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One issue is that escorts have limits and getting to know and accept them is an issue. One won't kiss, or kiss deeply, another would bottom but no fingers first. I try to tell them as much as I can about me, sometimes I feel it is TMI, but they rarely reveal much abut themselves. Of the list of activities and interests on RM, what are they really into and will initiate and what are they just OK with. They will check rimming but if you go for it, OK, not their thing but they will let you, but they wont do you. I have one semi regular, one of the few guys I have hired more than once. But all the awkwardness and uncertainly is gone. All the boundaries are known, neither of us is into S&M, how to play how to love how to hit a hot button, even how to pace each other, so it is a free wheeling good time.

As I have aged, my tastes have changed. as I am now a senior. I won't hire kids, 18-20 any more. While I might hire a 25 year old, I actually prefer 35 year olds or even older. Actually there are young men that I noticed on RM 10 years ago and didn't hire them then but as they have now grown up and matured I have hired them. One of the few escorts I have hired more than once and probably about 6 times is in his late 50s and has a dad bod. Never would have looked at the geezer when I was in my 30s

Just looked at Hunqz.com Curiously they referenced my location before they asked from my permission to do so. Upside, they do list options of my place, your place hotel options. Also escort can list rates. Downside, no penis pics. You have to have an account with Romeo.com to see them, sort of like RM private gallery.

Was the amount paid for the encounter $815? That seems like a very unusual "consultation fee". I often get scams involving firms that I don't have accounts with, or PayPal which I have but never use.

Actually I am worth total almost 3M, but I don't consider myself wealthy but we judge our wealth in some respect to our peers. And that is considering that my social security meets all of my monthly nut and some additional expenditures. I am very cognizant that I need to maintain my nest egg and need to live to do that. I do watch how I spend my money. I come from a family that never had financial issues but was taught to be mindful about money. I live at a middle of the road level. I fly upgraded coach. I stay at Hampton Inn level hotels. I will eat at Outback but prefer a slightly better restaurant although I don't eat out often as I am definitely not a foodie. Living in Las Vegas I do shun the places on the Strip. I buy mid level cars, the last a Hyundai Tuscon, new, but keep them for 5 plus years. I rarely shop Macy's. more like Kohl's on sale or the outlet mall. I do live in an upscale community so by comparison to those who eat out constantly and take several expensive vacations a year, and also have vacation homes or have 500K bus size RV I don't feel wealthy. But I am also aware of how very fortunate I am, rating in probably the top 10% of the country so I shed no tears and ask for no sympathy. But I am can't buy 3000K pants from Neiman Marcus or spend 1000K for a night at the Four Seasons, that is wealthy.

just checked his profile 5/16/25 Hot guy now in SF but on hiatus. Says will be back.

Rimming is not a high priority for me either way so I don't ask. On RM they may check rimming or any other activity but you never know if they top or bottom at it. The last two guys I hired and they were vers/tops went at it. I may or may not, depending, but I take a whiff test first but there has not been a problem My philosophy is that it is so easy to spread germs around the genital area, especially if you like if finger him or even touch his butt hole that the risk is there already.

I really don't care what they are "expecting". Actually I was just at what is oxymoronic, a moderate priced restaurant on the Vegas Strip- $40 entrees, and for a party of 7 they added the tip, as expected, and only 18%. And I strongly object to using the post tax amount for the basis. Sales tax is for the state, as someone noted, businesses don't charge it, they collect it for the state, and it has no relationship to the meal served. I was talking about tipping more at Denny's but does the server work any harder to serve you a $50 bottle of wine than and $500 bottle, or do they just have a bigger grin because of the tip they expect and had how much work is that anyway and you are going to tip $100 to bring a bottle to the table.? The whole system is insane.

No I am talking about days and no response. I don't expect immediate responses. I wouldn't want them interrupting my session to use their phones either.

I live in Vegas and have been trying to hire. It does not seem to matter, text or phone message, if I ask for a date /time and if you host ( where- major intersection ) or out, followed up by or just state that I am a local (and if this is not good), when are you available in general like only work nights or weekends so I know when to ask for. And these guys are long time RM as I only hire proven guys with reviews, even if the reviews don't say much. at least they have some sort of track record to weed out the flakes. And I never ask about information already posted on their ads or other until a date is set. Not looking for a complicated or long return text, but just the silence is amazing from guys looking to make money. I guess there is not much anyone can offer but is frustrating when I get a chance to hire ($$$$) and can't find anyone.

