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Nice find 👍🏻 Very hot guy! The lack of a face pic is his public gallery wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me - provided of course one is provided prior to booking. It also helps what bit of face that can be seen (nose down) doesn’t betray any “anomalies”, so one can picture a good looking face. What I find tiresome in RM profiles though is the “ask me” - as I said in another post, it gives me pause re: pricing - one price for one position, another for the other position. But maybe that’s just me being cynical 🤷🏼‍♂️ BBD

Another nice find, @dutchal! 👍🏻 He gets points from me right out of the gate for smiling in his pics 😁 Tho as a personal preference, I do wish he let his body hair grow out. I am with @FewBricksShy in that I’ve never seen him top so I wonder how accurate the Top/Versatile role is 🤔 I did know one provider IRL, (never engaged him, qv), who looked like the prototypical Colt model top guy, yet was a complete bottom. He advertised himself as Top/Versatile on the old rentboy with a line like “can be persuaded to be very versatile with the right encouragement”. He was basically targeting those hobbyists who like the idea of getting the “top” guy to bottom for him. Not saying that’s the case here, but who knows? 🤷🏼‍♂️ Following for any intel on his topping skills, abilities.

The lack of any “Into” in provider profiles always gets me thinking it’s going to be an à la carte menu vs a prix fixe for the time. When I run a search on RM, in addition to the physical, and role, I also select some “Into” offerings that I’m into. That explains why a gent like this, who would match other parameters, didn’t show on any searches I ran last week in LA. Smoking hot gent for sure, but I’d probably pass without firsthand intel on what exactly us on offer. BBD

Just realised from another thread, I completely blanked on one current performer I would hire -at any rate- in a New York minute! Markus Kage 🤤😍🤤😍

I wouldn’t say that’s universally true. There have been/are many threads on CofM, and it’s previous incarnation on both providers who ask for/require a deposit, and providers who use “similar” pics in their public galleries. While you would be correct saying the new/non-vetted ones are called out, when speaking about an established provider, it’s much more grey. Some hobbyists will call them out, but other hobbyists will defend these providers’ practices. The same is true for providers using their own pics, not requiring deposits, and showing up unable to perform. Many hobbyists will defend them, offering the “YMMV” or bad or off day to explain the provider’s situation, their inability to perform. Many going into raptures extolling the provider’s abilities. But when more, and more hobbyists have the same bad experience, one has to wonder about those rapturous reviews on these established, vetted providers. At the end of the day, in this hobby, each of us need to determine what level of “risk” we’re comfortable accepting. 🤷🏼‍♂️ I don’t know if that’s necessary - even the gent here who pointed out some pics aren’t him still recommended him. Maybe a face/full body with face pic in the private gallery 🤷🏼‍♂️ As far as deposits go, I know that’s a trigger for some, (among other triggers, many of which I think are silly, and at the end of the day inconsequential), but if this is his business model, and it’s working for him, he may not need or want to drop it. At most I’d say indicating “deposit” required for new clients may be a better way to go 🤷🏼‍♂️ Same here! 😀 I join in wishing all goes well tonight for you, BigHungBro, and BlessedBoy! 👍🏻🤞🏻👍🏻🤞🏻 BBD

Just didn’t feel like typing out BigHungBro so I went with “BHB” 🤷🏼‍♂️

He is certainly stunning to look at! Wow! I’ll be in London quite a bit after Labor Day, so I’d be interested in any intel there is to share 👍🏻 BBD

The pics look *very* familiar - possible name change? 🤔 Even with the flags flying, have to say he’s hot, and I’d be curious what intel there is on him from other hobbyists. BBD

Nice find 👍🏻 Profile indicates he speaks Dutch - so perhaps he’s from the Netherlands, or one of the current or former Dutch West Indies, or even Suriname 🤷🏼‍♂️

There is a link to his OF at the bottom of his RM profile 😉 My sentiments exactly! Lordy is right! 🤤 Where’s Uncle Peter with my smelling salts! I thought the same. It’s always a plus for me when the provider takes the time to answer the questions in a well thought out manner, or goes the other way, and has some fun with it like the much missed redhead Russ from BK. A great find @dutchal 👍🏻 Here’s hoping for some positive feedback, first hand intel and this big strapping buck 🤞🏻 BBD

Just curious - none of the pics in his RM and are of him? Or are the RM pics possibly out of date? Do the ones he is using bear a resemblance to what one gets if one engages BHB? 🤔 Thanks! BBD

I swear I’m not one of those New Yorkers! I really thought I talked about NYC temperatures in the prior post. We’re not all annoying stereotypes, promise! 😂🤣😂

