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What is the difference between a "real" straight guy and someone "straight-identified?" Are you saying that a "straight-identified" guy is a gay or bi guy who is misrepresenting himself as straight? In present use, when we say that some "identifies" as a certain gender or orientation, it means that they experience themselves as being of that gender or orientation. To me, someone who experiences himself as straight is "really" straight.

Viagra=penile implant is a false equivalency. Viagra is a drug, that, once taken, is completely undetectable. In order for Viagra to work, the person taking it has to experience sexual arousal. The penile implant is a medical device that allows the user to achieve an erection, whether the user is sexually aroused or not, simply by deploying the implant. I imagine use of pde5 inhibitors is very common among escorts, and I don't care. I might have an issue with a penile implant. Just sayin'.

Mindfulness training. There are a couple very famous books on it. The titles escape me.

Is it overwhelm?

Right - just like that.

One of my all-time best experiences with an escort. We both agreed that another date was just a question of "when," not "if." Haven't had bandwidth since, though.

Not long ago, I got together with a guy who alerted me at the time I booked that he would be wearing a Holter monitor because he was being evaluated for a-fib. I said that was fine with me. The day of the appointment, he texted me a photograph of the device taped in place on his chest. It was a tiny thing the size of a small wristwatch -absolutely no issue for me. Nonetheless, I appreciated his being completely candid and transparent.

If you're frantic for air, I can see that it wouldn't work for you.

I really like deep-throating and getting face-fucked, and I don't like to ruin the mood. When I need some air, I press gently on his stomach or his torso with the flat of my hand. I've never yet encountered a guy who didn't back off after that signal.

To me, that's a fairly major thing. I would like to have been given an opportunity to decide in advance whether that was something I was willing to experience. I think it's wise to mention in your profile. A mention in your profile will automatically weed those prospects who might have a problem with it.

Life has a psychological effect. The post upthread about peaches was so apt. Everyone encounters the reality, in one way or another, that not everybody likes peaches. I certainly agree, nonetheless, that it doesn't cost anything for everyone to be a little nicer to each other. Escorts, because their looks are part of their stock in trade, are particularly exposed. I would hope that an escort who is really bothered by negative feedback about his appearance would either recognize that, every time it happens, it's an opportunity to grow a thicker hide, or realize that he is not cut out for a line of work where his looks are subject to such close scrutiny.

They might have been in a hurry. Prepping for bottoming isn't something you rush.

Hose out well.

I like undressing each other, so I like him to come to the door dressed.

People rarely want advice, even when they appear to need it.

In other words, are you more than "just a client" to any of your hires? By and large, I have great experiences with my hires, and the thought creeps into my mind often. But I have a partner whom I've been with for many years. I'm not looking for a relationship. I look at those thoughts as being part of the furniture in that room that I always occupy for a couple of days after an encounter with an amazing man.

Same thing here. He wouldn't commit to a time and after a few rounds, he just went dark.

I have an old friend who underwent a full, classical Freudian psychoanalysis that took over two years. She doesn't denigrate it in any way or feel that it wasn't worthwhile. Who knows? She might have been successful anyway without the analysis, but, for what it's worth, she is an exceptionally accomplished woman who will leave a lasting legacy in the field of civil rights/women's rights.

I think $400.00 is fairly typical for psychotherapy with an MD.

Unless the surroundings are truly awful, I wouldn't be affected. One time, I met Don Blueyes for an incall at his room at a Travelodge in the Mission District. Really seedy place, and I was having misgivings as I climbed the stairs to his room. But when I knocked, the door opened and there was Don, as magnetic as always. It was a great time. No regrets.

I never imagined I would convince you otherwise. The post was mostly for the readership at large.

A relationship between a client and trainer usually involves some close physical contact.

I think you're conflating various uses of the word. In certain settings, a hustler is sort of a shark or an agrresive wheeler dealer, like a pushy used car salesman. A hustler can also be somebody who is resourceful and willing to work hard. Within the world of male sex work, "hustler" is simply an unflattering label for a male sex worker. It harks back to the days when young gay men who offered sex for money cruised certain neighborhoods and any young man hanging out in these locales was assumed to be a hustler. Today's escorts, back then, would have been called "high-class hustlers."

I use "homerotic" when male eroticism is accidental, unintended or subtextual. I don't know what to make of this video, other than that I really love it.

Not exactly. They're both male sex workers. "Escort" is respectful. "Hustler" is pejorative.