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Unless someone says, "I'm desperate," all most of us are left with is assumption. It's not always clearly knowable why or what makes an escort lower his rate when dealing with a particular customer. Sometimes the signals seem very clear by behavior, but other times not. One well known guy once told me, "I'm behind on rent." I knew he didn't have a drug habit, and I also remembered my behind on rent days. Stuff happens. I got a lower rate, had a great time, and he paid his rent. The negotiation worked. No matter what Aaron Bauder's intent, I thought it was important to speak to other assumptions, which can be false. That's all.

Holy shit. He sounds like a complete mess. I would have been horrified if that had happened to me. Minutes later I would have been pissed. He's one to avoid.

Not all $100 shaves are out of desperation, so please, by all means watch those assumptions. Fortune does favor bolder folks, but it also favors the open minded. I often have no interest in penetration or sustained erections. Sometimes I just want to play with a naked man for an hour. Touching, smelling, licking, bathing, conversing, without doing or demanding anything that requires much exertion. I'm happy to make my budget and simple desires clear. If I convince a high-priced guy that I'm serious about simple, I'm thrilled when he's willing to cut $100 from his fee. The situations where this has happened have always been memorable. Some are happy repeats. One guy called me and told he loved the way I played with his cock, and he offered a better discount because he was horny and wanted to get off with fun. He was staying in my neighborhood. I jumped at the chance. That time I saved $200.

I can think of many worse addictions. At the very least, massage is a healthy choice. Good blood circulation is great medicine for your body and brain. Intimate touching is good for the soul and the libido. IMO, massage is the perfect indulgence. A man with the right touch can easily leave me weak at the knees. Don't mind getting on my knees, either, and showing some appreciation in return.

Back in his Madonna days I thought he was hot. Much was rumored about the beauty of his cock. I'm sure it has been sucked by many. I was always surprised that Rodman cock photos never appeared on the internet. He was always a sexual creature and a show off, so one would have thought we would have seen something eventually. Now that he's older and less sexy, not sure I'm as interested.

They weren't. IMO, it depends. Some MTs take their massage work seriously, and they enjoy when their talent is respected. Others, usually those with no accreditation, are more focused on sex. They're basically escorts who pretend to focus on some version of massage. Those who are focused on sex typically don't mind discussing expectations over a phone call or text. They often like to know what's going to happen so they can prepare, mentally and physically. I don't like guessing games or forcing someone to read my mind. I like honesty and confidence. Ordinary HEs don't work for me anymore because they take too long. Mechanical HEs would leave me flaccid within seconds. It's far better for me to relieve the MT of any expectation or pressure to perform a specific act. With chemistry and the right positive attitude, some major, joyful stuff can happen. I find the organic experience to be far more stimulating than anything else. That said, if sensual doesn't happen, even when I desired it, I don't care. I don't leave disappointed or think I was scammed as long as the massage was worth the time and effort. Chemistry has a lot do with connection, no matter what the ad or photos suggests. You can't force chemistry. I would never take that personally. It's either there or it isn't. No one is at fault.

Customers should feel uncomfortable asking for anything sexual since it is illegal. I also think it is very unrealistic to assume anything about a masseur and the service he offers simply by judging the photos in the ad or the price. There is no such thing as trusting the ad. If you have the balls to ask about a particular expectation in advance (before ever meeting), always expect the MT to say YES. The MT is not motivated in any way to discourage a new customer appointment. It's far better to get the new person in, even for one time, then to say no to anything. I would find suspect any customer who wishes to lock in details in advance of his appointment. I'm sorry to say this, but if you feel any need to insist on a particular action, like "touch my cock or my asshole," you're probably a fool for a customer or worse, something is off about you. Every time I book an appointment with a HE massage therapist, I say in my communication, "I love a sensual man, but the massage is the most important element to me. I will arrive in your studio freshly showered, with no expectations." All I can say to readers is I have never been disappointed in the sensual department. I have had some mediocre massages, though. I can say this from my spa experience, service providers don't like pushy, needy, demanding customers. They can feel and sense when a customer is desperate for something. People who enjoy giving massage tend to be very sensitive. If you drop the desperation and go with the flow of an organic experience, you're likely to experience the best results.

6'7" and 210. Wow. Seems to have beautiful skin, too. Hope someone takes the plunge and reports back.

There is no shortage of women who love cock, and love the cock on their man. There has been talk about the world turning gay, but you probably shouldn't take a comedian's act too seriously.

I can attest to that. More and more, some straight guys don't care about the mouth sucking their cock, as long as it's getting sucked well. Just don't try to kiss them. Regardless of what you see in porn, a lot of women hate sucking cock, especially large cock. A lot of women complain about hating pre-cum. It can make them gag.

