starman05 Posted May 2, 2022 Share Posted May 2, 2022 I started a thread apparently a few years ago and now, it's been so long since it's been commented on, it's closed and so, I am starting this new one. I was all set to see a retiring guy a few years ago. Schedules go in the way and then COVID happened. Since then, I've lost two of the most important people in my life; a parent to COVID and a best friend to suicide. I want nothing more than to have one last night with this guy who was able to get inside my head and make me feel better. I swear it was just as much emotional and mental as it was physical. I've reached out to him recently to see if for one last time he'd be up for seeing me. Part of me was let it go. Don't risk ruining the fun times you've had before. He may not be in a place where he wants to see me (or anyone) ever again. I won't take it personally if I don't hear from him, but I will miss him. + augustus 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BSR Posted May 2, 2022 Share Posted May 2, 2022 30 minutes ago, starman05 said: I started a thread apparently a few years ago and now, it's been so long since it's been commented on, it's closed and so, I am starting this new one. I was all set to see a retiring guy a few years ago. Schedules go in the way and then COVID happened. Since then, I've lost two of the most important people in my life; a parent to COVID and a best friend to suicide. I want nothing more than to have one last night with this guy who was able to get inside my head and make me feel better. I swear it was just as much emotional and mental as it was physical. I've reached out to him recently to see if for one last time he'd be up for seeing me. Part of me was let it go. Don't risk ruining the fun times you've had before. He may not be in a place where he wants to see me (or anyone) ever again. I won't take it personally if I don't hear from him, but I will miss him. I am so sorry about your parent and best friend. A parent's death can hit people very hard. Add to that the death of your best friend, which is rough no matter the circumstances. As if that weren't enough, losing him (her?) to suicide, I can't even imagine. I can understand the desire to revive a connection with a great escort, especially one who touched you in ways beyond the physical/sexual. But unless he made it clear to you that he was still planning to see a few select clients, I wouldn't reach out to him, just as I wouldn't reach out to an escort whose ad says "not available," even if I were a regular, even if I had a great chemistry with the guy, only if the escort specifically told me to go ahead and call him despite the "not available" tag. Gotta respect an escort's space. That said, I hope you can find a way to get through the grief. You can google the subject & figure out what works best for you. One suggestion I can't imagine any of the search results include would be to have some fun looking for a new escort "find." Plenty of fish in the sea, as is so often said on this forum. Hopefully you have the time & budget plus live in or near a city with plenty of selection. Lots of escorts pride themselves on their ability to connect with clients beyond the physical/sexual. Il faut créer des liens, as a very wise little prince once said. Connections with your family and friends will help, of course, but a great new escort could too. Just my opinion. Kevin Slater, + Lucky, peter831 and 4 others 5 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skynyc Posted May 2, 2022 Share Posted May 2, 2022 Some real similarities...Lost my mom during COVID as well...she was all about gratitude. And got me writing to a number of people from the ancient and not so ancient past, just to say Thank you. Two of them were long-retired escort regulars, and I just said that I was thankful that they were part of my life. One wrote back and said he appreciated the message. Didn't open the door for more, so I dropped it, but felt good about my reaching out. + Lucky, + harey, + m_writer and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starman05 Posted May 2, 2022 Author Share Posted May 2, 2022 Good advice, guys. Thanks and thanks for the kind words. He had said we'd have one final farewell -- but then COVID 'got' (not 'go' as a I wrote above) in the way. The thing is he lived out of state for so long and now, he's back in the same city less than five miles away. I wrote that I'd understand if I didn't hear from him but I felt I had to take a chance. In any event, life can surprise you -- one way or another. COVID ain't over so I can see myself laying low for a while and hanging onto the memories. I will say I never felt safer and scared at the same time when I was with him. He knew my limits better than I did. He got inside my head and helped me in ways I didn't even know I needed helping. Better to have 'loved' and lost, as they say... Beancounter and CheckCar 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rod Hagen Posted May 2, 2022 Share Posted May 2, 2022 (edited) A couple years ago a friend reminisced to me about a great escort he knew in the valley who retired years ago. A couple days later I surprised my friend with that, long-retired, escort's email address, which I fished out from the hooboy site on internet archive. My friend reached out to him, and they had a very nice lunch. If you still have a former escort's contact info, reach out*, remind him who you are, ask how he's been, and invite him to coffee or lunch, no harm there. *versus emails, be especially discreet in texts. Edited May 2, 2022 by Rod Hagen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starman05 Posted May 2, 2022 Author Share Posted May 2, 2022 (edited) Thx Rod. I gave it a shot. Half of me was saying do it; other half was let it go. Now, I feel I’ve done both. I told him if the time had passed I’d understand and that I’d always have a special place for him. you never know. Either way, I’ve got great memories. ty! Edited May 2, 2022 by starman05 CheckCar and Rod Hagen 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starman05 Posted May 9, 2022 Author Share Posted May 9, 2022 Welp. I wish I could come back here and say, 'hey! he reached back out and we had one last get together and it was great and I have closure and can move on; hell, even if it'd been lunch or a drink.' Alas, not meant to be. Such is life. I'm on the fence about playing it safe due to covid and risking an unknown or rolling the dice and bringing a little joy into my life. Decisions, decisions... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheckCar Posted May 9, 2022 Share Posted May 9, 2022 37 minutes ago, starman05 said: Welp. I wish I could come back here and say, 'hey! he reached back out and we had one last get together and it was great and I have closure and can move on; hell, even if it'd been lunch or a drink.' Alas, not meant to be. Such is life. I'm on the fence about playing it safe due to covid and risking an unknown or rolling the dice and bringing a little joy into my life. Decisions, decisions... For whatever it’s worth, I started seeing guys again last summer and haven’t had any Covid complications. I’m double vaxxed and boosted, and the providers I’ve seen have also been vaxxed (well, at least that’s what they told me). Sticking with well-reviewed providers might increase the likelihood of a safe and satisfying encounter. I was super-scared of COVID, but I’m so glad I started seeing providers again—specifically one trusted regular and two well-reviewed newbies for me. starman05 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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