JayCeeKy

Wow, Leon, from the sound of your name I thought maybe you were some aging radical reject from the 1960s, not such a young, sexy guy. Thanks for sharing your online profile and your hot pics!

I've only worked with a CPA who is a great tax preparer and tax specialist - knows all the ins-and-outs of taxes. I would think that a tax lawyer would only be needed if you have some legal troubles with the tax man - e.g. owing back taxes, garnishments, etc. My CPA is not only good at filing taxes, he also is a good financial advisor for questions regarding RMD's (required Required Minimal Distributions), long-term tax planning, etc. I would think that a tax lawyer is going to cost you more as they usually are reimbursed through "billable hours" which can add up quickly.

Thanks for the info - it will come in handy as I sometimes pass through Charlotte. It happens to all of us at some point. I wish we all had the presence of mind to just leave when we discover a catfish, regardless of whether the dude is good looking or not. But, if you're like me, you're so horny and have built up such expectations of a sexy adventure that you end up staying - when we should just walk out.

I also love House Hunters and have long been aware that the home-buyers have already purchased their homes and that the two alternative homes are most likely not even up for sale (I read somewhere that sometimes the buyers will visit the homes of friends and make snide comments about their horrible "tastes" as inside jokes). But, it's a bit of humorous cinéma vérité that combines stylized set-ups with down-home improvisation to unveil truths about the how petty, yet also compromising, humans can be (I mean, getting into a marital squabble over shower fixtures?). The fun comes in trying to guess which home will be chosen by listening for subtle clues in the dialogue and in the setup (Mavis wants a colonial but John is dead set on a Ranch - is one willing to compromise style for location?). A real positive for the gay community is the show's presentation of gay couples as just regular folks with the same tastes, peculiarities, and desires, as every other couple.

I had a college roommate who was so horny I used to call him "Homo Sapiens, Semper Erectus."

So it would be sort of a "Hope Chest?"

I have a feeling that publishing client information online may backfire on you - that no one will avail themselves of your services out of fear that you would disclose personal information about them.

Look who's a good boy

I was banned 2x but I don't think I was reported - at least not by someone that I contacted since I NEVER initiated any discussion of a transaction - I always started by complimenting that person on their pic, and let THEM take the initiative. I'm pretty sure that I was banned for using the word "gen" and "giving person" in either my Profile or my screen name. I went unnoticed for about three months and then one day BAM! banned. After that first banning, I think they monitored my convos which got me banned again for discussing a transaction with another local user who was about ready to give me his home address when BAM! banned again. So, my theory is that they do some monitoring but it is very cursory and random.... and yes, some people do get away with “4Hire??” -- but not forever. I have been on my good behavior for the last month (e.g. avoiding the "gen" word and asking interested parties to save any convos for text messages to my Burner phone); as I noted previously, all the benefits of a paid subscription have been restored to my account, even though I did not ask Grindr for them. I think they want your business ($67 for a year is a pretty hefty fee, IMHO), but they also want to avoid any entanglement with the law.

When you're horny, the dick needs no courting.

There's lots and lots of guys out there, straight, bi, gay, whatever, who would love to get a BJ as long as you make the first move. Why would they object, they're getting their cock sucked? The old eye-to-crotch-to-eye-to-crotch-to eye is almost fool-proof. Don't over-think this - they want it as much as you want it. "Damn, I wish had..." are the thoughts you will have in 40 years. I speak from experience as a 70-yr-old who looks back now on number of times in my youth when I was too shy to "go for it." Life is not a dress rehearsal. You're not getting a second chance.

Yes, once sufficient groundwork has been laid, move all communication away from the app, or you'll get banned and lose your contacts and any identifying info you had with this guy. Take it from someone who learned the hard way. Get a burner phone (or number) and ask "the dude" to continue the discussion away from prying eyes - for your sake and his.

https://www.burnerapp.com/

Yes, I've learned my lesson after two bannings - take the conversation to another forum. In my case, I give the phone number of my Burner app, which allows me anonymity and the ability to change the phone number once a month, if need be.

