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This is not descriptive enough. 217 can be pure muscle mass or "something else"...... 🤪

Yes, "peer reviews" should be conducted in the utopian world, but in reality, they are not necessarily completed in all cases and they are not necessarily useful either. You have to put a lot of faith and trust in someone whose identity is covered / under disguise. For instance, I won't be too surprised if you tell me there are providers here on CoM who have multiple aliases/accounts to post positive reviews of themselves (as clients so as to bolster their profiles). The same can very well be true on RM. This issue has been discussed ad nauseam on this forum. Just imagine how ridiculous this scenario can be: a prospective client is contacting another "fake" client (who is actually the provider of interest) to discuss the hiring experience......

I came across this product when surfing the internet aimlessly the other day: https://peachymen.com/ It sounds magical and too good to be true. Has anyone tried it? If so, do you have any info and/or personal experiences to share?

Q: How do you balance/maintain your personal romantic relationship(s)? How do you separate (sex) work from real-life (sex) situations? How do your real-life romantic partners feel about your work? I believe if anyone seriously invests the time and energy in studying the countless topics here in CoM, he can probably write a nonfiction, how-to book about the various aspects of sex work, from both the providers' and clients' viewpoints. For the creative type, he can even fictionalize all the discussions found on CoM. CoM is truly a not-so-hidden treasure chest.

Same here. Is this available somewhere?

Here are my criteria, most of which are subjective and not objectively measurable on RM profiles. So it requires some independent research on my part. Disclaimer: these are my personal preferences only. There are no right-or-wrong answers. Please don’t judge/criticize me. 1. Age — psychologically & emotionally (not necessarily physiologically) at least 35, but as close to my own age as possible, +/- 5 years standard deviation. This facilitates my imagination of a “real” BFE. I’m aiming for maturity. I’m looking for someone to take care of me; I’m not at all interested in babysitting because there is too much of that already in the real world. 2. Gay >>>>>>>>>> Bi. Straight is a hard stop. I know all providers are acting on the job, but GFP is just way too much acting. 3. Athletic to muscular build — the key is proportion though. A bulky chihuahua and a stick-figure giraffe are equally unappealing. 4. Conversational skills — see criterion #1 above. I typically book 2-hour appointments. The ability to sustain a decent adult dialogue is crucial. Nothing kills the mood faster than awkward dead air. 5. Personality — warm, approachable, and mild-tempered. Strangely enough, I find providers who are simultaneously angelic and devilish (in words and/or in action) utterly irresistible. 6. Race/Ethnicity — I know this is a borderline taboo subject, but I prefer a provider who is NOT of my race/ethnicity. I want someone different from me. Unfamiliarity is exhilarating and enticing. 7. No tattoo — it is a distraction. Why would you add graffiti to an otherwise perfectly sculpted piece of artwork?

I'm always intrigued by the possibilities behind the definitions of "average" vs "well-endowed." I understand everyone has a personal standard for length and girth. Would you mind sharing your preferences @Alabastrine @Muscleking?

Episode 6 is what I have been waiting for all along. Although the plots and subplots are somewhat predictable, the acting is superb. I'm impressed by the supporting and side characters too! I didn't expect the stories to carry so much emotion. However, for the series to peak at the penultimate episode, is it too little too late? By now, I'm afraid a lot of audience have lost interests and given up already. Judging from the previews of the finale, it seems like the last episode will simply be a frantic wrap-up of all the loose ends. I hope I am wrong.

That’s a very perplexing encounter. I’m not trying to be judgmental or cynical here, but have you considered that he might have an ulterior motive in touring your home? Were there any valuables on display? Did he seem like he was taking mental pictures of your floor plan? Again, I may be overly pessimistic and cautious; however, has it crossed your mind that you may need to heighten your home security measures as a result of his visit?

It’s not so much about lust/desire; it’s more about timing/convenience. Most people work during daytime. For me, work and its associated stress are the biggest boner-killer. It’s more favorable to have fun with a work-free mindset. Therefore, late afternoon / night / weekend / vacation hours are more optimal. Of course, the client’s fun time is the provider’s work time. This conflict partially explains the mismatch between the clients’ and providers’ wishes in terms of appointment time.

I have the same experience. It appears most, if not all, of the previously locked videos are now available to basic members (e.g. me). The problem is that some of the videos, even though clickable, show up as black screens with sounds only.

It's not necessarily a direct hyperlink per se, but the URL is listed under the description section: "... Thousand of pictures at www.RafaelWorld.com..." That's how I got to his bio page.

Isn't that the universal truth for all human relationships? Nobody wants to deal with flakes, but they exist in every corner of the world and every stage of life (in school, at work, in business / familial / romantic relationships, etc.). It only means that they value their time, resources, and needs above yours. I don't know how to avoid them because they are inevitable and sometimes you are thrust into their lives involuntarily. I can only blacklist them after I suffer my losses.

