Himposium

Hey everyone,
I wanted to take a moment to share something I came across while exploring platforms that feature male masseurs. One well-known site, RentMen, asked for my government-issued ID just to view profiles. That didn’t sit well with me.
I understand that ID verification is sometimes required for posting services—that makes sense for accountability and safety. But to simply browse content? That felt excessive, and frankly, unnecessary.
For anyone considering using platforms like this, here are a few things to keep in mind:
Your ID contains sensitive information (name, date of birth, license/ID numbers). Once uploaded, you’re trusting the platform to store and protect that data securely. Not all sites have strong privacy protections.
Data breaches are real. Even well-known companies have been hacked. If a site’s policy isn’t transparent about how long they keep your info or what they do with it, that's a red flag.
There are alternative platforms that allow you to browse or connect without giving up your identity. In an era where privacy matters, we shouldn’t feel pressured to hand over personal documents just to explore.
For these reasons, I’ve chosen to opt out of using any site that demands my ID for viewing access. I believe in exploring with curiosity—but also caution.
Just wanted to put this on your radar in case it helps someone else make an informed decision. Stay safe out there.

From my perspective, it’s not uncommon for people to experience discomfort when encountering beliefs or affiliations that differ from their own—especially in today’s polarized climate. However, what stands out in this interaction is a phenomenon called cognitive rigidity—a reduced ability to tolerate ambiguity or opposing views without perceiving them as a threat.
The individual may also be experiencing a form of black-and-white thinking, a cognitive distortion where people or actions are viewed as entirely good or entirely bad, depending on a single characteristic like political alignment. This makes it difficult to appreciate nuance—such as a provider’s professionalism or kindness, independent of their beliefs.
Additionally, their accusation that you were ‘attacking’ them after calmly quoting a guideline and offering a neutral perspective could reflect projection—displacing their own discomfort or inner conflict onto you. When someone’s worldview is challenged, even gently, it can feel threatening if they haven’t developed internal tools for navigating differing opinions.
This situation also touches on identity fusion, where a person’s political identity becomes so central to their sense of self that it bleeds into unrelated decisions, like hiring a massage therapist or leaving a positive review. That level of entanglement can inhibit personal growth and reduce openness to beneficial, non-political experiences.
Your response modeled emotional maturity and boundary-setting: you stayed within the community guidelines, responded without judgment, and affirmed values like professionalism and open-mindedness. That the person responded with a sense of being 'attacked' is more telling about their emotional landscape than your words.
In short, this isn't just about politics—it's about anxiety, perceived threat, and an inability to tolerate difference. And that, more than any affiliation, is what needs compassionate understanding and, sometimes, therapeutic exploration.

Marylander1940, I’d like to offer some insight. If you believe that paying a male escort gives you the right to treat him with disregard, that mindset reflects deeper psychological patterns. The entitlement you’ve expressed often stems from internal struggles with control, self-worth, and the capacity for intimacy.
Using money as a justification to strip someone of respect is a defense mechanism—a way to avoid vulnerability. It creates a false sense of power, but beneath that surface is unresolved shame, fear of closeness, and likely a conflict around your own sexual identity. What you’re doing is projecting your discomfort onto the very person you’re paying to connect with.
Payment doesn’t erase the human element. In fact, it heightens the need for mutual respect and emotional intelligence. A truly balanced mind understands that. You may want to explore this further—because this behavior is a sign that help is needed.

This 👆 💯.  
As for licenses, I wish the government spent more time and effort enforcing driving without a license instead of rubbing someone's glutes without a license.

Marylander1940, I’d like to offer some insight. If you believe that paying a male escort gives you the right to treat him with disregard, that mindset reflects deeper psychological patterns. The entitlement you’ve expressed often stems from internal struggles with control, self-worth, and the capacity for intimacy.
Using money as a justification to strip someone of respect is a defense mechanism—a way to avoid vulnerability. It creates a false sense of power, but beneath that surface is unresolved shame, fear of closeness, and likely a conflict around your own sexual identity. What you’re doing is projecting your discomfort onto the very person you’re paying to connect with.
Payment doesn’t erase the human element. In fact, it heightens the need for mutual respect and emotional intelligence. A truly balanced mind understands that. You may want to explore this further—because this behavior is a sign that help is needed.