Cynical is to think that everyone gets off on playing games. Unfortunately, the reality that a small bunch do is something you can't ignore. A bad apple can spoil the whole bunch. Bad, rude behavior from an asshole rarely surprises me these days. Our culture is going through a serious debasing. I hope we can find our way out someday soon, and do it without enduring a war. I may not be a wealthy customer, but it would never occur to me to be rude and obnoxious with an escort who treated me with respect. Assholes exist everywhere. They're at airports. They're at shopping malls. They're at Neiman Marcus. They're at Walmart. When you service the public for a living, you are bound to encounter an asshole. The biggest mistake one can make in the service business is to assume that everyone is an asshole. The dividends can be high if you assume the opposite. The best you can do when encountering an asshole is to find a way to politely let him go without burning any bridges. Never give an asshole a reason to stalk you. Once you get rid of him, be grateful. Try to focus on your best customers.

Mine too. Plus, I will never be that desperate for cock.

There was absolutely nothing rude about this response to the escort's question. In fact, by saying that he was not trying to haggle, the OP showed upmost respect. When it comes to money, if you don't ask, you don't know. I'm not wealthy, so if a product is not in my budget, I'm not shy about letting the seller know. If the seller comes back with a counter offer, even though I didn't request one, I respect the seller more for gifting me with the benefit of any doubt. With that added respect, I'm more eager and excited to make the sale.

I agree with OliverSaks.

I have had at least 5-6 therapists who did not live in my city bring their massage table to my apartment to provide me with 90 minutes of expert service. Each guy was terrific and very talented. I have fun memories of them all. I think only 1 was gay, but none of them worked in the nude or provided any type of sex. Each guy had his own way of dealing with my erection. They also had unique methods of transport. One guy used a custom shoulder harness. One guy had a collapsable dolly. I was always fascinated by the differing methods used. I live in an elevator building so getting up to me was never an issue. In those days, I never requested a table. Those guys wouldn't work any other way. I respected their preference and re-arranged my small apartment to accommodate their table. It always worked out great. I have different furniture now so I can't accommodate a visitor. But I'm always open to trying new guys, and I only book with someone who has a table. I can no longer do the floor or mattress. My body is too crippled.

Cock is known to sell. Sometimes any cock will do.

Life with Donny D. as a mentor has nearly killed me. Lacking insight? Damn that hurt. Identication? Managing costs is more important than the businesses name? I suppose there's precedent for that in numerous mergers. Priceline Group is now Booking Holdings, but that has more to do with business diversification than anything else. But let's get real, Jack is not JP Morgan Chase. In the face of scandal or a need for a fresh start, a new name may be good for future growth. But it comes with risk. How smart the risk is depends. When I think of a successful escort's career, especially an escort who made a name in porn, I think of the life of an actor. How many actors change their names to manage costs, escape scandal, or to start fresh? Maybe you can come up with 1-3 examples. I can't think of any. I can assure you, in the performing arts, a name change is not considered the norm. It is not considered a smart business move. If an escort is not a performing artist, what is he?

And that's precisely where and why most service providers fail.

How does this information benefit a potential customer in any way? Is the escort a statistician or a service provider attempting to attract the most customers? As an easy example, I would argue that MattStevens, MikeGaite, TylerSaint, SimplyAdam, and Tommydeluca, etc., should use one name on every site. The name of your business and its ability to stand out at all times is far more important than any stat information relating to who came from what site. Allowing your account to lapse is not an example of a successful business. Lapses that can affect your business name can cause serious problems that come with financial ramifications. If you're a former Sean Cody star, which is a status that's not easy to achieve given the number of models they go through, the smart thing to do is pick a clever and unique name, check the various sites before committing, and stick to it. Obviously, "Jack" isn't going to work. Or Tom, Mike, and Tony. Finding a unique name that you can like and live with may require a little work, but it's completely doable with some thought and effort.

You would have to prove that to me with specific examples and stats. It defies business logic. I'm confident tracking software makes name changes completely unnecessary. ? Sorry. Have no idea what you are talking about. That's too bad. It kind of shows. On the plus side, demons can be exorcised. He's got too much talent to give up hope.

Anyone know the details of his upsell? His price is $130. Is he nude from the start? Can you touch him? Does he charge for sucking? Is he always willing to penetrate? Does he get hard every time, no matter your body size or your looks? If you have personal experience, PM if you want. Thanks.

"No appointments by email." That cuts me from the list of potential customers. "At 11” x 6”, I am blessed with an enormous shaft." Not something you see in a massage ad very often.

Things don't look good for Stokes. Porn insiders insist he's a coke and meth addict, and near homeless. Plus, people say he beats on girls. Some pretty deep and dark shit there. I remember in his early days when he did one of his first man on man videos with Jake Cruise. He didn't look into it at all. He wouldn't let Cruise lick his ass because he said he was ticklish. It was one fo the most boring videos ever.

He's been around forever. Was a very horny guy. The ad may say 50, but he's definitely over 60. His cock is huge. Have no idea if it still works.

The list of "hung" is pretty short.