José Soplanucas

Rather than trying to find one explanation for all the providers who self labeled as straight, do you not think that all of the narratives are possible? Some may be actually straight, some may not be straight at all but just marketing, some may be anything in between, above and below. Instead of arguing, and trying to debate the explanations we do not prefer, why we do not just have fun brainstorming imagining all the possible scenarios?

I bet you there are many definitions. To me, it is a role play situation where the participants interact as though there were an affectionate bond between them. Even when we know that not all relationships are like that, you would expect sweetness, engagement, and connection, without the need to become romantic. "Romantic" would be an appropriate bonus that you can ask for. As contrast, think of a worshipping scenario, or a G4P scene where the "straight" is disengaged and not into you while you are sucking his dick.

I think this is better tan the first attempt.

I have become more selective over time. When I was younger I was experimenting and trying many things that I came to learn I do not really like. Plus, I used to have a limitless stamina, so every sex was good sex because I was always able to have more. Nowadays, my stamina is limited and I treasure the fun time, I would not invest my money and/or time on an experience I am not reasonably confident I would enjoy.

Always from LPSG.

I did. Once I installed it on my phone, and found a lot of fun stuff. But after a few days I deleted the app. Too much of my time is sucked by IG, stupid video games, and YouTube, I did not want to add a new addiction.

Same can be applied to you and your friends in agreement with you. You project your prejudices in an exercise of wishful bigot thinking without any prove. Behind the article author's there is actual research that seems to proof you wrong. Indeed, we should ask for more sources about that research, but what are your sources to back your own explanation?

Thank you, @Lucky! Super interesting! Plus, I am glad the article directly addresses and discredits one of the easy explanations that some posters shared. The hypothesis towards the closing would explain not only the raise in anti gay feelings but also in racist and misogynistic ones, but fails to explain why the raise in anti gay bias is the sharpest.

I think this kind of conversation belongs to the other thread, but I fully agree with your statement. The challenge here is that this violent crime belongs to a grey zone where it can be seen as political violence. I know many will jump to say it is just a criminal act, but they would fail to get in the shoes of many who see this issue differently. My stand is that even if it is political violence, political violence is not justifiable in our current circumstances. The challenge here is to be aware of our own political biases and avoid double standards. I am not addressing this comment to anyone in particular, but to everyone and especially to myself.

+1 These few words eloquently describe my feelings. And I am talking about my own guilt management.

Plus, my life experience has taught me to distrust police and government narratives. He is still an alleged murderer.

@d.anders There is a paywall. Would you copy and paste, please?

Let me add a little more info about the opportunity I am recommending in my OP. I met Patrick during my last visit to Rio de Janeiro, where I spent an entire month. Thanks to @floridarob's mediation, I met @jjlucky, an American expat living in Rio with deep knowledge and lived experience of Brazilian culture, particularly the realities of Brazil’s most disadvantaged communities. Patrick is his boyfriend. Through Akita, I also met a small group of foreigners who gravitate around him. These were not the kind of gringos who come to Brazil to benefit from lower prices while lecturing locals on how to improve their lives from a position of entitlement and supposed civilized superiority. These were men genuinely in love with Brazil, learning the language, immersing themselves in the culture, and engaging with the country respectfully. They were aware of social and economic shortcomings and involved in efforts to improve local living conditions, but from a place of empathy and genuine care and human empathy, not condescension. As a Latin American myself, I am particularly sensitive to this distinction. Patrick is a 30 y.o. former GP and a cria: born and raised in a favela. When he was born, Vidigal had not yet been pacified, and he lived through its transformation from a violent, insecure neighborhood into the cultural powerhouse it is becoming today. I felt an immediate affection for him. The enthusiasm and warmth with which he spoke about his life and his dreams were deeply moving. Unlike many young and not so young people, he does not dream of wealth for its own sake, but of creating projects that can improve life in Vidigal. Although he now lives in a comfortable apartment in Copacabana, his heart and soul have never left the morro above Leblon. Patrick does concrete things. Last December, he organized a fundraiser to buy gifts for children in the favela. When I visited in August, he was networking and raising funds to open a restaurant in Vidigal, serving popular Brazilian food and employing people from the community. Because of this project, Patrick invited me and a few other non-Brazilian friends to visit his former neighborhood. We did not take an Uber or an air-conditioned bus. Instead, we waited, as Vidigal residents do, for a spot in one of the minivans that carry workers up the hill in the afternoon and down to their jobs in the morning. In our van, foreigners were a small minority. As we climbed the morro, Patrick would jump from one side to the other, pointing out landmarks from his life and strategic spots offering privileged views of the city. He seemed to know and love everyone, and everyone seemed to know and love him. This was not a tour, but a visit to the places where he imagined building his restaurant. Still, I believe the experience offered me a glimpse of what became Patrick’s next dream, one far more achievable than his previous one. I share again the same info shared before by @jjlucky: Everything is available in this IG address I shared in my OP and that share here again: https://www.instagram.com/tpk_008/ This has nothing to do with sex work, or any kind of exploitation. This has to do on one hand with sharing with you a unique opportunity to have a learning experience that may educate you and radically change your preconceptions about the people from the favelas. On the other hand, this also has to do with supporting a community business run by people from Vidigal, with and for people from Vidigal. This effort could be part of a renaissance for this community similar to what many of us admired in Comuna 13 in Medellín.

That would be a good point if it were true. I invite you to read the info shared by another poster. Ultimately, if we are concerned about poverty in favelas or anywhere else, we could support the local businesses and drop some of our extra dollars. This is organized by favela inhabitants, in their own benefit. I still hope to see you in Rio, Lucky.

Ignore the trolls. This is a great experience.