JayCeeKy

When you're horny, the dick needs no courting.

There's lots and lots of guys out there, straight, bi, gay, whatever, who would love to get a BJ as long as you make the first move. Why would they object, they're getting their cock sucked? The old eye-to-crotch-to-eye-to-crotch-to eye is almost fool-proof. Don't over-think this - they want it as much as you want it. "Damn, I wish had..." are the thoughts you will have in 40 years. I speak from experience as a 70-yr-old who looks back now on number of times in my youth when I was too shy to "go for it." Life is not a dress rehearsal. You're not getting a second chance.

Yes, once sufficient groundwork has been laid, move all communication away from the app, or you'll get banned and lose your contacts and any identifying info you had with this guy. Take it from someone who learned the hard way. Get a burner phone (or number) and ask "the dude" to continue the discussion away from prying eyes - for your sake and his.

https://www.burnerapp.com/

Yes, I've learned my lesson after two bannings - take the conversation to another forum. In my case, I give the phone number of my Burner app, which allows me anonymity and the ability to change the phone number once a month, if need be.

Poverty and childhood adversity are certainly factors when speaking of criminal behaviors. I was not addressing those broader and more complicated issues. My comment was based simply on my anecdotal experience of working with guys coming out of state prison, i.e., that many of them were not horrible people, they just had a limited repertoire in dealing with the stresses of ordinary life. Example: most of us, when confronted with an angry landlord who is demanding rent payment, might consider asking friends/relatives for a loan, or might consider taking a second job. Many of the guys I worked with, when confronted with the same situation, would only see one alternative: burglarize a home. Similarly, many of these guys had very poor anger management skills: they would bop somebody in the nose within a second of a perceived insult or slight, not considering for a moment that it takes a bigger man to just walk away. I suspect that Tony might fall into this same category for, as someone has pointed out, he didn't actually rob the client, but merely demanded (in an extremely inappropriate way) that he receive the already-agreed-upon fee. I agree with you that many persons with limited coping skills likely have a high correlation with poverty and childhood deprivation, BUT there are also many persons (one of whom has a very high profile position in the federal government in D.C.) who have extremely poor coping skills and yet, come from backgrounds of privilege and wealth. Finally, my speculation about Tony is just that - speculation - he may have just have had a bad day, or maybe there were extenuating circumstances, or maybe the accusation about a gun being pulled is just plain bullshit invented by a client who was trying to justify his own extremely inappropriate behavior.

For many years I worked with guys coming out of state prison. Many of them are not really bad guys, just really, really poor problem-solvers. Frequentflier lists the various options that most of us would consider if we felt like we were cheated. For people like Tony, they immediately pull out a weapon as the only option in their limited arsenal of coping skills, along with incredibly poor impulse control. And then they end up in prison, rationalizing their behavior (as he did in his response to the Review), having learned nothing about how to deal with anger and impulse control.

In his response to the Review, Mr. Cuba stated: "...if you want to post a review that obviously gonna hurt my reputation..." Ya think?

For hiring. I never catfish for the simple reason that I could never take the rejection of an escort walking in, saying "Ugh" and walking out. LOL. I never send pics of myself but I do give my stats including age, height/weight, race, and a brief description of wants. Speaking of a4a, last evening I saw a guy on that site with great abs (a six-pack I cannot resist). I sent him a brief message about how impressed I was with his abs. Before long he sent the inevitable "donation?" To seal the deal, I asked him to send another couple of pics just to verify. He sent two but neither one had the abs, though his body was pretty nice. I did not complete the negotiations.

IF Grindr's TOS gives them permission to monitor member PMs they would likely be protected from lawsuits. I read their Privacy policies and it is still not clear to me that they can (or do) read PMs. But, Grindr is also held to its own TOS -- including its statements regarding the privacy of its customers. If they breach their own TOS they could be sued.

I also like a4a but it's a crap shoot. There are some real gems but there are also a lot of catfishes. I think Reagan's advice for hiring from a4a would be: Trust but verify.

I subscribed to Grindr last February and paid for a year's subscription (I think it was $67). Then, without warning, about a month ago, I signed on and got the "Your Account has been banned" - no explanation and no response from several emails to their Support. I deleted the account and successfully signed in with a different email/name. About a week after that, again, I got the message "Your Account has been banned." Here's the odd thing: I once again deleted the account, deleted the Grindr app from my cell phone, and again re-installed app and signed in with another email/name -- and about a week or so ago, not only was I up and running again, but my paid subscription (along with its benefits) were restored, even though my "Favorites" and previous communications were not. There was absolutely no communication about why I was banned, why I was restored, or whether I was on "probation." If I had to do over again, I would never have subscribed to Grindr as communication with its overlords is nil and you are never given an explanation of the infraction you supposedly committed. I suspect they monitor your private conversations inasmuch as my Profile was innocuous but my private communications hinted at "gen" - and am wondering if such monitoring is not an invasion of privacy - though there is probably something in their lengthy "Terms of Service"that allows them such access. I think the owners of the app are opening themselves to a huge "class action" lawsuit due to reading private communications and canceling members' subscriptions w/out warning or explanation. I realize that all providers are frightened of the new laws making them liable for online prostitution, but there is also such as thing as due process and online privacy.

I am assuming that you have already seen previous comments about him: https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/darkyounghorse-in-chicago.145162/#post-1662129

I like that Dr. Goldstein doesn't feel compelled to stick with medical terminology: "The first two to three days (after surgery) I usually disclose you won’t love me very much. Clearly a constant pain in the ass ....."