Marylander1940, I’d like to offer some insight. If you believe that paying a male escort gives you the right to treat him with disregard, that mindset reflects deeper psychological patterns. The entitlement you’ve expressed often stems from internal struggles with control, self-worth, and the capacity for intimacy.
Using money as a justification to strip someone of respect is a defense mechanism—a way to avoid vulnerability. It creates a false sense of power, but beneath that surface is unresolved shame, fear of closeness, and likely a conflict around your own sexual identity. What you’re doing is projecting your discomfort onto the very person you’re paying to connect with.
Payment doesn’t erase the human element. In fact, it heightens the need for mutual respect and emotional intelligence. A truly balanced mind understands that. You may want to explore this further—because this behavior is a sign that help is needed.

From my perspective, it’s not uncommon for people to experience discomfort when encountering beliefs or affiliations that differ from their own—especially in today’s polarized climate. However, what stands out in this interaction is a phenomenon called cognitive rigidity—a reduced ability to tolerate ambiguity or opposing views without perceiving them as a threat.
The individual may also be experiencing a form of black-and-white thinking, a cognitive distortion where people or actions are viewed as entirely good or entirely bad, depending on a single characteristic like political alignment. This makes it difficult to appreciate nuance—such as a provider’s professionalism or kindness, independent of their beliefs.
Additionally, their accusation that you were ‘attacking’ them after calmly quoting a guideline and offering a neutral perspective could reflect projection—displacing their own discomfort or inner conflict onto you. When someone’s worldview is challenged, even gently, it can feel threatening if they haven’t developed internal tools for navigating differing opinions.
This situation also touches on identity fusion, where a person’s political identity becomes so central to their sense of self that it bleeds into unrelated decisions, like hiring a massage therapist or leaving a positive review. That level of entanglement can inhibit personal growth and reduce openness to beneficial, non-political experiences.
Your response modeled emotional maturity and boundary-setting: you stayed within the community guidelines, responded without judgment, and affirmed values like professionalism and open-mindedness. That the person responded with a sense of being 'attacked' is more telling about their emotional landscape than your words.
In short, this isn't just about politics—it's about anxiety, perceived threat, and an inability to tolerate difference. And that, more than any affiliation, is what needs compassionate understanding and, sometimes, therapeutic exploration.

From my perspective, it’s not uncommon for people to experience discomfort when encountering beliefs or affiliations that differ from their own—especially in today’s polarized climate. However, what stands out in this interaction is a phenomenon called cognitive rigidity—a reduced ability to tolerate ambiguity or opposing views without perceiving them as a threat.
The individual may also be experiencing a form of black-and-white thinking, a cognitive distortion where people or actions are viewed as entirely good or entirely bad, depending on a single characteristic like political alignment. This makes it difficult to appreciate nuance—such as a provider’s professionalism or kindness, independent of their beliefs.
Additionally, their accusation that you were ‘attacking’ them after calmly quoting a guideline and offering a neutral perspective could reflect projection—displacing their own discomfort or inner conflict onto you. When someone’s worldview is challenged, even gently, it can feel threatening if they haven’t developed internal tools for navigating differing opinions.
This situation also touches on identity fusion, where a person’s political identity becomes so central to their sense of self that it bleeds into unrelated decisions, like hiring a massage therapist or leaving a positive review. That level of entanglement can inhibit personal growth and reduce openness to beneficial, non-political experiences.
Your response modeled emotional maturity and boundary-setting: you stayed within the community guidelines, responded without judgment, and affirmed values like professionalism and open-mindedness. That the person responded with a sense of being 'attacked' is more telling about their emotional landscape than your words.
In short, this isn't just about politics—it's about anxiety, perceived threat, and an inability to tolerate difference. And that, more than any affiliation, is what needs compassionate understanding and, sometimes, therapeutic exploration.

