TruHart1

Until you are physically in his presence, it is difficult to imagine just how tall (6'3") and bulked
up he really is. He towered over me (I'm 5'7"!) and I got even more turned on because of it!!!
 

 
TruHart1

My only thing is hygiene… if I have a client who has clearly not showered before hand and I’m gagging from the smell of his balls I won’t see them again. Looks and stuff don’t matter but hygiene definitely does to me.

No one should ever feel ashamed for being a virgin. But I don’t think remaining a virgin automatically gives someone clarity or makes them immune to bad decisions. People mess up for all kinds of reasons, and that’s part of being human.
Sex isn’t inherently the problem—it’s how people approach it that can be problematic. When done with the right mindset and respect for yourself and others, it can be one of the most fulfilling and meaningful experiences. It’s not about losing anything; it’s about gaining connection, confidence, and understanding.
At the end of the day, it’s a personal decision. For some, staying a virgin feels right, and for others, exploring intimacy is part of their journey. What matters is making the choice on your terms, free from shame or pressure because that’s where real clarity and power come from.
I lost my virginity to a provider well over 40 years ago—a very different time from the tools we have now. It was one of the best decisions I ever made. We spoke on the phone beforehand, and I even met him in person before going back to his place. He was incredibly kind, patient, and understanding. I’m not saying he wouldn’t have been any of those things if I hadn’t told him, but I can assure you, the fact that I did share that with him made him treat it as every bit as special as it was.
In my opinion, it’s really important to be upfront about your needs and circumstances. While it might feel intimidating, honesty and transparency go a long way and it will also weed out the providers who don’t take the request seriously. I also think the advice about paying for a provider’s time as if it’s “date” is really solid. It can help calm your nerves and also give you a chance to see if this is someone you feel comfortable exploring your body with. What you want is a safe space, and I think finding that in today’s culture, and respectfully at your age, may prove difficult. There are many active providers here who can give you that safe space.
If hiring a provider feels like too much right now, consider starting with an erotic massage as a stepping stone, as others have said. It’s a great way to get used to human touch in an intimate, safe, and professional setting. You might find it helps you feel more relaxed and in tune with what you want from future experiences.
As for the idea that an escort will exacerbate your social issues by making it too easy, I disagree. A provider isn’t a permanent replacement for genuine social connection, but they can help you take an important first step. Building confidence and experiencing intimacy in a safe, judgment-free environment can be a stepping stone to opening yourself up to future experiences and relationships. For me, it was incredibly empowering and life-affirming.
I was VERY lucky with the provider I met. A true professional will meet you halfway, but you also need to be willing to do the same. It’s all about finding someone who respects where you’re coming from and works with you. Best of luck to you!

The only people with whom I share my history of hiring is the people I have met from this site. I can't remember anyone else ever having asked if I have hired. It's not a subject that usually comes up in social conversation.

