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If a client is concerned about me cumming - I don't need to cum to have enjoyed myself. If a client gets off on making me cum, then I get myself there. I do think of it as an obligation. I am lucky in that I can cum multiple times a day, but if given the choice, id much rather save it for when I WANT to release. Sometimes thats with clients and sometimes it's not. As far as clients being hot/skilled - it can be a factor. I have ways of cumming if needed regardless, but if they are hot and/or skilled it's of course a much easier process. as mentioned above - hygiene is the most important factor.

I would guess that the compliments are true - but perhaps on a scale of what most clients look like.

I have had to cut clients off because they became infatuated and could not distinguish reality from fiction- despite me being very clear: I am not opposed to dating a client but I would need to be provided for in that I wouldn't have to work.

I have once had a client who wanted to book me in advance and was not happy with putting down a deposit via Venmo/cashapp/amazon gift card, and instead on his own volition offered to do a gift of membership. I don't quite know how that made him feel better, but it did. 💁‍♂️

No doubt they would laugh at you too buddy.

this made me LOL immediate block.

Just go with the flow. Sitting back and watching for a bit is also really sexy for all parties. I would not invite the provider who has said he doesn't enjoy it. I think most providers would like group bookings - I really enjoy when I get to invited to threesomes with other providers by clients- it's a chance to have sex with someone I am much more likely to have sex with in my personal life so almost like catching me in my natural habitat. I always make sure not to get carried away and that the client feels important though.

*before people start throwing tomatoes, I'm not saying that was what was said during your session - just mentioning that sometimes when pressure is applied it has the opposite result.

To be fair - telling someone "cum now! I want you to cum.its important you cum" is probably the worst way to encourage someone to cum. Being made to feel like you are walking on thin ice is not really conducive to being able to orgasm.

let us know how it goes buddy!

The provider will 100% know that it is because of performance, even if you say its budget. He is probably hoping the rest of what he offers is enough. It's obviously not. He will read between the lines.

This happened to me for the first time just this week! Literally just a few days ago. It threw me so much we actually had to stop and re-start all over again - right back to kissing to build it back up (literally) to a point where I could finish. I'm no where near my Daddy days yet, no thank you.

No provider will care about your scars. I would encourage you to be as transparent as you can. Don't just say 'I am fat', be honest with your size. I never reject a client based on looks, but I do like to be mentally prepared with what I am dealing with. There is such a big range of 'fat' - it can be a little overweight, it can be morbidly obese or even extreme obesity, and we may need to plan for some logistic (are there stairs? is the bed big enough? will you be able to use the shower at my place?) One thing that I would also be mindful of is if you are of a size that causes difficulty with being able to reach every where in order to wash yourself fully - please ensure you take extra special care and time to do so before your meeting. (that includes all skin folds and so on, a full deep clean - not just a quick rinse off)

Turn off - Clients reaching out as if they as talking to someone on grindr with one or two word questions. eg. what u into? rates? available? u party? u host? more pics? looking? u travel to *insert random town in another state in the middle of nowhere* (most of the answers to theses questions are available on our profiles btw) Messages that just want to chit chat and talk about things other than logistics about an appointments. (save that talk for our date) Turn on - communication that shows kindness and respect - for eg. messages with full sentences that have show you have read our profiles. Respect our time by stating the time frame you are looking to hire within, and letting us know what it is you are looking to do ( not just say 'I'm looking for fun' maybe next month)

If you quote my comment I am going to reply. I don't have to 'answer your question' because it was completely irrelevant to the discussion. unless you are paying me, don't tell me what to do.

I would follow the foot steps of @Vegas_Millennial A good rule to think of is this: if you are reaching out to a provider without an intention to hire, you are being a tire kicker. A "tire kicker" is someone who shows interest in buying a product or service but has no genuine intent to purchase, wasting the seller's time. The term originates from people who would "kick the tires" of a car at a dealership without ever planning to buy it. In sales, tire kickers often ask many questions and request demos but are hesitant to commit, hide their budget, or are not the final decision-maker.

correct, but that was not the question that was asked.

the question asked was 'do providers prefer a nice time, or a nice tip'. not whether tips are good/bad/worthy.

*Sometimes I am guilty of being exasperated by the 20th enquiry in one day that has asked a million questions, the answers of which are all available on my profile to read and so I am just replying with shortened response.