I regularly see three masseurs who aren’t licensed, and I’ve had nothing but great experiences. Why? Because I curate the session by speaking up about what I want and where I need the work. Just lying there in silence and then leaving a lukewarm review? That’s on the client, not the masseur.
If your masseur is working your calves or thighs—let them. And when they hit the perfect rhythm, like playing the fiddle just right, say something. Tell them, “Keep doing that, I love it.” Don’t let them move on until you’re ready. That’s just common sense—and no license can substitute for clear communication.
I see a lot of hate directed at masseurs here, but honestly, most of it comes from clients who don’t speak up. From the masseur’s side, they’re considering things like whether you’re on blood thinners, if you bruise easily, or if going deep into your glutes might trigger a sciatic flare-up.
Bottom line: if you want a great massage, be present and vocal throughout the session. That’s how you get exactly what you came for.

Hey everyone,
I wanted to take a moment to share something I came across while exploring platforms that feature male masseurs. One well-known site, RentMen, asked for my government-issued ID just to view profiles. That didn’t sit well with me.
I understand that ID verification is sometimes required for posting services—that makes sense for accountability and safety. But to simply browse content? That felt excessive, and frankly, unnecessary.
For anyone considering using platforms like this, here are a few things to keep in mind:
Your ID contains sensitive information (name, date of birth, license/ID numbers). Once uploaded, you’re trusting the platform to store and protect that data securely. Not all sites have strong privacy protections.
Data breaches are real. Even well-known companies have been hacked. If a site’s policy isn’t transparent about how long they keep your info or what they do with it, that's a red flag.
There are alternative platforms that allow you to browse or connect without giving up your identity. In an era where privacy matters, we shouldn’t feel pressured to hand over personal documents just to explore.
For these reasons, I’ve chosen to opt out of using any site that demands my ID for viewing access. I believe in exploring with curiosity—but also caution.
Just wanted to put this on your radar in case it helps someone else make an informed decision. Stay safe out there.

I regularly see three masseurs who aren’t licensed, and I’ve had nothing but great experiences. Why? Because I curate the session by speaking up about what I want and where I need the work. Just lying there in silence and then leaving a lukewarm review? That’s on the client, not the masseur.
If your masseur is working your calves or thighs—let them. And when they hit the perfect rhythm, like playing the fiddle just right, say something. Tell them, “Keep doing that, I love it.” Don’t let them move on until you’re ready. That’s just common sense—and no license can substitute for clear communication.
I see a lot of hate directed at masseurs here, but honestly, most of it comes from clients who don’t speak up. From the masseur’s side, they’re considering things like whether you’re on blood thinners, if you bruise easily, or if going deep into your glutes might trigger a sciatic flare-up.
Bottom line: if you want a great massage, be present and vocal throughout the session. That’s how you get exactly what you came for.

I’ve been meaning to book him myself—such a beautiful man. 

Hey everyone,
I wanted to take a moment to share something I came across while exploring platforms that feature male masseurs. One well-known site, RentMen, asked for my government-issued ID just to view profiles. That didn’t sit well with me.
I understand that ID verification is sometimes required for posting services—that makes sense for accountability and safety. But to simply browse content? That felt excessive, and frankly, unnecessary.
For anyone considering using platforms like this, here are a few things to keep in mind:
Your ID contains sensitive information (name, date of birth, license/ID numbers). Once uploaded, you’re trusting the platform to store and protect that data securely. Not all sites have strong privacy protections.
Data breaches are real. Even well-known companies have been hacked. If a site’s policy isn’t transparent about how long they keep your info or what they do with it, that's a red flag.
There are alternative platforms that allow you to browse or connect without giving up your identity. In an era where privacy matters, we shouldn’t feel pressured to hand over personal documents just to explore.
For these reasons, I’ve chosen to opt out of using any site that demands my ID for viewing access. I believe in exploring with curiosity—but also caution.
Just wanted to put this on your radar in case it helps someone else make an informed decision. Stay safe out there.

