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Well, as I mentioned in the post, there are details I skipped over in order to keep the post from being too long; however, in light of your question (as well as several PMs I've gotten similar in nature), I want to go ahead and provide that material that I skipped over simply to keep the post from being too long. -------------------- I realized he wasn't going to fulfill his end of the bargain by him simply saying that he wasn't comfortable with it, and he volunteered that he'd only taken out an ad in utter desperation and stated to me via email (and this is verbatim), "I don't think anyone would agree to take it up the ass for money if they weren't desperate." [I know every member of this forum knows that is NOT the case, but this young man was naive entailing the arena he'd entered]. I really needed someone just to talk to about the whole matter (really just a shoulder to be understanding) because the whole desire (particularly for spanking) can be so frustrating, especially when you see an IDEAL prospect like this young man which just vanished so quickly, so I confided what had happened to my best friend (who remains my best friend to this day). He already knew of my desires because he and I met through a spanking contact website (The SWAT Team way back then). He, however, was ONLY into spanking and no other activity, and it was his preference to receive (i.e. be spanked) rather than give (spank). Nevertheless, he was (and is) incredibly hot, and my mindset is that I can ONLY be spanked by such guys (i.e. no way can I spank such a hot guy, HE gets to do the spanking). He finally said to me, "<my name>, I can see it's going to be impossible for me to reprogram you, so I'll agree to just spank you!" He and I have met literally (no exaggeration) hundreds of times for him to spank me. Unfortunately, due to circumstances which I don't want to publicize here, our ability to meet became logistically much, much more difficult 15 years ago. At any rate, when I shared what had transpired with him, he was FUMING mad, and I do mean MAD! He demanded to know the young man's name, but I told him I just wanted to forget the whole episode. He then said, "Well, it's NOT going to just be forgotten," and he demanded to see the check, so I gave it to him. He also told me, "You're my best friend, but you sure can be gullible. I promise you this kid is not even enrolled in college." I told him that there is no way he could have faked the kind of accounting knowledge he did, but my best friend continued to insist I'd been duped! Well, with that name (which is not a very common name), he started researching, and he found the same name registered to a lady in a city 60 miles from here. He called her, and he asked: "Ms. Xxxxxxx. do you know xxxxxx xxxxxx," to which he said she immediately asked, "He's my nephew. What's he done now?" My friend responded, "Well, at this point, nothing ma'am, but I just wanted to find out if you may know him." My fest friend then uncovered the fact that the young man's grandfather was a music professor at a major university (not the one at which he was enrolled). His next step was to fire off an email (which I told him I was completely against doing but you would have to know my friend), introducing himself and letting him know just how angry he was over what he had done. He also volunteered that he'd spoken briefly with his aunt and was well aware of the professorship that his grandfather held, and he named the university. The next thing that happened was that the young man called me and asked why I'd chosen to involve anyone else in the matter between us. He did confide that under no circumstances did he want his grandfather finding out anything about what had happened. I asked both him and my best friend if we could engage in a three-way phone call, and they both agreed to. I told both my best friend and the young man that I wanted to just let the whole episode go because I wanted the young man to be able to finish school, and I also didn't even desire having a meeting for my own spanking (and other) desires given that the young man had indicated his mentality (i.e. "Nobody takes it up the ass....."). My friend asked him point-blank, "Do you swear to me that you are enrolled in the university?" The young man swore that he was. My friend responded, "Well, there is no way I would agree to this if it were my money, but it's not, so what <my name> wants to do (we'd discussed this before the three-way call took place) is meet at McDonald's tomorrow morning for breakfast and, if you produce a fee slip showing you paid the tuition with that money, I will back off because that's what <my name> wants me to do, but just be damn glad you're dealing with him and not me!" I showed up at McDonald's, and there was the young man at a table. He was practically in tears (sincerely, not fake) and still seemed nervous even after what my friend had said the prior day, and he told me, "I am really sorry," and he even said, "I did some research, and I wanted to show you this website that helps people connect for male spanking." It was Guyspank, which wound up taking over for the SWAT Team after that website shut down years before. I told him, "Xxxxxxxxxx, trust me, I know about virtually any male/male spanking contact site out there, but I do appreciate you trying to help." I even volunteered that I'd been to all male spanking gatherings in Dallas, Altana, and Chicago (all true). My friend showed up to join us being MUCH, MUCH calmer than he was when he first found out about what happened, but he still said to me early that morning, "I am going to bet you he won't be able to produce a fee bill." He did introduce himself, and after about 30-40 seconds he said, "Well, <my name> wants to be a nice guy and just pay for your tuition this semester, but I insist on seeing the fee bill!" The young man pulled it right out and showed it to him! We each went to the counter and ordered a little something to eat, and the remainder of the meeting was very relaxed. My friend ended the meeting by saying, "You got lucky on this, but I do want you to know that <my name> and I both wish you the best in life, but as a word of advice, don't ever do anything like this again!" The young man said, "I thank both of you, and I promise you nothing like this will ever happen with me the rest of my life." I also sent the link for his presentation to the water system's Board of Directors to my best friend, and he said, "Wow! That's impressive." I knew he had the potential to make a success of his life and, especially after hearing what his aunt told my best friend ("What's he done now?"), it made me feel really happy for him because, while he idolized his grandfather, his father was a totally different matter. So, now that the whole story is out there (but I'm sure you can see why I left all of the above out because it would have made for a marathon post), I'm sure everyone can see why I did not reach out to the young man even after five years passed. As a final word, my best friend (who knew and knows I think he is hot as hell) said to me, "Well, <my name> I can see why you wanted to meet with him! He is a very good looking young man." --------------------- So that, as Paul Harvey used to say, "is the rest of the story." Thank you to everyone who gave a thumbs up and certainly for those who took the time to read his follow-up. I figured I'd never end up posting this whole episode, but seeing others' stories helped me realized that, contrary to my thoughts, I wouldn't have become the laughing stock of this whole forum even if I'd posted it years ago. Thanks, everybody!