My love of opera came from quite a selfish place to begin. As a young, junior high choir and church choir tenor, I began taking solo singing lessons from my school choir director in 7th grade. I enjoyed learning about singing technique, though I was gifted with only a light tenor voice.
My dad loved to play (self-taught) guitar and sing, mainly old country music like Hank Williams, my mom enjoyed singing hymns in our church congregation, so neither liked opera. My dad got so tired when I was listening to opera once that he yelled into my room, “Isn’t she (the soprano) dead, yet?”
Anyway,  neither of my parents ever cared for opera at all. As a young singer of about 12 or 13, I decided opera had to be the ultimate “highest of the higher arts!” Really a pretty selfish reason to begin listening to the art form, for some sort of perceived or hoped for, increased social status.
 I began listening to a local college radio show which had a weekly music broadcast which played excerpts from Italian, French and German operas, one opera each week. Around the same time, my parents gave me a birthday present of a reel to reel tape recorder, so I could record these programs, and listen repeatedly to “educate” myself.
What happened, though, was that I began to love opera and certain operatic singers, especially sopranos at first. Two of those radio broadcasts especially enlightened me: excerpts from Faust, with de los Angeles, Gedda and Christoff, and excerpts from Boheme, with de los Angeles, Bjorling and Merrill.
A year or so later, I discovered the Saturday afternoon MET broadcasts, and I became a true “opera lover.” After that, there was no going back. Although I realized opera per se was not a ladder to social status, I became a lifelong follower of the art form!
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My love of opera came from quite a selfish place to begin. As a young, junior high choir and church choir tenor, I began taking solo singing lessons from my school choir director in 7th grade. I enjoyed learning about singing technique, though I was gifted with only a light tenor voice.
My dad loved to play (self-taught) guitar and sing, mainly old country music like Hank Williams, my mom enjoyed singing hymns in our church congregation, so neither liked opera. My dad got so tired when I was listening to opera once that he yelled into my room, “Isn’t she (the soprano) dead, yet?”
Anyway,  neither of my parents ever cared for opera at all. As a young singer of about 12 or 13, I decided opera had to be the ultimate “highest of the higher arts!” Really a pretty selfish reason to begin listening to the art form, for some sort of perceived or hoped for, increased social status.
 I began listening to a local college radio show which had a weekly music broadcast which played excerpts from Italian, French and German operas, one opera each week. Around the same time, my parents gave me a birthday present of a reel to reel tape recorder, so I could record these programs, and listen repeatedly to “educate” myself.
What happened, though, was that I began to love opera and certain operatic singers, especially sopranos at first. Two of those radio broadcasts especially enlightened me: excerpts from Faust, with de los Angeles, Gedda and Christoff, and excerpts from Boheme, with de los Angeles, Bjorling and Merrill.
A year or so later, I discovered the Saturday afternoon MET broadcasts, and I became a true “opera lover.” After that, there was no going back. Although I realized opera per se was not a ladder to social status, I became a lifelong follower of the art form!
TruHart1 😎

Not really. I was exposed to opera from the time I was a child, because my mother was a trained classical singer.  We listened to the Met performances on the radio every Saturday, so it was a familiar form of music for me from an early age, although I didn't actually see a performance till I was in my teens.

I can't wait to get back to the city to see him again.  He's a total muscle dream -- big, hard, knows how to show it off, share his body, and get into the head of a client starved for muscle and tons of hot contact.  He's handsome, uber masculine, and totally focused on providing an outstanding experience.  

Will do! I agree—the Met has been very intentional, for more than a decade now, about expanding opera’s reach, especially to younger audiences. They’ve done it through accessible pricing, cinematic broadcasts, educational programs, fresh and modern storytelling, and digital platforms that make the art form feel more approachable.

< So I had my first real sexual experience at the age of 41 with an escort. >
 
Add 22 years to that number. I came out last year at 63 (was happily married, then widowed) and had my first gay sexual experience at that age (I'm not counting fumbling in backyard tents as a 12-year-old). I couldn't imagine starting my dating life as a 63-year-old gay virgin. So I hired an escort. He was brilliantly kind, gorgeous, generous and patient. I'm now hooking up regularly with a variety of guys through Grindr, Tinder, etc., and also have a couple FWB. I still see that first escort at least once a month and, occasionally, a new escort when traveling. Convenience, attractiveness, safety, lack of pressure and judgment -- those are among the other reasons. Also, having been with the same guy on nearly 40 "dates," we've developed a familiarity that is comforting to me. And we both know it's not going to become something more. It's worked out beautifully for me.

I fetishize hiring.  The phenomenon itself to me is sexy.   Nothing degrading or desperate about it to me. The very first time I thought about it, I was in my late 20's, and I had a fantasy of hiring Gordon Grant.   I didn't just want to have sex with him, I wanted to pay him for sex.  A friend of mine who had connections in the porn world in San Francisco told me he could probably get  me a date with Gordon Grant and it wouldn't cost anything, but I never followed up on it.  Gordon Grant died before I could realize my fantasy.  Paying for it is just very sexy to me.    You show up, or he shows up, nothing is said about money.  It's just like two guys on a date, but the money is there and he takes it without a word.  Totally hot!!

