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I'm sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately, in this hobby there are creeps, scammers and cons on both sides of the exchange, comes with the territory I guess. The topic of prepayment or deposits to providers has been extensively chewed over on this forum. You're new here (welcome!). I suggest searching and reading some of the many many threads on the topic. The takeaway, I think, is that in the M4M world of hiring, many prospective clients consider a request for prepayment a major red flag and won't do it. Requiring payment upfront may significantly impact your business.

Curious if the Twitter you are following is "eddiepatrickxxx" or some other variant. That Twitter is linked on his Insta and has a blue check indicating he pays to verify the account. However anybody can use a different variant of his name to spoof him.

A wrinkle in the "suggested gratuity" calculations is that sometimes they are done on the cost of food and drinks PLUS tax. In NYC, restaurant tax is 8.875%, a significant addition to the check. Including that amount in the tip calculation, whether you do it yourself or use the "suggestion" significantly bumps up the tip.

Along this theme, Jason Collins has an extensive list of "Porn Star Confessions" on his YouTube channel. I've listened to some (not much reason to actually watch the split screen video) and found them interesting for the "real world" glimpses of the lives of pornies. Caveats, I never heard of a lot of his guests, naturally, he's not IMO a great interviewer, mostly letting guests just ramble freely, and the format often runs to 1+ hrs, waaaay too much of some folks who are just not that interesting. Also, some of his guests are engaged and articulate, some are ... not. All that said, I've picked through for the "stars" I know and enjoy, and have found the discussion enlightening. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLEeFrGuqyLL3uDWKEpmOYMOE2JuY3ECzi

I think paying *and tipping* in advance may be muddying the waters here. I always pay after, with the base rate already in an envelope. As appropriate, I then add twenties from my wallet before handing it over. It's then clear to the provider what's what. In your case, I would remind the provider about my boundaries before each session, but not pay him until after, making clear the tip is for a job well done as requested.

I've used a CPAP for several years, took to it right away and don't like sleeping without it. I take that as an indication my body likes it, too. Important to realize there are many different options for masks, and a new patient should insist that the doctor/equipment supplier make changes as necessary until the right mask is found. I'm currently using the ResMed Airfit N20, which is a nasal mask with pretty substantial headgear, but because I toss a lot it keeps the mask on securely. But that's me. Bonus for folks with sleep partners, a properly functioning CPAP should greatly cut down on snoring and other night noises.

SA, I know you mean well, but you are making assumptions that probably don't hold up for many of the guys who work in "spas." First, that they have a space to host clients in NYC, much less in Manhattan. Second, running an online ad requires a credit card or bank account to pay the fee. It's not likely that many of these guys have such a thing. Finally, as has been discussed here many times, some guys may need to stay "under the radar" for immigration reasons, or worse, are beholden to a "handler" of some kind who holds their passport and calls the shots. Going freelance would be a big step for someone who perhaps is not fluent in English, or confident in being able to negotiate terms with a client. The spas have the space and a more-or-less reliable flow of customers. Yes, the money sucks for them, but it realistically may be the only viable option for many who work in them.

I saw a provider recently who booked his space in NYC with Sonder. Like airbnb but they control the properties they rent. Was positive about the experience and said it wasn't too expensive. Not sure what that meant to him, but you could check it out. https://www.sonder.com/

https://www.nycpride.org/ March steps off at 23rd & 5th, heading south, turns west on 9th St. to Christopher, then proceeds on Christopher to about Hudson, where it disperses. Haven't been in several years, but experience has shown your best viewing is in the teens on Fifth, where there is space and the crowds are thinner. Avoid the Village unless you really like insane mob scenes.

I downloaded it from the Edge addin store, so it passed MS's screening

Thanks, Shaitanlblis. Will check it out. For myself, I've become far less "acquisitive" about content and really don't download much any more. My collecting days date to the era of individual subscription sites. The tsunami of providers and content on the fans platforms make saving any of it kind of silly. I spend much more time deleting what I have than adding to the collection. But that's just me, appreciate the tip!

Did you find him at all difficult to book? As with other prodigiously productive content creators, one wonders WHEN he has the time and energy for meetups. Then again, a 3-hr. session is probably a big, and very profitable, incentive for anybody.

That's very interesting, thank you. Will monitor progress ...

