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I don't understand his profile. He states he is not currently providing massage services, and then a few sentences later describes his massage services.

Roman Catholic. I wasn't surprised by that, though, given the Catholic men I had met who had been sexually abused by their priests as well as the numerous gay men in the seminary who were out cruising the bars.

As a general rule, service providers get reviewed, not their customers. Go to Yelp and read restaurant reviews that will include comments about the food and service; you won't find a similar grouping of reviews where servers submit reviews of diners, mentioning how much effort they required to serve or how well they tipped. It's just the nature of the game even though it might seem unfair to the service providers. I have no qualms about service providers sharing stories with one another. I know that when I used to hire off Craigslist 20 years ago that some guys would mention that a friend of theirs had vouched for me so they felt more comfortable meeting me. I think that talk among colleagues is entirely different than writing stuff about one's clients online, particularly if what you are writing is demeaning, and even then it makes sense for one to tread lightly unless you don't care about how clients will react if something you said gets back to them.

I exchanged messages with a guy on A4A a couple of years ago. We were going to meet but then I didn't like his conditions (I always meet someone in a public place, not just have them enter my place sight unseen, and this guy refused; for clarification I am talking about a hookup, not an escort). I had already reversed image searched his main photo and discovered he was a priest. He also had naked photos in his profile. I found it very odd that a priest would be so cavalier as to use the same photo on A4A that's on his church's website.

I'm a little perplexed. Do you mean someone saved your Adam4adam profile photos and is now threatening to send them to people you know unless you pay them? If you're just talking about some naked photos, I'd suggest that most people wouldn't be very shocked today to learn that someone they know had taken naked selfies to share with potential sex partners. Would your family and friends really be that shocked even if they did receive a naked photo of you from someone else? Surely anything else they wrote would rightfully be interpreted as someone trying to disparage you, with no reason to believe them, so I'd say this perceived threat is really only as bad as you make it. I'll share a story here: some nasty people thought they could "take down" a colleague they didn't like by printing out naked photos the guy had on a dating website and passing them around the workplace, trying to elicit outrage that a person in this guy's position would dare post naked photos online. The result was that a couple of people were put on unpaid leaves for a couple of weeks and the ringleader of this failed "take down" attempt was forced into an early retirement. The guy they were targeting suffered no consequences other than that some co-workers saw his naked photos who would never have seen them otherwise. In the end, I don't think anyone cared that this guy had naked photos online on an adults-only dating website. When one of the sleazeballs tried to show the photos to me, I told him that I didn't want to see them and that I was appalled at his behavior as a gay man not respecting the privacy of a gay colleague.

While I agree that each person needs to take responsibility for his own health and actions, I also think it's reprehensible for someone to knowingly lie about his HIV status (not just not disclosing it but actually lying about it) when the truth might cause his sex partners to take additional precautions. I certainly wouldn't continue to see someone who had lied to me in that way. I wouldn't attempt to make it into a legal issue though, at least not in a circumstance like this. I'm aware of some escorts local to me who lie about their statuses since they mention being negative on some platforms but then state they are positive and undetectable on others.

Rentmen reviews are largely worthless. The only ones I give any credence to are those left by clients who are obviously genuine (for example, some reviewers use the same name there that they use on this website).

To the broader question, a lot of guys who visit my area do so regularly. I think it's possible to develop an ongoing relationship with a traveling provider when there is mutual interest. The person I hired the most was someone based in Portland, Oregon when I fired hired him in San Francisco, and my second most hired guy was from the Bay Area but during the period I hired him only visited a few times per year during school breaks from UCLA.

Might just be the capsules you had. Some are very weak (intentionally) and others are quite robust. With both the Nespresso Original and Vertuo lines, I prefer their bolder/stronger roasts. They use a numerical system to rank the intensity so it's easy to stick to the varieties that rank near 10 or above.