I’ve only been asked for a pic one time (though on one other occasion one provider expressed disappointment that my RM profile had no face pic). I regret sending one to the provider who requested it, and I will merely state that both were out of the business within two months of entering the arena. I have no intention of ever sending another if a future request is made of me.

I am so thrilled that this happened, and I felt certain something like that had to be the case (too incredibly popular wherever he is). I’ve hired for 21 years, and I’ve never experienced anything like him, and I sincerely mean that! Like I’ve said before, Austin is an eight-hour bus ride for me, but it’s a trip I am going to make as often as I can, and that should be no less than once a month. If he’s in Houston, I will be there unless there is something really major to hold me back! He is THAT much of a superstar in my book!

I have only one past experience to compare, and I'm going to give the "cliff notes" version, but if anybody wants the "filler" part that I'm leaving off, I'll be happy to provide: Around 2006, a student at the university in the city where I reside took out an ad, which I believe was on the old Men4RentNow. I replied the same way I've been replying to ads in the 21 years I've been hiring, which is to state the only three activities which "do it" for me: being spanked (probably the biggest one), worshipping the provider's feet, and having my face sat upon. It was obvious that he was new (and I'd only been hiring a couple of years at that time), so he asked if we could first meet at a restaurant to feel one another out. I obliged. During the meal, he harped on how disheartened he was that he could not pay his tuition for the upcoming semester and would therefore risk all of the hard work he'd put in pursuing his accounting degree and becoming a CPA. Being an inactive CPA myself, we discussed (not to bore anyone) principles which I knew he should be learning based on the courses he told me he'd just taken. Our discussion was highly, highly specific on accounting issues, and it was VERY obvious that he was a legitimate accounting student and was retaining what he'd learned. When I returned home, I made a spontaneous decision to send him an email (iPhones had not yet even come out -- hence no texts) proposing that, if he was interested, I could pay his tuition as a prepayment for 13 meetings (tuition was $2,600 and back then $200 was the "going" rate). I told him that we could meet at a restaurant the next day and I would provide the check. He was ESTATIC!! I KNEW as I handed the check over (payee was blank) that I had essentially no recourse if he never met with me, but I had compassion for him because he'd told me about having a tough time growing up with a father who had abandoned the family. A couple of weeks after I supplied the check, it became obvious that he did not want to hold his end of the bargain (and clearly wasn't going to) and I knew there was nothing I could do. <-------At this point is where I'm leaving a TON of material out, but I can supplement if anyone is interested.-------> I resolved myself that I'd just helped a young man out and let it go. About five years later, I Googled his name, and I discovered a presentation he was making to a water system's Board of Directors (it was in the minutes). He'd graduated, gotten his CPA license, and I actually was very, very happy for him notwithstanding the loss of funds on my end. So, as far as I'm concerned, that was a "happy ending," and, being honest, I've thought about previously posting the whole episode to this forum, but I thought I'd be the laughing stock of the whole forum given that so many clients strenuously object to even providing a much smaller deposit for a single meeting (and I fully concur now). Seeing so many others step up on this post, however, has caused me to be willing to publish my one and only similar situation. From reading the initial post on this thread, I don't think the situation described has even the remotest possibility of having a "happy ending," so I have to agree with the sentiments expressed by others that you just have to let it go.