Love and marriage may go together like a horse and carriage, but sometimes the horse wants to be unharnessed and frolic with a mare that catches his eye. My partner and I were happily married, but I was nevertheless sexually attracted to a variety of men, though not interested in a romantic relationship with them. We agreed from the start that ours would be an "open" marriage, so both of us had occasional sex with other men when circumstances were suitable. Back then, the commercial open marketplace for gay sex didn't exist, except for street hustlers, who usually were not my type.
As we aged, opportunities for sex with attractive men became very limited. Then one day, I happened to be alone in NYC, and in the Advocate I saw an ad for a sex service. Curious, I went to the address, told the man at the desk what I was in the mood for at that moment, and he directed me to a room to which he would send someone. I waited in the room for about ten minutes, and in walked a guy whom I could never have picked up cruising on my own. We had great sex, then I dressed and went back to the desk out front, and paid. Soon I learned about finding freelance providers on the Internet (I had just bought my first desktop computer), and from then on my only sex outside marriage was with the professionals, because it was quick and easy, with no danger of becoming emotionally involved with someone just because we had sex.

It’s very simple. I see a man on RentMen who makes my heart beat faster. I then vet the aforementioned escort - by reading their reviews, sending inquiries to a few of the reviewers who describe them as a “life-changing experience,” and finally, asking on this forum if anybody has ever enjoyed this man’s company. If he passes all these tests, I contact him about meating!
Then the best part. I set up an appointment for a certain date and time, we meet for a planned period, and I leave. The great thing is there are no surprises, I don’t have to meet a stranger’s ideas of who I am, or try to impress him. If our chemistry is great and he agrees, he may even become a regular.
I  am lucky enough to continue enjoying a number of regulars as I pursue this wonderful hobby. Additionally, there are quite a number of men I can count as friends whom I first met as escorts. This is why I hire!
TruHart1 😎

It’s very simple. I see a man on RentMen who makes my heart beat faster. I then vet the aforementioned escort - by reading their reviews, sending inquiries to a few of the reviewers who describe them as a “life-changing experience,” and finally, asking on this forum if anybody has ever enjoyed this man’s company. If he passes all these tests, I contact him about meating!
Then the best part. I set up an appointment for a certain date and time, we meet for a planned period, and I leave. The great thing is there are no surprises, I don’t have to meet a stranger’s ideas of who I am, or try to impress him. If our chemistry is great and he agrees, he may even become a regular.
I  am lucky enough to continue enjoying a number of regulars as I pursue this wonderful hobby. Additionally, there are quite a number of men I can count as friends whom I first met as escorts. This is why I hire!
TruHart1 😎

I like your misspelling.  meeting versus meating

It’s very simple. I see a man on RentMen who makes my heart beat faster. I then vet the aforementioned escort - by reading their reviews, sending inquiries to a few of the reviewers who describe them as a “life-changing experience,” and finally, asking on this forum if anybody has ever enjoyed this man’s company. If he passes all these tests, I contact him about meating!
Then the best part. I set up an appointment for a certain date and time, we meet for a planned period, and I leave. The great thing is there are no surprises, I don’t have to meet a stranger’s ideas of who I am, or try to impress him. If our chemistry is great and he agrees, he may even become a regular.
I  am lucky enough to continue enjoying a number of regulars as I pursue this wonderful hobby. Additionally, there are quite a number of men I can count as friends whom I first met as escorts. This is why I hire!
TruHart1 😎

It’s very simple. I see a man on RentMen who makes my heart beat faster. I then vet the aforementioned escort - by reading their reviews, sending inquiries to a few of the reviewers who describe them as a “life-changing experience,” and finally, asking on this forum if anybody has ever enjoyed this man’s company. If he passes all these tests, I contact him about meating!
Then the best part. I set up an appointment for a certain date and time, we meet for a planned period, and I leave. The great thing is there are no surprises, I don’t have to meet a stranger’s ideas of who I am, or try to impress him. If our chemistry is great and he agrees, he may even become a regular.
I  am lucky enough to continue enjoying a number of regulars as I pursue this wonderful hobby. Additionally, there are quite a number of men I can count as friends whom I first met as escorts. This is why I hire!
TruHart1 😎

It’s very simple. I see a man on RentMen who makes my heart beat faster. I then vet the aforementioned escort - by reading their reviews, sending inquiries to a few of the reviewers who describe them as a “life-changing experience,” and finally, asking on this forum if anybody has ever enjoyed this man’s company. If he passes all these tests, I contact him about meating!
Then the best part. I set up an appointment for a certain date and time, we meet for a planned period, and I leave. The great thing is there are no surprises, I don’t have to meet a stranger’s ideas of who I am, or try to impress him. If our chemistry is great and he agrees, he may even become a regular.
I  am lucky enough to continue enjoying a number of regulars as I pursue this wonderful hobby. Additionally, there are quite a number of men I can count as friends whom I first met as escorts. This is why I hire!
TruHart1 😎

