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Yes I was and have fond memories. We bonded together quite well and looked out for each other. We were very average guys, no big jocks or BMOCS or the most popular with the girls. I had not really come to terms with my sexuality at the time, had a fascination of sex with men but only one H S experience. My school a "technology institute " was at least 90% male, science and engineering was not a big thing with women in those days, and the school was about 50% "Greek". (A funny aside, a woman who I knew later on is of Greek heritage. A bit naïve about college life, when she got there she heard about "the Greeks" this and that and was surprised that there were so many of Greek descent like here there until she realized what was going on) Women in the surrounding schools would generally not date "independents" because they were thought to be and generally were geeks, nerds and socially deficient. Actually they were brilliant but socially awkward and many today would be considered "on the spectrum". I don't even know if the public was aware of the term Autism then. The school social scene totally resolved around the fraternities and membership was kind of necessary for a social life. I am only in contact with 2 of the 14 guys in my class. Of the 14, at least 3 of us are bi or gay.

Classic Turkish bath, also through out the Mediterranean area. Big beefy guys in swim suits lather you up scrub you down, and generally pummel you into relaxation while you are wearing a towel sort of. All very straight. When I was just a newbie in NYC and looking for a bathhouse, my first venture was into a Russian version of one of these in the east Village. Not knowing what to expect in a bathhouse, I was very circumspect in my behavior and fortunately did not commit and faux pas. I did not make that mistake the second time.

The Olympians, particularly the runners but also some of the swimmers who are wearing unitards, are putting on quite a show. The thin fabric and apparently no jock is providing the world with an anatomy lesson, to my delight. It is fascinating to watch the runners with their junk bouncing around as they put it all out there in their race. I guess they are all right with mama comparing them to dad, and dad seeing what he gave you. My question is what is with these guys, the majority I would believe are straight. Is it a thing with runners to proclaim their endowment? I have seen ballet dancers with more modesty. I have to assume they know that they are leaving nothing to the imagination. The divers in their smallest of speedos do not show nearly as much, but then again when you balls hit cold water from 33 feet it is not an environment conducive for showing off. Any competitive runners out there>?

Checked Raiden out and he now admits to being 27, but he does look like low 30s. Good looking guy but limited pictures.

I went to look at secondskin.co ( not .com) and they require you know a current member to join. They want to keep the site safe from the wrong people.

Blackmail does not necessarily end with the first payment. You do need to contact the authorities. You might want to warn the people on the list that someone is blackmailing you about some pictures and they might not want to open suspect emails as it might be TMI for them. They might not want to try to unsee something. Not everyone want to see you naked. The worst that might happen is that you will have to endure comments from them: How could you be so stupid to do that!

If a guy no longer has use for his leather, is there a place that he can sell it? I mean like someone/place who deals with this stuff specifically, not just a random listing on craigslist. Just curious, nothing to sell or want to buy now

Everybody wants the perfect and disses the good. Traffic congestion is a problem, so where do you put any form of mass transit. There is no room by in large for surface. I live in Vegas and the monorail is a visual blight, just because it is behind the hotels in their service area keeps it out of the view of most, but it is therefore by in large useless except for convention travel. The Casinos KO'ed it down the middle of the Strip where it might have actually worked. So underground is the remaining option. It does remain to be seen how viable the Musk system really is but he does seem to have overcome the biggest obstacle to it which is the prohibitive cost of tunneling. In Vegas, Musk is digging the tubes but if a hotel wants a station, they have to pay for it. So we will see. Also in Vegas his plan is for point to point travel, direct from one place to the other, not a rail type system of all the stops in-route. But if you are a tourist, do you want to spend an hour at 10AM sitting in traffic while all the good parking spots are being taken?

First ventral is the term for front, as opposed to dorsal for back. I had two a few years age, the first was laparoscopic and the second a year or so later was open due to the scaring from the first he couldn't do the laparoscopic. Had some pain. He prescribed about a week of Tylenol with codeine. did not even need it. Don't think I even finished the first bottle after the second but he gave me some more, still have it years later but I think the Tylenol expired so it really should get tossed one day. Rapid recovery although lately get occasional pinching feeling at the mesh site. I often get pulled by TSA for stuff in my pelvic area, thought just the pants bunching, never thought it could be the mesh. Will look more closely next time. But the pat down is kind of fun, only in that the guy is so overly polite and formal nd so awkward about it and I really could not care, just hurry up and let me go.

I sort of went to one in NYC without really realizing it many many years ago. Answered an ad in the back of one of the gay mags to meet a guy, called to make an appointment. It was operating out of a hotel, they had several rooms or a suite. I met a guy who offered me a guy who was not the one in the ad. Turns out it was an operation that was a straight brothel but they did have a number of guys for hire but apparently a limited selection at any one time. The guy was there all day to turn all the tricks came through the door.

