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That love is gonna cost ya...

How do you remember someone who has affected so many people in so many ways over so many years? Is it by seeing the ways in which his guidance and support of people he knew through this site's predecessor reflected that influence to others? Is it from a feeling of kinship among people who were once strangers and who have become members of a community?
For me, he was, at one time or another, a friend, a fellow programmer, a business partner, a housemate, an adversary, and a fellow traveller on a spiritual journey. He made no secret of who he really was to those he trusted. His flamboyance was epic, just ask anyone who saw him traipsing around Microsoft. But that was just the public version of him. He turned it up to 11 when in character as his clown or drag personnae. You should have seen him in that custom robe with flames.

I never met Daddy in person. But my online interactions were always very friendly. He also personally wrote me a note after the first time I supported the site. He always went above and beyond to support this community. We should all be grateful for his legacy.

In your own words, Daddy: Blessed Be~ 

I've planned to write this message for nearly a month and I've sat down to put my thoughts to "paper" more than a dozen times.  Each time that I've done so however...  I found what I wrote to be inadequate.  Nothing that I've been able to write has adequately reflected what I feel actually deserves to be said.  
So instead I’m just going to write for a few moments and say what I would if we were having lunch together.

I never had the opportunity to meet you previously.  Living on the east coast, I was never really out in your neck of the woods so we never had a chance to meet face to face.  However I've had an opportunity to watch you and your impact on the community as a whole.  
You were a mentor and a friend to hundreds upon hundreds of people.  And while you could have the temper of a devil at times, you was fiercely loyal and would do anything for those around you.  
I'll always remember the Grinch that would make it's appearance at Christmas...   

I'll also remember you telling me that I should not take this too seriously.  That I should instead just go with the flow and enjoy life.  
Over the last year, my level of respect for you has gone up dramatically.  I've had a chance to see first hand everything that you used to do on your own.  Doing it all myself would have been virtually impossible... without @Cooper and the rest of our moderating team, I would have most likely thrown in the towel long ago.  Your energy seemed to be endless, so it was especially hard for me to know we lost you to COVID.  I had always pictured you going on forever as you had always been larger than life to me.  
Daddy...  I hope that I've made you proud.  While I can certainly never be "you", I pray that you've been able to rest peacefully knowing the thing you worked so hard to support continues to live on.  
One day when it's my turn to leave this earth, I hope we can reminisce together and raise a glass to celebrate a legacy.  

@jeepo1
See the above posts. It was less than a year ago.
~Boomer~

I think this is the same guy as these two:
https://rentmasseur.com/BeautifulMarques#&ui-state=dialog
https://rent.men/Marquess
What do you all think?

I had a great session with Dolph recently. Yes he’s straight and has limits but he was cool with everything I wanted to do. Uber handsome and masculine and very muscular if that’s your thing. 

Well I completely understand his reaction to what you did.   You weren't helping his business at all.   Anyone that wanted to contact him could through Rentmen.    He never posted anything on his IG page about being available for what you're interested in.   Creeper in you're profile name is very appropriate for you.   Don't try and justify your actions.  What you did was wrong and deep down I think you know that.

Nice guy... but won't repeat.  His pictures were old... massage was weak... extra's - not worth it - and expensive on top of that... PM for details if you were thinking of hiring.

I know!  That was partly why I chose him. His reviews were terrific.  Like I said - very nice guy - but the pictures are definitely not "up to date" and the session was - just okay.  For the money - it wasn't great for me and wouldn't repeat.  But of course so much of this is selective.  

This thread attests to the potential emotional component of being with escorts. I was not prepared for the emotional connection I had with my first regular back in the early 2010s. I started patronizing him while he was working in a strip club. Whenever I would show up, other strippers would snidely ask, “Are you here to see your boyfriend?” I got the sense that they were all laughing at me behind my back, but I didn’t care. The connection we developed led him to disclose a lot of personal information to me. I got the sense that he didn’t have a lot of people in his life who would genuinely listen to him, and I didn’t have anyone who would engage in physical intimacy with me like he did.
Eventually, it became difficult for me to reconcile the intimacy we shared—an intimacy that I believe was genuine—with the transactional aspect of being with an escort. That has been an ongoing struggle for me.  Based on this thread, I’m guessing I’m not alone.
 

no one keeps videos?