Hey everyone,
I wanted to take a moment to share something I came across while exploring platforms that feature male masseurs. One well-known site, RentMen, asked for my government-issued ID just to view profiles. That didn’t sit well with me.
I understand that ID verification is sometimes required for posting services—that makes sense for accountability and safety. But to simply browse content? That felt excessive, and frankly, unnecessary.
For anyone considering using platforms like this, here are a few things to keep in mind:
Your ID contains sensitive information (name, date of birth, license/ID numbers). Once uploaded, you’re trusting the platform to store and protect that data securely. Not all sites have strong privacy protections.
Data breaches are real. Even well-known companies have been hacked. If a site’s policy isn’t transparent about how long they keep your info or what they do with it, that's a red flag.
There are alternative platforms that allow you to browse or connect without giving up your identity. In an era where privacy matters, we shouldn’t feel pressured to hand over personal documents just to explore.
For these reasons, I’ve chosen to opt out of using any site that demands my ID for viewing access. I believe in exploring with curiosity—but also caution.
Just wanted to put this on your radar in case it helps someone else make an informed decision. Stay safe out there.

I regularly see three masseurs who aren’t licensed, and I’ve had nothing but great experiences. Why? Because I curate the session by speaking up about what I want and where I need the work. Just lying there in silence and then leaving a lukewarm review? That’s on the client, not the masseur.
If your masseur is working your calves or thighs—let them. And when they hit the perfect rhythm, like playing the fiddle just right, say something. Tell them, “Keep doing that, I love it.” Don’t let them move on until you’re ready. That’s just common sense—and no license can substitute for clear communication.
I see a lot of hate directed at masseurs here, but honestly, most of it comes from clients who don’t speak up. From the masseur’s side, they’re considering things like whether you’re on blood thinners, if you bruise easily, or if going deep into your glutes might trigger a sciatic flare-up.
Bottom line: if you want a great massage, be present and vocal throughout the session. That’s how you get exactly what you came for.

I regularly see three masseurs who aren’t licensed, and I’ve had nothing but great experiences. Why? Because I curate the session by speaking up about what I want and where I need the work. Just lying there in silence and then leaving a lukewarm review? That’s on the client, not the masseur.
If your masseur is working your calves or thighs—let them. And when they hit the perfect rhythm, like playing the fiddle just right, say something. Tell them, “Keep doing that, I love it.” Don’t let them move on until you’re ready. That’s just common sense—and no license can substitute for clear communication.
I see a lot of hate directed at masseurs here, but honestly, most of it comes from clients who don’t speak up. From the masseur’s side, they’re considering things like whether you’re on blood thinners, if you bruise easily, or if going deep into your glutes might trigger a sciatic flare-up.
Bottom line: if you want a great massage, be present and vocal throughout the session. That’s how you get exactly what you came for.

I regularly see three masseurs who aren’t licensed, and I’ve had nothing but great experiences. Why? Because I curate the session by speaking up about what I want and where I need the work. Just lying there in silence and then leaving a lukewarm review? That’s on the client, not the masseur.
If your masseur is working your calves or thighs—let them. And when they hit the perfect rhythm, like playing the fiddle just right, say something. Tell them, “Keep doing that, I love it.” Don’t let them move on until you’re ready. That’s just common sense—and no license can substitute for clear communication.
I see a lot of hate directed at masseurs here, but honestly, most of it comes from clients who don’t speak up. From the masseur’s side, they’re considering things like whether you’re on blood thinners, if you bruise easily, or if going deep into your glutes might trigger a sciatic flare-up.
Bottom line: if you want a great massage, be present and vocal throughout the session. That’s how you get exactly what you came for.

