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I just wrapped up my second meeting with him, and I would have thought it hard for him to top last’s week’s meeting, but he did!! I will definitely meet with him a minimum of twice again before Mardi Gras, and I’ lobbying for him to return for Southern Decadence, and somehow I think I’m going to succeed 😃!!

As anyone who follows posts I make on here is aware, I don’t mince my words regarding what a disaster New Orleans is for our hobby. it’s also rare now for a provider with a “wow factor” to even visit the city anymore! That is not the case for Sebastian_Leon who just arrived in the Big Easy and has a major “wow factor.” I just finished a meeting with him within the last hour, and he was incredible. He fulfilled all three activities which “do it” for me (being spanked, having my face sat upon, and worshipping his feet) and he did it with gusto!! In fact, his verbal skills just may be the best I’ve ever experienced! I always just consider that a bonus, but he is very skilled in that regard!! He is in New Orleans through Mardi Gras, which is February 17, 2026 this year, and here’s his profile: Sebastian_Leon - Male Escort, Gay massage - New Orleans | Rent.Men RENT.MEN Sebastian_Leon Gay Escort in New Orleans, Louisiana, available for Modeling,Erotic Massage,Bodywork. | Find all the best Male... I know the moderators will want to merge this post with his other main post, but I’m respectfully requesting that be done only after February 17 so that we can show him as much love as possible while he’s here. He said that, if he does well, he may very well return each winter to avoid the cold. Let’s get him back down here every year because, as I said at the outset of this post, a guy like him doesn’t visit the Big Easy very often!

Well, he is most certainly back, and he’s still the most incredible provider I’ve ever met. In 21 years of hiring, Ian is the only provider who has ever checked off every single box important to me: non smoker, no vaping, no drug use, no tattoos. Throw in the fact that he is “my type” and that he is stunningly beautiful, and what you have from my vantage point is perfection, which is why I’m very close to wrapping up yet another 16-hour (combined round trip) venture to Austin having met with him yesterday and loving every second of my time with him!

Yes. That 5-star review left on RM on 8/13/25 is mine. He was professional and courteous and fulfilled all three of the desires I seek from any session with any provider (worshipping feet, being spanked, and having my face sat upon). I would definitely repeat; however, once I meet a dream provider (by my criteria), which doesn’t happen often (maybe 3-5 times since I started hiring 21 years ago), I tend to shut off hiring of anyone else unless and until he is no longer available. That happened with me on 9/12/25 when I met Ian Twink and, since that time, I have met with nobody but him, and I seriously doubt that’s ever going to change as long as he remains available.

Like @PhileasFogg, I’m closest to New Orleans, and that’s been the case for 21 years. He summed up the current New Orleans market very well and, unfortunately, it’s been that way for years. Consequently, I’m now making a bunch of trips to Austin and Houston to meet with the absolute best young man with whom I’ve encountered in my 21 years of hiring. My “home market” of New Orleans may as well not even exist right now., and I seriously doubt that is going to change anytime soon, so my answer to the question is 0.00%.

My thought is that, unless he originated it (in which case he can do so easily), the action of deleting a post could only be done by a moderator (and I think their customary approach is to lock posts, but perhaps extenuating circumstances may have been present). Given the title of the post, it would seem (certainly on the surface at least) to be a prospective client seeking intel, thus (again, on the surface at least) making it unlikely that he originated the post.

That would likely be this recent (9/30) post:

More than likely the OP deleted it. The likely reason is that he did not like the direction the post took. In 11 years on this forum, I have only done that one time, and that occurred in May of this year. Fortunately, the OP does not have to ask the moderators to step in when he originated the post. He can take mattters into his own hands by simply deleting the entirety of the post. That is a very valuable feature of this forum and, being candid, I would be much less inclined to post anything if that option did not exist.

Here are my recent interactions with Aaron: ==> We connected directly and agreed upon the rate, ==> He confirmed he'd be in New Orleans, asked for my address, and he said he'd send his hotel details upon arrival (I also offered to host if he preferred), ==> He had his "available now" indicator active the whole time he was in New Orleans, but he never followed up at all or sent me the address, ==> This morning his profile showed him in Houston with no cancellation or explanation to me.

Yes. He’s just taking a break for a few weeks, which have included a vacation. I think you’re going to see him back in early 2026 very much refreshed after an enjoyable holiday season that included a fun-filled vacation!!

It actually appears to be back fully working now. I guess they may have been right on top of it or else started getting a bunch of complaints!

