And for this I'm happy that Europe still has an active gay-only bathhouse culture, although they have been (sadly) declining in many cities.
The best ones are full service spa's with the added benefit of free lube, condoms, dark rooms and cruising is encouraged everywhere, especially in the steam room!
I understand that it's fun to have sex in such a setting (I love the bathhouses here in Europe!) but I also understand why the spa owners would crack down on that, given that they probably want it to be a regular spa experience and they don't want to get a reputation to put off new customers.
Maybe a gay bathhouse in NYC might be an idea? Or is that not possible because of regulations? I do find it odd that there don't seem to be any when in Brussels alone we have five! And two in another, smaller city and Germany has a lot of offerings, even in smaller cities.