you.

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And this is where I hit the "too much dialogue" problem. Guys who offer a massage and I ask if they are trained. When I want a massage, even if I want a massage + more, I still want a good massage. I was a LMT for a lot of years, and I really prefer someone who knows what they're doing. And, I might want a HE or more (at a higher rate). For me, there is nothing worse than someone advertising massage (instead of body rub) and not knowing how to give a massage.

Slightly off-target on the topic, but totally relevant. I recently read through a white-paper on the methods used by various people based on the generation. Baby boomers prefer face-to-face, phone, or paper. Many struggle with using apps. Gen Xers prefer phone, email or desktop apps. They find texting intrusive, unless they are from family. Millennials think phone calls are intrusive. Texts and social media is fine/normal, but hate depersonalized messages. They accept apps and mobile sites with ease. Gen Z (Zoomers) avoid phone calls and will ignore most of them. Texting directly is weird. They prefer social media, and expect apps with direct messaging to their apps. Couple this with RM's changes and you get a nice overview of how to reach your target market.

It's all about the communication. The conversations aren't "easy". But they don't have to be "difficult" either. It comes down to being honest with yourself and with them about what 'services' fit into each box. Example: if he gives you a call and say you feel like going to see a movie. You go to dinner and a movie and even hang out later. That's friendship. However, If you end up swapping blow jobs, that's not friendship. Or maybe, blow jobs are fine, but it depends on whether it is during his normal work hours, or on afternoons when he isn't working. Or, it depends on who initiates. Or, who gets to top who. Whatever the definition is for you and him, as long as you both (1) respect and (2) keep communicating, then it can work. I always feel that this is true regardless of what type of relationship you have with a person. I even hold that true for colleagues/subordinates/bosses at work who become outside of work friends.

So, I'll speak in the minority (maybe). You are giving your power away. You are turning yourself into a victim and you should take a breath for a moment. Regardless of the fact that we don't have all the details, that's not important. We aren't involved and can only respond to the details you've shared. We are neither judge nor jury. My opinion is only based on your current information. You need to accept that you are giving him your power. Sorry. And I know it is scary. It is probably because you are 'embarrassed', 'ashamed', 'afraid', <fill-in-the-blank> of him revealing or outing you. This is really about him stalking you and taking advantage of your giving him your voice and power. That doesn't mean ignore it and hope it goes away. You do need to take your power back. Three possible suggestions: Suggestion 1: Tell him you owe him nothing and that if he continues to harass you, you will go to authorities. You consider his behavior bullying, abusive, and harassment, and unacceptable. You are ceasing all communication and further attempts by him will result in you going to the police. Suggestion 2: Stop ALL communication. If he calls, hang-up without saying anything. If he texts, block the texts. However he communicates, do NOT respond. You're reaction is a lever for him to control you. If you don't get riled, then he has no control. Suggestion 3: Go ahead and report it to the authorities. Talk to an attorney and listen to their advice. You do not have to lie about it. You don't have to obfuscate. If need be, tell them the truth. The issue here is about escalating behavior and stalking. Just my tuppence. Just for the record, I am not a lawyer, nor do I play one on TV.

I can definitely recommend. He is a definite yes!

Stay strong. Clear boundaries and limits. Communication, communication, and communication. If he can't, then no massage is worth the psychologist visit

It isn't just a fantasy, but it takes a heightened maturity to have that level of communication. Most people rarely communicate that clearly, hence blurry lines. I have seen it work once. But the dos, and don't, were tough conversations. In the end it worked for about 5 years, until thr jealousy crept in. 😞 they made a cute couple

There is a lot of discussion about clients confusing the boundaries and turning a paid-for experience into something more. I think you have the opposite issue. The provider is blurring the lines. It sounds like he might genuinely enjoy your experiences, but still wants to have his time paid for. That's creating a lack of clarity. You might want to decide for yourself if you want to explore a relationship or just keep it professional. Once you decide for yourself, you need to have an clear communication with him so that there is no mix up. One thing you shouldn't do, is allow the dysfunctional aspect to continue. You are already starting to feel awkward (or you wouldn't be asking). By the way, there is nothing wrong with having a for-pay fuck buddy that is really turned on by you.

As with all marketing and branding, it is in the messaging. Someone here or on RM can certainly add to their listed links an icon link for their websites.. where it gets gawdy or detracts from the shoppers intent is where, I think, it goes wrong. When the verbiage directs you to a pay wall site for info...red flag. RM is where shoppers go for live interaction, so directing their attention elsewhere is the disconnect. Directing someone to a scheduling or information site, is good even it shows links for OF. For me, I might prefer for you to show it to me while we are together, before we slept together. Hehe

Now wondering if Simon has a OF page. Nah.. don't care... I'll wait for the real thing.

I've had the same initial reaction. And recently had a last minute change of plans. The provider asked to push it back a couple of hours. The difference for me was he was willing to meet the original time and asked a favor after explaining his reason. In return, I offered a different day/time or the original. He agreed to the alternative and thanked me. The encounter with him on the new appointment was FANTASTIC. We were communicating and had developed a rapport. That made all the difference.

The lack of a face pic is always a non-starter for me. I can get a faceless encounter if I want. Since people always try to show themselves in the best possible way, if they hide something... well... there is a reason.