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I'm pretty ripe myself and I have a new FB who doesn't like to shower. The combination of his and mine isn't for everybody, but for me, it's just intoxicating. I love smelling like him for a day afterward.

I got so scattered and forgetful during the pandemic that it was scary. I would ask my self "how can I work? Not like this." But I'm mostly back to normal. That was a horrible thing we went through.

So sorry to hear this. I hope you have a speedy recovery.

I did the same. Some of the photos on my IG profile from summer 2020 get more "likes" than any others. I did a professional photo shoot in September of 2020. My avatar is from the photo shoot.

I suppose lots of pics that are redundant is too many pics. But I love to view pics of really fit guys. I'm much less likely to hire if there are only a few pics that don't show much. One thing I have noticed on hook-up sites is that guys often have an idea of their physique that just doesn't match reality. Often a guy describes himself as average when he actually has a great physique. Other guys describe themselves as "muscular" and I just think "denial is a wonderful thing."

But not Benjamin.

Guys who like dirty fucking aren't that unusual.

Right - If you have collected something from them, then you have some leverage. If they dick you around, you're going to keep their money and they will lose their investment. When I have trouble collecting from a client - I stop. I tell them that I have stopped and I will not start until they've paid me what they owe me, I remind them how much they already have invested in the matter and I make sure that they understand they are going to lose that investment if they don't pay in a timely manner. I used to do all this nicely, but I don't anymore - I turn into a real bastard if they owe me money.

You have no leverage. Forget about it.

I have a real thing for big men and I have never completely figured out why. Big can mean big muscles, very tall or beefy/bearish. Even just a guy's weight is enough to get me going - I love guys who weight 200+ I am not talking however about guys that are obese. That 200+ guy needs to be ht/wt proportionate. My husband is 6'3". I have a FB who is 6'5". 6'6" isn't too tall for me. I obviously enjoy the size difference, but beyond that I don't have an explanation for it.

Tyger and I have spent time together. He told me that he saw me walking in the Castro with my husband - I didn't even know it - he was very discreet and stayed completely away.

What do you mean? Like parenteral hydration for a hangover treatment or something like that? I have read that in LV there are circulating vans where you can go for hangover treatment - they give you IV hydration with vitamins and some oxygen and an hour later you are a new person.

It's maddening. Very few people seem aware of gym eitquette any more. If somebody is hogging a piece of equipment, you have to be assertive. I always say - "how many sets do you have left?" It it's one or two, I don't say anymore, but if they tell me 6 or 8, I say "i'd like to work in with you." They never say "no." The ones who really burn me, are those who spend 5 minutes between sets fiddling with their phone. I just say, "While you're busy with your phone, can I use that equipment." They're never happy, but they know they are wrong. I had one situation that escalated and I ended up calling in the management.

I'm taking a corticosteroid for an autoimmune problem and I'm drinking 3-4L/day and weighing every morning so that I don't get the predsnsone moon face.

You forgot to mention that you get the low water weight by drinking LOTS of water.

My mother died when she was 89. She spent the last few years of her life in a skilled nursing facility, where she acquired a boyfriend who was even older than she was. They were both so dotty that they couldn't remember each other's names. They eventually started having sex. His family, my family and the nursing home staff were all scandalized and everyone was wringing their hands about what was to be done. Wisely, it was decided that nothing needed to be done. From all appearances the sex was consensual, and they were happy with each other, so they were allowed their privacy. He died, she died and the sun still kept coming up.

What people who don't have tats can't seem to fathom is that the guys with tats don't care about that. Tats fade, the images get distorted as the underlying skin ages and they don't care - they still love their tats. There are people who got tattooed on impulse and there are women who got tattooed to please their boyfriends who were tattoo artists and these sorts of people are prone to regretting what they have done. But people who went into it with a clear mind and got images that they really like, typically don't have any regrets. When I take my shirt off, the typical reaction is "NICE ink," but when I take my shirt off, the farthest thing from my mind is what anybody thinks of my tats.

Notice that I said I hire PARTLY on looks. I'm friendly with a young guy who just graduated from high school. He's a complete vision. Would I hire him as a trainer/coach? Absolutely not. I also have a friendly relationship with a trainer who is very adept with all kinds of corrective and therapeutic modalities and is always giving me pointers about things I should try, corrections I could make, etc. As to looks he's OK. Would I hire him? Definitely.

Charm isn't one of my strong suits

No. It can become compulsive but it is not possible to become physically addicted to hiring escorts. However, in everyday conversation, compulsive behavior and addiction are often conflated.

That's true, yes. I do hire partly on looks - if a trainer/coach has a great build, to me, that's the first evidence that he can help me with my goals. I used to train at World Gym from time to time and I noticed that all of their trainers were all over-the-hill and out of shape. I mentioned it to my coach and he pointed out, "Yeah, but those guys have a LOT of wisdom." Unfortunately, World Gym was a casualty of the pandemic. They were family-owned and just didn't have the staying power that big box gyms have. I haven't thought about it, but I bet there has been a consolidation in the fitness industry caused by the pandemic. Another place I hated to see go under was San Francisco Crossfit in the Presidio. Same story, they didn't have the staying power - beautiful facility.

That must have been a loooong time ago. I've been going to gay gyms for nearly 40 years and any one that I have been in is full of extremely fit gay men busting their asses.

Duh. Of course you don't hire just any trainer.

Hiring a trainer is the most expedient way to "get it done right."