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It was (closet case) Ed Koch, long before Giuliani, whose admin closed the baths in NYC in 1985. Admittedly a confused time, the city was under pressure to "do something" about AIDS. Making a show of closing sex venues at least didn't cost anything. Giuliani's contribution along these lines was to declare porn shops illegal, requiring businesses selling erotic material of any kind to dedicate a percentage of their floor space to non-erotic wares. This nonsense continues today (although even the concept of "porn shop" is pretty much on the way out).

Interesting, but by now I think the concept of "gay bath house" has gone the way of flared pants and polyester prints, along with many brick and mortar gathering spots. Yes, I know some old places still hang on (at least pre-COVID, I expect there will be a shake-out when restrictions lift). It's hard to imagine, though, anyone trying to develop a new facility along these lines as a viable business.

There are providers listed online at the Gay & Lesbian Medical Association http://www.glma.org/ and the LGBT Center https://www.sfcenter.org/resources/ and others, as @honcho has mentioned above. My sense is, though, these online listing are kind of old school, most professionals in and adjacent to the LGBT community don't bother with them. If I were doing the search, I would start with the PCPs available through my plan, narrow it down to a geographic area convenient to me, and then check out the individual candidates online. Almost everybody has some kind of online bio these days, and LGBT friendly physicians usually indicate as much on their bios. LGBT Medicine, HIV Management, Trans Medicine, etc. are all good indicators that the physician treats a number of LGBT patients. My own physician in NYC says he is a "proud member of the LGBT community" in his bio. You can even get a little stalkerish and google the candidate's name, which often brings up wedding announcements, social activities, etc. etc. I know what you're really looking for is a direct, personal recommendation, and hopefully someone here will be able to respond in that way. Meanwhile I hope the above is helpful.

Has anyone shown that COVID can be transmitted via urine? It's broadly regarded as a respiratory infection (with circulatory complications), and urine is generally sterile. Feces is way more complicated in that regard, but again, I'm not aware of evidence of COVID being spread via fecal contamination.

Pro tip: when he pushes in, you "push out" a bit. If you clamp down (contract) it will be painful. OTOH, once he's in there the prostate itself should not be painful. It may feel "weird" or "full," but actual pain may be due to whatever ails you, not a healthy response.

To answer your questions: they can be, sometimes, yes. Bodywork, whether erotic, therapeutic or something inbetween, is by nature a very intimate interaction between two (or more) people. Providers take different approaches, and have different goals for their services. Some style themselves as "sacred intimates" or similar, taking a more holistic view of the interaction than just physical manipulation. It's your massage. Though you described the provider's questions as "non-intrusive," their approach seems to have bothered you a bit. If you see them again, use your words to (kindly, gently) suggest that you're only interested in the physical experience. Frankly, the provider sounds like a keeper to me.

For private meets, tipping is truly optional, unlike a spa setting where a substantial tip is more or less expected. If I'm pleased with the service, I like to add a bit to the provider's fee as a sign of appreciation. I usually have the fee in an envelope and make a show of adding a 20 or 2 to the envelope before handing it over. I think it shows satisfaction and builds goodwill if the provider is someone I will see again.

Not a plug, but if you're a fan of big beefy guys, The Guy Site does have a history of featuring amazing models, most of whom don't appear anywhere else, either in porn or on hiring sites. Don't know how he does it. In the past year or so, he has more and more of the models interacting sexually, too. I don't know how the guys "identify," but the producer clearly makes it worth their while to "play gay" for video.

In the internet age, fact is that if you've done commercial porn, future employers, clients etc. are likely to know about it. Or discover it. That's a given, and I think it serves anyone to be upfront about it, so there is no discovery to be made. In the scenario of a gay/bi/etc male client and male therapist, as mentioned above, it really depends on the work the client seeks and whether he feels that a sexualized view of the therapist would interfere in that work. ('Cause you KNOW he's gonna find that porn.) I saw a therapist for several years who in the course of our sessions shared a bit of his own experience with casual sex, bathhouses and all that. It was relevant to the conversation. If that had extended to my seeing video of his behavior, I don't think it would bother me or change our relationship. But that was him and me and the specific work we were doing.

