Rayphactor

I experienced this when I thought I had found the "perfect" provider and didn't see a need to hire others. He was so exceptional at his craft and checked boxes I hadn't even considered - he set the bar high on what I seek from providers. But it was a short whirlwind because the provider did exactly that ... didn't put forth an effort when I attempted to book our next session. So, after giving him some runway, I had to walk away. Some of the best advice I've received. I'm on the search to find a handful of providers instead of just one or two.

Man, congrats on finding that. I'm still searching for the younger provider who enjoys older guys. I thought I had found one, who I thought had a good head on his shoulders, only to be disappointed by ghosting. So well said! My world has a heavy cognitive and emotional workload, which takes a toll on my well-being. This hobby serves as my sanctuary to refresh and rejuvenate. - Authentic pillow talk - Positive vibes and enthusiasm - Honestly and transparency - Makes me feel desirable - Being present - An after-session text thanking me for my business

Ha! No. Just me.

Same here. Although I am discovering some of my preferred provider personas don't have the depth, capacity, or desire to act as a mentor during the paid sessions.

Holy shit, PK. So glad you were able to revive him. I tend to agree, no more poppers for you providers.

So I'm disqualified. Wish some of the younger providers could see the benefits of having older gentlemen as regular clients.

For me, it is a showstopper unless I've already established a provider/client relationship.

Not sure where this belongs, but a trip down memory lane for me. Got an email notification that my Yahoo! mail will be permanently deleted since I haven't used it for ages. I completely forgot I even had a yahoo account. So I log in to see what I had used yahoo mail for, and low and behold, I find this: When I first learned about this special hobby, Rentboy was the site I made my first hire on. My first hire was a dream come true. And that led me to Daddy's old site.

Well said, @DMonDude. I, too, wish more US domestic providers used Signal.

I have, but had mixed results. Thanks for asking.

Interesting, thanks for sharing. When I experience a pain level beyond bothersome, I've typically rotated the med between acetaminophen, naproxen, and ibuprofen. If it gets to a level of unbearable, I've taken all three at once. Guess I am ahead of the market?

It would take a lot for a profession to have that kind of impact on me as you describe. A profession is simply a means to earn income. If I liked him and we were compatible, I'd probably continue to see him. Of course, we all have a line we won't cross.

Ha! I'm one of them. Grew up on a family farm and been a milk drinker all my life. There is nothing like chilled, fresh milk from the bulk storage tank before the hauler comes to take it away for processing and pasteurization! Unfortunately, I developed a lactose intolerance later in life, but I am able to drink ultra processed milk without issue because it is lactose-free. The Coca-Cola Company's investment in Fairlife has brought some great returns, so my portfolio appreciates it too! On the cyber side, the Coca-Cola Company and its various independent bottling partners have been implicated in at least four distinct cyber incidents between 2022 and 2026. Losing production is going to be costly. They have got to beef up their third party risk management.

I live in a quasi provider desert as well. I've always had to travel to providers and host from hotel rooms. I'd never thought about inviting one to travel to me for an overnight. Sounds like something I should consider. Keep in mind they'll want usual overnight rate + travel costs. One thing I've recently learned is to find forum members who contribute content you find valuable and ask if they have any recommendations/referrals.

Always #1. Don't waste providers' time with blasts.

Oh man, I still deal with this a lot. I get that I am a client paying for a service and it's just transactional. Yet, in my real-world job, I always want everyone I interact with to have a positive experience - even the high-maintenance PITA ones. As a consumer of both personal and business services, I get so fucking annoyed when I leave an interaction with a meh experience. I make an extra effort to deliver a white-glove, world-class experience because it's brought me so many returns. Here's the thing that I'm trying to get through my thick skull: Fun gets harder when we put too much pressure on it. Not all play needs to be epic. Recognize the mileage in small moments of play. Skip the emotional pregame. One of these days, I am going to master that mindset.

Agree. If a provider I was interested in said they have travel costs to account for, I would not be offended at all. I totally get the fee is for the time provided, and if he has to travel an hour to get to me, I'd have no problem tipping extra.

Ugh. Matter of $$ for me. Took me later in life to learn how to manage money responsibly ... and to stop giving my hard-earned money to everyone who asked for a loan but could never find it in themselves to pay it back. It took me way too long to recognize that I had been giving away about 1/3 of my income to family & friends who were "in need" because they never learned how to do adult things. Until this year, I only hired five providers in ten years ... and only when I could afford it and only when I felt I had done enough good in the world to earn the reward for myself. Now that I've found a regular provider I click with & thoroughly enjoy spending time with, I've adjusted my budget so he basically gets the quarterly bonus my job pays me. Once I finish paying off all my debt, I hope to hire him monthly 😇

Hope all is back to normal, PK I did mine when I turned 50. I had the unfortunate experience of dealing with estate matters for by dad and brother-in-law (on behalf of my sister) after both died unexpectedly. It is a complete pain in the ass if the loved one wasn't prepared, especially when it comes to real estate. I first created a trust. Contrary to popular belief, one does not need wealth to create a trust. Being single, I asked my nephew to be primary and niece to be contingent. I've provided both of them with paper documents, keep a copy of the documents in a fireproof safe at my place, and am hosting them on a Fidelity's FidSafe | Secure Storage For What Matters site so they can access online if needed. And, because I tend to over prepare, gave them written instructions on what to do as a trustee when I pass. Recorded the property deed to the trust, set all insurance policy and retirement account beneficiaries to be the trust; converted my personal banking accounts to the trust. Then executed the Power of Attorney for healthcare (advanced directives), Power of Attorney for Property, and will. I never want one of my family members to have to go through what I needed to. There are two questions that still linger in my mind for when I pass: a) who's gonna find my adult toy(s) if i pass unexpectedly and I didn't get a chance to discard them ... and what will their reaction be? b) will my favorite regular provider miss me or just miss the income he gets from me?