Poverty and childhood adversity are certainly factors when speaking of criminal behaviors. I was not addressing those broader and more complicated issues. My comment was based simply on my anecdotal experience of working with guys coming out of state prison, i.e., that many of them were not horrible people, they just had a limited repertoire in dealing with the stresses of ordinary life. Example: most of us, when confronted with an angry landlord who is demanding rent payment, might consider asking friends/relatives for a loan, or might consider taking a second job. Many of the guys I worked with, when confronted with the same situation, would only see one alternative: burglarize a home. Similarly, many of these guys had very poor anger management skills: they would bop somebody in the nose within a second of a perceived insult or slight, not considering for a moment that it takes a bigger man to just walk away. I suspect that Tony might fall into this same category for, as someone has pointed out, he didn't actually rob the client, but merely demanded (in an extremely inappropriate way) that he receive the already-agreed-upon fee. I agree with you that many persons with limited coping skills likely have a high correlation with poverty and childhood deprivation, BUT there are also many persons (one of whom has a very high profile position in the federal government in D.C.) who have extremely poor coping skills and yet, come from backgrounds of privilege and wealth. Finally, my speculation about Tony is just that - speculation - he may have just have had a bad day, or maybe there were extenuating circumstances, or maybe the accusation about a gun being pulled is just plain bullshit invented by a client who was trying to justify his own extremely inappropriate behavior.

For many years I worked with guys coming out of state prison. Many of them are not really bad guys, just really, really poor problem-solvers. Frequentflier lists the various options that most of us would consider if we felt like we were cheated. For people like Tony, they immediately pull out a weapon as the only option in their limited arsenal of coping skills, along with incredibly poor impulse control. And then they end up in prison, rationalizing their behavior (as he did in his response to the Review), having learned nothing about how to deal with anger and impulse control.

In his response to the Review, Mr. Cuba stated: "...if you want to post a review that obviously gonna hurt my reputation..." Ya think?

For hiring. I never catfish for the simple reason that I could never take the rejection of an escort walking in, saying "Ugh" and walking out. LOL. I never send pics of myself but I do give my stats including age, height/weight, race, and a brief description of wants. Speaking of a4a, last evening I saw a guy on that site with great abs (a six-pack I cannot resist). I sent him a brief message about how impressed I was with his abs. Before long he sent the inevitable "donation?" To seal the deal, I asked him to send another couple of pics just to verify. He sent two but neither one had the abs, though his body was pretty nice. I did not complete the negotiations.

IF Grindr's TOS gives them permission to monitor member PMs they would likely be protected from lawsuits. I read their Privacy policies and it is still not clear to me that they can (or do) read PMs. But, Grindr is also held to its own TOS -- including its statements regarding the privacy of its customers. If they breach their own TOS they could be sued.

I also like a4a but it's a crap shoot. There are some real gems but there are also a lot of catfishes. I think Reagan's advice for hiring from a4a would be: Trust but verify.

I subscribed to Grindr last February and paid for a year's subscription (I think it was $67). Then, without warning, about a month ago, I signed on and got the "Your Account has been banned" - no explanation and no response from several emails to their Support. I deleted the account and successfully signed in with a different email/name. About a week after that, again, I got the message "Your Account has been banned." Here's the odd thing: I once again deleted the account, deleted the Grindr app from my cell phone, and again re-installed app and signed in with another email/name -- and about a week or so ago, not only was I up and running again, but my paid subscription (along with its benefits) were restored, even though my "Favorites" and previous communications were not. There was absolutely no communication about why I was banned, why I was restored, or whether I was on "probation." If I had to do over again, I would never have subscribed to Grindr as communication with its overlords is nil and you are never given an explanation of the infraction you supposedly committed. I suspect they monitor your private conversations inasmuch as my Profile was innocuous but my private communications hinted at "gen" - and am wondering if such monitoring is not an invasion of privacy - though there is probably something in their lengthy "Terms of Service"that allows them such access. I think the owners of the app are opening themselves to a huge "class action" lawsuit due to reading private communications and canceling members' subscriptions w/out warning or explanation. I realize that all providers are frightened of the new laws making them liable for online prostitution, but there is also such as thing as due process and online privacy.

I am assuming that you have already seen previous comments about him: https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/darkyounghorse-in-chicago.145162/#post-1662129

I like that Dr. Goldstein doesn't feel compelled to stick with medical terminology: "The first two to three days (after surgery) I usually disclose you won’t love me very much. Clearly a constant pain in the ass ....."

I believe he's gotten mixed reviews before: https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/411-on-exoticflavor.131181/