Rudynate

I hire because I think paying for sex is hot. I'm always reminded of movies about rich widows and sexy latin gigolos.

I like to play in the afternoon and not shower until the next day so that I can smell like the guy I played with for the rest of the day.

He has a great build. I think I remember him saying that he owned a gym at one point

I think the homeless problem has improved somewhat. In the mid-nineties, I found it much worse than it is now. In about 1995, the homeless population was estimated at about 10 thousand. I think present estimates are something like 6 - 7 thousand.

Nicer but snootier -aren't the two mutually exclusive? I'm the kind of person who blossoms when he travels - when I used to visit SF before I lived here, I found it ridiculously easy to meet people. I was very curious about San Franciscans - they were all so interesting, exceptional in some way. I always wondered if San Francisco attracted exceptional people, or if ordinary people became exceptional after moving here, and I always wondered what would happen to me if I moved here. What happened for me is that it unlocked my ambition somehow so that I started going after things that I had only wanted in a vague kind of way before.

applying myself to projects that require patience and consistency

And there generally isn't that's true. But there's no reason why it can't happen. I have talked to escorts who are certain that they don't want a relationship. Someone like that would be a poor candidate to fall in love with. And one doesn't fall in love right away. I think one can experience an immediate infatuation, but falling in love generally takes time and repeated exposure.

No - genital sex is generally not considered fetishistic. The whole idea of fetishes is silly - it basically pathologizes anything other than genital sex. So a straight married guy who gets a little hot when he gets a whiff of his wife's perfume has a fetish - I don't think so.

He didn't say not to fall in love with an escort. He even said that he knew lots of guys in relationships with dancers.

I don't know that I agree with all of the advice to avoid falling in love with an escort. It all seems based on an assumption that client and escort are burdened with deficits that make them incapable of having a healthy relationship. I don't think that's necessarily true. Certainly, someone who wants to have a LTR with an escort needs to understand that he's going to be sharing his man with a lot of others, and if he can' t handle that then he ought to think twice before proceeding. And certainly, there are escorts and clients who just aren't relationship material for one reason or another. But I know of at least two escorts who have relationships of long standing. And with the exception of the escort's line of work, they seem to be designed a lot like other loving relationships between gay men.

True that - great advice for anybody in a service business.

Right!! I was thinking the same thing - after reading his posts and getting a glimpse of what he's like, I don't think most forum members would want to hire him. He's a terrific-looking man tho.

I didn't say I had the answers to your problems, I encouraged you to look within to find the source of your problems. And I freely admit that I was speculating. I submit, though, that it was informed speculation, based on your ongoing complaints about your clientele. The fact that you reacted angrily, rather than reading carefully, is just more evidence that you are the source of your own problems.

He seems like a timewaster. In my business I encounter them all the time. I don’t waste too much thought on them.

is it even possible to send a telegram any more?

That's a gentler conversation, but, to me, also a different conversation.

What I have noticed with you and your frustrations about your business is that the client is always the problem. I'm wondering what would happen if you tried assuming that you, somehow, were the problem. And I don't pretend to know that this would work, but it might be illuminating to assume that you, ultimately, are the source of your client problems. I'm not saying that's true, but it might be a productive way to look at it.

I've been playing with the idea. I get enough requests to make me think there's a market for daddy escorts my age. I don't need the money, but if I can get my mind right, I think it would be great fun, and I certainly wouldn't mind a little extra cash. I saw an ad not long ago for a guy who made the switch from client to provider, but he was quite a bit younger than I am.

Even though I was attracted to him, I could never warm up to him because I was suspicious of him. Who knows what would have happened if I was more receptive - I might be dead or I might have a great story to tell about the mad affair that I had with a closeted bad boy in high school.

If you knew the guy, it makes perfect sense-a deeply conflicted young man

I had sort of a crush on a bad boy in high school. He was a year older than most of us because he had been held back a grade. And he was always getting in trouble - in middle school, he got drunk one weekend and broke into the school and went on a rampage, doing a lot of damage. The first time I saw him in the shower - I was almost overcome - he already had a mature manly body and his ass was really hairy. I had never seen a hairy ass before and I was initially shocked but got over soon enough. I used to beat off at home thinking about his hairy ass. One time we were swimming relays and he and I were on the same team. I was standing behind him, and he suddenly turned and looked at me, put an arm on my shoulder and said, "You're really a nice kid." I was in heaven. Another time, he came and sat with me at lunch. I didn't know what to do about all this attention so I just didn't do anything. Ultimately, he ended up going to reform school for beating a gay man to death at a cruisy spot in a local park.

I tried an experiment awhile ago. I wanted to see if I could get an exhibitionist charge out of flexing for somebody that I wasn't that into. This guy approached me on A4A and wanted to see me flex. I went over to his house. He was a nice guy but I wasn't into him sexually. I started posing and flexing and he started beating off. He licked my biceps and sniffed my armpits and I had him punch me in the gut quite a bit. Occasionally, when I'm really inspired, I can come up with pretty good dirty talk, but I wasn't feeling it with him. I did enjoy having an audience - just a little. And it was somewhat gratifying that he sat there and got it off while I showed off for him. But there was no sexual thrill. He's asked me a couple times to come back. So that was my first foray into flexing. Bodybuilders are very into having the right mindset. I have been playing with it recently and I can adopt a confident mindset pretty well. Maybe I could learn a slutty mindset.

I start out soft, but I’m the same way- zero to 60 in no time, no restraint.

Guys go there to suck and fuck. They don’t normally go there to suck fuck just one guy but a succession of guys. You decide- is that “hygienic?” Are they clean? The last time I went to the Steamworks it was very clean- for a bathhouse. Would I want to have a sterile procedure done there? Probably not.

I can’t imagine there aren’t some guys doing it. I wouldnt. It could become your personal superspreader event.