I'm vaccinated and only vaxed providers for me. There is enough shit that can be transmitted already and the more I can control ,the better

What you say want is pretty vanilla in terms of activities You have not even talked about who(m?) is actually doing what to who. So if you want to talk, when you meet him just say that is what you want to do. " Hi, lets sit and talk for a while." Then while chatting if you feel you want him undressed, then undress him. If you want him to undress himself tell him to take his shirt off. Same about your getting undressed. But if you want undressing tell him to be dressed. That way he won't open the door in a jock. Don't try to tell him too much before because you will never talk just how much you tell him to nor will he just take his shirt off just when you want him to. Same goes for any other activity. He will never do what you want when you want it without direction, could only be a hand on the back of the head, but you will need to guide the activities. You could describe the general tone of the get together. Like I want to talk and cuddle a lot. If you were interested you could say I want a lot of hot and heavy action and I want to..... and/or be...... but probably need not go into more detail than that. Then again if you do not say too much it will be easier to switch to plan B if on meeting you get different ideas as to what you want. What I got from a question I asked about being a piece of meat, the guys not only feel that is part of the job but I feel that part of it is that in some aspect that is what they want from you. Everyone has an ego and they also want to feel desired and that they turn you on, that is why you chose them. Good luck on your adventure.

Also not a provider, but I think you as the client get to choose what you want to do. Do what will give you comfort and closure or what ever else you want to call it. If you feel you owe him an explanation that is what matters. If you do not think you owe him that then don't. No matter what you do you have a 50% chance of being correct. How will you feel if you let him know and he does not respond. If you think you will be pissed, then do not contact him because that can happen.

Thanks, that answers my question.

If you are buddy listed by a member (client) , are you notified? Same with if your profile is just looked at? Thanks, sorry if this has been asked prior.

Marching up and down the school yard arms linked chanting "I like Ike" Being in the mass Salk polio vaccine trial. They chose my entire elementary school for the study. I was so happy that I got the vaccine, not the placebo because I did not have to get the initial 3 shots over, just needed the booster. The dinosaurs!!!!!!

A week or two, if nothing else just to verify that they will be available, to check their rates and establish a contact. That gives you time to discuss what you are looking for, especially if you are looking for longer time. I would think that most escorts will be generally clean but you could offer more than ask. Even when you set it up, ask if he will want to start with a shower. As to pictures, ask, all they can do is say not. Some might not care, even a face shot if they are really out, others no way.

I actually had the reverse experience. I have a light colored and somewhat sparse and slow growing beard so I never shave more that 2-3 and maybe only once a week. I had not bothered to shave and the escort never said anything. Turns out his skin in sensitive to stubble and it was a distraction. Too bad he did not ask if I would shave. No problem if I had known.

To me into means that it is something that your really enjoy doing and look forward to incorporating into the experience. But I get the feeling that for some guys it means that they will go along with it, like into toys or leather or bondage but that means if you bring it they will accommodate you but do not provide it, or into feet means they they will tolerate your licking theirs. Or worse they just check off everything. I do discuss before hiring but find that they do not come through. I once gave a guy a whole list and he was going to cancel but I assured him that I did not expect most of it but was all of the things I was open to. But I do feel that you can only ask for so much before you get that kind of reaction and some guys will just yes you. Once you are on his bed it is really too late unless you are prepared to leave. Are you going to walk out because he does not have a dildo or will not suck on your toes when all else is going well. But I am prepared for that and do not let the lack of certain activities detract from the experience.

Thanks for the input. So what I thought is probably true and interesting to know about Google Maps.

I recently saw a reference to current cruising Vaseline Alley in West Hollywood. I thought is was a local nickname for a standard dark behind the stores alley and got its name from the use of a lot of the stuff in the old pre condom days. Apparently it is a named street on google maps. Does anyone know how it got the name.

I just looked at the www.poppers-aromas.eu/site. They have amyl nitrate which is the actual drug that are poppers and is legal on Rx and is used for cardiac problems. . As no RX use in the US is illegal, they came out with the propyl and other nitrates to get around the problem. I may try them

Do not ever use them again. You were "lucky" that it only lasted 3 days. Next time could be worse and longer. Maybe just a shot of booze or a joint to relax you. You have to try them out.

Sometimes decisions are not practical but emotional. The question is what do you have to give up to have this car? Do you think this car is worth the money to you? Does it fit your practical needs as well as your emotional ones? You can not do Costco or golf clubs (maybe) with a Corvette. I could buy one but it is not that important to me and I would rather do other things with the money. So ultimately you have to decide. Some of these cars depreciate rapidly and are not abused so a used one might be an answer but it is not the same as a new one. Good luck with your decision

I have not been having success getting what I am looking for from an escort, probably too subtle to get across how I want them to take charge. I get the feeling they do not know me well enough to push harder and I am able to hire rarely so it is not like I have had the chance to develop a relationship. Anyway I feel that I want to take charge more and be active in going after the vanilla things I want to do like instead of being ordered to suck them, just going for it and telling them to suck me. At the same time I am sensitive that they are people and do not want them to feel like they are just pieces of meat lying there for me to perve over. Am I overthinking this and/or is this part of being an escort and part of the usual encounters you guys have?