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It doesn't have to be for the same reasons for privacy to be equally important to both parties. My sex life is my private life. If I don't want family, friends, co-workers, or nosey law enforcement to know about it, then it's my responsibility to take my privacy very seriously. It does not matter if my reasons align with the escort's. I have no problem respecting an escort's reasons. I have never asked for an escort's real name. If he does an incall, I have never shared his address with anyone. If a relationship is going to work and be successful, respect must be present on both sides. That's true. There can be mistrust on both sides, especially when dealing with someone new. It pays to take extra time and care with someone new. However, a PNP escort may not be sober enough to show patience. Some escorts are only out to hustle. We are often told on this board to trust the reviews and the established members who speak with experience. If you choose to take one for the team, that guy can be exposing himself to more risk. I have an alias email with the same alias name when booking. It's the same name associated with my Rentmen profile. In a private email, I can send instant photos of myself that prove the Rentmen profile is mine. In an email I can speak frankly and privately. I have no problem answering an escort's questions. With this approach, no one in my life can catch me conversing with an escort. No one has access to my private email account. I consider myself a great customer. I pay upfront. I'm respectful. I'm clean. I'm not demanding. If I feel you are sloppy at business, especially if you are rude or you enjoy playing rude or cocky, you're cut from my list. If you quickly and wrongly assume that I'm something other than what I am, I move on to another escort who behaves better.

Yes you can compare the two. Smart, sensible customers care deeply about their privacy. I know I do. Escorts make a HUGE mistake assuming their privacy is more important than the customer's. I would put the two on equal footing. A customer who doesn't care about his privacy is probably thinking with the brain in his cock, not the one in his head. If that's the kind of customer you want, then be careful what you wish for.

The message he sent was RUDE and a false assumption. If a service provider sent me a message like this I would cross him off my list forever. I have no tolerance for rude assholes. Thank you! If a service provider doesn't use email, he won't be getting me as a customer. I don't own a smart phone. I hate using cell phones. Hate them. My fingers can't text. I've tried and I failed. I don't want that shit in my life. I offer my cell phone number on the day before the appointment. My cell phone is only on when I plan to leave the apartment. It's not my main number. There's no name associated with my cell phone. If you Google the number nothing comes up. I'm not a flake customer. Not even close.

That's an interesting statement. At my gym, if I purchase a massage package, the 1 hour session will cost $85. The table with adjustable headrest will feel luxurious, but my naked body will be fully covered and the massage therapist fully dressed. He will be very careful where he places his hands, fingers, and elbows. He'll work my chest and encounter my erect nipples, but he'll mostly ignore them. He may touch my armpit hairs but he won't linger there for more than two seconds. He will not touch the area where my leg meets my groin, one of my favorite spots. He will not touch the area directly under my balls, another favorite. And when he works on my glutes, he will not go anywhere near the crack of my ass. I love the feeling of my ass cheeks being spread open, same as I love the feeling of an elbow gliding up and down the crack of my ass. What gay man doesn't enjoy these special aspects of a massage? What gay male massage therapist wouldn't love being on the receiving end of this type of massage? To be fair, when I book with a massage guy who advertises on a HE massage site, I don't expect anything, not even a happy ending. Sometimes the massage is so intense, my cock goes more limp than an overcooked noodle. But my flaccid cock and droopy balls still enjoy being touched. I do book each appointment with hope. My hope is the guy is trained and knows what he's doing. My hope is he takes the work seriously and that he enjoys being naked with me. My hope is he has a sincere desire to make me feel healed and satisfied when all is said and done. My hope is, as a gay male customer, he won't be shy about working the areas that stimulate me the most. If I happen to get a hardon, my hope is he'll want to touch it and massage it for a bit, especially while he massages my balls or tweaks my erect nipples. I don't ever need to ejaculate. But I sure love when the therapist uses his talented touch to touch me everywhere. If he charges $150 for this gay man's massage style, then I figure out a way to afford it in my budget. It's a far better value and experience than I can get at my gym. If my cock happens to get hard and the guy is turned on by my erection, and he wishes to make me cum, then I think of it as a lucky experience. It takes a bit of time and effort to make me cum. If the therapist is eager and committed to the effort, I add money to his fee. You can't always spell out intimate details in an ad, and a true professional needs to be careful about the words he chooses to describe his service. However, there is plenty of evidence that hustlers exist in the HE massage business. If a therapist plays the he's hot/he's not game, that's one way I would define hustle.