My favorite retired several years ago to Arkansas to be with someone. I wish him all the best, but I wish I could see him again. I have a new favorite, but he doesn't come to town very often. I guess I need to get over my shyness and contact a couple of people closer to home to try them out.

Even though he stopped advertising 4 years ago, I continued to see a hot provider until very recently. I even had him up to my summer place last summer for a few days and we had a blast. He let me know that he’s no longer a provider. He feels that, at 32, maybe he’s better off focusing exclusively on his career as a color stylist. Although I’m happy for him, I’ll sure miss our torrid sessions.

Some real similarities...Lost my mom during COVID as well...she was all about gratitude. And got me writing to a number of people from the ancient and not so ancient past, just to say Thank you. Two of them were long-retired escort regulars, and I just said that I was thankful that they were part of my life. One wrote back and said he appreciated the message. Didn't open the door for more, so I dropped it, but felt good about my reaching out. 

I am so sorry about your parent and best friend.  A parent's death can hit people very hard.  Add to that the death of your best friend, which is rough no matter the circumstances.  As if that weren't enough, losing him (her?) to suicide, I can't even imagine.
I can understand the desire to revive a connection with a great escort, especially one who touched you in ways beyond the physical/sexual.  But unless he made it clear to you that he was still planning to see a few select clients, I wouldn't reach out to him, just as I wouldn't reach out to an escort whose ad says "not available," even if I were a regular, even if I had a great chemistry with the guy, only if the escort specifically told me to go ahead and call him despite the "not available" tag.  Gotta respect an escort's space.
That said, I hope you can find a way to get through the grief.  You can google the subject & figure out what works best for you.  One suggestion I can't imagine any of the search results include would be to have some fun looking for a new escort "find."  Plenty of fish in the sea, as is so often said on this forum.  Hopefully you have the time & budget plus live in or near a city with plenty of selection.  Lots of escorts pride themselves on their ability to connect with clients beyond the physical/sexual.  Il faut créer des liens, as a very wise little prince once said.  Connections with your family and friends will help, of course, but a great new escort could too.  Just my opinion.

Well  based on his Twitter account which is active and fairly recent he seems to be only posting on onlyfans so that might be a good way to connect with him 
His Twitter link is at the bottom of his RM profile 

Same. Here I am with a regular provider. We’re both about 30.

Name change? https://rent.men/ToxicMasculinity

Did you sign up for a username back in the 1900’s and it’s feeling a bit dated?  Maybe you just realized you prefer being called something else entirely.  

If this sounds like you… I have good news!  You can now change your member name.
Head on over to your Account Settings and choose “Display Name”.  There you will be able to pick a new username to use on this site without needing to start over and lose your account history.
There are a couple of things to note with this:
You can only change your name once every 30 days.  (While I appreciate you might prefer a name-a-day, it’s hard for the rest of us to keep up with everything!) You can only pick usernames that are not already registered on the site.   Our community guidelines apply to names.  Changing your name to something that violates the rules will result in a warning being issued and an admin changing your name to something of our picking!  (Most likely back to whatever it was before, but I reserve the right to be bitter if necessary!) Once you change names, your current name is no longer saved. It can be registered by someone else.  Enjoy your new name!

When a guy hasn't arrived at the agreed-upon time and hasn't let me know he is running late, I usually text between 5 and 10 minutes after time and ask for his ETA. If no response, I'll reach out again at the 15-minute mark and ask if we are still on. Usually, I will have received a response. Although I might think it, I don't send texts like "If you don't reply in the next five minutes don't bother," mainly because something extraordinary could have occurred and I'd feel bad for being an ass. 

I’ll still take RM reviews with a grain of salt but think a paid membership may help weed out some of the fakes. 

I’ll still take RM reviews with a grain of salt but think a paid membership may help weed out some of the fakes.