It seems like what has happened with self-produced porn websites is that they are now removing content unless it's clear that all parties shown are okay with their sexual activities being recorded and distributed online. Someone whose content I liked a lot removed all of his videos from XTube and wrote basically that he could no longer share his videos there due to lack of clear consent of his scene partners to be shown in videos there. A guy I subscribe to on OnlyFans wrote that he's only able to put up scenes where the other scene partners also have OnlyFans pages, so it's obvious that they consent to having their sexual activity recorded and shared online. I don't know if it's true, but I did notice a number of months ago that basically XTube turned from being amateur porn (a lot of it of dubious quality) to being dominated by studio porn, most of it teasers where one would have to pay to see the full scene.

I don't get the fruit analogy. Some fruits are best eaten after they've gotten a bit older and softened up, others are best freshly picked when they are more firm. Answering just the age range question, I'd say that my preferred range based purely on looks is legal age to 45, though it obviously depends on the guy. Some guys look their best when they are young, and other guys get more attractive after they've matured a bit. For personality, I prefer guys closer to my own age or at least 30 years old.

You mean this guy?

I feel the same way about Andrew. I notice lots of ads and am ambivalent about hiring so I don't follow through. Andrew is one of the ones I noticed but never contacted and regret I didn't since feedback about him was all positive. When he first advertised he showed his face in his ad, so I know I would have found him very attractive in person.

Assuming the ad was legitimately placed by porn performer Zario Travezz, you can find previous discussions about him here by just searching for him by name (Zario Travezz). His previous ad was rent.men/ZarioTravezz without the LA at the end.

Just want to raise the possibility that the other person was sitting in the dark in an attempt to make it less obvious that someone else was there, not because he and the provider had some plot to do something bad to client. That being said, it's clearly not the best way to handle it given the emotions it has elicited in this thread. I've shown up for appointments where there were other people present in the apartment and it's always made me feel awkward, particularly when there's no way to avoid seeing/being seen by that person. The best resolution is to simply have that person make themselves absent during appointments, either by actually leaving the residence or by going into another room and closing the door so it isn't apparent that anyone else is there.

My favorite coffee is coffee I make at home. (I'm not including espresso or espresso based drinks.) I typically make coffee using a French Press because my Nespresso Vertuo machine requires a lot of effort to keep it working. Too bad because it makes the best coffee I've ever had; I also love strong coffee and the Vertuo line really extracts a lot of flavor from the beans. I think the design of the Vertuo line is basically flawed, though, with so many complaints online similar to mine, namely that the machines get clogged and start leaking because coffee beans end up getting forced into parts of the machine where they shouldn't be.

I think it is about responding or not responding if you are talking about someone who has an ad on Rentmen that doesn't have any indication that the client in question should simply not bother to contact him. Otherwise a prospective client is left wondering whether he's being rejected for some reason, whether his text/message went through, whether the escort was simply too busy and has a practice of not responding unless he's available or something else. I thin it's just not good business to ignore inquiries outright. The situation is entirely different for someone who isn't advertising to provide a service to anyone. If someone reaches out to an OnlyFans model suggesting a hook-up, I would expect such a message to just be ignored or maybe even responded to negatively if the model isn't looking for contacts like that. Same thing for someone on Instagram or Grindr or anywhere else a man might post photos that catch others' eyes. I don't blame the forum members who do reach out to guys they find appealing who aren't advertising even though it isn't something I would do, but it should be done with the understanding that the guy being solicited is simply not interested for whatever reason and they might ignore the inquiry or, worse, be upset about it and reply accordingly.

That's what I'm not clear about as well. Even if the guy is advertising as an escort, some escorts are selective about how their clients look. I purposefully rule out guys who put things in their ads about preferring certain looks or giving a discount to "young and fit" because I am older and not athletically built. If I'm paying to be with someone I don't want to choose someone who is already sending messages that I'm a lower form of life. However, I certainly understand that if some guy can make a living by providing services only to other "hot" men and posting videos to Fans sites then they might prefer to do that. As to the title of this thread, I think rejection is best when it's direct. It doesn't have to be brutally honest (e.g., you're too old or fat or whatever for me), but a direct response of "sorry, not a match" is better than leaving a question unanswered or suggesting one is open to possibilities when that clearly isn't the case.