If you visit his own website, which is embedded in his RM ad, he lists his birthday as 7/18/1978 (age = 47). That's why I don't take RM profile descriptors too seriously. RAFAEL ALENCAR - ABOUT WWW.RAFAELWORLD.COM

I feel like it's essentially a "family drama" disguised as a crime/mystery series, depending on how you define family. Regardless, all of the families depicted in the show are seriously f up and dysfunctional. I cannot agree more. I have to keep convincing myself that something important will subtly pops up, so pay attention, pay attention, pay attention. I am waiting and waiting, but nothing too mind-blowing ever happens, which is a major letdown. I don't even find the big reveal of Mark Ruffalo's family catastrophe that overwhelmingly shocking, although I have to commend the performances of the actors & actresses. There is an unshakable air of loss and depression in every character and every scene. The characters are also written with tons of emotional detachments. It's very tough for me to relate to or feel for their tragedies. Anyway, there will only be 2 more episodes (7 episodes total). I can and will invest 2 more hours of my life into seeing how the story ends.

Have you had self-proclaimed lesbian clients who become straight after spending time with you? If so, it is doubly fabulous indeed! 😜

I’m just as confused as you are. Perhaps I’m way too ignorant in the terminologies and definitions. However, I do see the points made by @Gilfson. I recall my friend once asked, when engaging in a similar discussion on sexuality/identity/orientation, “Do you still call yourself a vegetarian if you eat meat for whatever reasons?” I don’t know and I don’t really care enough to know. My reply was: “You do you. You eat whatever you want whenever and however you want. I can care less.” That said, IMO, if you’re a herbivore, eat your salad; if you’re a carnivore, help yourself with medium rare; and if you’re an omnivore, enjoy your all-you-can-eat buffet. At the end of the day, you may be the only person in this entire universe who cares about how you label yourself.

Can't help but wonder what you are shooting with and what kind of moon you're referring to.......... 😏

This is my exact thought. I was hesitant to use the phrase, “training wheel,” because it may sound a bit abusive, condescending, or offensive to some. I am glad to hear a provider describing it this way. I can almost liken the relationship to that of having a personal trainer in the gym: he helps me to start the engine and once I feel comfortable enough, I will go out to drive on my own. I guess it may be difficult for the majority to understand the minority — the middle-aged novice. I bet most of you can’t even begin to imagine how tough it was for me to express myself anonymously here, let alone to place everything in real-life context. To me, at the very least, the providers I met have helped me take the first steps to free myself from my psychological prison.

It’s been 8 months since I started this thread and I realize it was resurrected recently. I was a silent bystander on CoM for a long while before I summoned the courage one day to create an account to pose a question. I did (still do) benefit from reading others’ Q&A so I feel somewhat obligated to answer my own questions to shed some light on the subject I created myself. 1. I did end up telling all the providers I met about my (lack of) experiences beforehand. I am extremely lucky in that they are all kind, understanding, and receptive professionals who accommodate my needs. It is true that there isn’t anything they haven’t seen or heard before. It was silly of me to think that they would be surprised by my full disclosures. 2. All my appointments have been 2-hour long. I am not the bang-bang, hit-and-run type — at least not yet (Who knows? I may evolve into one eventually). I still need the time to gradually ramp up the temperature. So to me, 1 hour would be too rush and stressful. 3. A few providers told me they never hosted for the 1st appointment to prevent letting psychopaths and serial killers/rapists into their homes, which is totally understandable. They prefer to meet in a 3rd party location (e.g. hotel) to assess the sanity of the clients first. Thus, in-call versus out-call is not necessarily the client's choice. Lastly, I do sincerely appreciate everyone’s inputs here. I even find the ones that appear to be sarcastic, bitter, or toxic somewhat amusing and eye-opening. Thanks for your contributions.

I used to believe I'm the weird outlier who values emotional connections just as much as (if not more than) the physical aspect of sexual contacts. However, after reading the various comments surrounding this topic, it seems like this feeling/desire is more common than I previously assumed. To answer the OP's question directly, yes, I did hire someone just to talk to. Although that is my primary objective, sometimes the conversations and emotional interactions naturally lead to sex afterwards. I suppose that can be interpreted as the essence of a BFE.

This statement alone is begging for elaborations. I can't help but wonder if it's related to your user ID.

I notice the change today as well. I won't be surprised at all if someone tells me RM has staff who monitor the activities and discussions on this forum to gather (and respond to) unfiltered feedbacks.

Why don’t you give it a try with faceless pictures first to see if you gain any traction? Some providers post only faceless pictures too.

Every once in a while, an Extra Value Meal at McDonald's is all you need. Normal people do not dine at Michelin-starred restaurants every day.