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I got my first shot today. I took the train from Antwerp all the way to France as the city of Lille was having an open walk-in day with the only restriction being you had to be a gay MSM. A friend and I took the first train out. Many, many of the men in the line were from Belgium as the vaccine supply (and rollout) is extremely limited, as are the restrictions for qualifying . Two of our national tv stations even came to France to interview the Belgians there. There were not enough vaccines for everyone that showed up and the organization seemed overwhelmed by the amount that showed up and how many of them were from Belgium. Every single worker there was incredibly friendly and they were very patient with my limited French.

There's an app version? I thought it was only accessible through the browser

The thing I don't like, though, is that technically the escorts are their clients and they already pay quite a sum of money to have their profiles on their. It feels greedy. I know that's how today's business goes, but it doesn't sit well with me. It'd be like the Apple store asking an entrance fee just to look at the new phones. I haven't seen that yet. I suspect they converted all the private galleries to premium by default and the escorts themselves have to change it.

Rentmen are updating their site design. I've tried the new one and it needs some getting used to. I guess they're trying to be more in line with other dating apps. But what I've noticed is that the private galleries, that you could normally ask to unlock, have all been turned into premium galleries. Which means that only by paying for a membership can you view the photos. This has always been a feature, except for the fact that those private galleries could still be unlocked for free by the escort. This feature now seems to be removed. Leaving the only option to pay. I'm feeling salty about this.

Good to know. How were the extras? Feel free to pm me if you'd like.

Yeah same here in Belgium...

How is Jorge as a masseur? I absolutely loved Rodrigo (the tall one).

Tall Rodrigo at Shrangi-la was amazing. I loved my session with him (this was in 2019). Wish I knew where he went or if he's still sping massages. I'd book again definitely

I personally don't have any up to date information, but Utopia Spa has been consistently well reviewed. I've been there twice myself over the years and have been satisfied. Shangri-La was very good as well but I don't know if it's still open. Best to call for an appointment so you are sure a masseur is available when you arrive. Tipping should be in line with how much you liked the proceedings. But usually a 20 to 30 dollar tip is customary, or higher if you really loved it and are able to afford it.

Sure and I try. Except that sometimes stress, excitement and anxiety get the better of me and I still forget even if I had them lying by the door to grab when I go out because I'm not a paid professional who does this for a living.

You're confusing posters. The three times did not happen to me. What happened to me was that they had condoms but no lube. Since then I always try to bring my own lube and condoms. To me it's akin to a masseur saying he didn't bring massage oil and asking the client if he has some. I still think it's not unreasonable to expect a professional who is being paid a premium fee to have the tools on hand to deliver the services he's hired for. I think this applies to both clients and escorts. Basically if you're gonna be topping, bring your own condoms if you want to make sure they are a good fit. I once planned a session with an escort a few hours in advance. In those hours, the escort had found the time to go out for lunch and shop for a new fan for his bedroom, but not to buy lube. Which he told me when the session was well underway. 🤷‍♂️

Are there news sites that report on the cases around the world. I've got a trip planned to Barcelona the end of July and was hoping to only see the inside of Thermas.

If you have a bad experience with one hairdresser having bad tools (blunt scissors, faulty clippers) do you then bring your own scissors, clippers and blowdryer to every new hairdresser you go to? Escorts are hired to provide a professional service, this service requires tools. I don't think it's unreasonable for the professional to have the tools he needs to provide the service he's being paid for. I've had it happen twice that an escort didn't have lube. Now I always try to think of bringing my own but I often forget.

I'm sorry if I came across as bitching about it, I'm definitely not. I'm just curious as to the motivations behind the difference some escorts have between clients and non-clients regarding perceived risks. Gonorrhea can just as easily be transferred by oral and I know very few escorts who use a condom for that. If you're having sex with someone, thinking that not kissing them will keep you safe from COVID or a cold... That's not how that works.

