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AGAIN (why do I have to keep repeating this )....I am not speaking to those of you who have NEVER had feelings for a woman. I am speaking to those who had to spend time deciding. I am quite well aware of "pray the gay away". I would point out that very religious families often have MANY expectations of how you are supposed to live. Not just with your sex life. Hiding behind a made up narrative about being forced into homosexuality is fine for some but not for all of us. I had no problem with people identifying me as "gay" during those years when I dated men, and spent a lot of time hanging around gay venues. But that was only PART of my journey to find where I wanted to land. It's distorting to the complexity of how I view myself sexually, socially and spiritually, to say my destiny was predetermined by my biology. The Argument(s) Against 'Born This Way' Gabrielle Kassel Published on September 23, 2021 "While the slogan was useful historically, these days, many LGBTQ+ people believe that the catchphrase actually intercepts long-term progress. For starters, it privileges those who experience their sexuality or gender as a fixed, non-changing thing, while invalidating those who experience their sexuality or gender as fluctuating, fluid, ever-evolving things."

Thank you ! Beautifully put. The gays don't hear how victimized they sound when they want to hide behind their "born this way" dogma.

In my observation, this is the gay man's argument. That somehow you're bound to be unhappy if you get married and have kids. This "research" you speak of is far too frequently tossed around by homosexuals as a badge of honor. "Oh...I'm a victim of biology, that's why I suck dick". I'm quite sure there are many homosexuals who have never had any romantic feelings toward women. But this research that dates back to the 70's and 80's failed to identify the large population of bisexual people who are left indecisive about their sexual orientation and what to do about it for years, until they settle down ( or don't). THAT is the population I am speaking to in my question. How many of you are men who had romantic feelings for women at one time, but decided a boyfriend was more suited to your needs ? I went back and forth all through my twenties with boyfriends and girlfriends. I needed to pick a side that worked best for me. That's a CHOICE. Doesn't mean that some gays don't have a choice, that biology wins out. I am speaking to those who did have a choice.

Which is probably why gays get so upset when bisexual people explain that for us, our sexual orientation and lifestyle IS and CAN BE a choice. I chose to maintain a heterosexual lifestyle while occasionally acting on my homosexual interests but without engaging in anything more than sex with men. Romantic relationships with men never worked for me, because gays always seem to have their eyes on the next hot hook up, leaving little time for focusing on building a solid relationship. That's not to say relationships with women aren't complicated and sometimes a minefield of navigating unfamiliar emotions...but I have always felt a stronger commitment from women to build a nest. So that's what I CHOSE.

Yes. A valid point. thanks. But my understanding was that orientation was the same because it's your identity not necessarily your biology sex·u·al o·ri·en·ta·tion noun noun: sexual orientation; plural noun: sexual orientations a person's identity in relation to the gender or genders to which they are sexually attracted; the fact of being heterosexual, homosexual, etc.

You need to let people know where you live and where you work out. Wishing you luck in your search.

I am hoping the new owners have learned to actually clean the place. I came home with a staph infection last time I was there. ( Under the previous ownership )

My gay neighbors are in Cambodia too. Is there a gay cruise visiting this week ?

In all seriousness....I have given some advice to young men who were looking to make a little extra by adding erotic elements to their massage repertoire. I don't mind giving advice to help a person succeed.

A line grabbed from another thread that was "off topic".... I would like to ask how many members ultimately felt they CHOSE their sexual orientation as opposed to having it assigned ? For me ....I have been completely bisexual throughout my life from the time I was a child an my mother needed to explain to me that I was "supposed to" be attracted to girls but only "like" boys as friends. ( It never quite worked out that way for me ). Ultimately I needed to "Pick a team" to have a serious relationship. ( Not really a believer in the thrupple concept ). So married my female bestie who I share the commonality of a long history of bisexual exploration. It's interesting to me that so many gays are in complete denial of the ability to choose. I'm sure there are as many gays who can't as straights who can't but I am always feeling a bit left out when the gays pretend that NONE of us make a choice. WHO ELSE CHOSE THEIR LIFESTYLE ?

TMPL was a David Barton brand which always promoted themselves to homosexuals who like to hook up at the gym. So no surprises here.

This one reminds me of an Abercrombie and Fitch model I wanted to buy. I was very disappointed to discover the store only sells clothes ...😉

There are many kinds of "relationships". If this is the case...and this is more than a weekend hire ..then it's a transactional situation where he gets some compliant eye candy in exchange for elevating the lifestyle of the eye candy.. I don't see that he's looking for a traditional stable take-me-to-the-grave kind of relationship. So why judge ? He's probably quite aware of what's going down and I'm sure his handsome cum-rag companion knows the time of day too.

It's interesting that his "sensual session" is $ 50 more than his "sensual massage session". Same with Therapeutic. Therapeutic massage is less expensive than just "therapeutic session".

Calvin Klein Co.were the first to acknowledge that clothing was primarily bought by women and gay men. So started using unclad male models in their ads. Sometimes not even showing the clothing ...just a super hot dude. It worked beautifully.

Men invented objectification...so why would they mind BEING objectified. I don't care if you like me for my looks.

So much backtracking and so many excuses. Give it up. Your career is over Erick. Glad you found love. Hope he's rich and can support you because you're never working in media again.

I'm in Boca on Business frequently. I never see anyone worth inviting to play. This is a nice torso pic...but I don't have much confidence in the validity of this twunk's business model.

Rather a broad assessment of public school education.

I wish they would drug us / stack us in sleeping pods and wake us up when we arrive at our destination. Air travel today, is humiliating unless you're paying for the ultra luxury of private jet travel .

NYC is still covered in mentally ill psychos. Most were living in jails for minor offenses but during Covid they released hundreds of them. It's a humanitarian disaster. These people should be in mental institutions..but the law says they're free to live their life except when they are living out a prison sentence.

What's a "bottom daddy" ? Everyone who calls me "daddy" IS A BOTTOM 😉

I agree I find it completely disgusting. I have more than once interrupted a hook up having discovered too late in the game that shaved pubes had been added to the visuals.

That always depends on the masseur...but in my experience ..yes...90 minutes is usually more fun on the erotic side toward the end. Instead of a quick finish you get more MT time...and a longer edging effect.

I immediately think of the (handsome) Hollywood Carver twins who played Preston and Porter Scavo on "Desperate Housewives" and the sexy Werewolves on the TV show: "Teen Wolf". Charlie is openly gay and his brother, Max professes to be completely straight. I will point out that although biologically born from two halves of an egg....they spent years at different boarding schools which means they had different environments growing up.