Sorry, I definitely didn’t read closely enough and responded as a two-way street rather than a one-way street. It would probably be better for me to refrain from trying to process anything with my brain when I can hardly keep my eyes open and keep from falling asleep even as I read because of a long (but very eventful and happy) day 😀.

That’s what I’ve done (stick with one primary regular with others hired only occasionally). Unfortunately, the New Orleans market has made doing so extremely difficult because what I’m looking for so rarely appears in New Orleans anymore. As the pandemic made its way into our lives, I did notice apparent built-up frustration for both client and provider which, in turn, did seem to spill over into an elevated level of a total lack of common courtesy from both sides. Over the last two years, however, I’ve noticed a drastic improvement in professionalism and courtesy exhibited by providers for which I’m grately appreciative. I can’t say much about fellow clients, but I do suspect there remains accumulated frustration that sometimes gets unfairly dumped on the providers. That’s just a suspicion on my part though. For me personally, all in all, I’m more happy with this hobby now than in the last 20 years. I’m not even concerned about the fact that experiencing that happiness first entails an eight-hour one-way bus ride to Austin. 😀.

And there is nothing quite like having that beautiful ass having a seat on my face!!

He was gracious enough to let me know on Thursday that he would be in Houston this weekend, and that’s a full three hours each way shorter for me than his home base of Austin! Accordingly, I immediately booked a round-trip bus ticket to Houston for today. He and I just met, and he just gets better every time! I am now aboard my return trip bus back. Even got the same bus and same driver! She said she does a “turnaround” New Orleans to Houston on Sundays! 😀. He says he comes to Houston about every 3-4 weeks to meet with clients based here. I’m just so glad he has said he’ll give me a heads up before each visit because I will drop just about anything to get to be with someone who gives me the kind of happiness that he does!!

You obviously ignored my initial disclaimer that I am NOT a typical client. I also stressed how critical the “mindset” is for me. It may not be for you (which I fully appreciate), but it is for me. I also do NOT bring up financial responsibility, but if you take the time to read Dimitryy’s ad (which I assume you did not), he touts it!! Our discussion centered on a mutual interest that I obtained through reading his profile. He and I very much enjoyed sharing our investment experiences and, being candid, it made for an even more rewarding experience. You obviously have great disdain for our capitalistic economic system, and that’s your right. All I can tell you is that, at the age of seven years old, my father told me I would receive a $2/week allowance for taking out the trash. He then said, and I vividly recall every word 55 years later, after untwisting the lid on a Tropicana orange juice bottle, “I am going to place the $2 in here each week, and you can take any or all of it out anytime you want and spend it, but I want to tell you that, if you save and invest wisely, you can retire early on in life.” I’ve never forgotten his words or my visualization of his act. My father would pass away only 14 years later, but I held true to what he told me, and I DID retire on March 5,1996 at the age of 33. Perhaps that’s why Dimitryy’s words in his ad mean something really special to me. I was not in a frat, and I am certainly not naive to the reprehensible conduct of frats that has resulted in inexcusable deaths from alcohol and other related hazing. Nevertheless, it (the spanking with a frat paddle) is my “mindset” for my ideal fantasy, and I am thrilled to have been able to live it out with many, many young men who have given me more happiness than I could ever relate. I know many members may shake their heads in astonishment, but it’s who I am. So, I was asked my criteria, and I provided it. I see several other members did the same. You made no contribution other than to attack mine, so enjoy doing so because you’ll have not one iota of impact on me or my criteria which I’ve employed (very much to my satisfaction, even if it sometimes may mean something like an eight-hour bus trip each way as I recently posted about).