I cannot help but point out another recent thread where some escorts were alleging it made sense for clients to send money in advance to people they've never met as a good faith demonstration of trust. Well, sadly, your story just highlights why that's not a good idea. As to your description, I have two thoughts: First of all, the photos are probably stolen just like he stole your money so it really doesn't matter whose photos they actually are. Beyond that, I don't know that a circle of flames around the navel is all that distinctive. I'm pretty sure I've seen at least a few guys in porn with a similar tattoo. Sorry to hear of your misfortune. I would say that most providers are not like this, but most providers aren't going to try to get you to send them $150 in a cash app before ever meeting despite what some providers here might try to claim is the norm. Run the other way the next time someone tries to get you to pay before you've even laid eyes on them in person. I personally don't even pay people on arrival, though I will have cash sitting out in a conspicuous place if I'm having someone over so they can see that I am prepared to pay.

One of my favorites (whom I've mentioned a few times here before) is the multi-orgasmic George Uhl. There are other men I find more attractive, but I really enjoy George's obvious enthusiasm. On the looks front, there are many options but I have to mention the incredibly sexy and hung black Russian performer, Erick Lewis (aka Edic aka some other names):

Not a seafood buffet, but there is a Brazilian steakhouse near me that opened as soon as indoor dining was allowed and they had their buffet open as usual. (Meat was still served by waiters roaming around the dining area.) Quite frankly it made me a bit uncomfortable. Though they had hand sanitizer in front of the salad bar, there wasn't anyone there making sure that everyone who stepped up to handle the serving spoons sanitized their hands with each visit. BTW, I typically equate lobster with a high price. How much is an all-you-can-eat buffet that includes lobster?

See? You can learn something new every day. Since I was taught that loan wasn't a verb, I had held onto that notion without question. Thanks for the education.

Madonna has always been pretentious. She always comes off as at least somewhat imperious to me. I like some of her music and some of her videos, so I'm not saying she has no talent, but her narcissism has always been off-putting to me. Cher, on the other hand, just says/writes what she feels. Apart from when she's performing, she comes across as being more natural and authentic. Cher admitting that she doesn't even like some of the music she made definitely puts her in a different camp than Madonna, who seems to think she walks on water. I happen to like some of Cher's music she dislikes (she appears to favor her more rock influenced tracks and I like her pure pop and dance stuff, for the most part), but I contrast Cher's willingness to critique her own work with Madonna's ridiculous stance on her latest flop called Madame X, where she dressed in a silly costume and tried to sell the concept and her album as some serious piece of art when most everyone who heard it said, "thank u,next."

Maybe we are just reverting to a time when using "they" to refer to a single person was acceptable. Linguists indicate this usage dates back to the 14th century, so it isn't like the modern convention of using "they" for a single person is something new. I'm personally much more bothered by people using "loan" as a verb. The verb is lend. I lent him money, I didn't loan him money. Yet almost everyone uses loan as a verb today.

Dear HoleTrainer: I also live in San Francisco. I have hired a couple of plumbers and paid both when the job was finished. I hired a couple of handymen; paid both when work was finished. I have hired many, many masseurs over the period of 30+ years and never paid a deposit. I do pay for medical services when I arrive for my appointments, but I don't have to send money before I even arrive. You seem to be confusing sending money to an unknown person before even meeting with paying upon arrival. A lot of people don't even want to pay upon arrival, but that request is at least in the ballpark of reasonability. Your argument is that people should also be willing to just look for a plumber on Craigslist and then send money to someone they found there without any knowledge whether that person will show up and have the skills required to do the job. That's just silly, but if you want to keep arguing that it's reasonable for people to send money to strangers in the hopes that person is not a scammer and then just be okay if they lose money here and there because it's the equivalent of spending money on restaurant food and not liking it then go ahead. I don't see how being disappointed in what was provided for the money is the equivalent of getting nothing for one's money. I would suggest that you step away from the keyboard, at least from this thread. This is a perfect example of a provider shooting himself in the foot because he has a strong opinion about something and won't just let the argument die. I don't think your argumentative stance in this thread will win you any new clients and it very well might drive others away under the assumption that you aren't a reliable provider at best and perhaps someone who views his clients with contempt.