Lab12

I know this is a controversial topic, but how do you go about asking the rather unfortunate question 'are you okay with my race?'
 
Is it safe to assume that if an escort has not established any racial boundaries in their advertisement then it is unlikely that they will have a problem with a client's race?
 
I am asking because I have been in a very uncomfortable situation with regards to my race with an escort and I'd really love to avoid that unfortunate encounter.

I know that. But it's a change in perspective that any individual is capable of making. You change one mind and you've made some progress.

With the VIP they have two options $75 and $200 or $250 I am not quite sure. With the 75$ VIP you can make out with the stripper, according to the barman that i spoke to anything goes, apart from coitus and ejaculation. Obviously the stripper can get naked but you can't. With the $200 option, anything goes including coitus and you wish to achieve. If you have any more questions kindly let me know.

WOW. Thank you for this. I wish more folks had this perspective!

@bigvalboy thanks it is an ancient ceremonial gold mask of the Asante Kingdom, where my dad is originally from.

@bigvalboy thanks it is an ancient ceremonial gold mask of the Asante Kingdom, where my dad is originally from.

Take care of yourself first. Make sure that you minimize the possibilities of you having an awful experience, with a hooker, no less. Put it all out on the first email or phone call. Phone call would work better because you can hear an unrehearsed honest response. If you perceive any hesitations, chose someone else.
 
Life is too short for you to put your vulnerable and beautiful self in the hands of someone who might not handle it with the love and care it deserves.
 
And don't ask the general "Do you have any restrictions when it comes to ____?".
 
Directly, honestly state your stats. If you were 350 pounds don't write you are heavy boned, if you are of ay race, mention it, don't say you are mixed or something like that. The more info he gets and the more chances he gets to react to that, the more certain you'll be he might be a nice guy and will take good care of you if you meet.
 
"But shouldn't all escort be able to deal with....?"
 
Honestly, who cares! You come first. Take care of yourself. Only put yourself in hands of loving people. Learn to weed out the ones that aren't.
 
A lot of clients might try to convince you to force the escorts to accept you, to not disclose, equating disclosure with some kind of acceptance of shame. The argument has been made before that letting the escort know in advance is abusive to yourself, as if not confessing the fear will make you love yourself better. Don't let yourself be dragged into this conversation.
 
You come first. Put yourself only in situations in which you will have better chances of being treated lovingly.

I consider myself an attractive guy who hires. However, I also know that chemistry takes two for it to work. I always provide a succinct yet informative physical description of myself to my companion. I try to be as objective as I can about height, weight, etc. When it comes to race, I state that I'm Latino. I even tell the guy I'm uncut. I do all this for 2 reasons: I like for the escort to be as fully informed as possible so that he can opt in/out but also so that he can put himself in the frame of mind to make the best of our time together. The second reason is pride: by writing down or telling him my dimensions - height, weight, race, etc, I'm subsconsciously owning who I perceive myself to be physically. Not with the intent to box me in, but to be proud of my own packaging.

I know this is a controversial topic, but how do you go about asking the rather unfortunate question 'are you okay with my race?'
 
Is it safe to assume that if an escort has not established any racial boundaries in their advertisement then it is unlikely that they will have a problem with a client's race?
 
I am asking because I have been in a very uncomfortable situation with regards to my race with an escort and I'd really love to avoid that unfortunate encounter.

@bigvalboy thanks it is an ancient ceremonial gold mask of the Asante Kingdom, where my dad is originally from.

With the VIP they have two options $75 and $200 or $250 I am not quite sure. With the 75$ VIP you can make out with the stripper, according to the barman that i spoke to anything goes, apart from coitus and ejaculation. Obviously the stripper can get naked but you can't. With the $200 option, anything goes including coitus and you wish to achieve. If you have any more questions kindly let me know.

@bigvalboy thanks it is an ancient ceremonial gold mask of the Asante Kingdom, where my dad is originally from.

I know this is a controversial topic, but how do you go about asking the rather unfortunate question 'are you okay with my race?'
 
Is it safe to assume that if an escort has not established any racial boundaries in their advertisement then it is unlikely that they will have a problem with a client's race?
 
I am asking because I have been in a very uncomfortable situation with regards to my race with an escort and I'd really love to avoid that unfortunate encounter.

This...Racism is everywhere, it just is, that's a fact...SO
 
Always ask...NEVER assume, when it comes to issues of race, age or weight etc. Just because an ad doesn't mentions limitations or preferences, does not mean there aren't any. If it is an issue for you, it might be an issue for the escort, give the escort the opportunity to express limitations or preferences. I have in the past experienced numerous situations that became uncomfortable. All of which could have been avoided.
 
Now whether or not an escort should state limitations and or preferences in his ad upfront, is another whole argument.
 
p.s. I like your new avatar @Lab12

Any good escort should be happy to see most any client, but if it makes you more comfortable, by all means, ask. I like the idea of mentioning your age, race and weight. Then we can have fun trying to decide which one he's an asshole about.
 
Kevin Slater

If the ad does not state something to the effect that all are welcome, I ask if he has any sensitivities regarding age, weight, or race.

Unfortunately, I have learned that ask an escort means you need to ask the specific escort that you intend to hire. It appears no one answer fits all situations for any question. We all have differing opinions on the topic, but unfortunately, you never really know how the escort is going to react to anything until the meeting.
 
Some would say disclose it, others will say the most professional escorts can perform professionally with any and all types. Sometimes you can pick up clues from their advertisements, reviews, or 411 on the message center. Other times some clues can be gotten from the reviewers themselves if they list any demographical information about themselves that match yours.
 
I guess if it is a great concern to you, and you absolutely do not want any "in person rejection", you can include your stats (including race) with any inquiry you send to the escort (like to verify rates or availability or ask a question) and take a positive response as an indication that things will be ok. Take a negative reply or NO REPLY as an indication that things are not.

I would mention it before the appointment just so you aren't worrying about it before the door opens. Many mention their race, weight, age to make sure there will not be a problem. It is sad that you have to do it but reality is many escorts or masseurs have certain hangups about race, weight or age.

@mattr
 
Please take this discussion to Politics, Religion & War.
It does not belong here.
 
Thank you.
 
~ Boomer ~

"Walk on.....
 
Don't just stand there in the storm....
 
Walk towards the light till you find the sun....
 
Don't you ever break your stride...
 
Walk on!"
 

The deception was so obvious and the guy so pathetic that he could tell that I knew I had been deceived.
 
Strange thing was that I felt more compassion than anger. I guess that's just who I am.
 
But not enough compassion to allow the meet up to continue, hehe.

I have often gotten, "I have already done a lot of work, I'm not doing this. Sorry." But today I got a new one: :I'm going to be doing you doggy style, so what do you care what I look like?

Last night I got a reply to a (non-escort) ad I had placed - the response culminating in "I just got a new phone, so no pics, but if you hit me up I can add you on Snapchat and can send u pics there..."
 
I wasn't going to reply at all, but then I decided to call his bluff, and wrote back:
"I'm so happy you have a new phone. That means you can take some new pics of yourself and send them to me. I'll be excited to see them."
 
Haven't heard back from him yet, lol...

This whole thread is fascinating, and I can't stop laughing.

I mostly agree with Truereviews comments. I get to Twist fairly frequently on trips to South Florida. Drag queens only MC the gogo show on Sunday and Monday nights. The rest of the nights there is a gay male "DJ" in the cabana go-go bar. Most of the dancers are Latino although there are always a few Europeans and maybe a white or black American guy. Most of the guys are str8 but many are gay-4-pay outside of the club.