Let me begin by saying, just as I’ve occasionally indicated in providing stellar feedback of a provider on this site, I am a unique client whose desires for meetings differ significantly from most clients. What I mean by that is that “the big three” (anal, oral, and kissing) mean absolutely nothing to me, nor have I engaged in any of those acts even one time in my 21+ years of hiring. The mindset (and that’s a key word for me) that I seek for a meeting is being able to roll back the clock to my college years (that’s now 41+ years 😀) with a prospective hire being a frat pledgemaster who makes VERY liberal use of a frat paddle (I always bring several) to haze me, his pledge, through him paddling me. As I make clear in my own RM profile, that, along with being afforded the “privilege” of worshipping his feet and the “privilege” of serving as his seat cushion (face sitting), is ALL I seek from a session, and my RM profile makes it clear that I only seek those three acts and that I will “take care of things after I’m back alone and can relive the session.” Having said that, I tend to always hire only for an hour because it is amazing how long that is just to engage in those three activities. So, with that disclaimer out of the way, here are my screening criteria: # 1) tattoos = OUT (inconsistent with the preppy style which is my dream but which I find extremely rare now — twink is a decent substitute for preppy). # 2) smoker = OUT (see above). # 3) college age (actually in college big +) or above with provider still passing for college age. [Note: Dimitryy is a PERFECT example of, though actually about 34-36, still having it “going on” and could come close to passing for college age, and we met four times as he was near NOLA last year, and I’m anxiously awaiting his return next month 😀]. # 4) verbal skills make for a HUGE added bonus from the vantage point of not degrading me but rather an emphasis on the provider’s simple inherent superiority to other guys in his age range [Example: In our third meeting, Dimitryy had a large mug of coffee as he entered my hotel room, and he said, “Go ahead and lie down on the bed, and I’m going to have a seat on your face as I finish my coffee. After all, I have to sit on something.” I’m aroused just typing these words and recalling how much happiness he delivered to me in that meeting. # 5) financial responsibility is a huge +. Dimitryy and I visited before he left one of our meetings while watching CNBC as the DJIA broke through 40,000 last year. We own stocks in common, and Dimitryy even minimizes his overhead in travels (staying with friends, etc.) so he can maximize his ability to invest. I don’t know when he may retire, but I LOVE the fact that, when he does, he can live comfortably the remainder of his life because he was so intelligent and responsible in managing his money derived from this arena. There’s nothing worse (to me at least) than knowing you’re providing money with which a provider opts to purchase drugs. Luckily, I have come to know of drug use on a very small number of providers with whom I’ve met, but when I do, I discontinue meeting with them. Not only does it totally destroy the “mindset” I’ve outlined above (to me, there’s no “superiority” attaching to a drug user), but my own ability to hire is based on my own financial responsibility going all the way back to making $2.90/hour at McDonalds. I have no issue at all with now paying over 100 times that amount to get to live out my fantasy as outlined above, but I want no part of having the knowledge that the money is being used to feed a drug habit as I then view myself as an enabler by making the funds simply way too easy to obtain. Great question, and I know my answer is unique, but as they say, “It is what it is.”

The customers on NF seek everything imaginable, and he likely just saw there was a demand for it, so he just put up a listing. Everything on NF is obviously all fantasy anyway. I had around a $60 balance on NF that hadn’t been touched in about five years, so I decided to contact him (first text, then call) to deplete that residual balance. Our phone call was $30, our texting was about $9, and I purchased his one “goody” for $10. I have a tiny balance (about $9 or so) that will likely stay dormant another five years. He readily said he puts no focus hardly at all on NF, and I think it not wise to focus on any listing on it. I went on the long detail only to lay a foundation for the third photo and his brown eyes. Most “flirts” don’t even use their own photos to start with, so give the young man credit for that.

What’s really incredible about this is that I actually first encountered him on NiteFlirt, which I almost never use anymore. Nevertheless, I scrolled through listings and saw his. We texted several times over NF (and he has a WAY with words, something that really drives me over the top!!). Subsequently, I called him (NF keeps both numbers unknown to one another), and I told him I’d seen where he is in Austin and that I’d just returned from Austin (to meet with IanTwink). He said that the next time I was coming to let him know and we could meet and, “make the NiteFlirt texts and talks a reality.” That blew me away because “flirts” typically don’t meet in real life. What I did not know but would uncover is the fact that he has his own RentMen account but that it was turned off when I’d previously scanned Austin ads and was drawn in to Ian’s ad. So, as I came to visit Ian, I let Bonito know I was coming. That’s how I ended meeting up with both of them on this trip. I said all that so that I could provide the background for providing his NF link and, if you click on the photo for his third listing and then blow it up, you can easily see his beautiful face and see his eyes as being clearly brown. Here’s the link: NiteFlirt Phone Sex WWW.NITEFLIRT.COM At NiteFlirt, you can have phone sex with real men and women who are waiting to fulfill your erotic fantasies and fetishes. NiteFlirt:... I still don’t know why the discrepancy on eye color (other than @BSR’s theory 😀), but I do know he is incredibly hot to me, and his “way with words” both over the phone and in person is phenomenal!!