And I can totally understand why you feel this way if you think we are only spending 2-3 minutes a day replying to these texts. I *could* argue that assuming this is pretty condescending and out of touch also. It essentially reads that we should just say thank you to the people who are taking advantage of us and allow them to waste our time for sexual pleasure. Although your interactions may be simple - I can promise you that is not the case in terms of both the volume of enquires, and time spent with administrative work it takes to deal with them. Sometimes I am guilty of being exasperated far the 20th enquiry of one day that has asked a million questions all available on my profile to read and just replying with shortened response. They haven't bothered to read the info which means they are either contacting a lot of providers or they are just not that serious. You only get prank called so many times before you install caller ID and not answer private numbers. That doesn't mean every person who calls is a prankster - but you do have you guard up. You would go crazy otherwise. I'm not here to provoke - just explaining and answering the question truthfully. Sometimes we get exhausted by it. We are human.

You are also highjacking this thread about another comment but I will play along - OK - Next time you stay at hotel tell them you are offended about having to pay a security deposit, because you have never trashed a room and how dare they assume that you would! Tell them you have chosen the hotel because you liked the pics, read the reviews and friends have confirmed it is a great place and you are offended they are assuming you would cause damage. You getting offended because OTHER people are not doing the right thing is .....wild. Tell me: How many times do you think people have contacted me and jerked off when they are talking on the phone? How many times do you think this happened to us each day? How many times do you think these people have sent perfectly normal messages first? Now how many times do you think people have done this before a provider enforces a 'no calls' policy? Why else do you think we would do it other than to protect ourselves?

Yeah it could be, and I expected that reply. Just to clarify my rate is 300. Which is then reduced for longer sessions. Not one of those guys who is charging 500 for an hour.

Imagine going to a bar, ordering a drink and they say 'sure we just need your card to start a tab' and you reply 'I wont run out, I always pay my tab. that offends me. just trust me that I will pay at the end.' The bartender replies - "well I am sure YOU don't run out, but some people do, so we have to get cards to start tabs" and you reply "I am so offended that you think I am one of those people who run out on tabs. Other bars just trust me." This is what you sound like right now.

i guess you should have finished that whole paragraph were I said "And even though you ARE hiring, reaching out to three people adds to it." While you YOU are hiring, keep in mind there are maybe 50 people who have reached out that are NOT. I never said that this is about people who DO hire. I actually explicitly said otherwise. Wrong again. I love my clients, I have great relationships with them. I have contempt for the people who jerk us around for pleasure. wasting our time and treating us like shit. when you have travelled to hotels and sat in the lobby for 20 minutes to be greeted by no one countless times, you also would be doing this. How many times a day do you think we should do this? I genuinely want to know. How long should I talk to someone on the phone while they are masturbating? Once again - if you do not do this - I am not talking about YOU personally so I am not sure why you are personally offended. Just explaining why we respond the way we do, which was the question asked. You just have no idea of the amount on administrative work we do dealing with this. Next time you are with a provider (assuming you actually do hire) ask them in person. I probably receive 6 phone calls a day with people masturbating on the end of the line, even though my profile clearly states 'please text'. God knows how many are doing it via text.

Clients that do this are really fucking annoying and it's a BIG reason why you get labeled with the 'time waster' tag. We get 'hey I like you are you available text'. we reply back with 'yeah I can be, what part of town are you in my rate is *insert standard rate* etc etc' then silence from the client, or even better 'great, let me get back to you'. Because we might be preference number 3 or 4 or 5 and they are waiting to hear back from number preferred provider 1. Which then leads to us just putting little effort into the reply sometimes because the volume of messages we are getting from people only messaging us as they just want us to 'audition'. The volume of people messaging providers for these interactions ONLY while they jerk off looking at our pics and imagining what it would be like. the text messaging back and forth completely satisfies them is ASTOUNDING. It's vampirish and exhausting. I assume every single person that reaches out is one of these people until they prove me otherwise. And even though you ARE hiring, reaching out to three people adds to it. There are other reasons for a quick short response - it could also be a quick reply because we are already talking to someone else, we are at the gym, on the subway, on a airplane, in the library, sitting at a barber chair, eating at a restaurant: we are not sitting at an office desk when we are fielding enquiries. I get that sometimes waiting for a reply can be frustrating, especially when you are horny and excited. I wish clients would keep this in mind when reaching out. I also get that it goes both ways - I get really fucking annoyed with short messages like 'rates? available?' and giving full replies 'yes I am available, how are you? when are you looking for?' to then only get one word reply back. but that happens A LOT. People treat Rentmen conversations a lot like grindr in terms of communications styles. It's hard not to get offended sometimes when you are not getting back what you are putting out. I'm with you on this! To answer your question - I have a standard reply that I edit around the initial text. I think it matters and I always try to be professional. But there is a line of giving a lot of myself out there (FOR FREE) for people who are already talking advantage of it, people who are messaging multiple people that are not THAT interested in me - which can be really draining. Versus holding back and protecting myself and mental health from these interactions so I can be my BEST self when I do show up for bookings. It's a tough balance that we don't always get right but try to.