Guys: Just a quick note that RM appears to be having a systemwide problem with direct links to provider (and client) profiles. I first noticed it and thought it bizarre that a provider I know still has an ad up with the same screen name showed up as “404..Page Not Found.” I have now tried about 15 other providers and my own client profile, and they all do the same thing. I hope they get it fixed soon, but I just wanted to post this before you may start to think your favorite provider may have left the arena as I first did until I discovered this is a systemwide problem.

I’m not one for leaving a review on R/M every time I meet with the same provider and have a great experience, but I think doing so here has more significance and perhaps even more impact. I’m in Houston again and made the 5-hour bus ride one way just to meet with Ian again today, and I had another fantastic time. I have to be honest in that I had totally lost all hope that I would ever find anyone who gives me the kind of happiness and joy that he does. It’s just been too many years now with, at best, mediocre encounters with New Orleans providers. This year has been the BEST YEAR EVER in my 21 years of hiring, and it’s all because of Ian. I will be boarding my return bus in just over two hours, and I can’t wait to see Ian again when he’s in Houston again, which he said should be in about three weeks. I’m very, very thankful for members like @NateATX and @ericwinters who gave such positive statements about him that I felt comfortable enough to travel to Austin (eight-hour bus ride each way), and meet him for that first time. He is literally a dream come true for me!!!!

I have often wondered how he and his husband can afford such a jet set lifestyle. All anyone has to do is click on his instagram link and see them flying in incredible opulence. Perhaps we’ve uncovered how. I’m just glad I opted for the crawfish boil as referenced above where I got to “hang around” with quite a few guys whom I perceive as hotter than him rather than agree to his $250/hour “hang out” rate which he offered me after I flatly rejected his $450 core rate.

Though modestly intense, we (me and the provider) keep everything within reason, and we intermix the other two activities I love (worshipping feet and having my face sat upon) to where there’s never an extended period of just spank, spank, spank. Also, unlike the guy you reference, I have no interest in anal or oral sex as either giver or receiver and in fact have never even engaged in it my entire life because it holds no allure for me whatsoever. I know that makes me a unique client (and unique in general), but it’s been who I am from a very young child all the way through today.

I sure do! Many I’ve had for 30+ years. I also pack a couple of straps that don’t make quite as much noise.

Well, there are times during sessions I have at hotels where the provider and I mutually agree to turn on the TV for a few minutes, but that’s to help drown out the noise of paddles being applied to my bare ass with considerable vigor 😀!

My sole activities that I enjoy are worshipping feet, being spanked, and having my face sat upon. I always just jerk off myself to “take care of things” as I refer to it in my own RM profile. When I first started hiring 21 years ago (and for about 10-12 years thereafter), I would be so aroused and excited that I would “take care of things” after only about 20 minutes, after which I was perfectly content to just call it a highly satisfying session and be on my way. I never met a provider who wasn’t very content for that to be the case, and one provider even said, “I love how all this turns you on so much and so fast, and it makes it so much easier for me.” Now, however (at age 62), “things” are much harder to “take care of,” so I always wait until after the provider leaves before even attempting. Being honest, I don’t want the embarrassment of not being able to go “over the top” in 3-4 minutes, nor do I want the provider to somehow feel he “missed the mark.” That’s why now the duration of a session is far more significant to me than it was 20 years ago. When “Mr. Timer” left that second time, I could not even come close to “taking care of things,” so I just stared at a photo of a retired provider from when he and I met 15-20 years ago, and I fantasized that it had been him I’d just met with rather than “Mr. Timer.”

And that was my only time in 21 years!

I don’t take it as an attack at all, and he wasn’t supposed to know. It also hasn’t upset me (at least not long term) because, on a scale of 1-10 on the quality of our sessions, he was, at best a “4.” That goes directly to my commentary about how “weak” the New Orleans market is (at least for what I’m looking for) and has been for at least the last 15 years. If things don’t go well with any given provider (and that has been the case on maybe 5% of the guys I’ve hired over the years), I tend to just avoid conflict or any potential thereof and just move on. When he made it so obvious that meeting with me was practically a burden or, at a minimum, a huge inconvenience, I could not get a good mindset for continuing. In addition to being “weak,” the New Orleans market is also very small and, for reasons that I prefer not to publicize here (or even discuss via PM), that also played a significant role in my decision to sever ties with him. As I sated in this post on Ian_Twink, I’ve found a perfect “10” on that 1-10 scale so, even though it means an eight-hour bus ride each way (and getting a hotel for a couple of nights), it’s something that I’m only too happy to do because he is my dream perfect provider for the unique desires I have for a fulfilling and enjoyable encounter.