It may not be just the $3 if you use a credit card. Seems to me a way to harvest cc numbers for resale. Avoid avoid.

It's been discussed in other threads, but this might be a good place to mention the book Every Grain of Sand, a memoir by @David-SF. I was unexpectedly moved by his tale of redemption from a host of personal demons through his discovery of a gift for connecting with men as a provider exactly where they were, and bringing light to their lives, if only for a limited time. Highly recommended if you haven't read it.

I'm sure porn producers all have their own ways of working and recruiting models. In the case of Jake Cruise, his oeuvre features many prime models, including escorts, bodybuilders and pornstars who otherwise didn't do this type of video. I have to think it was well worth it to them. Cruise clearly knows how to recruit and negotiate the talent that he wants. I recently went down a rabbit hole with model Mike Roberts, uncut Southern California boy who worked for a number of producers, starting I think with The Body Shoppe's "Uncle Don." His appearances were always trade, no kissing, no sucking, always top, never really interacting with his fellow players. He bottomed for Jake Cruise. What do you supposed THAT cost?

Jeremy's appeal in straight porn was that he embodied a kind of everyman. Straight men watching him would only be projecting themselves: if HE can get all these beautiful women, there's hope for me. As he got older, fatter and balder, so did the men watching.

Give, definitely! But I do need reciprocity of some kind, I'm not into guys who just lay there, because they're "straight" or whatever. I know some guys appreciate that but not moi.

Hey Danny, locating in Bushwick will def discourage bookings. Not only is it *Brooklyn*, but is principally served by the J, M, Z and L trains (depending on exactly where you are), not the main trunk lines. In other words, a real schlep involving a change of trains for anyone coming from Manhattan. And of course that doesn't factor in how many potential clients will be hiring at all this summer because of COVID concerns. Remember it was/is a major disaster in NYC and people are generally very cautious. If you have other reasons to want to hang in the city, great, but I'd advise against counting on a steady stream of clients during your time here.

Haven't seen you post in a while FF, happy to see you here.

Curious if anyone can link to, or even knows anecdotally, of an instance where mixing vasodilators (such as Viagra) and poppers resulted in a medical crisis. The warning has always been there, but I've never heard of it actually happening IRL, and it always seems to be rather hypothetical. But just because I've never heard of it doesn't mean it doesn't happen, hence my question.

I've been on Truvada since it was approved for PrEP. My PCP has discussed switching to Descovy, but here's the thing. Truvada goes generic in Sept of this year. I am almost certain my insurance will ONLY cover the generic when it's available, so I think Descovy would be at best a short-term switch, and have opted to stay with Truvada. Then again, it feels like I haven't had sex with another human since the Clinton Administration, so the whole thing is an academic exercise anyway. BTW both Truvada and Descovy are marketed by Gilead Pharmaceuticals. The "superior" Descovy option was only brought to market when patent on Truvada was soon to expire. I'm not a fan of Big Pharma conspiracy theories, but the cynical way in which this prevention strategy has been manipulated for $$$ is really astounding.

I'm contacting some of my faves to offer to prepay a session to be scheduled at a happier time in the future. I know these guys are good for it, and suspect they could use a little cash flow at the moment.

I think these "public nuisance" prosecutions are always targeted for a reason having to do with money and influence. (I know, conspiracy theories ...) If the place was in the crosshairs, for whatever reason, it wouldn't take long for an undercover to induce some kid just trying to make $20 to do something "inappropriate" -- or not and say he did. Meanwhile, The Blue Store and similar businesses right up the block go their merry ways, selling ... what, exactly? DVDs?

2%, with any kind of cut-up fruit, nuts and a sprinkle of dried fruit. Better than ice cream. Sorry not sorry.

Meth in particular produces a distinct "chemical" body odor in the user. You'd know it if you encountered it. Never noticed it in a hire. (My hires are VERY selective.) I have, however, encountered it in group play situations.

I vaguely recall (and I may have this wrong) that he said he was in school and was going to focus on that and retire from erotic work. That was maybe a year ago, and might have been posted to his onlyfans. In any case, I think it was an "onward and upward" situation, not anything negative.

The really appalling part of that is the 1998-style do-it-yourself webpage

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