It’s very simple. I see a man on RentMen who makes my heart beat faster. I then vet the aforementioned escort - by reading their reviews, sending inquiries to a few of the reviewers who describe them as a “life-changing experience,” and finally, asking on this forum if anybody has ever enjoyed this man’s company. If he passes all these tests, I contact him about meating!
Then the best part. I set up an appointment for a certain date and time, we meet for a planned period, and I leave. The great thing is there are no surprises, I don’t have to meet a stranger’s ideas of who I am, or try to impress him. If our chemistry is great and he agrees, he may even become a regular.
I  am lucky enough to continue enjoying a number of regulars as I pursue this wonderful hobby. Additionally, there are quite a number of men I can count as friends whom I first met as escorts. This is why I hire!
TruHart1 😎

It’s very simple. I see a man on RentMen who makes my heart beat faster. I then vet the aforementioned escort - by reading their reviews, sending inquiries to a few of the reviewers who describe them as a “life-changing experience,” and finally, asking on this forum if anybody has ever enjoyed this man’s company. If he passes all these tests, I contact him about meating!
Then the best part. I set up an appointment for a certain date and time, we meet for a planned period, and I leave. The great thing is there are no surprises, I don’t have to meet a stranger’s ideas of who I am, or try to impress him. If our chemistry is great and he agrees, he may even become a regular.
I  am lucky enough to continue enjoying a number of regulars as I pursue this wonderful hobby. Additionally, there are quite a number of men I can count as friends whom I first met as escorts. This is why I hire!
TruHart1 😎

It’s very simple. I see a man on RentMen who makes my heart beat faster. I then vet the aforementioned escort - by reading their reviews, sending inquiries to a few of the reviewers who describe them as a “life-changing experience,” and finally, asking on this forum if anybody has ever enjoyed this man’s company. If he passes all these tests, I contact him about meating!
Then the best part. I set up an appointment for a certain date and time, we meet for a planned period, and I leave. The great thing is there are no surprises, I don’t have to meet a stranger’s ideas of who I am, or try to impress him. If our chemistry is great and he agrees, he may even become a regular.
I  am lucky enough to continue enjoying a number of regulars as I pursue this wonderful hobby. Additionally, there are quite a number of men I can count as friends whom I first met as escorts. This is why I hire!
TruHart1 😎

It’s very simple. I see a man on RentMen who makes my heart beat faster. I then vet the aforementioned escort - by reading their reviews, sending inquiries to a few of the reviewers who describe them as a “life-changing experience,” and finally, asking on this forum if anybody has ever enjoyed this man’s company. If he passes all these tests, I contact him about meating!
Then the best part. I set up an appointment for a certain date and time, we meet for a planned period, and I leave. The great thing is there are no surprises, I don’t have to meet a stranger’s ideas of who I am, or try to impress him. If our chemistry is great and he agrees, he may even become a regular.
I  am lucky enough to continue enjoying a number of regulars as I pursue this wonderful hobby. Additionally, there are quite a number of men I can count as friends whom I first met as escorts. This is why I hire!
TruHart1 😎

It’s very simple. I see a man on RentMen who makes my heart beat faster. I then vet the aforementioned escort - by reading their reviews, sending inquiries to a few of the reviewers who describe them as a “life-changing experience,” and finally, asking on this forum if anybody has ever enjoyed this man’s company. If he passes all these tests, I contact him about meating!
Then the best part. I set up an appointment for a certain date and time, we meet for a planned period, and I leave. The great thing is there are no surprises, I don’t have to meet a stranger’s ideas of who I am, or try to impress him. If our chemistry is great and he agrees, he may even become a regular.
I  am lucky enough to continue enjoying a number of regulars as I pursue this wonderful hobby. Additionally, there are quite a number of men I can count as friends whom I first met as escorts. This is why I hire!
TruHart1 😎

Any excuse is a good excuse to post a good bulge pic: 
The TRUE star of WKRP, Gary Sandy's pants.