Anyone with experience getting PrEP meds on Medicare free or cheap? It has always been free for me on my group health insurance, as it is for many commercial insurance plans. The meds are "covered" on Med D and Advantage plans (I think by law), but still entail hundreds a month in copays in every plan I've looked at. All the copay refund programs etc. specifically exclude Medicare recipients. So what's an old slut to do? The cheapest I've found, bypassing insurance altogether, is Mark Cuban's Cost Plus Drugs site, which offers generic Truvada for $16.10/month, $38.30/90 days. That is of course quite affordable, but I wonder if any fellow horny old coots has a better solution.

I don't think that kind of nasty comment directed to a provider is necessary or appropriate in this forum.

As is often discussed, "sensual" and "erotic" are vague terms that can mean many different things in practice. An advertiser might change his ad for lots of reasons, including managing expectations of prospective clients. However, if you're an experienced client with a provider, and the service provided has changed, why not simply ask? It seems a case where actual communication would be better than assuming or making up stories about what has happened, there could be erroneous assumptions on both sides. An honest exchange might either improve your relationship with the provider, or allow you decide not to come back to him.

I've had one (and only one) masseur begin with me on my back, working from top and bottom to center and the happy ending in the first part of the massage. Then with that great relaxation in effect, over and onto the back etc. Although very unusual, it makes sense in that the effect is to produce an almost coma-like state.

Not scientific, but my impression is that circ is rare in Asian cultures, except for Muslim groups. Asian body types often have short foreskins, you rarely see the long, overhanging skins of some men from other cultures (African, Latin, European, etc.), so it's often not particularly apparent.

Seems to be pretty clear, what is the question?

To echo BN above, the reason for the age limit associated with the vax is the assumption that any sexually active person of an age (and we know that SOME of us have bodycounts in the thousands!) will already have been exposed to the virus in some of its many forms. The original impetus was to vax teenagers before they become sexually active, although that age consideration has been revised upward. You might begin by asking your doctor for an antibodies test to see if you're already positive. I believe that if so, they will also analyze what strains of the virus you carry, only a few are problematic. Better yet, take up the whole matter with a clinician informed of men's STIs and whether the vax might be useful for you.

That's his porn site, try allensi.com for more info about his services. He has always presented as an escort, masseur and sacred intimate. I have seen him many times for massage and he's quite good at it. Before each massage he asks if you want anal touch (clear and above-board). If yes, at that point in the massage he dons a latex glove and uses actual lube for that part, which I really appreciate because it puts the client in charge of his own experience, and maximizes comfort and hygiene. Again, he's really good at it, but it wouldn't entail anything else except by advance arrangement for a "play date."

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Congratulations of your evolving sense of self and your sexuality. Enjoy the ride. LOL There's some great advice offered on this thread, especially around focusing your specific needs, and your own health and safety. I'd add a caution not to load too many expectations on any single encounter. Enjoying sex with male partners is a skill you need to learn, just as you had to learn to be with women. It doesn't come fully formed, and no encounter, paid or otherwise, is going to fulfill all your fantasies. Arrange a meet, see it through, and learn what worked and didn't. As the cliche goes, it a journey, not a destination.

Pasta Grannies Elderly homecooks in Italy, usually preparing homemade pasta dishes. A lifetime of skill and experience in those hands. Chinese Cooking Demystified Steph+Chris, he's American, she's Chinese, both are adorable. Currently based in Thailand, deep dive into the hows why and wheres of Chinese regional cooking. Souped Up Recipes Simplified Chinese home cooking for the western kitchen Pailins Kitchen Pailin Chongchitnant, beautiful and charming, demos authentic Thai home cooking Not Another Cooking Show Stephen Cusato, bro-ish scion of a cooking family, wonky deconstructions of complicated cooking Orsara Recipes Pasquale Sciarappa, retired Italian chef from old country. Demos straightforward and simple Italian home cooking from NJ My Name Is Andong Arseny Knaifel, adorable Russian-Jewish-German cub based in Berlin does deep dives into world dishes that interest him. Not as active on YT as he used to be, but there's a lot of back content there. I'll stop now.

That is true. Not necessarily for injectables, perhaps. However, I think for men "aroused" is a continuum, not an absolute state. A guy may not be sexually into his partner, but still can be stimulated, especially if he's in the right head space and has a talent for performance. Vitamin V can help that along.