SecretProvider

*rolls eyes* giving $50 to some random from sniffles is not comparable to laying down a $50 deposit to a confirmed provider who has reviews both here and on rentmen. It's not rocket science

The correlation of people who are polite but refuse to send a minimal deposit, exactly matches the amount of people who cancel last minute or even just ghost at the time of the appointment. How does that waste our time? Well, it wastes our time not only with the administrative planning, but cleaning our apartments, putting on new bed sheets and towels, showering, douching, taking viagra, shaving, traveling to you hotel or building - all of the general prep that we do before the actual meeting. That's not taking into account the amount of texting we have done with these polite people, and not taking into account any other appointments we may have turned down because we thought you would arrive because you are so polite, or personal plans that we have worked our day around in terms of our other jobs, school classes, etc. I haven't seen a dramatic drop since I insisted on a nominal deposit for bookings from people I have not yet met - but I have seen a dramatic drop in cancelations. only three this year, it used to be nearly 3 a week. Being polite on its own has not proven to be evidence of genuineness. Only deposits can do that. You have mentioned that you are new to the hobby, welcome! I would encourage SMALL deposits if you can allow, and only to providers who are well reviewed on rentmen, as well as here. For a decent provider, it wont be about the amount, it is just a way for us to ascertain that you are as committed as we are. Words are cheap. Do whatever you are comfortable with.

The question you should be asking yourself extends from this - How many times have we been fucked over in order for us to have to install such a policy, knowing that we would be losing clients as well? The fact that we chose to have deposit in spite of this says a lot.

I started very loosely when I was 21. Then over the next 10 years, every few years I would dip in and out for a few months.when I needed extra cash. Then when I was 30 i decided to dip my toes back in it to supplement my income and save for a trip through Europe. When I got home I lost my job to a company restructure and I started doing sex work full time and was making way more money than I was working my shitty full time job anyway. It's been just over 7 years now full time.

Correct.

If a client is concerned about me cumming - I don't need to cum to have enjoyed myself. If a client gets off on making me cum, then I get myself there. I do think of it as an obligation. I am lucky in that I can cum multiple times a day, but if given the choice, id much rather save it for when I WANT to release. Sometimes thats with clients and sometimes it's not. As far as clients being hot/skilled - it can be a factor. I have ways of cumming if needed regardless, but if they are hot and/or skilled it's of course a much easier process. as mentioned above - hygiene is the most important factor.

I would guess that the compliments are true - but perhaps on a scale of what most clients look like.

I have had to cut clients off because they became infatuated and could not distinguish reality from fiction- despite me being very clear: I am not opposed to dating a client but I would need to be provided for in that I wouldn't have to work.

I have once had a client who wanted to book me in advance and was not happy with putting down a deposit via Venmo/cashapp/amazon gift card, and instead on his own volition offered to do a gift of membership. I don't quite know how that made him feel better, but it did. 💁‍♂️

No doubt they would laugh at you too buddy.

this made me LOL immediate block.

Just go with the flow. Sitting back and watching for a bit is also really sexy for all parties. I would not invite the provider who has said he doesn't enjoy it. I think most providers would like group bookings - I really enjoy when I get to invited to threesomes with other providers by clients- it's a chance to have sex with someone I am much more likely to have sex with in my personal life so almost like catching me in my natural habitat. I always make sure not to get carried away and that the client feels important though.

*before people start throwing tomatoes, I'm not saying that was what was said during your session - just mentioning that sometimes when pressure is applied it has the opposite result.

To be fair - telling someone "cum now! I want you to cum.its important you cum" is probably the worst way to encourage someone to cum. Being made to feel like you are walking on thin ice is not really conducive to being able to orgasm.

let us know how it goes buddy!

The provider will 100% know that it is because of performance, even if you say its budget. He is probably hoping the rest of what he offers is enough. It's obviously not. He will read between the lines.

This happened to me for the first time just this week! Literally just a few days ago. It threw me so much we actually had to stop and re-start all over again - right back to kissing to build it back up (literally) to a point where I could finish. I'm no where near my Daddy days yet, no thank you.

No provider will care about your scars. I would encourage you to be as transparent as you can. Don't just say 'I am fat', be honest with your size. I never reject a client based on looks, but I do like to be mentally prepared with what I am dealing with. There is such a big range of 'fat' - it can be a little overweight, it can be morbidly obese or even extreme obesity, and we may need to plan for some logistic (are there stairs? is the bed big enough? will you be able to use the shower at my place?) One thing that I would also be mindful of is if you are of a size that causes difficulty with being able to reach every where in order to wash yourself fully - please ensure you take extra special care and time to do so before your meeting. (that includes all skin folds and so on, a full deep clean - not just a quick rinse off)

Turn off - Clients reaching out as if they as talking to someone on grindr with one or two word questions. eg. what u into? rates? available? u party? u host? more pics? looking? u travel to *insert random town in another state in the middle of nowhere* (most of the answers to theses questions are available on our profiles btw) Messages that just want to chit chat and talk about things other than logistics about an appointments. (save that talk for our date) Turn on - communication that shows kindness and respect - for eg. messages with full sentences that have show you have read our profiles. Respect our time by stating the time frame you are looking to hire within, and letting us know what it is you are looking to do ( not just say 'I'm looking for fun' maybe next month)

If you quote my comment I am going to reply. I don't have to 'answer your question' because it was completely irrelevant to the discussion. unless you are paying me, don't tell me what to do.

I would follow the foot steps of @Vegas_Millennial A good rule to think of is this: if you are reaching out to a provider without an intention to hire, you are being a tire kicker. A "tire kicker" is someone who shows interest in buying a product or service but has no genuine intent to purchase, wasting the seller's time. The term originates from people who would "kick the tires" of a car at a dealership without ever planning to buy it. In sales, tire kickers often ask many questions and request demos but are hesitant to commit, hide their budget, or are not the final decision-maker.

correct, but that was not the question that was asked.

the question asked was 'do providers prefer a nice time, or a nice tip'. not whether tips are good/bad/worthy.

*Sometimes I am guilty of being exasperated by the 20th enquiry in one day that has asked a million questions, the answers of which are all available on my profile to read and so I am just replying with shortened response.