I regularly see three masseurs who aren’t licensed, and I’ve had nothing but great experiences. Why? Because I curate the session by speaking up about what I want and where I need the work. Just lying there in silence and then leaving a lukewarm review? That’s on the client, not the masseur.
If your masseur is working your calves or thighs—let them. And when they hit the perfect rhythm, like playing the fiddle just right, say something. Tell them, “Keep doing that, I love it.” Don’t let them move on until you’re ready. That’s just common sense—and no license can substitute for clear communication.
I see a lot of hate directed at masseurs here, but honestly, most of it comes from clients who don’t speak up. From the masseur’s side, they’re considering things like whether you’re on blood thinners, if you bruise easily, or if going deep into your glutes might trigger a sciatic flare-up.
Bottom line: if you want a great massage, be present and vocal throughout the session. That’s how you get exactly what you came for.

I wouldn't generally make a distinction between someone who currently holds a license and someone who had one but let it lapse, assuming they were still working. I would think keeping your license in most states just means you paid a fee. It's not like your knowledge disappears when that happens. 

You expect a masseur who's basically a sex worker to be licensed? lol 

Yes I agree with this. It’s great when I get a responsive client. They don’t need to speak, just respond with positive reactions to what I’m doing. It’s especially noticeable when I start with some head massage and I can see their body relax and hear that long out breath as all the tension leaves them. As a masseur you get used to seeing the signs, they don’t need to be overt (indeed it sometimes feels performative if the client is writhing around and exclaiming pleasure at every touch), subtle almost subconscious indications are all I need to know that what  I’m doing is working. And then of course when he turns over the bodily signals are rather more obvious 😉. 

I regularly see three masseurs who aren’t licensed, and I’ve had nothing but great experiences. Why? Because I curate the session by speaking up about what I want and where I need the work. Just lying there in silence and then leaving a lukewarm review? That’s on the client, not the masseur.
If your masseur is working your calves or thighs—let them. And when they hit the perfect rhythm, like playing the fiddle just right, say something. Tell them, “Keep doing that, I love it.” Don’t let them move on until you’re ready. That’s just common sense—and no license can substitute for clear communication.
I see a lot of hate directed at masseurs here, but honestly, most of it comes from clients who don’t speak up. From the masseur’s side, they’re considering things like whether you’re on blood thinners, if you bruise easily, or if going deep into your glutes might trigger a sciatic flare-up.
Bottom line: if you want a great massage, be present and vocal throughout the session. That’s how you get exactly what you came for.

I regularly see three masseurs who aren’t licensed, and I’ve had nothing but great experiences. Why? Because I curate the session by speaking up about what I want and where I need the work. Just lying there in silence and then leaving a lukewarm review? That’s on the client, not the masseur.
If your masseur is working your calves or thighs—let them. And when they hit the perfect rhythm, like playing the fiddle just right, say something. Tell them, “Keep doing that, I love it.” Don’t let them move on until you’re ready. That’s just common sense—and no license can substitute for clear communication.
I see a lot of hate directed at masseurs here, but honestly, most of it comes from clients who don’t speak up. From the masseur’s side, they’re considering things like whether you’re on blood thinners, if you bruise easily, or if going deep into your glutes might trigger a sciatic flare-up.
Bottom line: if you want a great massage, be present and vocal throughout the session. That’s how you get exactly what you came for.

I regularly see three masseurs who aren’t licensed, and I’ve had nothing but great experiences. Why? Because I curate the session by speaking up about what I want and where I need the work. Just lying there in silence and then leaving a lukewarm review? That’s on the client, not the masseur.
If your masseur is working your calves or thighs—let them. And when they hit the perfect rhythm, like playing the fiddle just right, say something. Tell them, “Keep doing that, I love it.” Don’t let them move on until you’re ready. That’s just common sense—and no license can substitute for clear communication.
I see a lot of hate directed at masseurs here, but honestly, most of it comes from clients who don’t speak up. From the masseur’s side, they’re considering things like whether you’re on blood thinners, if you bruise easily, or if going deep into your glutes might trigger a sciatic flare-up.
Bottom line: if you want a great massage, be present and vocal throughout the session. That’s how you get exactly what you came for.

I saw him in 2019, I think, in Salt Lake City.  Lackluster experience in every respect, including the dingy motel.  Totally forgettable, or at least I try to.