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Was just there as a client with a new provider last week, on the 5th floor I believe. The space was small but functional (difficult for the provider to freely move around the table). The air was strongly scented with citrus, not objectionable per se, but the intensity was a bit much. It's a "legit" space where providers and clients are mostly women, which I don't really care about but I did get some looks. My provider was VERY chatty for 90 mins., and didn't do much to moderate his voice, or his very sexual patter. That's a topic for a different post, but when I left the room, three women were standing right. there. at a computer station. I'm pretty sure the soundtrack of my session was widely overheard. Again, I didn't so much care, if anything that's a problem for the provider, but those more concerned with discretion might be put off. As with many others, this provider is a refugee from the 14th St spaces, and I'm afraid the atmosphere there has spoiled us for very different facilities in the city.

I dunno, as a client with a new guy I usually provide basic stats (height, weight, body type) and a headshot, usually after the appointment is made. I do this because if roles were reversed, I think I'd want some idea of who was showing up at my door. And as @DWnyc indicates above, if anything about me makes a provider not want to see me, I'd rather save the fee to spend elsewhere. (I hasten to add that my perspective is from a position of privilege. Nobody is going to reject me because my ancestry is mostly Irish. Men of color, with disabilities or other special considerations have a completely different experience of bias, and I acknowledge that.) I absolutely don't expect comments or compliments on my appearance, that's not why I send it. However, I take the comments from providers above to heart, and may have to rethink my policy if it comes off creepy or needy on my part.

No specific recs, but I think if you filter the sites by age, say 40 or 45+, and select and communicate carefully, you'll get guys who are experienced in that kind of role. Based in SF and AFAIK no current plans to be in NYC, you might want to watch for a visit by AllenSI: Sacred Intimate WWW.ALLENSI.COM Allen S.I. Sacred Intimate one of the original "daddy" stars of the silver screen, he still sees clients and is a wonderful man to spend time with.

No means no. I'm not inclined to be confrontational IRL, but have never had a problem pushing back as firmly as necessary in a sexual situation when unwanted advances weren't satisfied with a polite decline. One thing about bath houses, and to an extent any kind of group sex event, is that people are not always on good behavior. When everybody ELSE seems to be having sex, the little head starts to overrule the big head, and often alcohol or drugs are in the mix, clouding judgement.

Why would I care? I show up on time, clean, respectful and sober. Pay as agreed, tip if warranted. That makes me a 10 in this world, regardless of how the provider plays off the clock.

Hi nbtuc, welcome to the forum! Just a note, if your plan is to top your provider, you're looking for an escort session, not a massage. Many providers, including the fine suggestions FrankR makes above, offer both services, but at different price points. Clear communication on both sides when booking is important.

Right or wrong, to me in this context PNP means meth meth and only meth. Other "party drugs" (of which I admittedly have no first-hand experience) don't provide the quick, intense, sex-enhancing high of methamphetamine. Meth addiction is a major scourge among gay men, and its use is largely tied to sex. Recovering addicts often say they cannot experience sex sober like it was when they were using, and have to learn all over again how to enjoy sex without the high. It's hardly surprising to see it featured one way or another among providers and on the hookup apps. That is NOT to assume that any provider advertising PNP is an addict or otherwise deeply involved with the drug. Doubtless there are clients who wish to use during sessions and want a provider who is cool with that, but it does indicate that the conversation is open to whether and how meth might factor into any encounter. For me, it's absolutely a big old red flag.

Our boy is REALLY talented! Public servant indeed!!

If anyone here is morbidly curious, and I trust you are, his Twitter and OF name is ctrlzalt. They are both still online.

Curious, how do providers respond to such a request?

No I was not told that. My history of smallpox vax was never part of the process, including intake information.

Anybody been there recently? Was very much a regular in the now distant past, far less so in recent years and not at all since lock-down. Traffic had pretty much dwindled to a why-bother level by 2020 and my visits were down to a few per year. However time has passed and the sister site across town is permanently closed. It's a relic of a past era for sure, but it was MY era. Any posters been recently? How was?