How about explicitly saying "I remain fully clothed during the massage. Please do not expect a sexual component." These ads are specifically placed on a site catering to gay and bisexual men, a site that is mostly known for happy ending massages. If a massage therapist chooses to play the gotcha game in advertising on a site like this, then the consequence is on them. Too expensive is relative. The number is less important to me than the value of the experience. I happen to believe that a sensual touch is therapeutic. Word play is popular in advertising.

$150 is a lot of money to me. If you don't respect the art of sensual touch and value its healing power, then I don't want you touching me. I am totally not interested in supporting a massage therapist who markets himself to the gay community on the HE websites and then picks and chooses the customers he wishes to get sensual or naked with. Either you care about the physical and emotional needs of gay men, or you don't. Discrimination should not be acceptable. I fully understand that certain customers expect too much. They are too demanding and unrealistic. They take their porn fantasies into the massage room. Some demand an escort experience at massage prices, and care little about the actual massage. There is a proper way to deal with these customers. Allowing a business to become a "he's hot/he's not" litmus test is a good reason for the business to fail.

@MarkNY Thanks for the details. I won't do the rental places anymore. They're just not worth it, no matter how hot the guy is. You can never really let go with other people around, and lord knows what's crawling around on the floors. A work space has an effect on the masseur, especially if he loves the space he's working in. Given my former employment in high-end spas, I can't tolerate even a hint of filth. I also know how challenging and expensive it can be to maintain a clean environment. Hats off to all the guys who take their business seriously, and maintain a love for the sensual. They're not easy to find, but they deserve our loyalty.

And get this, the following photo required some editing on his part. This massage guy possibly knows a little photo editing software program. He took the original body image and flipped it horizontally. Then he swapped the background with something blurry. The top photo is the photo that appeared in his ad. Shady character, for sure, and he's got some balls, although you can't see them in any of these pictures. I know escorts don't like it when their photos are stolen and used by other escorts. This guy thinks it's OK to steal photos belonging to an Olympic athlete and use them to promote his HE massage business.

One day after his pics were taken down, he started a new ad with a new name, using the same photos of Steve Legendre. This time he called himself "Mmikee." Another thread was started on him recently: https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/411-mmikee-nyc.150859/ Within 12 hours of that new username, his RentMasseur page was deleted. (https://rentmasseur.com/Mmikee) Slow, hot day at work today. I did some sleuthing before his ad got deleted. Here are some of the unedited photos of Steve Legendre that he was using in his ad. The first images are from his ad, the second images are the un-edited version of the image, probably stolen from Steve's Instagram account or elsewhere on the internet.

Lol. Some of you are showing your age. This guy looks like your typical big-city IT professional. Or graphic artist. Or gluten-free waiter. I like the just got out of bed look as long as he doesn't smell like patchouli or stale cum. His ad is basically Craigslist, except it wasn't free. Missed opportunity to not say something enticing about yourself. It could be fun to find out what exactly he does for $140. Or it could be a disaster. If he doesn't smell like the above mentioned or have dried McDonalds in his beard, he could oil us up naked and do a body frot session on the bed. That could work.

Looks like someone reported this asshole. His pics have been taken down. And that's what should happen when fake pics are discovered.

A straight Olympic gymnast with children! I did not catch that some (if not all) of the photos were of Steve Legendre. That's an outrageous lie, and gay guys who do this shit should be punished, put out of business. I don't care how good looking he is in person or what you think of Trumpism.

Had not noticed that before. Do not like the design of rentmasseur. Never bothered to learn the site. Would never pay a web host to see more revealing photos. (edit)

How is rentmasseur any less sanitized than masseurfinder? These sites are nothing more than a hosting site for G-rated pics in our new political climate. Some people like wood floors, while others like carpeting. Big deal. Some of these so-called massage therapists are posting more travel selfies than you'll find on Trip Advisor. What does a photo with the Eiffel Tower in the background have to do with presenting yourself as a competent massage therapist? Nothing. Most of these ads are laughable, and a waste of money.

He hasn't had a review on MF since Aug 2017. Not a good sign.

"The end will consist of catering to every one of your muscles to leave you in a state of utter ECSTASY." Hard to believe someone would write such descriptive words, capitalizing the word ecstasy, only to leave the customer with a DIY. Since when is "catering to" a DIY act? Sounds like a total rip-off con artist to me. He is good looking, with a sexy body, but the DIY, if true, is a serious aversion. (Edit) If someone is going to have the balls to write the line that's in italics above, then by God they better treat my groin area the way Tyler Saint would in one of his videos.