I don't tip providers, no discussion. As an independent contractor they set their rates which I have to assume they feel is the value of the services they render and I don't bargain either. This does not apply to masseurs at a chain massage place or spa at a hotel where the owner sets the rates and takes a big cut. As to the comment about a 30% tip for restaurant servers, dream on. If you don't like my 18% too bad. Your pay is not my business. Honestly if you feel your pay is not enough get a better paying job. But as I live in Las Vegas, when tipping $60+ for two is common, and I don't care how many ways the tips are split. I am not worried about your renumeration. I actually tip higher rate at Denny's where they work just as hard for much lower tips. - is there a difference between a $90 steak and a $15 egg platter besides that the former requires the extra effort of you being given a weapon to slice it?

There is Flex, slammer and North Hollywood, Any comparison between them would be appreciated. Can you get a day membership to North Hollywood, probably only one night so a $40 multi month doesn't make sense. Does the Slammer have rooms or just a more or less open play space.

Just go with a place that you would have a nice meal in for yourself and a hotel room that you would normally book for yourself. Since I found a good rate/place on dayuse.com, I have not hosted in a local bathhouse (I'm in Vegas) but the escorts I mentioned that to were cool with that.

So what if you recognize each other? You will both have a confidence to keep about each other. I ran into a long time friend at a bathhouse. We had a chat about our closeted lives and when we knew we were bi. But after that day, we have said nothing to each other about it.

The tax situations and all the rest of the stuff you quoted is really irrelevant. You are paying for a service. What your income/tax situation and what the provider does has no bearing on the provider and if you tip or not.

There is a difference between tipping an independent provider and tipping an employee, like a server in a restaurant or the massage therapist in a Massage Envy. The provider sets the rates for his services and should set them at a level that he is satisfied with. If there is a day where he provides an extra service or exceeds the indicated time, then a tip would be in order. If you are paying $150 or 200 for a massage, he should be satisfied with that. If not he should charge more, not pay tipping games. Maybe you should find another therapist if he is not satisfied with you paying his fee.

No but I only use providers with a solid history on rentmen so I have no worries.

A good escort will act so as to let you believe that you are the center of his earth. As a client, when I see such an ad, I run the other way. As I am neither, I would fear that this guy would not be able to be let me delude myself that his is as into me as I want to believe he is.

After many many years of hiring 2-3x a year, I only rebooked once and he was a disappointment the second time due to things taking off in his career including porn. Finally found a guy and have rebooked him. It is emotionally exhausting trying to figure out if and how you fit into this guys MO for want of a better term. No matter how much you communicate, escorts, particularly on a first meeting have their game plan that they fall back on. While they might flip or flop on an activity to accommodate you, they have a way they function. Escorts have their quirks and often ignore when you ask. One guy I found out too late wouldn't kiss, for his BF only. Another would let you top him but no fingers. While it is also exciting to try new adventures, there is a great comfort in finding someone where you know the connection exists and the meeting will be physically and emotionally satisfying.

Since RM only allows premium members to write reviews I don't have that problem. But I would only write negatively about objective criteria, not if there was not "connection" as long as I felt the guy was "showing up" and not mailing it in.

The price for escorts will continue to fluctuate based on supply and demand. The biggest issue is the total lack of transparency, no one actually knows what the market is. You set your price based on the amount of business you want and how much business you are getting. Too busy, you can raise your rates, not busy enough you may want to lower them. It might mean that you do have to see more customers to make what you want. But for many this is a what ever I have left at the end of the month type of expense and this will affect what they are willing to or can pay.

Just been looking at RM. Seems on the free public pics, no one is showing the goods, all covered up. Is this a change in RM policy to full frontal only in the premium pics or just those I happened to look at? Thought I used to see quite a bit of cock but apparently no more

Rates are an important consideration as is location and availability. If their location is given then the assumption is they can host, even like mid town or the name of the community if not central. But if they can't host than that should be stated and if uber required or whatever should be noted. Also many escorts have regular jobs or just don't like 3AM or even 11PM booty calls. So days and hours would be helpful. No sense in asking if they are available when they have a regular prior commitment. On general I thought that Daddy's site worked pretty well for my needs. Thanks for your work on this

PHI, protected health information only restricts health care providers, nothing to prevent a non health care provider from relating information that the provider has told them or that they experienced/observed. Nothing illegal ( just talking about legal here) about you telling your neighbor that the guy upstairs has AIDS,

I have not had a regular until now because no one checked enough boxes until now. Not that they flaked out or didn't give service, just never clicked enough. Had only seen one guy twice prior and he was less than stellar on the second go round. So I have seen this guy 3 times and await the 4th. He comes to town about every 2 months or so and that the the frequency. Still checking out new experiences, up to no, had hired maybe 4 times a year. Not sure if I will be exclusive with this guy as often or what I will do ongoing.