I think a LOT of sex practices have become more visible in the age of ubiquitous electronic porn. Various BDSM expressions, WS, pit-sniffing, rimming, erotic spitting, group action, cum-swapping, even fucking were not that evident in porn produced in, say, the 60s and 70s. The list goes on. That has to drive the "popularity" among consumers, although as always, porn and real life are 2 very different things. I rimmed my way through the 70s, 80s, 90s, and aughts, but it was way more "niche" then than it is now.

So I saw my cardio and sang the statin blues (again). She increased my Vascepa and was fine with reducing my atorvastatin by half (to 5mg) as an experiment. (She also suggested a 6-8 week "statin holiday" to see if that helps, something I may do this summer.) In the six weeks since on the new regimen, 2 things have happened. I feel a lot better. Surprising because my perception of the lower body weakness and stiffness I have experienced is that it's been coming on slowly over 20 years of statin therapy. I assumed improvement, if any, would be similarly slow. The second, even more surprising, is that I just had blood work and everything is entirely in range, no bump in my Total or LDL at all. 5mg (or less) may be all I need going forward. These things may change, but I think the takeaway is to work with your provider(s) if you're unhappy with any meds. We all take "maintenance" meds that docs just renew over and over, without much consideration unless the patient brings up a specific problem. Many of us may take things we don't actually need, or MORE medication than is really necessary.

For me, sexual compulsion is tied to generalized anxiety. I use sex to distract and calm my constant anxious feelings. Therapy, "personal work," medication, and frankly, aging, has made my impulses more manageable. But that's me. I echo those above who suggest seeing a therapist (or therapists, finding the right one can itself be a challenge). You need to unpack what sex is doing for you now, how you want to integrate it into a better life, and how to get from A to B.

Jizzone has been doing it for years, first on Xtube, now on JFF. The subscription is pricey, and I think it's mostly older content, but there are 130+ vids. https://justfor.fans/JIZZONE

Every listing I've seen on RentMen has included "Boyfriend Experience" under "Rentmen Services." What that MEANS may vary with the provider (and the client), but the catchphrase is very frequently used.

I've only occasionally gone for a 1-mo to check out the dicks. Those days are over, in part because lots of providers include full frontals in their "free" offerings, the upgrade doesn't get much and no way I'm paying $20. I wonder if that policy is about to change, ie no explicit pix in ads except for the "private." Clear opportunity for GayRomeo to take over the North American market.

It sounds like your happy find "disappeared" in the legal/immigration sense. Not surprising that the facility claimed they "never heard of him."

Top, bottom, whatever we'd work it out. I want a meetup with BN to explore those legendary pits of his ...

Agree it would be nice to hear from Seaboy here again

Love it the few times it has happened, but certainly don't expect it and wouldn't ask for it. Def the masseurs call.

Word comes that the massage space being discussed above was badly damaged by fire yesterday. More here ... https://www.gofundme.com/f/healing-wellness-studio-destroyed-by-fire?member=25091319&utm_campaign=p_cp+share-sheet&utm_content=undefined&utm_medium=copy_link_all&utm_source=customer&utm_term=undefined

And to answer your actual question, as a patient they were interchangeable. I have no problem or side-effects with either. As SpaDude2 says, the Truvada pill is quite large, which might be a consideration if you have problems swallowing pills.

They are both fixed-dose combinations of 2 antiviral drugs emtricitabine and tenofovir (200/300mg for Truvada, 200/25mg for Descovy). Brand names of both are manufactured by Gilead, Truvada is available as a generic. Gilead started pushing Descovy as Truvada was going off-patent as a marketing ploy. My doctor prefers Descovy for PrEP because, in layman's terms, it's "less medicine." Taken properly, they are both equally effective at preventing HIV infection. What's best for you may come down to cost, some insurance or public programs cover only the older generic Truvada for cost reason. My employer-sponsored health insurance covers both at no out of pocket cost to me. As always, ask your doctor.