I believe he's gotten mixed reviews before: https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/411-on-exoticflavor.131181/

I read that the winner, like James, had been preparing for Jeopardy! for many years and, like James, had many hours of practicing (at home) with a self-made "buzzer" (she used a click pen) - one of the keys to winning is developing a "fast buzzer." Also, like James, she had tried on several occasions to get on the show, without any luck. Maybe it's my conspiratorial nature, but I am wondering if the producers were trying to "stoke the fire" a bit in throwing two extremely knowledgeable opponents at James in the hope of creating a less-than-runaway game, per James' standard? James, to his credit, was a gracious loser and, I have no doubt, we will be seeing him again during "Tournament of Champions." I am dying to see him go toe-to-toe with Ken Jennings.

I lived in LA for several years, and went to school there. I lived in a working class area near the airport, and I lived in Brentwood, just west of the 405 - not too far from O.J,'s house. It was my experience that, when you get to know your neighbors, regardless of where you live, there are some good people, and there are some not-so-nice people. It's a big mistake to lump everybody into stereotypical categories. If I didn't have a great job offer back in the Bluegrass State, I'd still be living in L.A. Granted, gasoline and rents are really high in L.A. but the salaries tend to be higher than in most parts of the country. You are paying for generally nice weather, good schools, nice beaches, and an ambience you don't get in most cities.

I have a friend who made a small fortune in installing HVAC systems in Kentucky, even though he was from the New York area. When I asked him how he decided to start his business in crappy old Kentucky he said that he went to the local library in New York and did some research on what part of the country has the least number of HVAC units per population - and Kentucky and WVA came up tops. In other words, the key to success was doing his research first. I am guessing that, as far as escorts, the two Coasts (East and West) are probably over-saturated, as are the Florida and Atlanta areas. I would further guess, based on many years of shopping for escorts both online and in vivo, that the most under-served populations are in the Midwest and the South. Since you say that you don't want to live in any oppressive/hostile areas, I'm guessing that the deep South is a no-go. That leaves metro areas in the Midwest (and possibly the Mountain areas, though you say you don't want Denver). Based on these ideas, I am wondering if you might not consider Midwest Metro areas where the cost-of-living is low, has good transportation facilities, and is gay-friendly. Given that criteria, you may want to consider Cleveland, Columbus, Indianapolis (Indiana is a Red State but, like Louisville, the cities are much more liberal than the rural areas), and perhaps St. Louis, or Louisville. Louisville, you say??? See @caramelsub comment above to verify that it is, indeed, one of the gay hotspots in the US. And, the cost-of-living (esp housing) is extremely low. Just my 2 cents. Wanna see how low the cost of homes are in Louisville? Old Louisville is the gayest part of town, and also has the highest number of Victorian-style mansions in the US. To see some of them and their prices, go to https://www.homesinlouisville.com/idx/results/#city_Louisville/subdiv_Old%20Louisville/

Would provide a whole new reason for bringing lube to your date.

LOL. Sorta reminds me of a remark that a friend once made that his biggest fear is that, after death, as he falls into the deepest chasms of fire into the very pit of hell he will be screaming "I thought all you smart people said these were just metaphors!"

Implosion into Cosmic Consciousness. (See Friedrich Schleirmacher's "point of contact with God"; Teilhard's "noosphere"; Hegels's Geist; and especially Richard Maurice Bucke's "Cosmic Consciousness: A Study in the Evolution of the Human Mind." ). And, perhaps for a philosophical/theological (and a recent/popular) discussion of why there is something instead of nothing (which lends itself to a serious discussion of the afterlife) read Jim Holt's "Why Does the World Exist?" Cosmic Consciousness, according to Bucke: "This consciousness shows the cosmos to consist not of dead matter governed by unconscious, rigid, and unintending law; it shows it on the contrary as entirely immaterial, entirely spiritual and entirely alive; it shows that death is an absurdity, that everyone and everything has eternal life; it shows that the universe is God and that God is the universe..." Sounds a bit pantheistic but contemporary proponents of this belief do distinguish between personal, transcendental consciousness (which is the basis of traditional meditation, Eastern mysticism, and William James' "religious experience.") and the supreme Consciousness of the "Godhead." At death we are joined to that universal knowledge, wisdom, and Goodness that is the essence of the "divine." Until then, we sense our incompleteness, as, Augustine stated: Our hearts are restless until they rest in Thee. There was an article in the Washington Post last year that stated that neurological biologists have discovered that the brain seems to be hard-wired for a belief in an afterlife, perhaps lending credence to the old adage that it's more difficult to be an atheist than a believer, at least in terms of brain science. I guess most of us WANT to believe and that Peggy Lee was wrong when she sang: Is that all there is, is that all there is If that's all there is my friends, then let's keep dancing Let's break out the booze and have a ball If that's all there is

Are those pics of this guy in Indy who advertises on RM? https://rentmen.eu/speakphillipe I've had some contact with the Indy guy and he seems genuine.

10 days before Kennedy's actual birthday of May 29. And yes, because she was late coming on stage that night at the Garden (she was backstage arguing with Peter Lawford and also having trouble fitting into her skin-tight dress), she was introduced as "the Late Marilyn Monroe."

Yes, write the obit as a family (not by one person) and publish. It helps the family to acknowledge the loss, reminisce and celebrate her life, and document her life for generations to come.