Agreed @Gymowner 100% I also think the fact that much of the stigma about being gay is in the past, coupled with an openness these young bucks have to try new things sexually also impacts how different the come across. I’ve seen a couple of them in interviews talking about how much they enjoy their scenes, how they didn’t know how good bottoming can feel which you never heard before! Old g4p performers would never admit that - in fact did the opposite - and, these guys don’t seem to care who knows what their doing, yet there’s still old g4p guys who try to hide their scenes, claim “stunt asses” and other ridiculous things to deny their past. I do wonder tho if these gents ever hookup with other guys outside their scenes, and not as a provider. Like your friend stated, it can be baby steps that get them from 100% straight, to only having when paid in scenes, to hooking up with guys IRL. I recall an interview with a straight identifying gay porn performer who admitted making gay porn made him a better man, accepting what he likes/enjoys with men, and lead him to start having sex with me man on his own time, and not being paid. He still said he couldn’t see himself dating or in a relationship with a guy, but said he never thought he’d be having sex with men for money, let alone pleasure 4 years ago, so who knows!

This whole cohort of g4p performers -particularly on OF/JFF - are a different breed from the g4p performers of the past. They bottom, they top, some kiss/make out, some rim/get rimmed, most stay hard when bottoming, they’re vocal. It’s not the old style g4p where the str8 guys only topped, were mechanical, and disengaged in their scenes, and overall, pretty poor performers. I think this “evolution” started with sites like Sean Cody, Randy Blue, Corbin Fisher, and Chaosmen. Many of them identified as str8 but were also vocal about enjoying their scenes in all roles. These guys are pretty much uniformly aesthetically hot, (at least by conventional standards), they seem engaged in their scenes, and are vocal about enjoying the sex. Is it because their scene partners are like them - str8, muscular, bro-types so they can let the guard down, and get into it? 🤷🏼‍♂️ Who knows! I do admit I find a number of these guys hot, and a lot of their scenes are smoking! But I’d be really wary of engaging one as a provider without some very good feedback from trusted hobbyists on here. BBD

Sorry! I’m in NYC.

It was pretty sticky here this weekend, not really sunny, but definitely humid. We’re in for temps up to the high 90’s with high humidity thru next Wednesday. ¡No me gusta!

It’s a gorgeous area, and the course itself is too. As long as it’s a soft rain, they should be fine with a waterproof windbreaker, and a hat.

Can’t remember the gay comedian, but he had a bit about tops, bottoms, and versatile guys, with the punch line being versatile guys are just guys spelling “bottom” with 9 letters. No offense to any truly versatile guys, but I always thought it was a funny line, and I’ve found it sadly true (for me) on quite a few occasions 🤷🏼‍♂️

Thanks, mate! 😀 While not set in stone or anything, these two represent the archetype I tend to go for - both in this hobby, and IRL. Fingers crossed the hive mind of CofM offers some recommendations, and intel on these two gents 🤞🏻 BBD

I was speaking with some family, and friends over the weekend, and they were dying 🥵 They’re simple not used to such high temps like this - it hit 100F today in London! Most homes, and a number of hotels don’t have air con either, so there’s that too. Being a man of a certain stature, and hirsuiteness, I’d be melting with no AC! @Luv2play I think the worst of the heat is breaking now - shouldn’t be going past the 80’s for the next week in London. For your family hitting the links in Fife, the temps will be much cooler - mid 60’s to low 70’s thru next week. Perfect temps for a few rounds on the Old Course, but then there’s the rain to deal with 🤷🏼‍♂️ BBD

If I’m following this thread correctly, I *think* @robberbaron4u is referring more to a type of provider, provider experience vs. an actual provider known as “Handsome Son”. 🤷🏼‍♂️ BBD

I have no hard, and fast rules when it comes to tattoos, but I will say I’ve become much more open on them thru the years. At one point, I probably wouldn’t engage a gent with visible while clothed tattoos but that’s not the case anymore. But I think facial tattoos can be tricky. For me, more often than not, I tend to engage gents for more than just bedroom activities, so facial tattoos would be something I’d factor in when determining whether to engage or not. Now, if it was just for bedroom activities, and provided all the other boxes are ticked, it wouldn’t be that big of a factor - as long as the facial tattoos aren’t OTT. As examples, for me at least, think more Markus Kage, (oh how happy I’d be to find an RM ad from him! 🤤), and less Bo Sinns or some of the other gents pictured above. Just my two xents. BBD

Indeed they do! Who says you can’t teach an old dog new tricks? 😜

@swimtrunx Enjoy your time in London, and do come back to let us know who you engaged, and whether or not you’d recommend them 👍🏻 Cheers, BBD

I remember one time my then regular gent in London invited me to go to the rugby with him, his treat. On our way there, he told me some of his mates would be joining us, and he told them his “uncle visiting from NYC” would be coming. He was actually a bit worried I might be upset. As it happened, his friends commented on how much we resembled each other, and they were all calling me “Uncle ____” by the end of the first half. All in all, a great Saturday afternoon - it was fun being the “cool uncle” with the lads at the match, then the pubs after, and a lot of fun with the “nephew” being the “naughty uncle” that night. 😉 BBD