robear

What might one consider the "ultimate extra" in context of a massage?

I get the appeal, but as always, follow your instincts.

No way!! I admit I'm a skin freak -- and that the mild scent of a *clean* uncut cock is a major turnon. But everything I've ever heard about adult circumcision, even when done out of medical necessity, says avoid avoid avoid. Do you really want to spend 6 mos. of your life with a painful dick, not to mention the ugly fresh scar? I say keep the skin, lose the urologist.

Purely speculation here -- we can only know the real situation from the man himself. However, the prospect of functioning in social environment might have been intimidating to him. We know that escorts are rarely called upon to actually, well, escort someone, and doing so calls on an entirely different skill set. The fact that he didn't even own appropriate clothing for the occasion tells you right there that this isn't something he's prepared to do. Experienced pros often specifically mention wardrobe in their ads. That said, he was of course wrong to ghost you, when he should have simply declined the date with sufficient time for you to rebook. I think if I were doing something like this, I'd be sure to hire someone I had already seen in person and knew well enough to know he was right for the role.

Bryan Knight

If somebody wants to get their jollies watching ME have a massage ... god bless!!

Not sure you need to go into "the business," but I don't think it's that unusual for people with extremely specific kinks to offer to pay someone to help them find satisfaction, indeed the payment may itself be a part of the kink. If you're inclined, I say do it, remembering (as should all providers) that you're there for his experience, not your own. If his gift of $$ bothers you, pass it on to Planned Parenthood or some other worthy recipient.

My quarterly PrEP visit with my doctor always includes a full metabolic panel to screen for any kidney issues. I believe this is a standard part of the protocol. I also take daily meloxicam (a long-lasting prescription NSAID). If either or both together impact my renal function, it would show in the blood test.

Have you expressed your dissatisfaction clearly and directly to your therapist? From my own experiences with therapy, I know that one gets into a routine over time, every session following the same contours. A refocusing of the work with your therapist may be in order: "I'm dissatisfied with my life right now. Please help me make changes to improve that."

This is a great thread! I believe people have different needs around types of relationships, and that variance is a natural expression of personality. Some people MUST be in a committed relationship, it's their highest priority, and hence they will make many sacrifices and compromises to that end. Others (perhaps most) prefer a coupled life, but not at the expense of their own independence and individuality. We are probably conditioned to believe this is the ideal for ALL people, but I don't think that's true. Still others (and I'm probably in this group) prefer a connected but often solitary life, and are not drawn to the idea of having an "other" as part of their day-to-day existence. I don't long for a committed boyfriend, in fact the very idea makes me feel claustrophobic. And that's OK, it's who I am and doesn't need to be fixed.

Paddles I know but what is Rainbow?

On RentMasseur advertisers are notified of unlocks even if do not track is selected. RentMen (and other sites) may work differently.

I think it's a mistake to equate a premium member unlock on RentMasseur with interest to hire. I occasionally pay the $10 for a month of premium, and it's for purely voyeuristic reasons. I unlock lots of profiles with no intention of hiring. It's what RM "sells" on the client side. It's unfortunate that RM notifies the advertiser, implying interest that usually isn't actually there. That's what RM "sells" on the provider side. Actual interest to hire I express via text or email to the provider. And I completely get that there are wankers out there that get off on engaging providers in extended, detailed exchanges with no intention to hire. That's unfortunate but I'm afraid it comes with the territory.

I go to Living Fresh. If Fan is available, she does a great job. They have the full setup, massage chairs and all. Bonus is you get to watch the masseurs and clients going to and from their sessions.

I get your frustration, @MidwestMarc, but you might consider editing your profile to eliminate the mention of massage. I read profiles as a menu of possibilities, but also a reflection of the provider's intentions. There are a number of actual masseurs who advertise on rent.men, and offer an erotic massage session as an option. OTOH, there are many "masseurs" on masseurfinder, rentmasseur, etc. who have very limited massage skills, but provide more freeform encounters.

Or, BnaC, people WANT to fuck Democrats, Republicans not so much

This post reminded me of my distant youth in the 70s. At that (very different) time "street cruising" was common, especially for horny 20-somethings. If the attraction was mutual we negotiated a quick tryst at an agreed upon location. I agree though that in the age of Grindr I would find it ... odd ... also. Although I do still occasionally enjoy a sly smile, wink or other sort of "I see you" from another gay/bi man.

I just recently discovered the joy of the pedicure. Much better job than I can do myself. I throw in a manicure just because, it's now a recurring appointment on my calendar.

I'm on the client's side here. I believe most clients make an appointment upfront for a specific time and fee. If that is to increase, there must be a further agreement before the extension happens. While a client should be mindful of time, the onus is on the provider to attend to his services and he REALLY shouldn't assume the client will pay extra if he just dawdles. As in this review, I rarely carry much more cash than covers the fee and possibly tip money. The scenario of a provider demanding he accompany a client to an ATM to withdraw cash is frightening, and certainly reflects badly on the provider (whom I note doesn't dispute the client's description of the event).

A similar commercial site for those interested is http://www.jockpussy.com. I think the spectrum of trans experience, and how it fits into the "mainstream," is very much evolving. It's more and more common to see young transmen posting on hookup apps, and FTM escorts advertising.

All this calculation is omitting an important additional variable: if your partner is HIV+, being effectively treated and has an undetectable viral load, he is not infectious. https://www.healthline.com/health-news/cdc-person-with-undetectable-hiv-cannot-transmit-virus Of course, in many scenarios it's impossible to know for certain a partner's status, so there's that, but any hypothetical risk assessment must take this into account.

He was a regular tweeter for a while, his humor is odd and may not translate well as text-on-screen. In any case, I think he did announced that he would no longer be tweeting.

The second time I saw a very popular masseur years ago, who can be ... moody ... he dove into my ass tongue-first 2 mins into the massage, much to my surprise. No complaints, and it never happened again with him, although he does always remember that I prefer to end things with his famous, furry butt planted on my face.

You can contact via his website. I'm sure it won't be the first time he's been asked.

I wasn't there and I don't know the people involved, but as reported this just screams "nuisance lawsuit."