I can think of worse places.

Eye of the beholder. If someone pings once and I don't respond, and they ping again, then that's what I'd call a little pushy. Many years ago I was a Match.com member. I liked their "wink" feature. When I'm in the company of escorts, even if it's just browsing a website, I like when an escort winks at me.

When I worked in the high end spa business, our massage sessions were among the highest priced. To advertise this service, we used models in their late 20's, even though the bulk of our massage customers were 40-85. Everyone enjoys an innocent fantasy. It's not smart to assume that 18-35 year olds can afford higher prices. Some can, and some may book, but they shouldn't consume too much attention because that age group won't pay off (not until they get older).

This was mentioned in another thread. I like Rentmen because non-escorts can post profiles. Numerous men through the years have sent me an IM saying various things, with as few words as "hey sexy." Others wrote to say how much we had in common. Some are not my type, are too expensive, or write things in their ad that turn me off. A few fell into my category and I hired them. Never had a bad experience so far. I even hooked up with another non-escort RM member once. I appreciate hearing an escort express his organic attraction to me. His reach out gets my attention. We all have certain things that arouse us. They may not even be physical. If the attraction is mutual, I'm likely to act on his IM. If I discover the escort was not sincere in his attraction for me, but I got what I wanted from the appointment, I can accept that outcome with no regret.

I'm fearful too, but what a great opportunity to show off some brilliance.

My balls hang particularly low in summer. That means I feel them rub all over everything as they push my sweaty cock shaft from side to side as I move around. All this activity down there makes me more horny in the summer. It's made worse when I go down there with my hand to readjust the equipment and without skipping a beat, I bring that hand to my nose and take a whiff. Oh the sweet smell of summer...

Madden's face does not excite me sexually. He's simply not my type. But I loved the work he did in Bodyguard. Electrifying. I read that Egerton was asked not to attempt to sound like Elton, but I had to ask on which song? I thought his Elton inflection was all over the place and he couldn't decide when or when not to follow that advice. I suspect the bad advice had something to do with Elton's masterful range, especially Egerton's need to rely on falsetto, which is when Egerton totally fails at sounding like Elton. Elton's songs are not easy to sing, that's how gifted an artist he is. I think the producers knew how difficult it would be to find someone who could sing like Elton. Elton does not seem to have a Marc Martel equivalent, who totally saved the vocals on Bohemian Rhapsody. I think the idea of having an actor sing the role of Elton and not sound like Elton is utterly hopeless. Imagine asking audiences to tolerate an actor/actress not sounding like Cher, Ray Charles, or Tina Turner? Elton's voice is SO famous and so crucial to his sound. What a dumb idea for a biopic.

I'm an Elton John fan, but I did not enjoy Rocketman very much. I did not think it was a very good film. It seemed like a bubblegum chewing version of Elton John's life, which is packed too full for a 2-hour bio pic. The dance scenes looked cheap and silly. Even though Bohemian Rhapsody had its problems (those fake teeth), I though it was a much better film. Taron Egerton has talent, but I don't think he will be winning many awards for this film. While enthusiastic, I thought his performance was strained along with his voice. He seemed to be trying to imitate Elton's vocal sound at times, and it just didn't work. Elton John has a very unique singing voice, and without it, his songs aren't the same. Elton is sort of like Cher, not easy to cast, no matter how good the actor is. The characters in the film, especially the parents, seemed cartoonish to me. Egerton and Maddon had no on-screen chemistry. Jamie Bell seemed miscast. Maddon looked unattractive. In fact, all 3 male leads did not look attractive. There was a serious problem in the wig department of this film. Everyone was having a bad hair day. I'm surprised this film got as many good reviews as it did. Many people seem to like it.

In its early days, I was a member of FreshDirect. They delivered to your door. Then they got sloppy, and the savings grew less evident. I quit. This type of service is OK for pantry items, but when it comes to vegetables, meat, fish, and poultry, I'm the type of shopper who needs to touch, see, and smell. Can't trust someone to do that for me. I have to admit, the fishmonger at Whole Foods is impressive. When they have a sale, their price and quality can't be beat. I recently got the most amazing cod for $7 a pound. Their butcher also has grass-fed beef, which I also get when it goes on sale. Prime members get the extra 10% off. The incentive is difficult to ignore. I enjoy quality food.