I completely agree and, if he had stayed in the market, I would link him, but I think he was wise to just exit it after a rather short tenure (about six weeks).

The issue is deeper than that for me. I’ve hired for 21 years, and I’ve always been very respectful of any provider’s time. I take a quick glance at my watch as I know the session’s end is approaching, and it is always me who says, “Well, I see we only have a few minutes left, and I’ve had a fantastic time and look forward to seeing you again.” Of course, if the session is so mediocre that I know I won’t be rehiring, I just express appreciation for him meeting with me. In 21 years and having never experienced this act of a timer being set until four months ago, even having a timer set, for me personally, felt like an insult that I couldn’t be trusted to not infringe upon or be respectful of his time. That’s just my take on the whole incident.

In response to this post, @Mark_fl revealed the fact that he'd once been placed on a timer by a provider. From his post: "5) I know we're paying for time and it's a business, but I don't want to feel like he's watching the clock. One guy set a timer. Talk about ruining the fantasy of the BFE." I had the same thing happen about four (4) months ago. The guy set the timer, and he indicated our time was up before it even went off (I hired for an hour). I could tell from the start that he was about the money and nothing but the money because I indicated that I didn't know how long we'd been together. His reply, "Don't worry. We can always extend it." Obviously, he meant by doubling his compensation. Anyway, he said the time was up, got dressed, and headed for the door. I accompanied him and, what he may not have realized is that the phone app I utilize records the date AND time of a text sent or received. Well, he texted me, "I'm at your front door." At the point that I closed the door to let him out, I checked that text. The elapsed time between when he sent it and the door closing for his departure was 43 minutes (17 minutes short of the hour for which I'd hired him). The New Orleans market is weak (and that's being very kind), so I contemplated for an extended period (several days) whether I would ever have him back over given that I'd enjoyed a decent time in the 43 minutes he was at my apartment, but not only did I feel cheated out of approximately $85, I felt certain it was intentional. Because the market is so weak in New Orleans, and he was willing to travel an hour to reach my apartment (though he added to his standard fee to compensate for him having to travel, which I fully understood and agreed to pay), I opted to hire him again. I did think maybe there was a small chance he inadvertently set the time to the wrong amount of time. Second visit was the same routine. Timer set only this time the timer literally went off! I said, "Boy, that was fast," to which he replied, "No, I arrived an hour ago." [Not accurate]. So, he departs again and, with my apartment only eight steps from one of three pools in the complex, he actually said, "Maybe next time I (not "we") can hang out by the pool after we're done." I said, "Sure!" I also said to myself that, unless he's ever at the complex visiting any other resident, that would be the last time he would ever see that pool. His R/M ad was gone after about six weeks, and he confided to me that I was the only client who had hired him during the time it was up. Just curious. Are Mark_fl and I the only clients who have ever literally been set to a timer?