Because it happens way too often that profiles will have conflicting info (for instance in the text say "safe only" then list "anything goes") or escorts will list things in their profile that they don't actually do (kissing is often the big culprit here). I'm sure you've thought your profile through and make sure it accurately represents all services you offer but it's sometimes very fustrating trying to figure out if what an escort is offering will be compatible with what I'd like to have happen in a session. Oh no, I said I'm simply noticing it myself more and more. I never made any claims that it's happening more or less frequently than in the past. As for where I get my data from, I've been hiring for 7 years and have also befriended a few escorts off the clock (with whom I never or no longer have a professional relationship with). I talk about these things with them, I ask about it. Yeah true. I've been more into bareback and during the pandemic a lot of guys stopped their Rentmen profiles where I live. Many of them have stayed over on the Hunqz platform, not reactivating their Rentmen. Hunqz doesn't have a listing for safe or not so you have to ask them directly. That's partly how I started noticing it.

I agree about the risk mitigation in porn (although I wonder about the self-produced porn) but why the difference between random hookups and clients? I don't think they're taking inventory of a random guy's sexual history or practices who they fuck off of Grindr. Just wondering aloud to myself mostly. I completely agree. I once contacted an escort who had "ask me" in his profile and all his pictures were of him barebacking, he told me he only fucked with a condom... This is what I'm thinking too. I get the porn angle, but why differentiate bareback and condom between personal sex and clients?

I've been noticing more and more that escorts will bareback on their online videos (often self-produced) and with their personal hookups but only use condoms with clients. I find this puzzling. Not judging, just curious. For the filming I could understand that since they're all supposed to be professionals, they are getting regular health checks. But hookups don't necessarily.

Thanks for reporting back. Sad to hear he doesn't kiss as that's also a prerequisite for me and he's totally my type. I do think he handled it well, parting ways without asking for compensation. Yeah the no kissing puzzles me. I once had a conversation about it with an escort (I was friends with him and met him off the clock). He didn't kiss his clients but would kiss his hookups. He couldn't really give an answer other then "I just don't". I wonder if it's something to do with them not being fully, completely at ease with the thought of being a sex worker and so they have to keep a piece of themselves "not for sale". I once had a session with a guy who would kiss but then absolutely refused to cuddle naked after sex saying "that's only for boyfriends". 🤷‍♂️

Any recent reports? I'm thinking of visiting

You visited Belgium without seeing Bruges or Ghent?? Those are the 2 cities I always put on the must-see list. Well actually, Ghent and Antwerp. Brussels feels too much like a generic big European city, depending which part of it you visit. But Antwerp and Ghent really have that Flemish vibe. Bruges is beautiful historical city but I've only been a handful of times.

I think most guys here use planetromeo (now just called Romeo), well, the hunqz part of that site. It's better known here. I think they might get more clients through there. Those are excellent things to focus on. I would suggest also our fries, if you should ever come back.

As of this week, sex work has been fully legalized in Belgium. Which surprised me, because I thought it already was. It kind of was... It wasn't illegal to be or hire a sex worker, but everything around it was illegal: banks and accountants could not support sex workers in their business etc. That's all changed now, sex workers can now register as self-employed as a sex worker with full transparency and get all the same benefits. It's even legal now to hire sex workers as employees and have them work for you to see other clients. So kind of like a legal framework for pimping, but with full protection for the sex workers based on Belgian employment law. Apparently we are the first European country to do this (so the spokesperson claimed. Which confused me as I thought Germany and the Netherlands already had this. But legal nuances are sometimes hard to keep track of) I'm really happy! Not sure how many working boys will actually start to report their income though hahaha.

The usual sites: Rent.men and Romeo (formerly PlanetRomeo). Romeo even has a search filter that lets you tick transman. https://rent.men/TRANSBOYPUSSY Here's one, he travels around Europe. Have not met with him. I have not seen the type you describe. I'd love to know if you find someone.

So none of them had actual sex with each other nor kissed or such? Sounds like gaybaiting to me. But hey, if it works for you then great!

Did you end up meeting him?