I’m not sure what may be the case on that; however, having met him, his eyes are definitely brown, and his face is exactly as depicted in the photos except that one inexplicable discrepancy entailing the eye color.

Just wanted to drop a quick note to all to express what a great time I had with two (2) providers in Austin today (not in the same session). The first provider, Ian_Twink, I’ve already previously posted upon four weeks ago. He again delivered a stellar performance!! The second provider, with whom I just finished a meeting , is BonitoBernardo: Bonitobernardo - Male Escort, Gay massage - Austin | Rent.Men RENT.MEN Bonitobernardo Gay Escort in Austin, Texas, available for Gay Escorting,Modeling,Boyfriend Experience. |... He is extremely kind and gracious and very articulate and knows how to make a session fun!! Fortunately for me, there is a direct bus from my city to Austin and, although it’s an eight-hour trip, I think I’ll be making that trip quite frequently!!

I am going to keep this brief because I don’t want to waste any time or effort. Having said that, it was me who wrote the post for which @johnwhatelse references above. The reason I deleted it is simple. I provided a brief and totally factual replication of my texts to and from him. What ensued over the next approximate 30 hours was approximately 37 “contributions” to the post I made on this young man, with virtually every single “contribution” being a blanket condemnation of me. i have no desire to even rehash all that was said about me on this forum in that brief period because it was long since deleted. in short, however, @johnwhatelse has nailed it, and I would respectfully submit that the usefulness of this forum may become severely diminished when “pile on the poster” episodes such as that which transpired with me transpire.

I made the inquiry because I wanted to travel to Austin for the sole purpose of meeting with him! We just finished our session, and he is everything the contributors on here have said: Very friendly, drop-dead gorgeous, and incredible at fulfilling the three activities I enjoy!! I plan to return to Austin regularly!! What a way to kick off the weekend!!

Okay!! At least my memory is intact!! I did the search three (3) times making certain each character was correct before hitting the search. Nothing!! Then after making this post and running another search, I get this post and NOW this one shows up too: At least I know I didn’t dream the favorable comments!

I could have sworn there used to be a thread on this site entailing Ian_Twink in Austin: Ian_Twink - Male Escort, Gay massage - Austin | Rent.Men RENT.MEN Ian_Twink Gay Escort in Austin, Texas, available for Gay Escorting,Modeling,Erotic Massage. | Find all the best Male Escorts at... My memory (which may be flawed) was that there were a couple of favorable comments on here from guys who had met with him. Maybe the OP deleted it (or maybe I’m just mistaken) but, whatever the case, can anyone provide any intel? Thanks.

That’s perfectly understandable, and thank you for your professionalism and kindness of your response.

Contrasting the messages users will get if referencing @Delter’s post vs. my post.

I understand that this thread entails your post: however, as @azdr0710 said (without being specific to which thread he “recently discovered” would disappear if the OP deleted it), I merely said it was entirely possible that he discovered it through the deletion of MY thread on MY part. I do not claim any association with your thread. My thread originated on Thursday, May 8, 2025, at approximately noon CST, and it captured approximately 25 responses or more in less than 24 hours. As I said, I deleted the thread, and that act on my part transpired on Friday, May 9, 2025, at approximately 2:30 p.m. That may have triggered a “recent” discovery. I have added material to my comment above to clear up any possible confusion.

It’s entirely possible that was my thread in which you made the recent discovery. I deleted a thread approximately eight days ago, and it was absolutely as a result of the thread going in a direction in which I was displeased. For clarification purposes, my thread is separate and distinct from @Delter’s thread which is the core inquiry of this thread.

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He may want to update his age since his ad is now six years old, yet he remains “forever 21.” After all, the year he took out his ad was the first bankruptcy filing for Forever 21, and now they’re going out of business 😀.

In my only contact with him (which was about three years ago), he declined either of the two main activities I enjoy (worshipping the provider’s feet and being spanked) with him stating, “I’m not into feet and I’m not a slapper,” which he followed with this emoji: 🤷. Hence, I have evidence that he won’t do, “whatever you want,” (which would have been pretty easy money if you ask me), but, from reading this thread, it sounds like I am fortunate that he would not in my case.