Well, as I mentioned in the post, there are details I skipped over in order to keep the post from being too long; however, in light of your question (as well as several PMs I've gotten similar in nature), I want to go ahead and provide that material that I skipped over simply to keep the post from being too long. -------------------- I realized he wasn't going to fulfill his end of the bargain by him simply saying that he wasn't comfortable with it, and he volunteered that he'd only taken out an ad in utter desperation and stated to me via email (and this is verbatim), "I don't think anyone would agree to take it up the ass for money if they weren't desperate." [I know every member of this forum knows that is NOT the case, but this young man was naive entailing the arena he'd entered]. I really needed someone just to talk to about the whole matter (really just a shoulder to be understanding) because the whole desire (particularly for spanking) can be so frustrating, especially when you see an IDEAL prospect like this young man which just vanished so quickly, so I confided what had happened to my best friend (who remains my best friend to this day). He already knew of my desires because he and I met through a spanking contact website (The SWAT Team way back then). He, however, was ONLY into spanking and no other activity, and it was his preference to receive (i.e. be spanked) rather than give (spank). Nevertheless, he was (and is) incredibly hot, and my mindset is that I can ONLY be spanked by such guys (i.e. no way can I spank such a hot guy, HE gets to do the spanking). He finally said to me, "<my name>, I can see it's going to be impossible for me to reprogram you, so I'll agree to just spank you!" He and I have met literally (no exaggeration) hundreds of times for him to spank me. Unfortunately, due to circumstances which I don't want to publicize here, our ability to meet became logistically much, much more difficult 15 years ago. At any rate, when I shared what had transpired with him, he was FUMING mad, and I do mean MAD! He demanded to know the young man's name, but I told him I just wanted to forget the whole episode. He then said, "Well, it's NOT going to just be forgotten," and he demanded to see the check, so I gave it to him. He also told me, "You're my best friend, but you sure can be gullible. I promise you this kid is not even enrolled in college." I told him that there is no way he could have faked the kind of accounting knowledge he did, but my best friend continued to insist I'd been duped! Well, with that name (which is not a very common name), he started researching, and he found the same name registered to a lady in a city 60 miles from here. He called her, and he asked: "Ms. Xxxxxxx. do you know xxxxxx xxxxxx," to which he said she immediately asked, "He's my nephew. What's he done now?" My friend responded, "Well, at this point, nothing ma'am, but I just wanted to find out if you may know him." My fest friend then uncovered the fact that the young man's grandfather was a music professor at a major university (not the one at which he was enrolled). His next step was to fire off an email (which I told him I was completely against doing but you would have to know my friend), introducing himself and letting him know just how angry he was over what he had done. He also volunteered that he'd spoken briefly with his aunt and was well aware of the professorship that his grandfather held, and he named the university. The next thing that happened was that the young man called me and asked why I'd chosen to involve anyone else in the matter between us. He did confide that under no circumstances did he want his grandfather finding out anything about what had happened. I asked both him and my best friend if we could engage in a three-way phone call, and they both agreed to. I told both my best friend and the young man that I wanted to just let the whole episode go because I wanted the young man to be able to finish school, and I also didn't even desire having a meeting for my own spanking (and other) desires given that the young man had indicated his mentality (i.e. "Nobody takes it up the ass....."). My friend asked him point-blank, "Do you swear to me that you are enrolled in the university?" The young man swore that he was. My friend responded, "Well, there is no way I would agree to this if it were my money, but it's not, so what <my name> wants to do (we'd discussed this before the three-way call took place) is meet at McDonald's tomorrow morning for breakfast and, if you produce a fee slip showing you paid the tuition with that money, I will back off because that's what <my name> wants me to do, but just be damn glad you're dealing with him and not me!" I showed up at McDonald's, and there was the young man at a table. He was practically in tears (sincerely, not fake) and still seemed nervous even after what my friend had said the prior day, and he told me, "I am really sorry," and he even said, "I did some research, and I wanted to show you this website that helps people connect for male spanking." It was Guyspank, which wound up taking over for the SWAT Team after that website shut down years before. I told him, "Xxxxxxxxxx, trust me, I know about virtually any male/male spanking contact site out there, but I do appreciate you trying to help." I even volunteered that I'd been to all male spanking gatherings in Dallas, Altana, and Chicago (all true). My friend showed up to join us being MUCH, MUCH calmer than he was when he first found out about what happened, but he still said to me early that morning, "I am going to bet you he won't be able to produce a fee bill." He did introduce himself, and after about 30-40 seconds he said, "Well, <my name> wants to be a nice guy and just pay for your tuition this semester, but I insist on seeing the fee bill!" The young man pulled it right out and showed it to him! We each went to the counter and ordered a little something to eat, and the remainder of the meeting was very relaxed. My friend ended the meeting by saying, "You got lucky on this, but I do want you to know that <my name> and I both wish you the best in life, but as a word of advice, don't ever do anything like this again!" The young man said, "I thank both of you, and I promise you nothing like this will ever happen with me the rest of my life." I also sent the link for his presentation to the water system's Board of Directors to my best friend, and he said, "Wow! That's impressive." I knew he had the potential to make a success of his life and, especially after hearing what his aunt told my best friend ("What's he done now?"), it made me feel really happy for him because, while he idolized his grandfather, his father was a totally different matter. So, now that the whole story is out there (but I'm sure you can see why I left all of the above out because it would have made for a marathon post), I'm sure everyone can see why I did not reach out to the young man even after five years passed. As a final word, my best friend (who knew and knows I think he is hot as hell) said to me, "Well, <my name> I can see why you wanted to meet with him! He is a very good looking young man." --------------------- So that, as Paul Harvey used to say, "is the rest of the story." Thank you to everyone who gave a thumbs up and certainly for those who took the time to read his follow-up. I figured I'd never end up posting this whole episode, but seeing others' stories helped me realized that, contrary to my thoughts, I wouldn't have become the laughing stock of this whole forum even if I'd posted it years ago. Thanks, everybody!

I’ve only been asked for a pic one time (though on one other occasion one provider expressed disappointment that my RM profile had no face pic). I regret sending one to the provider who requested it, and I will merely state that both were out of the business within two months of entering the arena. I have no intention of ever sending another if a future request is made of me.